FabSwingers.com forum: Partner to attend chams with

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hiya, im a genuine guy that for various personal and work reasons cannot upload pics, I have verifications and also use iPhone not for site as you cannot upload pics from iPhone to site. I'm trying to find someone who wants to meet and go to chams with me Friday

I'm young looking and told very attractive abs have gsoh. Anyone interested

Martin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll pass thanks no ones job is that important that you can't load pictures unless your royality?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll pass thanks no ones job is that important that you can't load pictures unless your royality?"

I agree,there is no excuse really not to have a face pic on here,so think you will struggle to find someone to go with you if people dont know ehat you look like 1st.

Good luck tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can put pictures in private and send them that way without pictures you won't get anywhere sweets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think you guys are being unfair to the op. There is no way i would post a face pic on here. Its nothing to do with my job being 'important' its to do with i value my privacy! Perhaps he has a job that would get him in trouble if collegues found out about him being here??

Not all of us have the freedom to be open about swinging you know!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How often is someones work collegues on here? Very rare if he can't send a picture then lots of gals won't be interested his messages will be deleted and in your defence least we have a body picture to nose at with his there's naff all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone can't be that open about swinging then what's the point it's not like it's illegal is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think you guys are being unfair to the op. There is no way i would post a face pic on here. Its nothing to do with my job being 'important' its to do with i value my privacy! Perhaps he has a job that would get him in trouble if collegues found out about him being here??

Not all of us have the freedom to be open about swinging you know!!!"

as a single female i certainly wouldnt meet up with someone i couldnt see..

as said above, pics can be private and sent out to selective people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even a crayon drawing is better then nothing

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By *oupleup4funCouple
over a year ago

Ashton

We dont do face pics in public area, but no reason not to have body pics, clothed or un clothed, and face pics on request...

Cant see anyone replying to an invite without any pics on the profile.. we never would...

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

right, where are my crayons! im going to be the hottest hunk of a crsyon drawing you watch ha ha ha

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"If someone can't be that open about swinging then what's the point it's not like it's illegal is it?"

Same reason I don't fancy telling all and sundry how much I earn, or how much I have in savings or debt. Or how often I take trips to the bathroom or the same reason why I don't tell everyone my political leanings or lack of them.

Some people feel the need to share everything they do in life others prefer to keep to keep somethings that may cause , hurt, hassle, agro, arguements, embarrasement to themselves. Others like to keep pretty much themselves to themselves.

I've no problem with people wanting privacy. In the end it's their business not mine. However if I was to meet someone I'd want to know what they look like. We tend to go for a webcam option as basically anyone can pinch a pic from anywhere and pass it off as their own. Much rather have a live hello, yep you look like your pics, lets arrange a meet.

Also as a professional there are certain things you cannot make public. For instance a teacher who was a swinger would be ripe for the pages of a local rag.

It would only take a local parent to take offence and the general public love a popular band wagon to jump on. As a previous male primary teacher, if I had been swinging at the same time and that was made public it would only be a short step before a witch hunt was started. Any link of sex with a professional would be extremely damaging to their career and in the cases of those who work with vulnerable groups lethal.

So maybe some people just have a life, be that family, social, religious or work that cannot accept everything that swinging would entail.

Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether people like it or not, swinging is still taboo to a large proportion of the population. I'm not embarrassed or ashamed to be on this site, but I don't want to bandy my personal information to all and sundry either. My private life is just that-private. There are liberal minded people in my life who would accept my decision to swing, no problems, but there are more that would judge and moralise to me. These people are the people I love and as much as I don't want to be judged by them, I would be and I don't want that sort of strain in the relationships that are incredibly important to me (my mother and 2 brothers for instance). I know that its highly unlikely we will come across anyone we know (again!) but we don't want to take the chance as it has happened before. For anyone wanting a pic, we will gladly send one in a pm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone can't be that open about swinging then what's the point it's not like it's illegal is it?

Also as a professional there are certain things you cannot make public. For instance a teacher who was a swinger would be ripe for the pages of a local rag.

So maybe some people just have a life, be that family, social, religious or work that cannot accept everything that swinging would entail.

Just a thought."

And a very good one at that!!! I quite agree

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He can sebd them private if he's worried,most of us work have familyand friends so i do think it is a poor excuse if no one has a pic on here,there is no way we would meet someone without seeing what they look like 1st

Not all of us have the freedom to be open about swinging you know!!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We dont do face pics in public area, but no reason not to have body pics, clothed or un clothed, and face pics on request...

Cant see anyone replying to an invite without any pics on the profile.. we never would..."

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never sent a pic.

I have as many meets as I want. I just don't publicise those either.

I choose how to show myself and that is usually by cam.

I do find that those with pics have staged them well and very , very few actually depict the quality of goods on offer and a great deal of them are akin to Fast Food Advertising.... looks okay till it's actually in front of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And there are some of us guys and gals that don't see swinging as a taboo. A swinging tranny whatever next?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"right, where are my crayons! im going to be the hottest hunk of a crsyon drawing you watch ha ha ha

Hey hot hunk make sure that knobs well big

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"right, where are my crayons! im going to be the hottest hunk of a crsyon drawing you watch ha ha ha

still waiting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a professional job and a face pic in private: the same face pic I have on My Space, Friend's Reunited etc. I too don't wish all and sundry to know my business, but I for one wouldn't meet someone without a picture, and people that offer sooooooooooooo many reasons why they can't post a picture set the hairs at the back of neck tingling.

It's usually men that expect women to divulge their personal details whilst safe guarding theirs. The same type that won't accommodate you in their homes but expect you to turn your home into a knocking shop!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, the fact is with an iPhone I cannot attach pics so need pc and at work the pc cannot connect to this site as nature of site. Tried to upload pics via iPhone but if you do then the message on site says no iPhones.

I'm genuine so ideally want to have pics on private but need another pc and cannot use home pc as married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, the fact is with an iPhone I cannot attach pics so need pc and at work the pc cannot connect to this site as nature of site. Tried to upload pics via iPhone but if you do then the message on site says no iPhones.

I'm genuine so ideally want to have pics on private but need another pc and cannot use home pc as married."

bingo!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, you want to fuck our wives, but we can't even meet yours?

Bit one sided isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh very fucking selfish of you give me your wife and you can have mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone can't be that open about swinging then what's the point it's not like it's illegal is it?"

no but that does not mean i want my kids knowing, my neighbours knowing, my mum knowing etc

I have no reason to be open about swinging as its my private life and noone elses buisness and id like it to stay that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand your point I guess because I've no one really in my life like kids and family then it doesn't matter to me but to you it does so I understand that sweets

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I'm genuine so ideally want to have pics on private but need another pc and cannot use home pc as married."

that may be the case... but even from a basic safety aspect, would you really go to a club with someone you haven't seen....

just a though....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm genuine so ideally want to have pics on private but need another pc and cannot use home pc as married.

bingo!!!!"

See 9/10 times cant have pictures means, married and cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And there are some of us guys and gals that don't see swinging as a taboo. A swinging tranny whatever next?"

do you have children?

i dont see it as a taboo but i do respect my kids

have you any idea what a child would go thro if it was the talking point of my estate that i met guys of the internet? theres nothing crueler than kids as they say and i do not want my kids being bullied on the play ground because of what other kids have over heard their mums saying over the garden fence

you can argue all you like that you think we should be open, but if being open effects the happiness of our loved ones i think maybe we should re think who we tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't have kids so that's why I'm open on here I guess if I did have kids and family I wouldn't be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was his lack of pictures I was saying about you have them so least we know what your body looks like we know nothing about the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if people dont have pics thats fine at the end of the day they only holding themselves back

I wouldnt meet someone without pics noot even for a drink

firstly i wuld never show my face to someone who was not willing to show theirs, i dont see why i should let them view my private gallery so they know if they like me if they are not going to respect me with the same

And i always do first meets in a public place

so with that in mind imagine the fun trying to find someone in a busy pub where neither of u have an idea what each other looks like

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By *BW38jWoman
over a year ago

Dudley/Telford

i wont post a face pic either. if that means i dont get contacts then so be it.

work isnt the issue but family im not prepared to humiliate

Not all of us have the freedom to be open about swinging you know!!!"

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

No pics for family reasons.....married on your case.

Interesting that you dont have it on your profile that your married, do you not think it would be a good idea to inform people what they could possibly be getting themselves into so they can have the option to avoid you with a bargepole or join in with the cheating,,whichever they choose?

When you go buy bread do you like to know it is fresh or are you happy to be given whatever is left at the end of the day? I would expect you like to choose the bread you want but are asking people on this site(ladies)to just accept whatever turns up really if your not gonna verify yourself in some way.

Ok, to the question. I refuse to meet anyone on this site or any without seeing a face pic and it being a recent one(been caught out by that one before!). If you cant put a pic on then why not use your laptop that i am assuming you have at home to webcam to prove what you look like as grey says she does.

Can you not do that??? No? Maybe because your wife may not like it or find out... Come on. Please wake up and smell the coffee.

What luck do you expect to have with pretty much sentances on your profile,not informing people on your profile that your married and no pics/ability to put them on.

Would you really consider meeting me? For all you know I could be a 99 year old great granny with no teeth and a hunch. The opnly way you know thats not true is due to my pics, verfications,information in my profile and me happy to go on webcam to prove who I am.

But you cant/wont do any of those things yourself. Do you really expect to get meets where everyone is safe including you?

Can I ask why your on a swinging website when your cheating rather than swinging? (I know that anyone can join the site) but am curious so hope you dont mind me asking the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He can't use his computer at home because of the wife so that means webcam too. I cam all the time I think with that you do actually see what your getting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never understood why anyone attacks anybody in any way for not having pictures or tries to bully them into explaining or having a 'valid' reason that is 'acceptable'.

It's personal choice and no one has to justify it to anybody! I think some people on this site have lost perspective.

If you don't like someones profile, move on to the next one. Plenty people on here without pictures are successful in getting meets.

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By *BW38jWoman
over a year ago

Dudley/Telford

"I have never understood why anyone attacks anybody in any way for not having pictures or tries to bully them into explaining or having a 'valid' reason that is 'acceptable'.

It's personal choice and no one has to justify it to anybody! I think some people on this site have lost perspective.

If you don't like someones profile, move on to the next one. Plenty people on here without pictures are successful in getting meets.

ooh wheres the like button??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Admin can we please have a like button a not like button and I love you button please

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow

It's simple, I have kids and don't want to drag them into anything with wife, family etc

I live my kids and my wife and I dont have sex life.

I can't attach pics due to iPhone, please try it if you have one as you simply cannot.

I work with vulnerable kids so need to keep face off as don't want anyone connected to my wok or parents etc to see me, my pref that's it

Cannot use home pc due to history and wife and if I delete history then why should I do that, she would ask.

So maybe yes I'm a cheating bastard but I chose to do it for my reasons bot to hurt anyone but still trying to enjoy my life.if I could attach pics and keep private then I would but at the moment I cannot.

That's why I always suggest meeting in public place during day to out women at ease and chat and go separate ways, that way no pressure on anyone to make decision if they like look of me.

Could always meet at swingers club too that I suggest if they are also members.

I'm not a serial killer, three headed man or anything, Like most people , I have a personal life and I decide what's private and what isn't.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

game over mate just put up in the meets and events big mistake in the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm genuine so ideally want to have pics on private but need another pc and cannot use home pc as married.

bingo!!!!"

Quelle surprise!!!

My spidey senses never let me down!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im glad to see that janelle's abuse post has been removed!! long live the mods, bless em

xxx

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"I have never understood why anyone attacks anybody in any way for not having pictures or tries to bully them into explaining or having a 'valid' reason that is 'acceptable'.

It's personal choice and no one has to justify it to anybody! I think some people on this site have lost perspective.

If you don't like someones profile, move on to the next one. Plenty people on here without pictures are successful in getting meets.

They do get meets but have other things in place to verify themselves. They webcam to show people what they look like.

If the Op is not able to post pics on,not able to webcam,has an empty profile,and isnt clear on his profile about being married,how is the poster hoping to attract a woman to join him in a club?

The married men that get the meets have some pics on and something on their profile that will attract so that is how they get the meets. The original poster isnt helping himself at all.

There is nothing in the posters profile to dislike as there is nothing on it.

Put it into perspective, the men on here looking to take ladies to clubs have to put the effort in as we all know the amount of men wanting to achieve a club visit with a lady far outweighs the ladies wanting to be taken. So basically survival of the fittest is gonna win.

If your not going to help yourself then are people surprised when they come to the forums and get the responce that they do??

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"Cannot use home pc due to history and wife and if I delete history then why should I do that, she would ask.

Just a suggestion but pretty much all browsers have a "porn mode" nowadays... Microsoft's adverts suggest it's for husbands buying birthday presents for their wives but I think we all know what it's really used for

IE, Firefox, Chrome, Opera and Safari all do. You can then access sites such as this one and there won't be any cookies or any entries in your browsing history. You can then upload your photos from your home PC without your wife being any the wiser of what you're doing.

Just remember to delete the photos afterwards or she may ask why there are photos of you naked with your dick next to a Sky remote control on your desktop which would doubtlessly lead to some uncomfortable questions

Oh, and most browsers will allow you to delete single entries from the history so you don't need to raise suspicions by deleting the entire history.

If you're somehow not using one of those browsers then you can also get "portable apps" versions of all of these, which can be run without needing to be installed.

Failing that you could always put the photos on a USB stick and then go to a cyber café and upload them that way.

Just trying to be helpful

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

I should just clarify that my extensive knowledge on this subject is in relation to my job and not the fact that I'm cheating on my wife

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Caramber, wow do you know your stuff.

Decided not to post what I was about to on reply to that as no matter how I put it,it was gonna sound pretty damn awful.

So thought I would just compliment caramber for knowing his stuff x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too access this site with chrome's 'under the radar' approach. Purely as my youngest son may use my laptop, although we have separate account's and both are pass-worded.

I also have parental controls on his account and time limits, I change my pass-word frequently.

I have nothing to hide, both my older children know I use this site, but the methods I use are to protect my youngest. xx

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Won't risk face pics" is fair enough.

"Can't post any pics due to work" is utter bollocks. If any of my workmates recognised me from any of my profile pics, then surely that would indicate a whole other set of issues?!

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"Caramber, wow do you know your stuff.

Decided not to post what I was about to on reply to that as no matter how I put it,it was gonna sound pretty damn awful.

So thought I would just compliment caramber for knowing his stuff x"

Heh, thanks... I need to know it for my job. Need to know what people do to hide their tracks so we can prevent them from doing so - if that makes any sense.

Really it just means that I'm a geeky nerd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Caramber, wow do you know your stuff.

Decided not to post what I was about to on reply to that as no matter how I put it,it was gonna sound pretty damn awful.

So thought I would just compliment caramber for knowing his stuff x

Heh, thanks... I need to know it for my job. Need to know what people do to hide their tracks so we can prevent them from doing so - if that makes any sense.

Really it just means that I'm a geeky nerd

Nothing wrong with a geeky nerd

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By *DD1EMan
over a year ago

sea

Carambar, you took the words right out of my mouth, to protect my kids I use the 'in private browsing' which can be found in the tools section in the menu bar at the top of the pc screen, also all my photos are on a memory stick, when I upload any, I still have to go into the history section and delete the relevant photo even though it won't show if clicked on as 'it's path' is from a memory stick and not the pc.

But a body shot is I think the minimum anyone should expect.

Eddie

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By *arkstaffsMan
over a year ago

Rugeley

There is certainly no harm in ging to Chams by oneself. I have had just as much fun there as a single than as part of a couple. As for pics, if you arnt confident to show them on the site just post them in private messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is certainly no harm in ging to Chams by oneself. I have had just as much fun there as a single than as part of a couple. As for pics, if you arnt confident to show them on the site just post them in private messages.

Read what the OP said re photos!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read what the OP said re photos!

Except further down he does explain that he doesnt know how to download them from his pc and hide the evidence so that his wife, whom he is cheating on, and kids dont see the "audit trail".

Personally i deleted my temp files from my pc every now and again so there is nothing there, I dont even have this site saved as a favourite for easy access like i have Rac Route Planner set as

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean swinging is for both parties...the wife is probably on the site too and having plenty of fun without hubby....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cannot use home pc due to history and wife and if I delete history then why should I do that, she would ask.

Oh, and most browsers will allow you to delete single entries from the history so you don't need to raise suspicions by deleting the entire history.

If you're somehow not using one of those browsers then you can also get "portable apps" versions of all of these, which can be run without needing to be installed.

Failing that you could always put the photos on a USB stick and then go to a cyber café and upload them that way.

Just trying to be helpful

Simples

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Have slept on it and wonder "tongue in cheek" wether we should start up a new thread,how to cheat on your partner with 10 top tips of how to hide your tacks,information about divorce for if you get found out/funeral directors for those that really cock it up lol.

Seriuously it is done tongue in cheek.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It was his lack of pictures I was saying about you have them so least we know what your body looks like we know nothing about the OP"
We do hs is cheating on his wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im glad to see that janelle's abuse post has been removed!! long live the mods, bless em

xxx"

What abuse I don't give abuse sweets unless they are begging for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im glad to see that janelle's abuse post has been removed!! long live the mods, bless em

xxx"

Just read your abusive message you sent me before blocking me before I had time to reply

Yes I do get lots of abuse being a tv but been doing it years so all abuse go in one ear hole and out of the other I've not posted anything nasty on here all I posted was my opinion about OP lack of pictures and yes I've read the forum rules thanks for pointing it out to me.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol this made me giggle....a red bull can in some cases

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most guys prefer to attend Chams with a woman as they think they can be guaranteed a play.

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By *arkstaffsMan
over a year ago

Rugeley

Fair comment, a lot depends on your outlook if you go as a single guy. Be pushy and expect sex then it won't happen. Be relaxed, polite and don't hassle anyone and it probably will.

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