FabSwingers.com forum: Breaking the ice.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When you meet new people for the first time. How do you break the ice and take the step to suggest playing ? As all of our meets have been at our home, we usually find that Deb sneaks off upstairs. When she returns, she is usually dressed in her sexy undies and a smile. As yet,nobody has said "no thanks".

Just interested in other peoples approach.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"When you meet new people for the first time. How do you break the ice and take the step to suggest playing ? As all of our meets have been at our home, we usually find that Deb sneaks off upstairs. When she returns, she is usually dressed in her sexy undies and a smile. As yet,nobody has said "no thanks".

Just interested in other peoples approach."

I once said "Look, I'm not going to jump on you but when you feel comfortable to....."

I never finished the sentence as she had her mouth clamped to mine at that point.

Mmmmmmmmmmm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once said "Look, I'm not going to jump on you but when you feel comfortable to....."

I never finished the sentence as she had her mouth clamped to mine at that point.

Mmmmmmmmmmm.

Thought you just showed your socks

KAtie x

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I once said "Look, I'm not going to jump on you but when you feel comfortable to....."

I never finished the sentence as she had her mouth clamped to mine at that point.

Mmmmmmmmmmm.

Thought you just showed your socks

KAtie x "

I thought it was ice breaker, not put on ice

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford

This does actually have the potential to be a good thread if it doesnt get hijacked and strays off topic.

We are interested for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its always a hard thing to do, but someone has to be brave and ge things going, we often start playing with each other and invite the others to join

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had a meet once where that happened - the lady (our guest) went upstairs and came down in her undies - i was mortified because although we were having a nice social time i really didnt fancy her (not sure if hubby did) and i honestly didnt fancy her partner either

it was a little uncomfortable when we told them we werent interested

normally we have people round and have a few drinks - the chat is always sexual and we end up sharing our feelings with them in regards to if we find them attractive - it sort of leads on from there

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford

"we had a meet once where that happened - the lady (our guest) went upstairs and came down in her undies - i was mortified because although we were having a nice social time i really didnt fancy her (not sure if hubby did) and i honestly didnt fancy her partner either

it was a little uncomfortable when we told them we werent interested

This is a main reason why we have a social meet first where possible. Preferably in a normal environment and make sure everyones happy. It must have been tough for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a main reason why we have a social meet first where possible. Preferably in a normal environment and make sure everyones happy. It must have been tough for you.[ It was i was really upset for them and us - and a little annoyed to be honet - agree with you on the socials /quote)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Deb does check with everybody before sneaking off upstairs. Usually when we have got a good feeling as a group.We would not want a sudden feeling of awkwardness at all.

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford

When we are at clubs we never have the courage to ask someone if they want to play. Probably a reason why we never really do anything there. Its just a thing we've never really got over.

As for being at someones home usually we leave it up to the host to give us the invite as we thought this was the norm, but on the odd occasion have had to drop some hints as it is a very awkward moment. If only it was easier.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

yes it can be awkward for me as a single guy when i meet a cpl at mine i let them take the lead sometimes leave the room to get a drink when i come back the fun as started

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

I chatted with a couple in a club for quite some time and to be honest wasn't expecting to play. The lady casually asked what I preferred. I replied, 'do you mean sexually'? She said 'yes' and it went on from there ... I thought it was a nice gently introduction. They were clearly comfortable with the situation and I guess had used the same line a dozen times before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always had the other couple start things off as I guess they were more experienced. But we are hosting next weekend and are a bit nervous as I think it will be up to us being hosts lol, all part of the fun though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When we are at clubs we never have the courage to ask someone if they want to play. Probably a reason why we never really do anything there. Its just a thing we've never really got over.

At clubs we don't ask to play. We just get chatting and see how it goes, there's a certain look in eyes when it is right.

At home we play some fun touchy feely games so peeps can get a "feel" for each other and it usually heats up after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very interesting thread for us...

We're newcomers and have done some cams, mrs gets very excited by being watched by couples and is up for girl to girl fun on camera. I know she enjoys it a lot, and we're talking about that next step (a club) all the time, but then she always gets cold feet when we come to arranging a date to visit one!

It'll happen because she gets as horny as hell at the thought, but any tips to push it along would be welcome

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I guess you could say "so is it trousers off or coat on?" but then that's not very subtle

If it's someone else's home I tend to wait for a lead, but as I said in my first post I will suggest something and see how things go.

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

Once we have had a chat and got to know the other couple a little(a bit of flirting and flashing stocking tops etc) we usually start by playing together ourselves,usually the other couple will then start to play together.We then will move closer to the other couple and hands/mouths etc start to wander...clothes come undone or off and then you are all together as a 4 sum,either on the floor(we have a duvet and pillows in an adjoining room which we bring through)or on the bed.

Doesnt always happen like this but seems to break the ice and hasnt upset or offended anyone and seems a more gentle and considerate approach?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it was a little uncomfortable when we told them we werent interested

normally we have people round and have a few drinks - the chat is always sexual and we end up sharing our feelings with them in regards to if we find them attractive - it sort of leads on from there"

That's why I always meet socially first to ensure there's some sexual chemistry there. Often wonder how people who just "turn up" react if there's no sexual attraction there.

It must be demoralising if it happens to you a lot!

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