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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheating wives What do we think?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I would love to find a cheating wife, especially if she was a milfy mum. please pm me if you fit the criteria lol

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

It's like the Spanish Inquisition, isn't it?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Is the OP compiling a book?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol that's a thought but no just find them really horny and very giving x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Op ?

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By *BW38jWoman
over a year ago

Dudley/Telford

im a cheating wife. so horny and love what i do but will never ever leave hubby. he just isnt into me that much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think of cheating wives the same way I think of cheating husbands.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

does the OP work for sidney university?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like the Spanish Inquisition, isn't it?"

I wasn't expecting that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think of cheating wives the same way I think of cheating husbands.

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same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think of cheating wives the same way I think of cheating husbands.

same here "

Us too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think of cheating wives the same way I think of cheating husbands.

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only worse,cos,like,what they doing out the kitchen anyway?..and oo's gonna do me sangwich

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"It's like the Spanish Inquisition, isn't it?"

NOBODY expects the Spanish inquisition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like the Spanish Inquisition, isn't it?

NOBODY expects the Spanish inquisition."

I suppose we make it worse by shouting a lot, do we? Confess, woman. Confess! Confess! Confess! Confess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like the Spanish Inquisition, isn't it?

I wasn't expecting that "
funny, nobody ever expects the spanish inquisiton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think of cheating wives the same way I think of cheating husbands.

same here

Us too x"
yup me too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cheating wives are more readily accepted than cheating husbands. The guys will get castigated for owning up to it, but the ladies get a much easier ride, no pun intended there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love to find a cheating wife, especially if she was a milfy mum. please pm me if you fit the criteria lol"
why do you want a cheating wife plenty of single women ......like meeeeeee

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"Op ?"

operational penis

Always happy to help

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"It's like the Spanish Inquisition, isn't it?

I wasn't expecting that funny, nobody ever expects the spanish inquisiton"

Their chief weapon is surprise.

And Fear.

Surprise and fear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and ruthless efficiancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and ruthless efficiancy "

I spelt efficiency wrong..damn!..I'll come in again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our chief weapon is surprise...surprise and fear...fear and surprise.... Our two weapons are fear and surprise...and ruthless efficiency....

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"and ruthless efficiancy

I spelt efficiency wrong..damn!..I'll come in again"

Laffed out loud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i caught my ex in bed with my boss once, and its no fun having a cheating wife.

she got trown out, and he got a smack.

im glad i have a great partner now.

we play but never cheat.

keep that in mind guys and girls, if the other partner dont know , dont do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok what is OP? Secondly it's about cheating wives not the Spanish inquisition as as for single women they do t turn up when they say they will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok what is OP? Secondly it's about cheating wives not the Spanish inquisition as as for single women they do t turn up when they say they will "

OP refers to the person who wrote the post, though ive no idea what it stands for.

As to cheating wives turning up, so im guessing will cheating husbands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok what is OP? Secondly it's about cheating wives not the Spanish inquisition as as for single women they do t turn up when they say they will "

1. OP is original post and/or poster

2. the thread is about whatever it is about. it's organic!

3.some do,some don't,some are not women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok what is OP? Secondly it's about cheating wives not the Spanish inquisition as as for single women they do t turn up when they say they will

OP refers to the person who wrote the post, though ive no idea what it stands for.

As to cheating wives turning up, so im guessing will cheating husbands "

OP means original poster x

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Sometime OP stands for 'Overated Penis'

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

cheating wifes ,partners,girlfriends there all in the same boat its not nice and the ones who say there husbands let them play away or he understands and puts up with it been there and its not nice just think about the partners at home

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

The same as cheating men

Bar stewards in my opinion.

No difference male or female.

If they have consent to play then they are not cheating.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I would love to find a cheating wife, especially if she was a milfy mum. please pm me if you fit the criteria lolwhy do you want a cheating wife plenty of single women ......like meeeeeee "
Have i pulled ? te he x

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Ok what is OP? Secondly it's about cheating wives not the Spanish inquisition as as for single women they do t turn up when they say they will "

Not expecting the Spanish Inquisition?

Don't fret.

Nobody does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometime OP stands for 'Overated Penis'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love to find a cheating wife, especially if she was a milfy mum. please pm me if you fit the criteria lolwhy do you want a cheating wife plenty of single women ......like meeeeeee Have i pulled ? te he x"

and me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok what is OP? Secondly it's about cheating wives not the Spanish inquisition as as for single women they do t turn up when they say they will

1. OP is original post and/or poster

2. the thread is about whatever it is about. it's organic!

3.some do,some don't,some are not women"

not women

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I would love to find a cheating wife, especially if she was a milfy mum. please pm me if you fit the criteria lolwhy do you want a cheating wife plenty of single women ......like meeeeeee Have i pulled ? te he x

and me"

mmmmmm would love the chance ms kitten

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all it's been an experience, as a single male I will meet any lady who wants to meet me. After all they have there own minds and are free to make those kind of decisions.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Cheating wives are exactly the same as cheating husbands. Cheaters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you all it's been an experience, as a single male I will meet any lady who wants to meet me. After all they have there own minds and are free to make those kind of decisions. "

Make's asking what others think rather pointless then doesn't it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its interesting, when the thread a few days ago was about cheating husbands, the majority of posts were females and couples and there were significant, lengthy and emotive responses to the question.

Now the boot is on the other foot, there's a lot more humour and short "I think the same of cheating wives as I do husbands"

Where's the fire and damnation that the cheating husbands got?

Double standards sisters (and couples)

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"Its interesting, when the thread a few days ago was about cheating husbands, the majority of posts were females and couples and there were significant, lengthy and emotive responses to the question.

Now the boot is on the other foot, there's a lot more humour and short "I think the same of cheating wives as I do husbands"

Where's the fire and damnation that the cheating husbands got?

Double standards sisters (and couples)"

rubbish. I said exactly what i felt about the cheating husbands thread.

Do i need to say exactly the same thing in here? My words would be the same except to change the words wife and husband around. The fire and the damnation as you put it is the same. Its no different in any way.

She is basically being a bar steward while the husband hanst a clue and hasnt given consent.

The difference is the thread hasnt been opened by someone blantanly opening with i am a cheating woman on my husband. I dont care attitude and seems to be proud of the fact that they are doing something very wrong!

Cant imagine anyone would open a thread stating they were a wife beater and dont give a shit attitude and expect people to slap them on the back and say well done mate!

The Op was just asking for opinions.

If the Op was a.woman coming on the forum proud and confident on the fact that she is cheating on unsuspecting hubby then yes she would get all the fire in my belly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where are all the indignant men? or do they really not care as long as they get laid?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Where are all the indignant men? or do they really not care as long as they get laid? "

I can pretend to be indignant if it helps get me laid ? te he

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its interesting, when the thread a few days ago was about cheating husbands, the majority of posts were females and couples and there were significant, lengthy and emotive responses to the question.

Now the boot is on the other foot, there's a lot more humour and short "I think the same of cheating wives as I do husbands"

Where's the fire and damnation that the cheating husbands got?

Double standards sisters (and couples)"

Heres another one, you claim to love your wife "for better or for worse" but as soon as the going gets tough, you threaten her for sex, and you seek sex on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where are all the indignant men? or do they really not care as long as they get laid?

I can pretend to be indignant if it helps get me laid ? te he "

You...are shameless!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Cheating wives What do we think?"

Same as I think about cheating husbands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its interesting, when the thread a few days ago was about cheating husbands, the majority of posts were females and couples and there were significant, lengthy and emotive responses to the question.

Now the boot is on the other foot, there's a lot more humour and short "I think the same of cheating wives as I do husbands"

Where's the fire and damnation that the cheating husbands got?

Double standards sisters (and couples)

Heres another one, you claim to love your wife "for better or for worse" but as soon as the going gets tough, you threaten her for sex, and you seek sex on here?"

Where does it say he's married on his profile?!!

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Do you know,if i was so inconsiderate to cheat on a partner i would proudly admit it in a forum thread. I would hang myself in shame. Mind you as cheaters have morals then guess they would do just anything really. Dispicable

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Where are all the indignant men? or do they really not care as long as they get laid?

I can pretend to be indignant if it helps get me laid ? te he

You...are shameless! "

Is that a compliment ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where are all the indignant men? or do they really not care as long as they get laid? "

The saying goes

Women need a reason, men just need a place

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Suddenly realised that Wasnt meant to suggest that cheaters Cant post.

But would still head in shame if i was in their place

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

cheating wife or husband both still the same............. cheats at end of the day

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Its interesting, when the thread a few days ago was about cheating husbands, the majority of posts were females and couples and there were significant, lengthy and emotive responses to the question.

Now the boot is on the other foot, there's a lot more humour and short "I think the same of cheating wives as I do husbands"

Where's the fire and damnation that the cheating husbands got?

Double standards sisters (and couples)

Heres another one, you claim to love your wife "for better or for worse" but as soon as the going gets tough, you threaten her for sex, and you seek sex on here?"

Did I miss something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great with toast for breakfast

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Its interesting, when the thread a few days ago was about cheating husbands, the majority of posts were females and couples and there were significant, lengthy and emotive responses to the question.

Now the boot is on the other foot, there's a lot more humour and short "I think the same of cheating wives as I do husbands"

Where's the fire and damnation that the cheating husbands got?

Double standards sisters (and couples)"

I do agree to a point.

The other thread did get lots of long replies but to be honest, it was a good debate.

On the other hand you are right, cheating wives always seem to get less damnation ( not by everybody of course )

It is a bit like single men, they could ask the same question as a couple or female and get a totally different reaction.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

Don't think it's fair to comment, we don't know why individuals cheat, at the end of the day, people are accountable for their actions

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Its interesting, when the thread a few days ago was about cheating husbands, the majority of posts were females and couples and there were significant, lengthy and emotive responses to the question.

Now the boot is on the other foot, there's a lot more humour and short "I think the same of cheating wives as I do husbands"

Where's the fire and damnation that the cheating husbands got?

Double standards sisters (and couples)

Heres another one, you claim to love your wife "for better or for worse" but as soon as the going gets tough, you threaten her for sex, and you seek sex on here?

Did I miss something? "

No need for you to start an inquisition.

It's not what this thread is about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love to find a cheating wife, especially if she was a milfy mum. please pm me if you fit the criteria lol"

tch he said "We" ahhh I don't know some folks don't read the question properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think of cheating wives the same way I think of cheating husbands.

only worse,cos,like,what they doing out the kitchen anyway?..and oo's gonna do me sangwich "

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

as long as the wife/husband caught cheating can sit down and explain the reason why to any kids they may have..and why the rest of the childrens lives may be impacted by it.

they should cheat away..

it is only the kids and impacted partner that should be considered with compassion.

potential playmates on here can make an informed choice if they play with marrieds if the person declares their status on their profile... then if it goes tits up, then.... ya reap what ya sow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"cheating wives are more readily accepted than cheating husbands. The guys will get castigated for owning up to it, but the ladies get a much easier ride, no pun intended there.

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dunno bout that, I think more likely it is more openly accepted that men cheat and so peeps feel ok to speak out. Women cheating though has been and still is a bit taboo. Traditionally a cheating man was to be forgiven but a cheating lady would be thrown to the street.

Old ideas and stereotypes are hard to shrug off and often lurk in our subconcious. I think people just don't like to think of women cheating and so they avoid the thread or make light of it as if it was a joke and not really real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its interesting, when the thread a few days ago was about cheating husbands, the majority of posts were females and couples and there were significant, lengthy and emotive responses to the question.

Now the boot is on the other foot, there's a lot more humour and short "I think the same of cheating wives as I do husbands"

Where's the fire and damnation that the cheating husbands got?

Double standards sisters (and couples)

Heres another one, you claim to love your wife "for better or for worse" but as soon as the going gets tough, you threaten her for sex, and you seek sex on here?

Did I miss something? "

i am referring to his story he posted on the cheating husbands thread

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Its interesting, when the thread a few days ago was about cheating husbands, the majority of posts were females and couples and there were significant, lengthy and emotive responses to the question.

Now the boot is on the other foot, there's a lot more humour and short "I think the same of cheating wives as I do husbands"

Where's the fire and damnation that the cheating husbands got?

Double standards sisters (and couples)"

nope... I don't see them as "cheating hubby's" or "cheating wives"... I just see them as "cheating people"... which means they get the same response everytime we have a "cheating thread"... which is way too many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Where's the fire and damnation that the cheating husbands got?

Double standards sisters (and couples)

nope... I don't see them as "cheating hubby's" or "cheating wives"... I just see them as "cheating people"... which means they get the same response everytime we have a "cheating thread"... which is way too many"

I disagree with you Fabio, I've seen enough of this type of thread to be certain there is a difference in tone depending on whether targeted towards male or female. Admittedly some posters do try to show consistency. That said I thought the thread the other day was a really good debate.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Its interesting, when the thread a few days ago was about cheating husbands, the majority of posts were females and couples and there were significant, lengthy and emotive responses to the question.

Now the boot is on the other foot, there's a lot more humour and short "I think the same of cheating wives as I do husbands"

Where's the fire and damnation that the cheating husbands got?

Double standards sisters (and couples)

Heres another one, you claim to love your wife "for better or for worse" but as soon as the going gets tough, you threaten her for sex, and you seek sex on here?

Did I miss something?

i am referring to his story he posted on the cheating husbands thread"

Ah right.

Still not sure of the relevance to what he brought up here though as he had a good point.

This thread didn't get half as many serious answers or interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its interesting, when the thread a few days ago was about cheating husbands, the majority of posts were females and couples and there were significant, lengthy and emotive responses to the question.

Now the boot is on the other foot, there's a lot more humour and short "I think the same of cheating wives as I do husbands"

Where's the fire and damnation that the cheating husbands got?

Double standards sisters (and couples)

Heres another one, you claim to love your wife "for better or for worse" but as soon as the going gets tough, you threaten her for sex, and you seek sex on here?

Did I miss something?

i am referring to his story he posted on the cheating husbands thread

Ah right.

Still not sure of the relevance to what he brought up here though as he had a good point.

This thread didn't get half as many serious answers or interest."

Perhaps we had spent all our energy on that thread and none left for this one

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

lol could be....but I doubt it.

I know most people have the same _iews for women or men playing away, but I do think it isn't as passionate when threads about women come up.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

So I think that's settled it. Cheats are cheats.

I'd say that there maybe more men willing to go with an openly cheating woman, than there are females willing to go with an openly cheating man.

I'm not saying all men will, but it's supply and demand. There tends to be more single men looking for sex and fewer single women available. So with more men looking for sex openly cheating wives will have a greater chance of success, than their male counterparts.

It's not an excuse you either have a moral line that you don't cross or you do. But with more quantity the quality can get diluted.

But I still think the majority of men would not go for a openly cheating female, same as the majority of women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A possibility then that people believe more men play away than women maybe, or that more men are found out than women

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"A possibility then that people believe more men play away than women maybe, or that more men are found out than women"

I suppose that could be true also.....but I also think it could be something to do with a good few men ( not all obviously)wouldn't care wether woman were married or not, and there is more women who would object to playing with married men.

I think it could be the whole Venus and Mars thing going on.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

As a side bar on my comment when I was younger there was a young woman whose philosophy was I'll fuck anyone who I want to married or unmarried. If they are married and want to fuck me I don't care about their wife or family.

Amoral is the name for this attitude and it appears in both men and women. Sadly there were quite a few people who I or my partner have met who would be off the opinion if they don't know it does not count.

Sad but true, it's an attitude that exists but not one that we have often met in swinging clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we dont care if they cheat or not men or women at the end of the day its their marriage that will suffer not ours.they put up a profile like us on their own free will its their decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A possibility then that people believe more men play away than women maybe, or that more men are found out than women

I suppose that could be true also.....but I also think it could be something to do with a good few men ( not all obviously)wouldn't care wether woman were married or not, and there is more women who would object to playing with married men.

I think it could be the whole Venus and Mars thing going on.

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One day i will have the time to read that book, then i would know what this whole venus and mars thing is

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I havn't read it either, I just know it must be true as men are way way different than us superior species

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I havn't read it either, I just know it must be true as men are way way different than us superior species"

of course, i mean they do say that behind every successful man is a woman telling him what to do

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Forget "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" The same basic information is in "Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps" from Amazon and it explains in in more modern language.

It worked wonders for our daughter when she had a hard time understanding her boyfriend. I pointed out some passages and she read them. Almost overnight, she went from a person who wouldn't let her boyfriend watch "Coyote Ugly" cos of the girls in it, to someone who understood why he was looking!

Mind you, she used the book on him to explain why she did what she did!! She always did have a good mind lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last summer I met a cpl off here and the following day was asked by the wife if I would see her on her own as she was lonely and unhappy in her marriage.Cpls like that really should not do swinging as it just leads to misery all round as it did in this case....if the marriage is unstable and the wife is likely to cheat...don't swing!....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have come to the opinion that most guys prefer cheating wives, when I was, I was inundated with offers, since becoming single, not had much interest at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Forget "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" The same basic information is in "Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps" from Amazon and it explains in in more modern language.

It worked wonders for our daughter when she had a hard time understanding her boyfriend. I pointed out some passages and she read them. Almost overnight, she went from a person who wouldn't let her boyfriend watch "Coyote Ugly" cos of the girls in it, to someone who understood why he was looking!

Mind you, she used the book on him to explain why she did what she did!! She always did have a good mind lol"

I wish i had known about that book when my daughter was going out with a loser, who only used her for what he could, perhaps they would have split sooner than they did and she would not be paying for a loan for a car he smashed up

Present boyfriend is lovely, works hard too, unlike last one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Forget "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" The same basic information is in "Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps" from Amazon and it explains in in more modern language...."

Totally agree, an excellent book, which really helped me understand men (I read it when I was a vanilla, so I might have to re-read it, now LOL)

However, I hold my hand up (and I expect you all to hate me!), because I do think less-badly of a cheating woman than I do of a cheating man.

I'm more willing to believe that a woman has a valid reason for cheating, whether that's:-

~ she's really seeking the love that she's not getting at home (not just seeking sex)

~ she can't leave the marriage for financial reasons

~ she doesn't want to leave a love-filled but sex-empty marriage

~ etc

At the end of the day, men and women are different, and the main difference is that only women bear the children. Now, that might be fair or unfair, but we have to live with it.

As a result, woman suffer physically (9 months of hauling round a bowling ball), financially (reduced earning capacity), and emotionally (in that mothers tend to develop a closer bond with the children than fathers - on average)

Men also suffer, in that they're more likely to lose custody of the children (if a woman decides to divorce rather than cheat), they're more likely to suffer financially from a divorce, and their more likely to find that a cheating wife has foisted on them a child which is not theirs!

Ask a man if he has any children, and half the time he will say 'none that I know about, ha ha!'. Men can walk away from their reproductive mistakes, far easier than women.

As always, all this is just my personal opinion. I expect people to disagree, and I won't be offended if you do. I just wanted to meet the challenge of posting a lengthy answer to this thread, as I did on the 'cheating men' thread.

I'm going to get my crash helmet and Kevlar vest on, now!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Forget "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" The same basic information is in "Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps" from Amazon and it explains in in more modern language....

I'm more willing to believe that a woman has a valid reason for cheating, whether that's:-

~ she's really seeking the love that she's not getting at home (not just seeking sex)

~ she can't leave the marriage for financial reasons

~ she doesn't want to leave a love-filled but sex-empty marriage

~ etc

"

And some of the exact same reasons why men say they play away

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Bless Rugby, you said it for me...

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Men and ladies reasons are the same kind for explanations of why they cheat.

In my opinion.ladies Will think more about wether to cheat as like Jo said financial reasons and maybe not being the main wage earner so her getting a mortgage on her own would he harder if they split as she could very well end up having custardy of the children. So maybe she would think more about wether to comit the crime.

Men are probably the higher wage earner and less likely to end up with custardy of the children and easier to get a mortgage alone due to the higher wage.

Yes i know i am generalising. But men generally have the higher paid jobs.

I do think men have less to loose in general. I do feel the same way about men cheating as ladies. Its wrong no matter how you look at it.

The reason i have written less on this thread rather than the cheating husbands one is that i dont know how to copy and paste my comments onto this thread by mobile.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"Men and ladies reasons are the same kind for explanations of why they cheat.

In my opinion.ladies Will think more about wether to cheat as like Jo said financial reasons and maybe not being the main wage earner so her getting a mortgage on her own would he harder if they split as she could very well end up having custardy of the children. So maybe she would think more about wether to comit the crime.

Men are probably the higher wage earner and less likely to end up with custardy of the children and easier to get a mortgage alone due to the higher wage.

Yes i know i am generalising. But men generally have the higher paid jobs.

I do think men have less to loose in general. I do feel the same way about men cheating as ladies. Its wrong no matter how you look at it.

The reason i have written less on this thread rather than the cheating husbands one is that i dont know how to copy and paste my comments onto this thread by mobile."

Both husbands and wives will have their own reasons for cheating on the other, I don't think too much about it and tend to just let people run their own lives as they want to and not comment on the state of their relationship.

But..... whether or not it is the husband or wife that does it..... covering the kids in custard is just wrong!

Sorry couldn't resist that one.

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

We are a couple who both enjoy swinging together so no need for cheating.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"Men and ladies reasons are the same kind for explanations of why they cheat.

In my opinion.ladies Will think more about wether to cheat as like Jo said financial reasons and maybe not being the main wage earner so her getting a mortgage on her own would he harder if they split as she could very well end up having custardy of the children. So maybe she would think more about wether to comit the crime.

Men are probably the higher wage earner and less likely to end up with custardy of the children and easier to get a mortgage alone due to the higher wage.

Yes i know i am generalising. But men generally have the higher paid jobs.

I do think men have less to loose in general. I do feel the same way about men cheating as ladies. Its wrong no matter how you look at it.

The reason i have written less on this thread rather than the cheating husbands one is that i dont know how to copy and paste my comments onto this thread by mobile.

Both husbands and wives will have their own reasons for cheating on the other, I don't think too much about it and tend to just let people run their own lives as they want to and not comment on the state of their relationship.

But..... whether or not it is the husband or wife that does it..... covering the kids in custard is just wrong!

Sorry couldn't resist that one. "

its my mobile that types words wrong not me lol

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By *ittle-Miss-MuffetCouple
over a year ago

Chester / North Wales


"cheating wifes ,partners,girlfriends there all in the same boat its not nice and the ones who say there husbands let them play away or he understands and puts up with it been there and its not nice just think about the partners at home"

So you saying it's not OK for a wife/partner/whatever to play without him even with his consent?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problem is they shouldn't be swinging until they have sorted their problems, cheating is cheating and if i was the hubby of this woman then put it this way she would be history !


"Last summer I met a cpl off here and the following day was asked by the wife if I would see her on her own as she was lonely and unhappy in her marriage.Cpls like that really should not do swinging as it just leads to misery all round as it did in this case....if the marriage is unstable and the wife is likely to cheat...don't swing!...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love to find a cheating wife, especially if she was a milfy mum. please pm me if you fit the criteria lolwhy do you want a cheating wife plenty of single women ......like meeeeeee "

Some prefer married.. I know most of the time I prefer married men.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naa

cheating is cheating is it just wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to stay together you donn't cheat or lie - there is no other option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spot on !!


"If you want to stay together you donn't cheat or lie - there is no other option "

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Sorry but have little respect for those that purposefully choose married men or married ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if there is a genuine couple who can play separately that is wrong ?

Me and my hubby meet people together for the first time be that a single person or couple and get along and decide to meet that person again with everyone's knowledge that makes me or hubby a cheat ? I have met with a couple where the husband was keen to meet again but the wife wasnt so we talked about it and she gave permission to meet him as a single my husband was ok with it and after we had met i once again spoke with his wife to make sure she was ok with it and like some women she had just gone off sex for a while but didnt want him to miss out on any fun he could have had behind her back.

She knew who he was with and when as did my husband she had a break from sex for a little while and is now going out and they are meeting again as a couple and now also as single's aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we dont care if they cheat or not men or women at the end of the day its their marriage that will suffer not ours.they put up a profile like us on their own free will its their decision."

yep!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Cheating wives What do we think?"

i think the same as i do about cheating husbands....but hasnt this subject been done to death

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"So if there is a genuine couple who can play separately that is wrong ?

Me and my hubby meet people together for the first time be that a single person or couple and get along and decide to meet that person again with everyone's knowledge that makes me or hubby a cheat ? I have met with a couple where the husband was keen to meet again but the wife wasnt so we talked about it and she gave permission to meet him as a single my husband was ok with it and after we had met i once again spoke with his wife to make sure she was ok with it and like some women she had just gone off sex for a while but didnt want him to miss out on any fun he could have had behind her back.

She knew who he was with and when as did my husband she had a break from sex for a little while and is now going out and they are meeting again as a couple and now also as single's aswell "

Then its not cheating, cheating is without consent of the partner. Doing it with consent is the best of both worlds and admire these relationships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if there is a genuine couple who can play separately that is wrong ?

Me and my hubby meet people together for the first time be that a single person or couple and get along and decide to meet that person again with everyone's knowledge that makes me or hubby a cheat ? I have met with a couple where the husband was keen to meet again but the wife wasnt so we talked about it and she gave permission to meet him as a single my husband was ok with it and after we had met i once again spoke with his wife to make sure she was ok with it and like some women she had just gone off sex for a while but didnt want him to miss out on any fun he could have had behind her back.

She knew who he was with and when as did my husband she had a break from sex for a little while and is now going out and they are meeting again as a couple and now also as single's aswell "

I think the key different here is that the wife knew what was goin on. For us, we always say if the wife/husband doesnt know that their partner is playing then that isnt swinging its cheating and we dont want to be the other woman/man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we dont care if they cheat or not men or women at the end of the day its their marriage that will suffer not ours.they put up a profile like us on their own free will its their decision.

yep!"

It may be their decision to put up a profile but it isnt their husband or wives decision is it. I wouldnt want to play with men or women who are cheating as I would feel responsible for hurting their partners if it was ever found. out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i found out my x was cheating when i came home early and caught her on her back being pumped by a guy with a very big cock ,thats what got us into swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like the Spanish Inquisition, isn't it?"

No one expects the Spanish Inquisition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i found out my x was cheating when i came home early and caught her on her back being pumped by a guy with a very big cock ,thats what got us into swinging"

Nice , I would love that !

Although I'm single at the moment so not going to happen ! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read somewhere not that long ago the results of a 10 year survey conducted in western Europe and the United States. which showed that between the ages of 20 -30 men are the most likely to cheat but at ages between 30 - 50 the dynamic changed considerably and women became the the most likely to cheat.

Personally, so long as no laws are broken I find it hard to condemn someone for the life choices they make.

We get one life, just one crack at the whip. One size does not fit all, I would not appreciate someone telling me how to live my life and as such would not presume to tell someone else how to live theirs.

People cheat for many many different reasons. Yes sometimes others get emotionally hurt in the fallout which is unfortunate.

I am speaking from experience, having been cheated on and been a revenge cheater. All be it a very very long time ago

like the old saying goes

'All is fair in love and war'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what about them ? have no opinion on the subject . i realise its kind of pointless posting here if i nothing worth while to say but chat is down and im bored lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about them ? have no opinion on the subject . i realise its kind of pointless posting here if i nothing worth while to say but chat is down and im bored lol "

ha ha

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk


"So if there is a genuine couple who can play separately that is wrong ?

Me and my hubby meet people together for the first time be that a single person or couple and get along and decide to meet that person again with everyone's knowledge that makes me or hubby a cheat ? I have met with a couple where the husband was keen to meet again but the wife wasnt so we talked about it and she gave permission to meet him as a single my husband was ok with it and after we had met i once again spoke with his wife to make sure she was ok with it and like some women she had just gone off sex for a while but didnt want him to miss out on any fun he could have had behind her back.

She knew who he was with and when as did my husband she had a break from sex for a little while and is now going out and they are meeting again as a couple and now also as single's aswell "

We have the same relationship, play away separately with each others consent. We also have a couple of couples we meet where the woman is married and cheating on her hubby with her swing partner (and others) but that's their problem not ours.

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the idea of being cheating on by my gf really turns me on, the idea of me giving here permission to meet guys for sex without my knowledge really turns me on, its not strictly cheating but close. any ideas why it appeals to me or am i the only one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think if u wanna have fun have fun u only live once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am i classed as a cheating wife ?..probably..do i care not at all,ignorance is bliss,or so they say..

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

People who cheat are cowards. They should grow some balls (that applies equally to women as it does to men) and deal with their situation like an adult.

Yeah, you may be in a sex-less relationship... or you may not be able to afford the same sort of lifestyle you currently have... or you may not feel loved by your partner. So what? Lemme dial whine whine whine and call you a waah-mbulance.

If you don't love your partner any more then it's time to separate... there's no longer any stigma attached with getting separated. If you do still love them the show them some respect and stop shitting on them from a great height.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im a cheating wife. so horny and love what i do but will never ever leave hubby. he just isnt into me that much"

Me too! Can't live without the sex! Don't want to leave him though! Life is ok! Just no decent sex, he's a one min wonder! Urgh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I read somewhere not that long ago the results of a 10 year survey conducted in western Europe and the United States. which showed that between the ages of 20 -30 men are the most likely to cheat but at ages between 30 - 50 the dynamic changed considerably and women became the the most likely to cheat.

Personally, so long as no laws are broken I find it hard to condemn someone for the life choices they make.

We get one life, just one crack at the whip. One size does not fit all, I would not appreciate someone telling me how to live my life and as such would not presume to tell someone else how to live theirs.

People cheat for many many different reasons. Yes sometimes others get emotionally hurt in the fallout which is unfortunate.

I am speaking from experience, having been cheated on and been a revenge cheater. All be it a very very long time ago

like the old saying goes

'All is fair in love and war'"

Agree! One size defo don't fit all! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If all the people who are cheating on their partners, had it done to them they would not like it one bit.And the people who play with them who know they are cheating are just as bad as them.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Am i classed as a cheating wife ?..probably..do i care not at all,ignorance is bliss,or so they say.."

bliss for you, i have never known anyone who has been cheated on who hasnt known and been dying inside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating wives are no different to cheating husbands !

Their choice.... im sure any cheat is concious of the potential hurt they may cause.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i classed as a cheating wife ?..probably..do i care not at all,ignorance is bliss,or so they say..

bliss for you, i have never known anyone who has been cheated on who hasnt known and been dying inside."

Strange how you always target me..people are very quick to judge on here..do you know my circumstances as to why i cheat..no you dont,and im not about to tell you either

I am honest as to being married on my profile so as those i choose to meet know,and in reality you will always find both genders having extra marital affairs on this site..does that make us bad people? i dont think so

there is always a reason people look elsewhere,and to me its their business as to why they do it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who cheat are cowards. They should grow some balls (that applies equally to women as it does to men) and deal with their situation like an adult.

Yeah, you may be in a sex-less relationship... or you may not be able to afford the same sort of lifestyle you currently have... or you may not feel loved by your partner. So what? Lemme dial whine whine whine and call you a waah-mbulance.

If you don't love your partner any more then it's time to separate... there's no longer any stigma attached with getting separated. If you do still love them the show them some respect and stop shitting on them from a great height."
WTF should people split up just because the sex is not great. Its only a small but yes,an important part of their relationship. If everything else is ok then Why split over this. As for the condemnation,think on boys and girls. The vast majority of society would condem us for what we do here. Does that make US wrong. People handle their lives and difficulties in what seems the best at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i classed as a cheating wife ?..probably..do i care not at all,ignorance is bliss,or so they say..

bliss for you, i have never known anyone who has been cheated on who hasnt known and been dying inside.

Strange how you always target me..people are very quick to judge on here..do you know my circumstances as to why i cheat..no you dont,and im not about to tell you either

I am honest as to being married on my profile so as those i choose to meet know,and in reality you will always find both genders having extra marital affairs on this site..does that make us bad people? i dont think so

there is always a reason people look elsewhere,and to me its their business as to why they do it...."

I will also add...would i like to be poked and pawed by numerous men at any one time while my husband got off on it...no i would'ent,but i dont judge those that do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are fewer cheating wives on here than cheating husbands and the subject has been done to death. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who cheat are cowards. They should grow some balls (that applies equally to women as it does to men) and deal with their situation like an adult.

Yeah, you may be in a sex-less relationship... or you may not be able to afford the same sort of lifestyle you currently have... or you may not feel loved by your partner. So what? Lemme dial whine whine whine and call you a waah-mbulance.

If you don't love your partner any more then it's time to separate... there's no longer any stigma attached with getting separated. If you do still love them the show them some respect and stop shitting on them from a great height."

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who cheat are cowards. They should grow some balls (that applies equally to women as it does to men) and deal with their situation like an adult.

Yeah, you may be in a sex-less relationship... or you may not be able to afford the same sort of lifestyle you currently have... or you may not feel loved by your partner. So what? Lemme dial whine whine whine and call you a waah-mbulance.

If you don't love your partner any more then it's time to separate... there's no longer any stigma attached with getting separated. If you do still love them the show them some respect and stop shitting on them from a great height.

+1"

+2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i classed as a cheating wife ?..probably..do i care not at all,ignorance is bliss,or so they say..

bliss for you, i have never known anyone who has been cheated on who hasnt known and been dying inside."

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who cheat are cowards. They should grow some balls (that applies equally to women as it does to men) and deal with their situation like an adult.

Yeah, you may be in a sex-less relationship... or you may not be able to afford the same sort of lifestyle you currently have... or you may not feel loved by your partner. So what? Lemme dial whine whine whine and call you a waah-mbulance.

If you don't love your partner any more then it's time to separate... there's no longer any stigma attached with getting separated. If you do still love them the show them some respect and stop shitting on them from a great height."

I agree, people are often quick to forget that its not just the cheaters partner that is affected when the cheat is found out. My ex husband cheated on me, possibly for years, it didn't just affect me but the kids too, I'm just glad they don't remember the arguments etc and him making us move out of our home so he could " have time to think" while he moved his g/f in. This was not a sexless relationship either, I offered him all the sex he could want but he preferred to go elsewhere .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who cheat are cowards. They should grow some balls (that applies equally to women as it does to men) and deal with their situation like an adult.

Yeah, you may be in a sex-less relationship... or you may not be able to afford the same sort of lifestyle you currently have... or you may not feel loved by your partner. So what? Lemme dial whine whine whine and call you a waah-mbulance.

If you don't love your partner any more then it's time to separate... there's no longer any stigma attached with getting separated. If you do still love them the show them some respect and stop shitting on them from a great height.

I agree, people are often quick to forget that its not just the cheaters partner that is affected when the cheat is found out. My ex husband cheated on me, possibly for years, it didn't just affect me but the kids too, I'm just glad they don't remember the arguments etc and him making us move out of our home so he could " have time to think" while he moved his g/f in. This was not a sexless relationship either, I offered him all the sex he could want but he preferred to go elsewhere ."

Maybe he just was'ent into you ...it happens..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well am a cheating wife i have for years and for many reasons and think if you dont let it get in the way of your home life there is no prob,however i am honest of what i am many are not

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By *icboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Well am a cheating wife i have for years and for many reasons and think if you dont let it get in the way of your home life there is no prob,however i am honest of what i am many are not "

You are dead right, honesty is the best policy...so well done you...

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Hang on...well done you...honesty is the best policy!! What on earth, sorry I havent read all the thread but if the lady is being honest to her husband then fair enough but if she isnt being honest to the husband then using the word honesty in the same sentance is just hypocritical.

I dont know the reasons people cheat but if their partners knows and is ok then it isnt cheating. For those whose partner doesnt know(cheating without consent) then I just dont know how any woman or man doing this can use the word honesty when they are not being honest with the one person in the world they are supposed to be honest with.

O yes and using the phrase...you dont know the reasons I cheat as if it justifies it I see as pathetic. If you feel you have a reason to see for sex and already in a relationship then man or woman up and be honest with your partner and actually get consent or stop the relationship. I do wonder sometimes if people can be honest with their partners rather than just swinging friends and spout of honesty!

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"Strange how you always target me..people are very quick to judge on here..do you know my circumstances as to why i cheat..no you dont,and im not about to tell you either"

Now I am hurt! You said it was me that always picked on you! I would think you either have a persecution complex or use it to stop people "having a go"?


"I am honest as to being married on my profile so as those i choose to meet know"

But the one person who matters? You are not being honest with him! I know I will be accused of “judging” so before that happens let me tell you… I am judging, as everyone does, everyday. The difference is, I will type it out on here!

I really have a laugh when the cheaters make out they are honest, just because they tell people on here. That IMO is not honesty, it is because they need some for of approval for what they are doing and are hoping to get it on here! As to why people cheat? Many reasons given, but it all boils down to dishonesty…

But that is just my opinion!!

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over a year ago


"Strange how you always target me..people are very quick to judge on here..do you know my circumstances as to why i cheat..no you dont,and im not about to tell you either

Now I am hurt! You said it was me that always picked on you! I would think you either have a persecution complex or use it to stop people "having a go"?

I am honest as to being married on my profile so as those i choose to meet know

But the one person who matters? You are not being honest with him! I know I will be accused of “judging” so before that happens let me tell you… I am judging, as everyone does, everyday. The difference is, I will type it out on here!

I really have a laugh when the cheaters make out they are honest, just because they tell people on here. That IMO is not honesty, it is because they need some for of approval for what they are doing and are hoping to get it on here! As to why people cheat? Many reasons given, but it all boils down to dishonesty…

But that is just my opinion!!

"

Whatever lol....do i really care what you think....NOOOOOOOOO..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Strange how you always target me..people are very quick to judge on here..do you know my circumstances as to why i cheat..no you dont,and im not about to tell you either

Now I am hurt! You said it was me that always picked on you! I would think you either have a persecution complex or use it to stop people "having a go"?

I am honest as to being married on my profile so as those i choose to meet know

But the one person who matters? You are not being honest with him! I know I will be accused of “judging” so before that happens let me tell you… I am judging, as everyone does, everyday. The difference is, I will type it out on here!

I really have a laugh when the cheaters make out they are honest, just because they tell people on here. That IMO is not honesty, it is because they need some for of approval for what they are doing and are hoping to get it on here! As to why people cheat? Many reasons given, but it all boils down to dishonesty…

But that is just my opinion!!

Whatever lol....do i really care what you think....NOOOOOOOOO.."

go girl x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luv em..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Strange how you always target me..people are very quick to judge on here..do you know my circumstances as to why i cheat..no you dont,and im not about to tell you either

Now I am hurt! You said it was me that always picked on you! I would think you either have a persecution complex or use it to stop people "having a go"?

I am honest as to being married on my profile so as those i choose to meet know

But the one person who matters? You are not being honest with him! I know I will be accused of “judging” so before that happens let me tell you… I am judging, as everyone does, everyday. The difference is, I will type it out on here!

I really have a laugh when the cheaters make out they are honest, just because they tell people on here. That IMO is not honesty, it is because they need some for of approval for what they are doing and are hoping to get it on here! As to why people cheat? Many reasons given, but it all boils down to dishonesty…

But that is just my opinion!!

Whatever lol....do i really care what you think....NOOOOOOOOO..

go girl x"

lol you really have to laugh sometimes at some peoples moral high grounds

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

what constitutes a cheating wife ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what constitutes a cheating wife ? "

Im sure there will be many who have such high morals on here who will tell you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been in the both positions, cheated on a partner and had a partner cheat on me. My opinion on people who cheat on wives/husbands is this, none of my business. I do not know the circumstances of their relationship and until then I would not pass comment and I certainly wouldn't judge them.

I have a very good female friend on this site who is in a long term marriage and whose husband is very ill. Do I judge her, no I don't. What should she do walk away from him to find what she needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a woman who has sex with others without her husbands knowledge i guess, what else can it be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what constitutes a cheating wife ? "

I would have said it was one who looked at the back page of the suduko (think its spelt wrong) book to find the answers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what constitutes a cheating wife ?

I would have said it was one who looked at the back page of the suduko (think its spelt wrong) book to find the answers"

lol thats a good one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm more willing to believe that a woman has a valid reason for cheating, whether that's:-

~ she's really seeking the love that she's not getting at home (not just seeking sex)

~ she can't leave the marriage for financial reasons

~ she doesn't want to leave a love-filled but sex-empty marriage

~ etc

"

This. Wish it was as simple as just being a heartless bitch.

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By *AUCY SUEWoman
over a year ago

portsmouth

how can you be cheating when you both go swinging ????????

and you both are honest with each other

and know what the other person is doing,

x sue x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been in the both positions, cheated on a partner and had a partner cheat on me. My opinion on people who cheat on wives/husbands is this, none of my business. I do not know the circumstances of their relationship and until then I would not pass comment and I certainly wouldn't judge them.

I have a very good female friend on this site who is in a long term marriage and whose husband is very ill. Do I judge her, no I don't. What should she do walk away from him to find what she needs. "

i agree with you

i remember a time when i wore blinkers and just thought all cheating people was selfish and greedy with no respect for anyone

i have however met lots of people who are playing away, when i say met i mean just that, clubs, parties etc i dont meet jumped into bed with, and after chatting you realise life isnt so black and white, peoples reasons are not always the same for cheating and leaving the partner is not always an option

i also know someone who has a very ill wife who meets people off here, he spends 99% of his time looking after her, hes had to pack up work to keep her out a hostal, he also has two children that need looking after too, he gets a few hours a week break when a qualified care worker comes in to take over so he uses that time to look for sex, now a lot of the so called 'do gooders' may see him as a terrible person, but hes a healthy guy with a sex drive, so whats better having the odd fling to keep him sane or putting his wife in a home?

everyone will have their own opinions but real life isnt always a bed of roses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can you swingers be 100% sure when you meet that the person is'ent married,you only have their word for it...so tell me how do you really know ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating wives What do we think?"

Have them burnt at the stake !

The fire should be well and truly alight if they do the cheating husbands first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can you swingers be 100% sure when you meet that the person is'ent married,you only have their word for it...so tell me how do you really know ???"

short answer is you dont

i use clubs a lot, i dont even ask if guys i play with are married

and i doubt many do

im not a cold, uncaring person but the top and bottom of it is its none of my buisness

to many people on here think because they offering sex with you they have the rights to know the ins and outs of your life

they dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can you swingers be 100% sure when you meet that the person is'ent married,you only have their word for it...so tell me how do you really know ???"

I remember having this very same convo on a similar post over 3 years ago. I suggested making all people who get married get complusory retina scans with a married bar code on

funny enough at the time the woman who was most objectionable to married people playing away was a escort. I would have thought that most married men would have been the majority of customers for her and pointed this out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can you swingers be 100% sure when you meet that the person is'ent married,you only have their word for it...so tell me how do you really know ???

I remember having this very same convo on a similar post over 3 years ago. I suggested making all people who get married get complusory retina scans with a married bar code on

funny enough at the time the woman who was most objectionable to married people playing away was a escort. I would have thought that most married men would have been the majority of customers for her and pointed this out"

dont count if your doing it for money

your only cheating if the womans enjoying it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating wives What do we think?

Have them burnt at the stake !

The fire should be well and truly alight if they do the cheating husbands first "

make sure you bring a lot of wood to burn,especially for those who claim to be in a swinging couple relationship...however will meet you on their own without their other half knowing...and there are plenty on here..trust me ..

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Fab is a cheating wifes dream. Its full of them. Men aren't bothered, generally speaking. You just can't police it. People make their own choices and risk the consequences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is a cheating wifes dream. Its full of them. Men aren't bothered, generally speaking. You just can't police it. People make their own choices and risk the consequences. "

Dont forget a cheating husbands dream too..

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By *ondafirestormMan
over a year ago

heckington

Where are they,where?where? lol

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"Whatever lol....do i really care what you think....NOOOOOOOOO.."

At last, you have finally got it without getting out of shape! Just one thing though... You obviously do care because you felt the need to reply!


"lol you really have to laugh sometimes at some peoples moral high grounds "

Blimey! I can never claim to hold the moral high ground! We are real swingers and as such, vanillas see us as very low morals... However, the one thing I could never do is to cheat on a partner who is at home thinking I am faithful. I would never consider cheating on Mrs R!

To say that it is OK if the partner is ill? That is the very time when you should be there for them! Illness is a time when finding out that your life partner has cheated will likely do the most damage. If one of us were ill and sex was not available, we would NOT think about going out to find a shag!

Lastly, I love the cozy, warm feeling we always seem to get when these controversial threads come up! You know, the feeling when all the women who just don't care, back each other up! Funny, the guys who cheat are much more secure in what they are doing, they tend not to back each other in the same way…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever lol....do i really care what you think....NOOOOOOOOO..

At last, you have finally got it without getting out of shape! Just one thing though... You obviously do care because you felt the need to reply!

lol you really have to laugh sometimes at some peoples moral high grounds

Blimey! I can never claim to hold the moral high ground! We are real swingers and as such, vanillas see us as very low morals... However, the one thing I could never do is to cheat on a partner who is at home thinking I am faithful. I would never consider cheating on Mrs R!

To say that it is OK if the partner is ill? That is the very time when you should be there for them! Illness is a time when finding out that your life partner has cheated will likely do the most damage. If one of us were ill and sex was not available, we would NOT think about going out to find a shag!

Lastly, I love the cozy, warm feeling we always seem to get when these controversial threads come up! You know, the feeling when all the women who just don't care, back each other up! Funny, the guys who cheat are much more secure in what they are doing, they tend not to back each other in the same way…

"

I don't care, I think you will find I said am not judgemental and that it is none of my business. I also am very secure in who I am and have been for a while.

I think it is very easy for you to sit there with your happy marriage and swinging life and look at the misfortunes of others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever lol....do i really care what you think....NOOOOOOOOO..

At last, you have finally got it without getting out of shape! Just one thing though... You obviously do care because you felt the need to reply!

lol you really have to laugh sometimes at some peoples moral high grounds

Blimey! I can never claim to hold the moral high ground! We are real swingers and as such, vanillas see us as very low morals... However, the one thing I could never do is to cheat on a partner who is at home thinking I am faithful. I would never consider cheating on Mrs R!

To say that it is OK if the partner is ill? That is the very time when you should be there for them! Illness is a time when finding out that your life partner has cheated will likely do the most damage. If one of us were ill and sex was not available, we would NOT think about going out to find a shag!

Lastly, I love the cozy, warm feeling we always seem to get when these controversial threads come up! You know, the feeling when all the women who just don't care, back each other up! Funny, the guys who cheat are much more secure in what they are doing, they tend not to back each other in the same way…

"

ha mr know it all as per usual,beings you have such a happily married life i suggest you get on with it..and allow others to get on with theirs..and no you dont intimidate me at all..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find these type of thread actually determine the sort of people I would meet. No I don't mean I wouldn't meet the married people playing away, but the narrow minded judgemental ones who are rather smug in their replies

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over a year ago


"Whatever lol....do i really care what you think....NOOOOOOOOO..

At last, you have finally got it without getting out of shape! Just one thing though... You obviously do care because you felt the need to reply!

lol you really have to laugh sometimes at some peoples moral high grounds

Blimey! I can never claim to hold the moral high ground! We are real swingers and as such, vanillas see us as very low morals... However, the one thing I could never do is to cheat on a partner who is at home thinking I am faithful. I would never consider cheating on Mrs R!

To say that it is OK if the partner is ill? That is the very time when you should be there for them! Illness is a time when finding out that your life partner has cheated will likely do the most damage. If one of us were ill and sex was not available, we would NOT think about going out to find a shag!

Lastly, I love the cozy, warm feeling we always seem to get when these controversial threads come up! You know, the feeling when all the women who just don't care, back each other up! Funny, the guys who cheat are much more secure in what they are doing, they tend not to back each other in the same way…

I don't care, I think you will find I said am not judgemental and that it is none of my business. I also am very secure in who I am and have been for a while.

I think it is very easy for you to sit there with your happy marriage and swinging life and look at the misfortunes of others."

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm more willing to believe that a woman has a valid reason for cheating, whether that's:-

~ she's really seeking the love that she's not getting at home (not just seeking sex)

~ she can't leave the marriage for financial reasons

~ she doesn't want to leave a love-filled but sex-empty marriage

~ etc

This. Wish it was as simple as just being a heartless bitch. "

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever lol....do i really care what you think....NOOOOOOOOO..

At last, you have finally got it without getting out of shape! Just one thing though... You obviously do care because you felt the need to reply!

lol you really have to laugh sometimes at some peoples moral high grounds

Blimey! I can never claim to hold the moral high ground! We are real swingers and as such, vanillas see us as very low morals... However, the one thing I could never do is to cheat on a partner who is at home thinking I am faithful. I would never consider cheating on Mrs R!

To say that it is OK if the partner is ill? That is the very time when you should be there for them! Illness is a time when finding out that your life partner has cheated will likely do the most damage. If one of us were ill and sex was not available, we would NOT think about going out to find a shag!

Lastly, I love the cozy, warm feeling we always seem to get when these controversial threads come up! You know, the feeling when all the women who just don't care, back each other up! Funny, the guys who cheat are much more secure in what they are doing, they tend not to back each other in the same way…

ha mr know it all as per usual,beings you have such a happily married life i suggest you get on with it..and allow others to get on with theirs..and no you dont intimidate me at all.."

Oh and lest we forget...im vanilla and your a swinger....so bloody what????

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Cheating wives are the same as cheating husbands, there is no difference. Its them that has to look their husband/wife in the eye with no guilt not me. Noone has to "cheat" just leave. Yes ive cheated in relationships but not my marriage and i have never been cheated on in any comitted relationship (to my knowledge) but i have been right there and seen the fall out and the lasting effects of what happens

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

I could not find the time to cheat.

Plus for us little point as both swing.

So cheating would be pointless from my point of _iew.

Yet have said that, A two or three ttimes Ian been away.

I had asked him if going to a club to play.

Sue

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Suzy.. My posts are never meant to intimidate anyone. I just type MY feelings and _iews on the subject. Views that I am entitled to hold and type the same as you are. Just because I don’t agree on a particular subject, doesn’t mean I don’t “like” someone or other posts they do. It just means that I differ in _iewpoint on that subject. I would think that it may be that I am not “PC”. Seems a lot of people are not really sure how to handle someone who just says what he/she means…

Quite why you keep feeling the need to take a “pop” at me! That last comment was totally unnecessary and really has nothing to do with anything I have typed! Just remember though, if that comes up at any time and I say that, remember you said it first!

Princess.. Yes, I suppose it is easy for me to sit here and pass comment from my position. Yes, very happily married and enthusiastic swingers. However, although our sexual morals have gone out of the window, I still cannot condone someone claiming to be honest but not being honest with the one person who deserves that honesty!

I can understand that some people have lives they wouldn’t have chosen had they known, but surely, rather than living the lie and cheating, better to get out? I just can’t get my head round how someone can say they love a person and then betray that love for sex! It’s not about being “Narrow Minded” it is about the common decency that we should all be able to count on, especially from someone we love…

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"Fab is a cheating wifes dream. Its full of them. Men aren't bothered, generally speaking. You just can't police it. People make their own choices and risk the consequences.

Dont forget a cheating husbands dream too.."

Of course but said wives as that was the question. It ain't pretty but I'm not judging as I haven't walked in their heels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont take a pop at you at all,and like you i have every right to express my opinion on here,i respect your _iews,as i hope you respect mine,after all having a difference of opinion is healthy

but unless you know an individuals reason for what they do and how they behave sometimes having some tact so to speak is better than coming across as pompous..

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

shit!! ive got to go out!! bet this thread is removed by the time i get back!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love cheating wifes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love cheating wifes... "

omg dont say that on here lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love cheating wifes...

omg dont say that on here lol.."

Oh dear? does this mean that I am a bad person??

To be honest, if they are going to cheat its either going to be with me (hopefully) or someone else!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love cheating wifes...

omg dont say that on here lol..

Oh dear? does this mean that I am a bad person??

To be honest, if they are going to cheat its either going to be with me (hopefully) or someone else!"

It might just mean you are a really bad person....can you live with that ? lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love cheating wifes...

omg dont say that on here lol..

Oh dear? does this mean that I am a bad person??

To be honest, if they are going to cheat its either going to be with me (hopefully) or someone else!

It might just mean you are a really bad person....can you live with that ? lol.."

Will try but might cave into guilt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't play with cheating wives so think that's my answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love cheating wifes...

omg dont say that on here lol..

Oh dear? does this mean that I am a bad person??

To be honest, if they are going to cheat its either going to be with me (hopefully) or someone else!

It might just mean you are a really bad person....can you live with that ? lol..

Will try but might cave into guilt "

I bet you wouldent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love cheating wifes...

omg dont say that on here lol..

Oh dear? does this mean that I am a bad person??

To be honest, if they are going to cheat its either going to be with me (hopefully) or someone else!

It might just mean you are a really bad person....can you live with that ? lol..

Will try but might cave into guilt

I bet you wouldent "

LOL

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"I dont take a pop at you at all,and like you i have every right to express my opinion on here,"

"ha mr know it all as per usual"

"Oh and lest we forget...im vanilla and your a swinger....so bloody what????"

Those two comments were both uncalled for!


"i respect your _iews,as i hope you respect mine,after all having a difference of opinion is healthy"

100% agree!


"but unless you know an individuals reason for what they do and how they behave sometimes having some tact so to speak is better than coming across as pompous.. "

If saying that I find no excuse to lie to the one you profess to love is "pompous" then guilty as charged! If there is love in the marriage, you work it out. If there is no love then you split! If you are together because it is cheaper than the alternative, then at least be honest! and lastly, if you stay together for the kids? Worst idea of the lot!

Kids aint stupid, they will get the idea that mummy or daddy goes out a lot and on their own. Our kids knew we were swinging well before we told em! When we had to tell them, they both said we know! And we thought we were discreet, seems not.

But anyway, I will agree to disagree and leave it there... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who cheat are cowards. They should grow some balls (that applies equally to women as it does to men) and deal with their situation like an adult.

Yeah, you may be in a sex-less relationship... or you may not be able to afford the same sort of lifestyle you currently have... or you may not feel loved by your partner. So what? Lemme dial whine whine whine and call you a waah-mbulance.

If you don't love your partner any more then it's time to separate... there's no longer any stigma attached with getting separated. If you do still love them the show them some respect and stop shitting on them from a great height.

I agree, people are often quick to forget that its not just the cheaters partner that is affected when the cheat is found out. My ex husband cheated on me, possibly for years, it didn't just affect me but the kids too, I'm just glad they don't remember the arguments etc and him making us move out of our home so he could " have time to think" while he moved his g/f in. This was not a sexless relationship either, I offered him all the sex he could want but he preferred to go elsewhere .

Maybe he just was'ent into you ...it happens.."

I wish that was the case, he was coming to me for sex after he moved us out and filling my head with hope of saving our marriage. I didn't know he was with her at the time. When I found out I felt used and stupid.

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