FabSwingers.com forum: I'm straight but really I'm bi!!!

By *i guy notts OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield/Lincoln

Hi all, recently I've had quite a few messages from "bi" guys listed as "straight" wanting to meet and the explanation for their sexuality status is "i have friends on here" or "i wont be able to meet couples if it says I'm bisexual!!".

I was wondering if this is how straight couples see bi guy's, does it make a difference to you if you are straight and the guy is bisexual? I've met couples through here, bisexual and straight albeit not many and didnt think it made a difference but maybe it does....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are both bi but will get messages from guys who state they are orally bi but are straight on their profiles,which is confusing,every guy that messaged us yesterday was straight but all said they are orally bi,as far as we are concerned if your orally bi and suck another mans cock you are bi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we only want to meet bi guys, if they say but im bi really then we block them, if they cant tell the truth then we dont want to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

orally bi and fully bi can be two different things depending on how far the male wishes to go with another male, its each to their own if the wish to have full sex with another man or just oral.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too get a lot of "straight" guys looking at my profile and messaging to say "hi, I'd love to...."

The thing they don't realise is that they're missing out on all the bi guys and couples approaching them for some mm mmm mmf fun

Ah well, all the more, for the more upfront of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we only want to meet bi guys, if they say but im bi really then we block them, if they cant tell the truth then we dont want to meet them"

AGREES!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then when we delete them off for being straight we get a barrage of abuse from them,some don't take rejection very well.

We want bi guys that is what we want not some straight guy that wants his cock sucked just for the hell of it

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

As a MM cpl, one Bi one gay, we've received numerous messages from couple's where the profile states the male is straight, yet requesting a meet, when asked for clarification, we're lucky if we receive a reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do say well your profile states your straight they say back well if we put we was bi then we would get no luck with the ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will NEVER appeal to everyone: fact. Therefore I find it strange people come onto sites like this and are not honest in what they want. People have preferences: they may not want to play with you because you're short/tall/fat/thin/bi/black...and any number of variants.

I had no bi men on my profile because I like the "fear" factor of my straight subs. They never lose the humiliation of being plundered but a bi man said I scared him...the sweetest thing I'd heard in a long time

so I removed it to see if I got the same thrill playing with a bi man. I haven't yet...but you never know!

You have to feel sorry for men who feel the need to lie to themselves in this kind of environment. Why they don't look for couples looking for them is beyond me...but hey, it's not something I'll ever understand. All rather sad really.

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By *i guy notts OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield/Lincoln

think you hit the nail on the head there sassy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a way you can stop single straight men contacting you? or is there no option to do that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole effectiveness of this great site is damaged when members knowingly display misleading profiles which don’t allow matching partners equal opportunities to search for one-another,,,,,

Its very easily to regard deceptive behaviour as an arrogant attempt from a person looking to gain a one sided advantage over others.....

As for these creeps who put straight on their profile then send messages explaining in reality they are Bi……

Well lets be blunt here….. y’d need to be crazy to believe anything a person says who admits to using deception to get what they want,,,, now wouldn’t you…. !!!!!

Yep line em up against a wall and FIRE !!!!.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But the straight guys that contact who are orally bi say they are straight and they really really believe that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep line em up against a wall and FIRE !!!!.....

Dirty Soxy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep line em up against a wall and FIRE !!!!.....

Dirty Soxy!

Filthy, if you please !!....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I've met couples through here, bisexual and straight albeit not many and didnt think it made a difference but maybe it does.... "

Well I wont meet or play with bi guys.. so to me it would make a difference... thats on the single or couples profiles.

I have had guys that then put meets with bi guys or Ts/TV on their meet and when Ive asked said "oh but I am straight".

Katie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But how are we to know when someone says they are straight but really are bi very confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of my best sex has been when playing with a couple of bi-guys, and they keep each other entertained when I want a breather.

Makes me laugh when all the 'straight' guys fantasise about mff mmff group sex etc. The bi-guys are just quietly getting on with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole effectiveness of this great site is damaged when members knowingly display misleading profiles which don’t allow matching partners equal opportunities to search for one-another,,,,,

Its very easily to regard deceptive behaviour as an arrogant attempt from a person looking to gain a one sided advantage over others.....

As for these creeps who put straight on their profile then send messages explaining in reality they are Bi……

Well lets be blunt here….. y’d need to be crazy to believe anything a person says who admits to using deception to get what they want,,,, now wouldn’t you…. !!!!!

Yep line em up against a wall and FIRE !!!!.....

Totally agree. Could not be clearer about wanting bi males only, yet I would say about 20 straight guys a day message us. Had a delightful one recently say that since we only wanted straight males 'we' must be a single male. LOL! I swear, if we could block single straight guys it would happen so fast I'd get a finger strain!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get this alot. Annoyingly

Straight on the profile but Bi orally etc in a message

Sorry Instant delete, if people cant be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think whatever the reason or rhyme here… we all object too untrustworthy people who attempt to bend the truth to suite themselves overriding anyone else’s attempts to play open and honestly....

The only real answer to this issue is to use your own judgement, or when in doubt leave out... unless your happy to play along regardless….

Laine I think you nailed it.. When you said ……. The bi-guys are just quietly getting on with it!

Yup…. Indeedy although admittedly we're mostly resigned to knobbing each-other for want of a better term…..….…..

While many of the so called “Not so Straight ones” are only getting more and more frustrated…..

Awwww, Shame on them……it must be so hard for them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are both straight and only play straight. We do meet bi couples, but usually it's the lady who's bi but not always.

No ones ever "crossed the line" with me. Kate has had one experience, but has decided it's not for her. One of the reasons was because "it's too gentle", Kate's words not mine.

There are a lot of people that wont meet couples with bi guys, but have no qualms about couples with bi ladies, even if they say they're straight on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are both straight and only play straight. We do meet bi couples, but usually it's the lady who's bi but not always.

No ones ever "crossed the line" with me. Kate has had one experience, but has decided it's not for her. One of the reasons was because "it's too gentle", Kate's words not mine.

There are a lot of people that wont meet couples with bi guys, but have no qualms about couples with bi ladies, even if they say they're straight on their profile.

What I want to know is why you'd trust a bi lady not to jump your lady but not a man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are both straight and only play straight. We do meet bi couples, but usually it's the lady who's bi but not always.

No ones ever "crossed the line" with me. Kate has had one experience, but has decided it's not for her. One of the reasons was because "it's too gentle", Kate's words not mine.

There are a lot of people that wont meet couples with bi guys, but have no qualms about couples with bi ladies, even if they say they're straight on their profile.

What I want to know is why you'd trust a bi lady not to jump your lady but not a man?

By that a mean a man with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of my best sex has been when playing with a couple of bi-guys, and they keep each other entertained when I want a breather.

! "

See that is why for me I state no bi men... because the thought of two men touching.. ewwww so not for me..

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are both straight and only play straight. We do meet bi couples, but usually it's the lady who's bi but not always.

No ones ever "crossed the line" with me. Kate has had one experience, but has decided it's not for her. One of the reasons was because "it's too gentle", Kate's words not mine.

There are a lot of people that wont meet couples with bi guys, but have no qualms about couples with bi ladies, even if they say they're straight on their profile.

What I want to know is why you'd trust a bi lady not to jump your lady but not a man?

By that a mean a man with you."

I have no fear of a man "jumping me" as you put it, lol. As I've already said, we've played with bi couples and no ones ever taken any liberties. We make sure we all know where the boundries are before we agree to get down to it. If they did I'd like to think I'd be adult about it and just say "not for me thanks" It honestly doesn't bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most bi men well the ones I know would not dream of jumping onto a straight man it's usually the other way around that's why we have decided to go with couple that's the guy is bi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are both straight and only play straight. We do meet bi couples, but usually it's the lady who's bi but not always.

No ones ever "crossed the line" with me. Kate has had one experience, but has decided it's not for her. One of the reasons was because "it's too gentle", Kate's words not mine.

There are a lot of people that wont meet couples with bi guys, but have no qualms about couples with bi ladies, even if they say they're straight on their profile.

What I want to know is why you'd trust a bi lady not to jump your lady but not a man?

By that a mean a man with you.

Good to hear! Sorry, just sounded like you were one of those couples that will meet bi fem couples but not bi male or fully bi couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good to hear! Sorry, just sounded like you were one of those couples that will meet bi fem couples but not bi male or fully bi couples. "

No that would be me, or us (when using couples profile)

I dont worry about the men trying it on.. although it would totally spoil it for either of us.. but it just isnt something I want to be involved in.

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good to hear! Sorry, just sounded like you were one of those couples that will meet bi fem couples but not bi male or fully bi couples.

No that would be me, or us (when using couples profile)

I dont worry about the men trying it on.. although it would totally spoil it for either of us.. but it just isnt something I want to be involved in.

Katie.x"

Of course, but we wouldn't approach you because we'd read your profile properly. It's the 'straight' single guys that message and hassle us that we have the problem is...2nd paragraph of the profile, you wouldn't think it's that hard to read!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably me but I think from the off well we did anyway it's best to state what you want on your profile we have browsed profiles and seen ones saying no bi men so we know not to contact them I think alot need to rewrite what's on the profiles to save time and confusion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to have a few things listed that said who we wouldnt meet.. we gave up.. lol and you know what we think that some people were messaging us on purpose because we said no *** etc... as we now get less..

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's probably me but I think from the off well we did anyway it's best to state what you want on your profile we have browsed profiles and seen ones saying no bi men so we know not to contact them I think alot need to rewrite what's on the profiles to save time and confusion"

Oh we do - no straight single guys lol. Still get 20+ a day either not read it (because they don't address the bi issue) or saying 'oh i am bi' bollocks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of my best sex has been when playing with a couple of bi-guys, and they keep each other entertained when I want a breather.

See that is why for me I state no bi men... because the thought of two men touching.. ewwww so not for me..

Katie.x"

Thing is for me, Bi-guys are happy in group situations, and DVP whereas straight guys sometimes fail to 'rise' to the occasion in a group scenario.

They can play straight and only pleasure the ladies but have no hang-ups being near other nude men, unlike some who are straight. That's what I have found anyway. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Katie. x"

Reckon so? Perhaps something to try. We didn't use to have it so bluntly written, but it was worse before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of my best sex has been when playing with a couple of bi-guys, and they keep each other entertained when I want a breather.

See that is why for me I state no bi men... because the thought of two men touching.. ewwww so not for me..

Katie.x

Thing is for me, Bi-guys are happy in group situations, and DVP whereas straight guys sometimes fail to 'rise' to the occasion in a group scenario.

They can play straight and only pleasure the ladies but have no hang-ups being near other nude men, unlike some who are straight. That's what I have found anyway. xxx"

Yes. Love love love!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is so clear and does what it says on the tin. That's what is needed on here more detailed profiles instead of the "I will fill this in later" and they have been on here months. My daily rant sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is so clear and does what it says on the tin. That's what is needed on here more detailed profiles instead of the "I will fill this in later" and they have been on here months. My daily rant sorry."

Try telling that to me when i'm a bottle of wine in and deleting the next straight male later tonight! They will feel my wrath!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot of "chancers" on here and if a guys desperate for a shag, it's not beyond the realms of possibility that he'd suck a cock to get that shag

They will travel miles, pay for a hotel so why not suck a few cocks too?

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"The bi-guys are just quietly getting on with it! "

Mwah xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonder if someone had watersport down on their likes, would people be too scared to meet them in case they did it when they were playing?

Guess it all down to the chatting before hand about what you would like to happen during the meet (and what not)

To me the advantage of being bisexual is I can meet and have fun with people I like or are worthy of me to play with, just because i'm bi I'm not going to jump on the bloke (In a couple)and ignore the woman, as mentioned all about the chat about the meet...

If you don't chat about what you like to happen, well....

But each to their own as to hwo they meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a lot of "chancers" on here and if a guys desperate for a shag, it's not beyond the realms of possibility that he'd suck a cock to get that shag

They will travel miles, pay for a hotel so why not suck a few cocks too?

Yeah of course, and I'm sure loads would, just we want someone who wants to play with both of us, not just someone who will half-heartedly pay a little bit of attention to Alex then all to me...we want things to be shared and equal, soft as a it sounds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we find out someone is not honest on their profile then we just move on, Mart is a proper "bottom" as we were told they call it, but everyone is different in what they will do anyway, the lines are hard to draw for some people, maybe they dont know themselves even? either way we are not hardcore swingers so we dont get loads of messages or meets from bi guys and we have wondered if its because Mart says he is on our profile, maybe its just us? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If we find out someone is not honest on their profile then we just move on, Mart is a proper "bottom" as we were told they call it, but everyone is different in what they will do anyway, the lines are hard to draw for some people, maybe they dont know themselves even? either way we are not hardcore swingers so we dont get loads of messages or meets from bi guys and we have wondered if its because Mart says he is on our profile, maybe its just us? lol"

Bottom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bottom ....... a taker not a giver I think.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Bottom ....... a taker not a giver I think.

You'll be Chief of Police in no time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bottom ....... a taker not a giver I think.

You'll be Chief of Police in no time."

Oops...don't mind my truncheon.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Bottom ....... a taker not a giver I think.

You'll be Chief of Police in no time.

Oops...don't mind my truncheon.

It's not the first time i've been 'cuffed and stuffed'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are simply NO grey areas regards what constitutes Heterosexual , Homosexual or Bisexual behaviours, no matter who tries to define them differently albeit to rationalise their own misguided take on it. Regardless of whatever their ill-informed reason is for attempting to do so…..Quite frankly its utter bollix for anyone to suggests otherwise,,, and to be brutal about it,,, its potentially insulting, particularly when done on a site dedicated to so called sexually enlightened people,,,

Flipp’in heck ….. I’m all flummoxed here, teetering on the verge of a flounce-out………… But I shall be sure to resist… coz ain’t no-one gonna get this drama queen to throw a hissy-fit type strop…. It ain’t my style I tell you!!!!!!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

" Flipp’in heck ….. I’m all flummoxed here, teetering on the verge of a flounce-out………… But I shall be sure to resist… coz ain’t no-one gonna get this drama queen to throw a hissy-fit type strop…. It ain’t my style I tell you!!!!!!

No need to be such a poof about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are simply NO grey areas regards what constitutes Heterosexual , Homosexual or Bisexual behaviours, no matter who tries to define them differently albeit to rationalise their own misguided take on it. Regardless of whatever their ill-informed reason is for attempting to do so…..Quite frankly its utter bollix for anyone to suggests otherwise,,, and to be brutal about it,,, its potentially insulting, particularly when done on a site dedicated to so called sexually enlightened people,,,

I know - they claim to be bi but they won't put it on their profile...Alex isn't out and proud but this is a swinging site and if you can't be honest about your sexual preferences i've got no idea how it's going to work!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need to be such a poof about it.

haha,,,,I have no choice in the matter.... hey, as they say in theatre-land.... once you put the shoes on.... you become the person.... Ohhh and I do love wearing glitzy high heel shoes ..... so go on give it a go....ya know ya want to really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its always gonna be this way....and nowt will ever change it...... so hey, its not really worth getting too bent out of shape about,,, but it does no harm to have a little grump about it now and again....

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By *uck-us-nowCouple
over a year ago

wednesbury

why do peeps have lable

jusy enjoy the sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some of us need a label it's makes it clear what we are and what we are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well exactly, consider this my first public fab tanturm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a single bi male and i have had a few meets off this site with couples and fems and alot of people i have mailed have commented on my honesty so it does pay to be honest in the first place saying your straight then changeing your mind is just going to get you no were but on peoples bloke list!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im bi but dont put it on my profile as its not everones thing, i found it puts some peeps off meeting but im honest to say im bi when i get in tough with bi cpls

they seem to understand this too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that peeps that lie about been straight when they are realy bi on there profile are just wasteing there own and other peoples times and very deciveing (if thats how you spell it)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im bi but dont put it on my profile as its not everones thing, i found it puts some peeps off meeting but im honest to say im bi when i get in tough with bi cpls

they seem to understand this too

So basically you lie on your profile to increase your chance of meets..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats wot i thought but lieying doesnt work but he has just shot himself in the foot bi (pun intended) outing himself in an open forum pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

however to play the devils advocate some people may be in a proffession or a community where by to advertise that they were bi openly may lead them to ridicule and discrimination by there peers if that profile was seen , im not saying i agree with hiding who you are but if we believe that discrimination doesnt happen then we are being naieve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny st444 says bi couples understand this but he has had no bi couples verify him! Only women! Strange..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Northenboy you can still be honest regardless if you have a important job or wotever reason you dont want to put ur bi. pics can be hidin theres no excuse for it apart from been greedy and decitefull and they are just loseing out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"however to play the devils advocate some people may be in a proffession or a community where by to advertise that they were bi openly may lead them to ridicule and discrimination by there peers if that profile was seen , im not saying i agree with hiding who you are but if we believe that discrimination doesnt happen then we are being naieve"

So does Alex. He is in the public eye. When it comes down to it just put face pics in private. There are no excuses for lyimg or being misleading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes i accept all your saying i was just putting forward an arguement i have heard people use , not saying what is wrong or right but as you say hohnesty is best policy

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By *uby In StockingsTV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

If I had a pound for every "straight" guy that hit on me, I'd have.........well.........an awful lot of pounds, but seriously it does make things confusing, hugz, Ruby, xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of my best sex has been when playing with a couple of bi-guys, and they keep each other entertained when I want a breather.

See that is why for me I state no bi men... because the thought of two men touching.. ewwww so not for me..

Katie.x"

This is exactly how it is for us, just the thought of the guy we're with having sex with other guys is a massive turn off for both of us, hence we don't wish to meet bi guys in a sexual situation.

Contrary to popular belief, it has nothing to do with the fear of being "jumped" by another guy.

When we first started on sites we met single guys, but the liars and chancers among them far out number the decent guys and we just won't take the chance, so now they're just blocked.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its amazing how many straight guys have looked at us after i posted in this thread

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By *i guy notts OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield/Lincoln

lol this is a new one, had an email from a bi-curious guy earlier today wanting a meet but his profile didn't have any pics so my in my reply i asked for a picture. His reply was instructing me to _iew his OTHER profile which was his STRAIGHT profile!!!! why cant folk just be honest!!!! name and shame or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's me naughty and shame lol LOL

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

pop a Dusty or Liza CD on...

and they will be on their knees with gob open...

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"we only want to meet bi guys, if they say but im bi really then we block them, if they cant tell the truth then we dont want to meet them

AGREES!!!"

Have to agree,we say on our profile why we only meet guys who say they are bi,still get the "i'm straight really "messages.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

sorery meant "i'm bi really" lol

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By *Y MAN n MECouple
over a year ago

FIFE

We found a good way of getting round the straight profile guy that messages us with really i'm bi....

Ok we say make a date to meet but Heather will not play until she can see you enjoy guy/guy fun(no kissing)

It usually sorts those out chancing their arm to bluff their way in just to get a shag from the female of the couple. Anyone being honest and is curious to try new experiences after a first meet then fine.

BUT do agree that there should be a bi male/straight male filter option.

as it is mainly males that fib or are relucant to say they are bi or bi curious.It seems to be more acceptable for the girls to state bi. Its just a nonsense!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have men i meet that say straight but alot are very bi curious i say its fine i am bi and dont see is as a bad thing .... I will even help them have fun meeting a bi man with them for a 3 ... its just i think some after a time swinging doing the normal sex look for diffrent things i am kinky so some would like me to play Dom make them suck and do things so thay feel i am the one in control of things ,, x JO XX

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

As everyone seems to be stressing the value of honesty about their sexuality I'm in a bit of a quandary.

Should I mention I love shagging fresh road kill on my profile or would that lead to some couples having an issue with that do you think?

By the way, that was a joke...

...it doesn't have to be fresh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a Bi guy and it states so on my profile, Im happy to state Bi but not happy to put my face pic for all to see. I have pics for friends and the couples and singles I rarely contact its my choice the same way its a couples choice to state no bi guys. Lots of ladies are secure enough to state Bi so maybe time for lots of guys to come into the 21st century and be honest about their sexuality there again I only changed my profile to Bi a few weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

prehaps he in a relationship with a woman who may be bi her self but would still find it hard to except he his bi,so he frienghtend of rocking there relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"prehaps he in a relationship with a woman who may be bi her self but would still find it hard to except he his bi,so he frienghtend of rocking there relationship"

There is no point living a lie.. if you cant be honest with your partner then you shouldnt be together.

I personally could never accept a partner being bi.. but that isnt a problem as my Master is about as straight as you get.

It is a reason I wont even read a profile further when I look at messages, if they are bi or bi curious.. but its easier for me if they are honest about it.

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol this is a new one, had an email from a bi-curious guy earlier today wanting a meet but his profile didn't have any pics so my in my reply i asked for a picture. His reply was instructing me to _iew his OTHER profile which was his STRAIGHT profile!!!! why cant folk just be honest!!!! name and shame or not?

Had him message us before. Complete knobjockey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had him message us before. Complete knobjockey."

And i dont mean that in a good way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we don't meet guys who say they are bi but where it says straight on the profile. FULLSTOP.

we had one meet where the guy said he was bi - he didnt played it well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So called straight guys who message me get blocked instantly. Nothing pisses me off more than blatent lies on profiles. e.g. aged 49 when they are nearer 79, or athletic build when they would not know an athletic build even if on Linford Christie landed on their fucking heads!

Size, shape, age or race does not matter to me as I'm up for fuun with all, but lies are not good, be they little white or dirty great big ones.

Furthermore, I don't waste my own time or anyones elses. If a couples profile says the guy is straight....I would not not message them. Simples!

I'm so bloody virtuous aren't I, must polish that halo. But seriously, like someone else stated on this thread, if a user can't be honest on a swinging site they are seriously deluding themselves. I'd say beware of bullshitters. Run a mile away, they could be capable of anything.

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By *XXJAYMan
over a year ago

Warrington

In my experience most straight couples stay well clear of "bi guys" - but are desperate to meet a single "Bi Female"

- and the genuine bi cpls in here are very few and far between unfortunately

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Interesting one....

Iony profile it states I am straight....don't get me wrong I have played with a number of couples where the male is bi and been happy to do so.....

Only on understanding no touching...and honesty. I know a coup,e of males have taken a shine to me...but again my sexuality is known and I known theirs so it is not really an issue.

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By *ottscouple1Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

We prefer bi males and i think bi males are alot more comfortable around other males and that means more fun for me lol.

Had a lot of messages from straight males and agree with the author when i say looking for bi they suddenly change from being straight but dont like to admit it lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"orally bi and fully bi can be two different things depending on how far the male wishes to go with another male, its each to their own if the wish to have full sex with another man or just oral. "

Very true, and do you fall into either category yourselves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its amazing how many straight guys have looked at us after i posted in this thread

Not just straight ones hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we first joined this site it was mainly to meet other couples.

We had. a discussion about puttibg down Chris being bi or straight. We both agreed that wouldn't get as many couples interested in us if we put. Bi down so he went down as straight.

After being on this site a while now, and with a little help from the forums we have been honest and put down bi as Chris' sexuality. We get just as many msgs now as we did before.

Honesty is the best policy on here, u cant appeal or find an attraction with everyone but there's someone or a few people for everyone on here no matter what your sexuality is as long as your open with yourself and the other users

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

we had one guy message us recently saying he was "orally" bi yet his profile was straight. when challenged about it he said "he liked to be honest and open, but if he put down he was bi on his profile then no single ladies would contact or want to meet him". Telling him in reply that he was being openly dishonest and that by being so he wont progress far...

its a shame that people are still afraid of stigma even on a liberal minded site like this ...

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a tricky one because i think many guys get confused about whether they are actaully bi or not. I have bisexual on my profile as i love to have fun with men and women equally in the bedroom so therefore id say i was sexually bisexual. However i have no interest in seeking a boyfriend and would always go for women when looking for a relationship. Its a strange one ive had many conversations with guys and lots of us have the same mentally. We dont see ourselves as bisexual just guys who like to have more fun in the bedroom. At the end of the day its all about the fun and if you enjoy yourself does it really matter what your label is. I do agree for the purposes of this site a label is definitley necesary with it being a sex orientated site. I think its best to put down what your interested in sexually. Therefore i stated mine to be bisexual and never looked back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a tricky one because i think many guys get confused about whether they are actaully bi or not. I have bisexual on my profile as i love to have fun with men and women equally in the bedroom so therefore id say i was sexually bisexual. However i have no interest in seeking a boyfriend and would always go for women when looking for a relationship. Its a strange one ive had many conversations with guys and lots of us have the same mentally. We dont see ourselves as bisexual just guys who like to have more fun in the bedroom. At the end of the day its all about the fun and if you enjoy yourself does it really matter what your label is. I do agree for the purposes of this site a label is definitley necesary with it being a sex orientated site. I think its best to put down what your interested in sexually. Therefore i stated mine to be bisexual and never looked back."

I think the clue is in the name, as they say.

BiSEXUAL, having a preference for and performing sexual acts with both sexes, whether you have an ongoing relationship with them or not.

As this is a sex site and not a dating site the emphasis is surely on the sexual, not the relationship, side.

Many bisexuals are in heterosexual relationships with little or no interest in having a same sex relationship.

Its all down to their sexual inclination.

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By *XXJAYMan
over a year ago

Warrington

I think the clue is in the name, as they say.

BiSEXUAL, having a preference for and performing sexual acts with both sexes, whether you have an ongoing relationship with them or not.

As this is a sex site and not a dating site the emphasis is surely on the sexual, not the relationship, side.

Many bisexuals are in heterosexual relationships with little or no interest in having a same sex relationship.

Its all down to their sexual inclination.

Totally agree,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the clue is in the name, as they say.

BiSEXUAL, having a preference for and performing sexual acts with both sexes, whether you have an ongoing relationship with them or not.

As this is a sex site and not a dating site the emphasis is surely on the sexual, not the relationship, side.

Many bisexuals are in heterosexual relationships with little or no interest in having a same sex relationship.

Its all down to their sexual inclination.

Totally agree,

Yup Yup id agree with that too people should just be honest because it just makes life easier for all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people have on their profile that they are attractive and you may not find that to be true...or some will say they're 30 and they're actually 60, some say they're single and they're not.

it's their profile, they can write whatever they want

it's up to you to decide if what you read is what you want to hear, if you want to interrogate things further and whether you go further.

let a person write whatever they want, use your own sensibilities to judge if they're worthy of a meet

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