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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford

Same old same old really. Even when it was nothing to do with swinging i saw really gorgeous girls with minging guys. Now ive got one of my own (unsure what it says about me lol)

There are equally attractive partners out there, we've met a few. We tend to base things mainly on personality, although a slight attraction has to be there. However we will never go on pure looks alone.

Hope you find someone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because looks are only skin deep ...... and i would never just fuck a person whos lovely looking with out more then looks now . What is lovely to one person is not to others .... I meet one of the best looking men i have ever in my life and do you know in bed he was on a 1 to 10 ........ a 1 ...as so into himself and vain. I did learn a lesson that night. And that go for some woman too i have meet at club lovely looking but nasty bitchy if thay think there man likes you some hate it call themselfs swingers but really control everything and yes maybe lovely looking but god i would never play with people like that. Looks are skin deep .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because looks are only skin deep ...... and i would never just fuck a person whos lovely looking with out more then looks now . What is lovely to one person is not to others .... I meet one of the best looking men i have ever in my life and do you know in bed he was on a 1 to 10 ........ a 1 ...as so into himself and vain. I did learn a lesson that night. And that go for some woman too i have meet at club lovely looking but nasty bitchy if thay think there man likes you some hate it call themselfs swingers but really control everything and yes maybe lovely looking but god i would never play with people like that. Looks are skin deep ."

That said...you look fucking great!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because looks are only skin deep ...... and i would never just fuck a person whos lovely looking with out more then looks now . What is lovely to one person is not to others .... I meet one of the best looking men i have ever in my life and do you know in bed he was on a 1 to 10 ........ a 1 ...as so into himself and vain. I did learn a lesson that night. And that go for some woman too i have meet at club lovely looking but nasty bitchy if thay think there man likes you some hate it call themselfs swingers but really control everything and yes maybe lovely looking but god i would never play with people like that. Looks are skin deep ."

^^^ what Jo said...

A conversation come up in the pub once among my pals..all non swingers

one said.."I can't see how it works..surely all blokes are gonna want to shag someone better looking than their wife..otherwise why bother"

some people really are that superficial

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because looks are only skin deep ...... and i would never just fuck a person whos lovely looking with out more then looks now . What is lovely to one person is not to others .... I meet one of the best looking men i have ever in my life and do you know in bed he was on a 1 to 10 ........ a 1 ...as so into himself and vain. I did learn a lesson that night. And that go for some woman too i have meet at club lovely looking but nasty bitchy if thay think there man likes you some hate it call themselfs swingers but really control everything and yes maybe lovely looking but god i would never play with people like that. Looks are skin deep .

^^^ what Jo said...

A conversation come up in the pub once among my pals..all non swingers

one said.."I can't see how it works..surely all blokes are gonna want to shag someone better looking than their wife..otherwise why bother"

some people really are that superficial"
we go on looks here alot as dont know people and first thing we can go on pics but god i have come across some nasty woman in my time and most been lovely looking not from here ... I do like nice looking people just found some so full of themselfs made me feel like i never fitted in as not a size 8 lol OR Age 25 but found out there men liked me and thay hated it ... so i go for nice people not just what thay look like ... not one of us here are super models ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its all personal opinion on what the individual finds attractive.

personally im not a fan of muscular or thin men. i like them stocky/ large.

beauty is in the eye of the beholder

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys have to admit that's looks aren't everything you do have to have a good sense of humour personality too and a chemistry other wise there is no point but in a foursome if even one person isn't attractive or what one person is looking for it unbalances the dynamics of the situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds pretty judgemental to me.....

who says your oil paintings yourselves?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol"

Which one of you two is the minger then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a little harsh to be judging people the way you do but your entitled to play with who you like and your opinions, unfortunately some will find you or your partner unattractive and will not contact you for the said reasons.

There are some very attractive couples on the site and those that believe they are very attractive, I believe you fall into one of the catergories

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol didn't say we were, but not unattractive either,

may appeal to some may not to others once again someone taking things to litteral

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I have met and c hatted with many couples in the past few years and will often find that I will like the lady more than the man of the couple. That being said I dont think I have cross across a couple where she is stunning but he is what I was call ugly. Seen many couples where she is lovely but to me he is only nice so therefore dont play with them.

I have only met a small amount of couples where I have liked both the male and the female equally really.

Will often like the female more tho.

But for me there has to be something about them that stands out for a good reason(personality wise) to interest me.

Not sure if I have ever played with a couple that call themselves attractive tho on their profile as everyone feels different.

I would never describe myself as attractive or stunning but go on what people say when they see my picture or meet me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

over the years some off the best men in bed have been not the best looking but just somthing so sexy about them .. and had the gift of the gab some could just charm there way into your pants and bed its what ever feel right at the time. Some may look at your pics think your not all that but in your own head you are ........ and thats the thing its in your eyes your looking not others... we are all diffrent and like diffrent things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"over the years some off the best men in bed have been not the best looking but just somthing so sexy about them .. and had the gift of the gab some could just charm there way into your pants and bed its what ever feel right at the time. Some may look at your pics think your not all that but in your own head you are ........ and thats the thing its in your eyes your looking not others... we are all diffrent and like diffrent things."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol didn't say we were, but not unattractive either,

may appeal to some may not to others once again someone taking things to litteral "

Not at all, I just replied with my view on your original post

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"over the years some off the best men in bed have been not the best looking but just somthing so sexy about them .. and had the gift of the gab some could just charm there way into your pants and bed its what ever feel right at the time. Some may look at your pics think your not all that but in your own head you are ........ and thats the thing its in your eyes your looking not others... we are all diffrent and like diffrent things."
dont think were stunning in my eyes we are ok, take yourself for instance lots of lovely pics of you on your profile but not of your man, it's the same on may PF either no OCD of the man or just one, what's is there to hide if you come or describe yourself as a couple them why only show one person?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lol didn't say we were, but not unattractive either,

may appeal to some may not to others once again someone taking things to litteral

Not at all, I just replied with my view on your original post "
and this is why I posted like to know other peoples opinions and there views

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"over the years some off the best men in bed have been not the best looking but just somthing so sexy about them .. and had the gift of the gab some could just charm there way into your pants and bed its what ever feel right at the time. Some may look at your pics think your not all that but in your own head you are ........ and thats the thing its in your eyes your looking not others... we are all diffrent and like diffrent things. dont think were stunning in my eyes we are ok, take yourself for instance lots of lovely pics of you on your profile but not of your man, it's the same on may PF either no OCD of the man or just one, what's is there to hide if you come or describe yourself as a couple them why only show one person?"
in my friends i have pics of john x and on here i have 1 or 2 .. but i have them for people to see i feel its only right x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not having a pop at you here but you also state on your profile that it seems all the hot Women have unattractive partners, what is that saying to people and would that put the Guy from the Couple off meeting you never mind letting his partner play with you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol

Which one of you two is the minger then?"

In some people's eyes we are probably both mingers everyone has there own opinion, some people don't like Asians or whites for instance it's just preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol

Which one of you two is the minger then?

In some people's eyes we are probably both mingers everyone has there own opinion, some people don't like Asians or whites for instance it's just preference"

Of course it is and there are not many who would disagree, hope you find what what your looking for

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By *iceguy83Man
over a year ago

manchester

There was s tv documentary once that said research showed that If you give people a looks rating from one to ten, most couples will be not more than 2 points above or below their counterpart.

I tend to agree with that logic, in general. I readied looks are subjective, but this is in general terms.

Eg. A woman who might score an 8 in looks I.e pretty hot. Look at her partner and the study reckons he will most likely be a 7-9 on the looks scale.

Try it on ppl you know and report back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not having a pop at you here but you also state on your profile that it seems all the hot Women have unattractive partners, what is that saying to people and would that put the Guy from the Couple off meeting you never mind letting his partner play with you "
lol we still get a lot of mail and attention, but swinging and taking the plunge is a huge step and maybe being slightly fussy and waiting for the right couple or girl, for some people it seems like swinging is a be all and end all for us it's just trying something new and exciting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"sounds pretty judgemental to me.....

who says your oil paintings yourselves? "

Lol didn't ever say we were, were not stunning models neither are we mingers we are happy to show our face and pics on our PF many men definitely aren't and say things such as I'm told I'm good looking honest. Lol if you are put a pic on to prove it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thank fook i'm fugly lol

I much prefer personality over looks oh and BTW there are some attractive blokes with not so hot partners too

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol"

Not paranoid,superficial,which perhaps is why u havn't met many single bi girls.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol

Not paranoid,superficial,which perhaps is why u havn't met many single bi girls. Lol possibly but once again if you are a couple why not proudly display your man for people who are looking at your profile I would love to see the whole package and not just the woman?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol

Which one of you two is the minger then?

In some people's eyes we are probably both mingers everyone has there own opinion, some people don't like Asians or whites for instance it's just preference"

Sorry I was going for the humour angle... well you did say a good sense of humour was important.

Anyway, I think most people who seek couples have experienced the "mmmmm nice... owww shame about the other one though"

It's a good job we all find different things appealling to the eye.... or there would be one very busy guy and a long queue.

I don't believe everyone who says looks are not important and it's the personality which counts... there wouldn't be so many requests for face pics if this was always true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"thank fook i'm fugly lol

I much prefer personality over looks oh and BTW there are some attractive blokes with not so hot partners too"
totally agree not just saying it's the girls, and your not ugly you have stunning eyes and obviously a great sense of humour, you can be totally stunning but have no intelligence or

chemistry, just saying lots of woman put loads of pics of themselves but not one of there men why?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol your my kind of girl woman I think we are only saying what a lot of people think and a good sense of humour and intelligence and being able to hold a decent conversation is a must, would just wish more woman would put a pic if their man on there PF if you are proud of him flaunt him. Lol give us girls something to look at too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol

Which one of you two is the minger then?

In some people's eyes we are probably both mingers everyone has there own opinion, some people don't like Asians or whites for instance it's just preference

Sorry I was going for the humour angle... well you did say a good sense of humour was important.

Anyway, I think most people who seek couples have experienced the "mmmmm nice... owww shame about the other one though"

It's a good job we all find different things appealling to the eye.... or there would be one very busy guy and a long queue.

I don't believe everyone who says looks are not important and it's the personality which counts... there wouldn't be so many requests for face pics if this was always true."

That's very true I think looks are important.It's the initial point of attraction before anything else happens.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol"

I can't answer your question but being referred to as 'holy grail' makes my skin crawl.

That is all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds pretty judgemental to me.....

who says your oil paintings yourselves? "

I was happily reading the thread and then there was your arse, distracting me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds pretty judgemental to me.....

who says your oil paintings yourselves?

I was happily reading the thread and then there was your arse, distracting me! "

ha for good reasons i hope?

your legs and bum would distract me from anything, i was hoping to come out with some witty response but i'm blank. i had better go back for another look anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds pretty judgemental to me.....

who says your oil paintings yourselves?

I was happily reading the thread and then there was your arse, distracting me!

ha for good reasons i hope?

your legs and bum would distract me from anything, i was hoping to come out with some witty response but i'm blank. i had better go back for another look anyway. "

Oh for entirely good reasons!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol

I can't answer your question but being referred to as 'holy grail' makes my skin crawl.

That is all! "
sorry was a badly worded metaphor, didn't mean to cause any offence, should engage brain before mouth next time, sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds pretty judgemental to me.....

who says your oil paintings yourselves?

I was happily reading the thread and then there was your arse, distracting me!

ha for good reasons i hope?

your legs and bum would distract me from anything, i was hoping to come out with some witty response but i'm blank. i had better go back for another look anyway.

Oh for entirely good reasons!"

excellent, a nice evening ego boost. what a body you have, and i love the lingerie. this could be because i'm just about to make my dinner, but i can't stop thinking about my tongue between those pert cheeks of yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol

I can't answer your question but being referred to as 'holy grail' makes my skin crawl.

That is all! sorry was a badly worded metaphor, didn't mean to cause any offence, should engage brain before mouth next time, sorry "

To be honest the lady is very attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds pretty judgemental to me.....

who says your oil paintings yourselves?

I was happily reading the thread and then there was your arse, distracting me!

ha for good reasons i hope?

your legs and bum would distract me from anything, i was hoping to come out with some witty response but i'm blank. i had better go back for another look anyway.

Oh for entirely good reasons!

excellent, a nice evening ego boost. what a body you have, and i love the lingerie. this could be because i'm just about to make my dinner, but i can't stop thinking about my tongue between those pert cheeks of yours "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and Kate take turns wearing the paper bag

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Me and Kate take turns wearing the paper bag "

Lol finaly someone with a sense of humour, can we borrow it, we prefer safe sex, we always give a false name and address

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol

I can't answer your question but being referred to as 'holy grail' makes my skin crawl.

That is all! sorry was a badly worded metaphor, didn't mean to cause any offence, should engage brain before mouth next time, sorry "

No worries... it just grates that's all. I can only speak for myself but I'm nothing special, I just don't have a partner, if I did, I'd be just like you. There are many of us around. It's not like we're rarer than hens teeth, it just takes a little bit of chemistry to make it right to get on with a couple. It's not all about looks, there are so many factors to make sure everyone is happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to mention the holy grail has never been found..if it exists at all

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol

I can't answer your question but being referred to as 'holy grail' makes my skin crawl.

That is all! sorry was a badly worded metaphor, didn't mean to cause any offence, should engage brain before mouth next time, sorry "

Sssshhhhh, she's not the holy grail anyway.... she don't meet couples

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Sssshhhhh, she's not the holy grail anyway.... she don't meet couples "

I used to... pretty much says it all!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not to mention the holy grail has never been found..if it exists at all "
. Lol so that were we have been going wrong no wonder people have been sending pics of cups, back to the drawing board

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


" Lol possibly but once again if you are a couple why not proudly display your man for people who are looking at your profile I would love to see the whole package and not just the woman?

"

We're a cpls profile, but only looking for single guys. As hubby is straight it makes not one jot of difference what he looks like to them - they're playing with me, not him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thank fook i'm fugly lol

I much prefer personality over looks oh and BTW there are some attractive blokes with not so hot partners too totally agree not just saying it's the girls, and your not ugly you have stunning eyes and obviously a great sense of humour, you can be totally stunning but have no intelligence or

chemistry, just saying lots of woman put loads of pics of themselves but not one of there men why? "

lol @ stunning eyes! you should see me boobs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Lol possibly but once again if you are a couple why not proudly display your man for people who are looking at your profile I would love to see the whole package and not just the woman?

We're a cpls profile, but only looking for single guys. As hubby is straight it makes not one jot of difference what he looks like to them - they're playing with me, not him "
wasn't aimed at couples were only the girl is playing, was really aimed at the couples who want to full swing with the other couples, just nice to see both parties, would you meet with a man without first checking him out?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"thank fook i'm fugly lol

I much prefer personality over looks oh and BTW there are some attractive blokes with not so hot partners too totally agree not just saying it's the girls, and your not ugly you have stunning eyes and obviously a great sense of humour, you can be totally stunning but have no intelligence or

chemistry, just saying lots of woman put loads of pics of themselves but not one of there men why?

lol @ stunning eyes! you should see me boobs "
Lol well if your offering

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol

I can't answer your question but being referred to as 'holy grail' makes my skin crawl.

That is all! sorry was a badly worded metaphor, didn't mean to cause any offence, should engage brain before mouth next time, sorry

No worries... it just grates that's all. I can only speak for myself but I'm nothing special, I just don't have a partner, if I did, I'd be just like you. There are many of us around. It's not like we're rarer than hens teeth, it just takes a little bit of chemistry to make it right to get on with a couple. It's not all about looks, there are so many factors to make sure everyone is happy. "
Totally agree but when you receive winks and messages from people who haven't read your PF or don't show both people in the couple it can get monotonous but your right its all about chemistry, humour, intelligence, being relax and respectful, but there has to be something that catches your eye in the pics too, you PF is very eye catching, humorous and stands out and the pics are what i would call hot and stunning, we don't take ourselves seriously, we definitely aren't Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie but we aren't snog a dog either, well I hope not. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol"

Of course you're not being paranoid, you've just spotted the obvious problem of couples swinging - there are FOUR people who need to be sure it's the right thing. That's why so many bi-fem-couples look for bisexual single girls - everyone gets fun with only THREE people to please.

You are quite right to take some time finding the right couple to invite to play with you. I do agree with the previous posters who have suggested you remove the reference to 'must be attractive' from your profile. Swingers tend to be very non-judgemental and very accepting of different shapes and sizes, so some couples will prefer not to meet you, if they think you're not like-minded. By all means, chuckle privately at their pics

One further thought .... have you tried attending a swingers club? Choose a large club (and Couples Only night) and there should be plenty of swinging couples, who you will be able to observe discreetly, before deciding who to approach. If you're lucky, there may also be a small number of bi-sexual single females. Good luck and happy swinging!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol

Of course you're not being paranoid, you've just spotted the obvious problem of couples swinging - there are FOUR people who need to be sure it's the right thing. That's why so many bi-fem-couples look for bisexual single girls - everyone gets fun with only THREE people to please.

You are quite right to take some time finding the right couple to invite to play with you. I do agree with the previous posters who have suggested you remove the reference to 'must be attractive' from your profile. Swingers tend to be very non-judgemental and very accepting of different shapes and sizes, so some couples will prefer not to meet you, if they think you're not like-minded. By all means, chuckle privately at their pics

One further thought .... have you tried attending a swingers club? Choose a large club (and Couples Only night) and there should be plenty of swinging couples, who you will be able to observe discreetly, before deciding who to approach. If you're lucky, there may also be a small number of bi-sexual single females. Good luck and happy swinging!"

Thanks sunnyopptomist, a very nice balanced reply, and yes we have tried a club and found a very nice couple who we hope to take things further, we found we had attraction and got on really well, and there was definitely a spark of chemistry, so we will continue with the club route

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again this is the plus side of the club world can meet people have a conversation and pick and choose who I play with. All under one roof bit like fucks r us lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get 100s of letters a week and if i go on my web cam 100s a day i never see myself as nice ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, just me.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Thanks guys have to admit that's looks aren't everything you do have to have a good sense of humour personality too and a chemistry other wise there is no point but in a foursome if even one person isn't attractive or what one person is looking for it unbalances the dynamics of the situation?"

Not read the whole thread, but to be blunt women tend to be on the whole just better looking than guys.

I know B has loved playing with women the few times we've been to a club. But it's rare that a guy at the club turns her on. Mind you if men made the same effort as women,

ie made an effort with the outfit, stayed trim, shaved, make up, hair etc etc.

You can see the point. I'm would always rate myself lower than my wife in looks, so I suppose I'm less confident when playing and prefer the women to make a move on me. That way I know I'm not grossing them out or that they are just putting up with me to have more of my wife.

To be honest if they just want my wife I'm fine with that. I can see the attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... bit like fucks r us lol."

LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" ... to be blunt women tend to be on the whole just better looking than guys. I know B has loved playing with women the few times we've been to a club. But it's rare that a guy at the club turns her on....

You can see the point. I'm would always rate myself lower than my wife in looks, so I suppose I'm less confident when playing and prefer the women to make a move on me.....that way I know I'm not grossing them out or that they are just putting up with me to have more of my wife....."

I don't think it's true that women tend to be better looking than the guys .... (well you probably think they are, if you don't fancy the guys! )

To be honest, I think it's more a 'supply and demand' situation. In both conventional and swinging lifestyles, there are more men than women who are interested in sex. So your wife (as a swinging female) will get more offers than you do. That doesn't mean that you are less attractive than her .... just that you are of the gender that is not-so-much-in-demand.

I haven't checked your profile, and I don't in any way intend to suggest that your wife is anything-less-than-gorgeous! Just, don't feel that you are 'inferior', just because you're the male half of the couple. There are some very attractive men in swinging.... and after all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. xx

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By *pecial bbCouple
over a year ago

london

I struggle to look at people in pics and get a connection - to me its as much about personality. Club and spa play hits all my buttons - you get to meet fellow swingers face to face ( and in many other positions too lol )and get an immediate feel for them. Its way more of a turn on than wading thru endless pics and struggling to find couples that suit us both and at a time that suits us all. I leave that for my man to do - he has the patience lol

Looks really arent that important - we have played with couples that we wouldnt usually find attractive and be blown away by their skills - you may find the more you play the less specific your tic box is.

Happy playing x

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


" ... to be blunt women tend to be on the whole just better looking than guys. I know B has loved playing with women the few times we've been to a club. But it's rare that a guy at the club turns her on....

You can see the point. I'm would always rate myself lower than my wife in looks, so I suppose I'm less confident when playing and prefer the women to make a move on me.....that way I know I'm not grossing them out or that they are just putting up with me to have more of my wife.....

I don't think it's true that women tend to be better looking than the guys .... (well you probably think they are, if you don't fancy the guys! )

To be honest, I think it's more a 'supply and demand' situation. In both conventional and swinging lifestyles, there are more men than women who are interested in sex. So your wife (as a swinging female) will get more offers than you do. That doesn't mean that you are less attractive than her .... just that you are of the gender that is not-so-much-in-demand.

I haven't checked your profile, and I don't in any way intend to suggest that your wife is anything-less-than-gorgeous! Just, don't feel that you are 'inferior', just because you're the male half of the couple. There are some very attractive men in swinging.... and after all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. xx"

True it's difficult for me to apprecaite guys and the supply and demand is a very good point too.

I think confidence is a quality that people also find attractive.

As is flattery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello fellow swingers, we have been looking for the holy Grail of a bi-Fem to join us but alas they still alude us, so we have decided to start with a hot couple, yet we have found if you have a hot girl her partner is unattractive or vice versa, are we just being paranoid. Lol

Which one of you two is the minger then?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't think it pays to base things entirely on looks. You get out what you put in.

Don't you find that when you get to know someone the way they look to you can change? A man or woman may not be particularly attractive but if they are fun they seem to become so. At least to us.

And if they are a hot fuck even more so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i cant believe on a site this big with some many couples you cant find a single one where you think both of them are attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Through experience we now only hunt for "mingers", as we find them both approachable and gratefull. They also don`t have any of the "hangups" normally assoiated with the "beautiful people. If you doubt us in this matter, just take a look at our verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Through experience we now only hunt for "mingers", as we find them both approachable and gratefull. They also don`t have any of the "hangups" normally assoiated with the "beautiful people. If you doubt us in this matter, just take a look at our verifications. "
i did you dont have them just lovely pics , lol x

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

Attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder. Its odd how some people think of themselves as attractive, when others would clearly label them as just plain ordinary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Through experience we now only hunt for "mingers", as we find them both approachable and gratefull. They also don`t have any of the "hangups" normally assoiated with the "beautiful people. If you doubt us in this matter, just take a look at our verifications. "

..agree..grateful..appreciative..mingers always give the best head..I have significantly lowered my once very high standards..and gets tons of shags now.. its BRILL..;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds pretty judgemental to me.....

who says your oil paintings yourselves?

Lol didn't ever say we were, were not stunning models neither are we mingers we are happy to show our face and pics on our PF many men definitely aren't and say things such as I'm told I'm good looking honest. Lol if you are put a pic on to prove it"

Thats all very well but some of us prefer to put face pics in private. Doesn't mean we're minging, just means we're discreet. You want to watch you don't fall off that pedastal you've put yourselves on

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

wow at long last the shallow and good lookers on here are getting some of there own back bring onthe mingers party i say or is that to far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op is nice looking she has very nice pics ... But we all like diffrent things here. What one person call a minger other my think have lovely eyes or smile or just somthing really nice and willing to please them in bed and happy With just that .. as not looking to date just have a bit of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op is nice looking she has very nice pics ... But we all like diffrent things here. What one person call a minger other my think have lovely eyes or smile or just somthing really nice and willing to please them in bed and happy With just that .. as not looking to date just have a bit of fun. "

You think so? I think she needs to pull her head out of her arse!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"sounds pretty judgemental to me.....

who says your oil paintings yourselves?

Lol didn't ever say we were, were not stunning models neither are we mingers we are happy to show our face and pics on our PF many men definitely aren't and say things such as I'm told I'm good looking honest. Lol if you are put a pic on to prove it

Thats all very well but some of us prefer to put face pics in private. Doesn't mean we're minging, just means we're discreet. You want to watch you don't fall off that pedastal you've put yourselves on "

Lol some people take things rather to literal, definitely not on a pedastal, don't know how you have come to that conclusion, rather prefer the gutter, at the end of the day why join a swingers

site if you want to be discreet but each to there own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds pretty judgemental to me.....

who says your oil paintings yourselves?

Lol didn't ever say we were, were not stunning models neither are we mingers we are happy to show our face and pics on our PF many men definitely aren't and say things such as I'm told I'm good looking honest. Lol if you are put a pic on to prove it

Thats all very well but some of us prefer to put face pics in private. Doesn't mean we're minging, just means we're discreet. You want to watch you don't fall off that pedastal you've put yourselves on

Lol some people take things rather to literal, definitely not on a pedastal, don't know how you have come to that conclusion, rather prefer the gutter, at the end of the day why join a swingers

site if you want to be discreet but each to there own "

Ah, so because I sometimes swing I should plaster my face over my profile, tell the whole world what I do and stand proud in the playground of my sons school should I? Get a grip. Discretion is what I choose. My choice. Same as hunting for beautiful people seems to be yours.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"sounds pretty judgemental to me.....

who says your oil paintings yourselves?

Lol didn't ever say we were, were not stunning models neither are we mingers we are happy to show our face and pics on our PF many men definitely aren't and say things such as I'm told I'm good looking honest. Lol if you are put a pic on to prove it

Thats all very well but some of us prefer to put face pics in private. Doesn't mean we're minging, just means we're discreet. You want to watch you don't fall off that pedastal you've put yourselves on

Lol some people take things rather to literal, definitely not on a pedastal, don't know how you have come to that conclusion, rather prefer the gutter, at the end of the day why join a swingers

site if you want to be discreet but each to there own "

But then again some have more to lose than others.....don't they?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op is nice looking she has very nice pics ... But we all like diffrent things here. What one person call a minger other my think have lovely eyes or smile or just somthing really nice and willing to please them in bed and happy With just that .. as not looking to date just have a bit of fun.

You think so? I think she needs to pull her head out of her arse!"

Why get personal and nasty? If you don't like what you read don't come on and post, this all a bit of fun and everyone is entitled to there opinions as long as it is respectful and measured,

Is that why you hide your PF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Through experience we now only hunt for "mingers", as we find them both approachable and gratefull. They also don`t have any of the "hangups" normally assoiated with the "beautiful people. If you doubt us in this matter, just take a look at our verifications. i did you dont have them just lovely pics , lol x"

Cheers Jo, we don`t show our verifications, go n find your own "Mingers" lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a forum and everyone is entitled to their opinion. I'm simply stating mine. If you don't want objectionable comments then don't open yourselves up to them. I currently have my profile hidden as I'm taking a break from playing so to have it out there would mean those who message me would waste their time. And I'm not here to waste anyone's time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some have to be discreet there jobs and things and it up to them .... thay can pick not hiding thay just pick who thay show.Not sure if your new swingers and this is why you come across making people feel like 2nd class as not done alot Yes have values but people have feelings .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some have to be discreet there jobs and things and it up to them .... thay can pick not hiding thay just pick who thay show.Not sure if your new swingers and this is why you come across making people feel like 2nd class as not done alot Yes have values but people have feelings ."

Well said Jo xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Through experience we now only hunt for "mingers", as we find them both approachable and gratefull. They also don`t have any of the "hangups" normally assoiated with the "beautiful people. If you doubt us in this matter, just take a look at our verifications. i did you dont have them just lovely pics , lol x

Cheers Jo, we don`t show our verifications, go n find your own "Mingers" lol. "
thats not fair , lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is a forum and everyone is entitled to their opinion. I'm simply stating mine. If you don't want objectionable comments then don't open yourselves up to them. I currently have my profile hidden as I'm taking a break from playing so to have it out there would mean those who message me would waste their time. And I'm not here to waste anyone's time. "

Yes totally agree but you dont have to get personal to make a valid point, make love not war is my motto, not on here to upset anyone's feelings it was a post meant to stimulate debate not dirision, it's our choice to show our pics as it is yours not to, we just feel that if you see our pics and people aren't interested then nobody wastes each other time asking for face pics etc it was not meant to offend anyone so to everyone who it has upset I apologise, didn't realise it would cause so much trouble

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

You really don't see it do you?

You choose to show your face pictures but in your posts you clearly question the rights of others not to show their face pics.

Like I said....some people on here have more to lose than others.

You just can't see that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never put a face pic on my profile...discretion in who I show my face pic to is my choice...peeps who can afford to show their's goodluck to them...its peeps personal and occasionally professional choice not to show it on a profile ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some have to be discreet there jobs and things and it up to them .... thay can pick not hiding thay just pick who thay show.Not sure if your new swingers and this is why you come across making people feel like 2nd class as not done alot Yes have values but people have feelings ."

Sorry for any offence caused it was only a little teasing and jesting didnt think it would have been taken so literaly, we have a very dry sense of humour, if you knew us you would know if that we would never intentionaly upset anyone or make them feel second class, you are so right

yes people do have feelings and we do honestly respect that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the OP: I don't know how long you have been swinging and what experience you have. I don't quite frankly care. However, one thing that is generally not tolerated in the swinging world is a)openly describing someone as a minger and b) being aloof. Make love not war is a great motto but you must live by it and practise what you preach. You've blocked me so I can't read your profile and I'm hidden so you can't see mine, but don't judge people on what their personnal choices are. You will find sex this way, but you will not find friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You really don't see it do you?

You choose to show your face pictures but in your posts you clearly question the rights of others not to show their face pics.

Like I said....some people on here have more to lose than others.

You just can't see that"

Yes I can people have very sensitive jobs or they are very private and wish to keep there sexual habits to themselves, just to name a few reasons so yes I do get, it that's why I said it is a matter of choice there own and we totally respect that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the OP: I don't know how long you have been swinging and what experience you have. I don't quite frankly care. However, one thing that is generally not tolerated in the swinging world is a)openly describing someone as a minger and b) being aloof. Make love not war is a great motto but you must live by it and practise what you preach. You've blocked me so I can't read your profile and I'm hidden so you can't see mine, but don't judge people on what their personnal choices are. You will find sex this way, but you will not find friends.

"

LMAO...this woman is right..I love the word MINGER..I am so far up my own ass I have myself surgically turned inside out every morning...but I get loads of shags..and hey who needs FRIENDS..!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To the OP: I don't know how long you have been swinging and what experience you have. I don't quite frankly care. However, one thing that is generally not tolerated in the swinging world is a)openly describing someone as a minger and b) being aloof. Make love not war is a great motto but you must live by it and practise what you preach. You've blocked me so I can't read your profile and I'm hidden so you can't see mine, but don't judge people on what

their personnal choices are. You will find sex this way, but you will not find friends.

"

Didnt call anyone a minger, just said we are not mingers, and if I had know this was a contentious word I would never had mentioned the word so thanks for pointing that out, wasn't meant to offend you, especially a yorkshire lady( originally from Scarborough) yes we are new and making a good job of putting our foot in our mouths, so I personally apologise to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the OP: I don't know how long you have been swinging and what experience you have. I don't quite frankly care. However, one thing that is generally not tolerated in the swinging world is a)openly describing someone as a minger and b) being aloof. Make love not war is a great motto but you must live by it and practise what you preach. You've blocked me so I can't read your profile and I'm hidden so you can't see mine, but don't judge people on what

their personnal choices are. You will find sex this way, but you will not find friends.

Didnt call anyone a minger, just said we are not mingers, and if I had know this was a contentious word I would never had mentioned the word so thanks for pointing that out, wasn't meant to offend you, especially a yorkshire lady( originally from Scarborough) yes we are new and making a good job of putting our foot in our mouths, so I personally apologise to you "

aaahhhh....dont apologise...its just getting warmed up...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol pinklacewhitelace I don't think everyone has the same sense of humour

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

We fall into the catogary of Beauty and the beast!! there is no doubt that it can be harder for us to meet couples due to the fact we have a big age difference and also looks! With couples it is often either I am too old for them or they are too old for MrsH. No matter what anyone says there has to be some physical attraction between all 4 and that is not always easy. but what 1 person may consider attractive another may not.. hey ho.. thats life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to get my Mrs A before she knew any better, she was 14 when we started going out....She is definitely the gorgeous one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds pretty judgemental to me.....

who says your oil paintings yourselves?

Lol didn't ever say we were, were not stunning models neither are we mingers we are happy to show our face and pics on our PF many men definitely aren't and say things such as I'm told I'm good looking honest. Lol if you are put a pic on to prove it

Thats all very well but some of us prefer to put face pics in private. Doesn't mean we're minging, just means we're discreet. You want to watch you don't fall off that pedastal you've put yourselves on

Lol some people take things rather to literal, definitely not on a pedastal, don't know how you have come to that conclusion, rather prefer the gutter, at the end of the day why join a swingers

site if you want to be discreet but each to there own "

that is not logical. you can be a swinger and be discrete. In fact hopefully most of us ARE!!!?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the OP: I don't know how long you have been swinging and what experience you have. I don't quite frankly care. However, one thing that is generally not tolerated in the swinging world is a)openly describing someone as a minger and b) being aloof. Make love not war is a great motto but you must live by it and practise what you preach. You've blocked me so I can't read your profile and I'm hidden so you can't see mine, but don't judge people on what

their personnal choices are. You will find sex this way, but you will not find friends.

Didnt call anyone a minger, just said we are not mingers, and if I had know this was a contentious word I would never had mentioned the word so thanks for pointing that out, wasn't meant to offend you, especially a yorkshire lady( originally from Scarborough) yes we are new and making a good job of putting our foot in our mouths, so I personally apologise to you "

he he, good on ere innit. You do really learn a lot. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

grabs some popcorns and settles down...

anyhow... what we tend to go by is how well the person is aging compared to either me or mr sticky. Neither of us are oil paintings, but have both aged ok. So therefore if a person looks good for their years, then fine fair enough, but if they are ages with us and look ALOT older than us, then no thankyou. Not a case of 'beauty and the Beast'.

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