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Do you think swinging do hinder the effort to find serious relationship elsewhere.

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By *ieutenant OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Most single male and female can attest to this. Swinging can be addictive .the effort to look elsewhere for proper relationship become less attractive. Except if you have the will power to abstained from swinging. Where do you stand on this matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hoping that if someone has an open mind and I connect with him, trust each etc.... Then maybe it could be something that is dipped back into as a couple when we both agree it's right for us.

I would love to find someone on here who has an open mind like me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most single male and female can attest to this. Swinging can be addictive .the effort to look elsewhere for proper relationship become less attractive. Except if you have the will power to abstained from swinging. Where do you stand on this matter? "

Swinging as a single is just fucking around.

before nikki I was a bad lad.shagging every weekend.when with her it stopped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know exactly where you are coming from. I dip into POF and Tinder now and then but I struggle to muster the enthusiasm to get to know the women and meet them.

Although I am open to the possibility of a relationship I find myself thinking it would only work with someone familiar with the swinging or fetish scene.

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By *abcouple11Couple
over a year ago

Truro


"Most single male and female can attest to this. Swinging can be addictive .the effort to look elsewhere for proper relationship become less attractive. Except if you have the will power to abstained from swinging. Where do you stand on this matter? "

Sounds like load of overcomplicated complete bollox to me!!!

(R (m))

People do get confused in life in general. So that it can be true that there are people in swinging "looking for love in all the wrong places" only represents the overall general confusion of life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do..but to be honest with very little happening for me on the dating front, I'm happy I have fab to fall back on...it might be superficial..but I hate denying my sexual urge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go back to pof now and again and within a few days wonder why I bother and find myself back here.

I was with my ex for 11 years. We weren't swingers and he bored me to tears. Definitely don't want that again and pretty sure I don't want to be stuck sleeping with just one guy for the rest of my days!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go back to pof now and again and within a few days wonder why I bother and find myself back here.

I was with my ex for 11 years. We weren't swingers and he bored me to tears. Definitely don't want that again and pretty sure I don't want to be stuck sleeping with just one guy for the rest of my days!"

I dont mind other guys shagging ya...as long as I can lick some other fanny too.

lets get married

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Yes it does hinder my effort to find a relationship definitely. I find at times this place to be a little more exciting,but to be honest I want so much more than it can offer. I'm sick of being single now I want someone to share my life with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was single it was very hard to find a woman who was open to the concept of not being monogamous...

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Swinging makes it possible for me to avoid, relationships, upsetting people and to do what I want when I want. It suits me.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I do..but to be honest with very little happening for me on the dating front, I'm happy I have fab to fall back on...it might be superficial..but I hate denying my sexual urge."

Yeah that's the thing,I may be single but I still have needs. Does it feel a bit empty at times though?

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage


"Most single male and female can attest to this. Swinging can be addictive .the effort to look elsewhere for proper relationship become less attractive. Except if you have the will power to abstained from swinging. Where do you stand on this matter? "

Finding relationships i think is easy, however finding out if they ever trust you fully after telling them you are/were a swinger is a whole different ball game

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I go back to pof now and again and within a few days wonder why I bother and find myself back here.

I was with my ex for 11 years. We weren't swingers and he bored me to tears. Definitely don't want that again and pretty sure I don't want to be stuck sleeping with just one guy for the rest of my days!"

That's the worry I have,the thought of being with just one guy scares me a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm actually on a separate well known dating site as well...and as I was explaining to someone just last night I've had twenty times more success on here than there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go back to pof now and again and within a few days wonder why I bother and find myself back here.

I was with my ex for 11 years. We weren't swingers and he bored me to tears. Definitely don't want that again and pretty sure I don't want to be stuck sleeping with just one guy for the rest of my days!

I dont mind other guys shagging ya...as long as I can lick some other fanny too.

lets get married "

Haha! Fuck that, been married. Still to get divorced. Never again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do..but to be honest with very little happening for me on the dating front, I'm happy I have fab to fall back on...it might be superficial..but I hate denying my sexual urge.

Yeah that's the thing,I may be single but I still have needs. Does it feel a bit empty at times though?"

very!

I'm ACTUALLY seeking a relationship on there..it'd be great if it happened with someone here of course...but as for the dating proper stuff I've narrowed my searches in regard to age and having children as a possibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go back to pof now and again and within a few days wonder why I bother and find myself back here.

I was with my ex for 11 years. We weren't swingers and he bored me to tears. Definitely don't want that again and pretty sure I don't want to be stuck sleeping with just one guy for the rest of my days!

I dont mind other guys shagging ya...as long as I can lick some other fanny too.

lets get married

Haha! Fuck that, been married. Still to get divorced. Never again!"

lolol..ok bugger the marriage..lets just shag

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I've given up on the romance front

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes.....

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I've been completely distracted by being on here! It's all far too exciting so when I look at dating sites I find it difficult. If the right sexy, equally horny guy came along though I'd love to try a relationship again.

Probably won't happen though.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I'm looking for my one but can't abstain in the meantime, I'd go insane! Glad I have my fab friends

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I've given up on the romance front "

You can't completely give up on it,all good things come to those that wait . I could however be talking rubbish,but we have to have a bit of hope don't we

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

My current and previous two relationships were found on here. I wasn't even looking for relationships.

I don't really understand why people search for relationships on other sites when they have accounts here as it's mostly the same people. Why not look here amongst like minded people who are probably more honest about their sexuality giving more chance of finding compatibility?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met a super guy on here a while back who was introduced to swinging by a couple when he was only 17 years old.

He is really good looking with a massive cock so he has been very successful on fab.

He is probably about 30 now and as far as we are aware he has never had a serious relationship. I think the trouble is that for him sex is all about 3'somes, gangbangs, hardcore anal, pissing, bondage, dogging, multiple creampies.

The delights of a simple cuddle with someone you love is something that for him doesn't compete with the excitement of group sex with different women every other night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My current and previous two relationships were found on here. I wasn't even looking for relationships.

I don't really understand why people search for relationships on other sites when they have accounts here as it's mostly the same people. Why not look here amongst like minded people who are probably more honest about their sexuality giving more chance of finding compatibility?"

Well personally I don't think it's quite the "same people" but I can't argue with your last sentence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most single male and female can attest to this. Swinging can be addictive .the effort to look elsewhere for proper relationship become less attractive. Except if you have the will power to abstained from swinging. Where do you stand on this matter?

Swinging as a single is just fucking around.

before nikki I was a bad lad.shagging every weekend.when with her it stopped."

Isnt swinging as a couple just fucking around, but with your partner?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't wanna relationship, I have no intentions of ever going through that again, I'm happy single but I have a sex drive and sites like this just give me the ability to forfill that sex drive easily

I wouldn't class myself as a swinger though for me its just sex

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"We met a super guy on here a while back who was introduced to swinging by a couple when he was only 17 years old.

He is really good looking with a massive cock so he has been very successful on fab.

He is probably about 30 now and as far as we are aware he has never had a serious relationship. I think the trouble is that for him sex is all about 3'somes, gangbangs, hardcore anal, pissing, bondage, dogging, multiple creampies.

The delights of a simple cuddle with someone you love is something that for him doesn't compete with the excitement of group sex with different women every other night."

That's great if that's all he wants in life,but once he's had his amazing sex what does he do go back to his own empty bed at the end of the night. Being in a relationship is about the emotional side as well isn't it not just the physical. Quite frankly I'm sick of waking up by myself every other weekend when my children aren't here,I want someone to make plans with,someone to make a coffee for,someone to straddle when I want . Give me a reason to give up or not as the case may be... Now I'm sounding like some sad case,I just want to be loved again.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

*get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We met a super guy on here a while back who was introduced to swinging by a couple when he was only 17 years old.

He is really good looking with a massive cock so he has been very successful on fab.

He is probably about 30 now and as far as we are aware he has never had a serious relationship. I think the trouble is that for him sex is all about 3'somes, gangbangs, hardcore anal, pissing, bondage, dogging, multiple creampies.

The delights of a simple cuddle with someone you love is something that for him doesn't compete with the excitement of group sex with different women every other night."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not looking for a relationship right now but when I do I would hope it was a swinging one. I may be naive but don't understand the trust issue I've never played away from home so wouldn't in a committed relationship x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We met a super guy on here a while back who was introduced to swinging by a couple when he was only 17 years old.

He is really good looking with a massive cock so he has been very successful on fab.

He is probably about 30 now and as far as we are aware he has never had a serious relationship. I think the trouble is that for him sex is all about 3'somes, gangbangs, hardcore anal, pissing, bondage, dogging, multiple creampies.

The delights of a simple cuddle with someone you love is something that for him doesn't compete with the excitement of group sex with different women every other night."

Not everybody wants that though

I think it's a case of your don't miss what you have never had

I've never been in love so I've never experienced the delights of a cuddle with somebody I love but it really does not bother me, I think when you have spend nearly all your life single you get used to being on your own and things like that don't bother you

Some people have a need to be with somebody some do not, the problem is those who do have the need really can't get their head round that fact that not everybody wants to feel wanted and loved

I get fed up of people asking if I've found anybody yet and when I say no them saying in a rather patronising ways ahhh don't worry your Mr right is out there somewhere you will find him......no I won't because I don't bloody want him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By 'proper' relationship do you mean mundane, boring and conforming to the sad 'norms' of society in general? To me that wouldn' t be a proper relationship: hedonism is lifestyle chosen by people who prefer to flip the finger at the 'normals'. If you find someone who doesn't share that free attitude you are going to feel like you are in a prison. However, if you could settle into such a mundane relationship then the 'swinging' is just a fetish for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By 'proper' relationship do you mean mundane, boring and conforming to the sad 'norms' of society in general? To me that wouldn' t be a proper relationship: hedonism is lifestyle chosen by people who prefer to flip the finger at the 'normals'. If you find someone who doesn't share that free attitude you are going to feel like you are in a prison. However, if you could settle into such a mundane relationship then the 'swinging' is just a fetish for you."

Very odd that you would see that as a proper relationship

I would say all married couples on here are in a proper relationship but none of them are conforming to the sad norms of society

Your relationship is what you make it but if you have made a commitment to the other person they are all proper relationships be them mundane and boring or fun and exciting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By 'proper' relationship do you mean mundane, boring and conforming to the sad 'norms' of society in general? To me that wouldn' t be a proper relationship: hedonism is lifestyle chosen by people who prefer to flip the finger at the 'normals'. If you find someone who doesn't share that free attitude you are going to feel like you are in a prison. However, if you could settle into such a mundane relationship then the 'swinging' is just a fetish for you."

I wouldnt say its a fetish myself..but I'm 40, no kids..and its something I'd most likely regret if I never explore that side of life..I have a huge emptiness...and yes, it does get me down and envious of others I suppose.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"By 'proper' relationship do you mean mundane, boring and conforming to the sad 'norms' of society in general? To me that wouldn' t be a proper relationship: hedonism is lifestyle chosen by people who prefer to flip the finger at the 'normals'. If you find someone who doesn't share that free attitude you are going to feel like you are in a prison. However, if you could settle into such a mundane relationship then the 'swinging' is just a fetish for you.

I wouldnt say its a fetish myself..but I'm 40, no kids..and its something I'd most likely regret if I never explore that side of life..I have a huge emptiness...and yes, it does get me down and envious of others I suppose."

I agree with the kids part after turning 36 I do think is it likely to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep!

But then at the moment in not looking for a full-time monogamous relationship - so swinging suits me beautifully!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Most single male and female can attest to this. Swinging can be addictive .the effort to look elsewhere for proper relationship become less attractive. Except if you have the will power to abstained from swinging. Where do you stand on this matter? "

I don't swing, so that does not cause me a problem, I will walk away quite happily. But some people are disturbed by the whole concept of this site - someone new I was chatting to went unlos, in part he said because of what he saw as my 'messy and complicated love life'. That saddens me - even as a non-swinger who meets very few people, nsa is still way outside the norm for a large percentage of the population I think. Most of my friends disapprove. All I think.

But I have long since given up on dating sites, I've had far more success on here in finding people I really click with, and I think 'proper relationships' creep up behind you from the most unlikely places when you least expect them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By 'proper' relationship do you mean mundane, boring and conforming to the sad 'norms' of society in general? To me that wouldn' t be a proper relationship: hedonism is lifestyle chosen by people who prefer to flip the finger at the 'normals'. If you find someone who doesn't share that free attitude you are going to feel like you are in a prison. However, if you could settle into such a mundane relationship then the 'swinging' is just a fetish for you.

I wouldnt say its a fetish myself..but I'm 40, no kids..and its something I'd most likely regret if I never explore that side of life..I have a huge emptiness...and yes, it does get me down and envious of others I suppose.

I agree with the kids part after turning 36 I do think is it likely to happen "

which is a shame..your kids would look gorgeous I bet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most single male and female can attest to this. Swinging can be addictive .the effort to look elsewhere for proper relationship become less attractive. Except if you have the will power to abstained from swinging. Where do you stand on this matter?

Sounds like load of overcomplicated complete bollox to me!!!

(R (m))

People do get confused in life in general. So that it can be true that there are people in swinging "looking for love in all the wrong places" only represents the overall general confusion of life."

Swinging is a proper relationship. Unorthodox, but proper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sex life is my recreation. I have sex because I like being physical with a man while we are both naked. I get the adult conversation,the socialising and time away from my family that I want. I may lose my marbles and get drawn into a relationship of the dating kind someday,but until then I will enjoy what I'm doing now.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"My current and previous two relationships were found on here. I wasn't even looking for relationships.

I don't really understand why people search for relationships on other sites when they have accounts here as it's mostly the same people. Why not look here amongst like minded people who are probably more honest about their sexuality giving more chance of finding compatibility?"

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"By 'proper' relationship do you mean mundane, boring and conforming to the sad 'norms' of society in general? To me that wouldn' t be a proper relationship: hedonism is lifestyle chosen by people who prefer to flip the finger at the 'normals'. If you find someone who doesn't share that free attitude you are going to feel like you are in a prison. However, if you could settle into such a mundane relationship then the 'swinging' is just a fetish for you.

I wouldnt say its a fetish myself..but I'm 40, no kids..and its something I'd most likely regret if I never explore that side of life..I have a huge emptiness...and yes, it does get me down and envious of others I suppose.

I agree with the kids part after turning 36 I do think is it likely to happen "

This is the thing that bothers me, I'm not arsed about a relationship most of the time, but I always wanted kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My current and previous two relationships were found on here. I wasn't even looking for relationships.

I don't really understand why people search for relationships on other sites when they have accounts here as it's mostly the same people. Why not look here amongst like minded people who are probably more honest about their sexuality giving more chance of finding compatibility?

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A lot of singles no longer swing when they have found a partner, maybe they don't want a swinger as a partner?

Maybe they want to find somebody and leave this behind

Just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a fixed agenda. I am happy to have fun with a small handfull of special people that I know well. Ideally with the option of chilling together now and then to do "normal every day stuff"

If it drifts into something more serious with one I won't fight it but it doesn't have to result in 100% monogamy on either side.

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