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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do so many gay and bi men message straight guys then get offensive when you say your not interested! Surly if a guy wanted interest from a man they'd put it on thier profile!

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

You could ask the same question of.... Why do so many straight men message bi men saying they are bi and not put it on there profile...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

True it's the abusiveness after which puzzles me that it's outrageous that I'm not interested!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

naming him seems a little dramatic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Surly if a guy wanted interest from a man they'd put it on their profile! "

Not so. most of my mail is from men who have 'straight' on their profile.

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

42 (or at least it would be in a universe created by Douglas Adams).

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

And naming n shaming is against the rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many times has this actually happened when somebody has been abusive.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"True it's the abusiveness after which puzzles me that it's outrageous that I'm not interested! "

What puzzles me is that it's outrageous that you'd name and shame someone. For all I know, it was YOU who approached HIM and got rejected.....see? It's unfair when people can't respond isn't it?

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"Why do so many gay and bi men message straight guys then get offensive when you say your not interested! Surly if a guy wanted interest from a man they'd put it on thier profile! "

Because there are so many bi guys put straight on their profile.

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By *ub_liminalTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Belfast


"Why do so many gay and bi men message straight guys then get offensive when you say your not interested! Surly if a guy wanted interest from a man they'd put it on thier profile! "

Delete the mail and block... Or set your message filters to women only.. I receive many mails from types that do not interest me I deal with it privately rather than start attention seeking threads..

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"Why do so many gay and bi men message straight guys then get offensive when you say your not interested! Surly if a guy wanted interest from a man they'd put it on thier profile! "

I think some straight guys don't put it on their profiles that they are actually bi. ..or at least no curious.

I had to block messages from guys as I was getting so much attention from gay guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it the other way. I'm openly bi. Lots of men from couples or straight men message me straight away saying nice cock or wanna meet for secret fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It seems most of you have missed the point, in this instance the guy messaged me I said I wasn't interested and then he sent an abusive message, and blocked me! I then cannot report him for being abusive!

This wasn't the first time it has happened numerous men have messaged and got abusive when I've politely replied no thanks!

I can imagine this is a problem for single women too! Why cannot people read profiles and just accept not everyone wants to fuck them!

To be called homophobic for saying no in this instance I found extremely offensive!

And naming and shaming why not? If people are abusive for no reason they should be named and shamed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can report a profile if they've blocked you. Naming on your status is unnecessary and a little immature. Block men in your filters if you're not interested in them, save you the bother of having to reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The reason why I don't block males is I have a few friends who I've chatted too who are male!

No of which have asked to suck me off and get offensive when I've said no!

Also why so bad to name and shame, if he can get obusive after me saying no, imagine what that person could be like if anything went wrong in a meet!

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"The reason why I don't block males is I have a few friends who I've chatted too who are male!

No of which have asked to suck me off and get offensive when I've said no!

Also why so bad to name and shame, if he can get obusive after me saying no, imagine what that person could be like if anything went wrong in a meet!

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But if you have already chatted or insigate communication by sending the first message then they are no longer blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The reason why I don't block males is I have a few friends who I've chatted too who are male!

No of which have asked to suck me off and get offensive when I've said no!

Also why so bad to name and shame, if he can get obusive after me saying no, imagine what that person could be like if anything went wrong in a meet!

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Because its open to abuse. I could name you as being abusive. Too many bitter people on here who cannot take polite rejection could name you as being abusive to get back at you, it would never work.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Obviously, name and shame is open to abuse ,,, as has been explained many times on the forums. For us, a threesome would mean all three involved, so we might take it that such a comment would indicate someone was bi. I think it depends on the profile ... we get approached by a lot of bi men, but we don't meet too much these days for various reasons. We have never had an abusive message because of it though. Straight men who claim to be bi, well that's quite another story.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP why does anyone not read a profile on here?

Because they don't. It's a fact, it's part of Fab.

So block males, you can still chat with your mates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The reason why I don't block males is I have a few friends who I've chatted too who are male!

No of which have asked to suck me off and get offensive when I've said no!

Also why so bad to name and shame, if he can get obusive after me saying no, imagine what that person could be like if anything went wrong in a meet!

"

The problem with naming and shaming , apart from being against the site rules, is that it's your word against his.

I could write a status saying you've been abusive to me, even though we both know you haven't, but no one else could prove otherwise and you could be tarred with being called abusive on here.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford


"You could ask the same question of.... Why do so many straight men message bi men saying they are bi and not put it on there profile..."

I've only met "straight" guys off here so....put that in your pipe and smoke it

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By *ub_liminalTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Belfast


"It seems most of you have missed the point, in this instance the guy messaged me I said I wasn't interested and then he sent an abusive message, and blocked me! I then cannot report him for being abusive!

This wasn't the first time it has happened numerous men have messaged and got abusive when I've politely replied no thanks!

I can imagine this is a problem for single women too! Why cannot people read profiles and just accept not everyone wants to fuck them!

To be called homophobic for saying no in this instance I found extremely offensive!

And naming and shaming why not? If people are abusive for no reason they should be named and shamed! "

You're basically irresistible to gay /bi men.. They can't control themselves when they see your profile and immediately start to harass you?

Sounds far fetched..

Notice alot of straight guys that don't get female attention start threads like these vilifying gay / bi men to get it.

Block / delete / report.. It's simple hun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It seems most of you have missed the point, in this instance the guy messaged me I said I wasn't interested and then he sent an abusive message, and blocked me! I then cannot report him for being abusive!

This wasn't the first time it has happened numerous men have messaged and got abusive when I've politely replied no thanks!

I can imagine this is a problem for single women too! Why cannot people read profiles and just accept not everyone wants to fuck them!

To be called homophobic for saying no in this instance I found extremely offensive!

And naming and shaming why not? If people are abusive for no reason they should be named and shamed!

You're basically irresistible to gay /bi men.. They can't control themselves when they see your profile and immediately start to harass you?

Sounds far fetched..

Notice alot of straight guys that don't get female attention start threads like these vilifying gay / bi men to get it.

Block / delete / report.. It's simple hun.

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Ok yes that's right! It's all my fault and I'm just attention seeking!

I'm sure it's the same for single women who get abuse when they say no!

My point is why do people find it acceptable to send abuse when you say no!

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"You could ask the same question of.... Why do so many straight men message bi men saying they are bi and not put it on there profile...

I've only met "straight" guys off here so....put that in your pipe and smoke it

"

Hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You could ask the same question of.... Why do so many straight men message bi men saying they are bi and not put it on there profile...

I've only met "straight" guys off here so....put that in your pipe and smoke it

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By definition by having sex or any other sexual activity with those men means they are not straight! And I don't smoke

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I'm sure it's the same for single women who get abuse when they say no!

My point is why do people find it acceptable to send abuse when you say no! "

It is the same for us.

And technically it is not acceptable. But some people on here can't take rejection. And see attack as the best form of defense....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm sure it's the same for single women who get abuse when they say no!

My point is why do people find it acceptable to send abuse when you say no!

It is the same for us.

And technically it is not acceptable. But some people on here can't take rejection. And see attack as the best form of defense...."

It's just very sad, I've had my fair amount of rejection on here as I'm sure most have, if I do I reply 'good luck and have fun'

I just find of the people I'm not interested in, it's the men who I say no thanks too who get offensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP.. You have 2 options

1..block single males... You can still talk to anyone you message now

2..block anyone that messages asking for something you don't want.. Without replying first... Delete and forget it happened

Abusive to anyone is wrong.. But we do have tools to stop it.

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