FabSwingers.com forum: Who started swinging first hubby or wife?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have alway wandered with couples how did swinging come about with them? was it a gradual thing? or did one of the couple turn around one day and say i have a desire for you and me to fuck others you either like it or lump it? lol Would love to here some stories of how you all got started? and how you felt about it (good topic me thinks)

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By *eppersCouple
over a year ago

telford

With usit was me Mr who initiated the thought just to see what the reaction would be, expecting to get a tongue lashing from Kaz, when that didn't happen i left it a couple of weeks and mentioned it again just to see if Kaz did hear me the first time, when then spent the next 18months on and off talking about it before taking the plunge and going to a club, but this was a big mistake as we where totally unprepared and it frightened the life out of us, as we didn't expect it to be so in your face, acouple of months later we arranged our first threesome, which was fun after several more threesomes Kaz asked if i was bi and i said i'd never really though about it but didn't find the thought of sucking a cock abhorrent so we tried it and kaz thought it was more fun with bi guys than straight guy's the as they say is history.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty sure that mr initiated the conversation but I do recall telling him previously that I found women attractive and we had many many conversations over about 2 years about fantasies and the like. We decided that we'd like to meet up with like-minded couples and take it from there. As it turned out it wasn't for us and it was another 12 months (now) of talking and fantasising that got us to where we are now. Both of us are still a little shy and nervous which is why we prefer clubs. Thats not to say that things won't change in the future, cos these things tend to evolve in ways you don't expect!

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

ha, i got tricked into it by an ex!! but must say hes now off the scene now and i carried on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had chatted for several years and Andy had said he would like to see me with another guy. We do play with couples and I particulary like to play with another fem but our main meets are with single guys. Bit of variety though as they say. We've been playing now for nearly three years and have made some terrific friends along the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have alway wandered with couples how did swinging come about with them? was it a gradual thing? or did one of the couple turn around one day and say i have a desire for you and me to fuck others you either like it or lump it? lol Would love to here some stories of how you all got started? and how you felt about it (good topic me thinks)"

We met doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ours was a bit different, we had been to the pub , brought our friend home for a drink, hubby n him plonked their bums down , sipping beer and started to watch porn, i couldnt believe it .

I asked them both if they wanted a blow job, can still see their faces now lol .

and thats how we started our first fmm .x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met doing it

Us too

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By *erekduvallCouple
over a year ago

swansea

"ours was a bit different, we had been to the pub , brought our friend home for a drink, hubby n him plonked their bums down , sipping beer and started to watch porn, i couldnt believe it .

I asked them both if they wanted a blow job, can still see their faces now lol .

and thats how we started our first fmm .x "

Brilliant

would love to have been a fly on the wall

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

We are just discussing how we both think we got into swinging now.

We have always been open to talking about our fantasies from the start of our relationship and we read (and later watched) porn together from fairly early on. Reading about other people's experiences of swinging led to saring fantasies and I was keen to repeat girl-girl experiences (and he was keen to watch/ join in). Fantasy then led to discussing the possibility of chatting with real people then camming, and (much later) meeting for real.

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford

Ours was a bit of a d*unken night with an old fem friend of mine from school. She said she'd done MFF before and we said we'd give it a go under the influence.

Eventually it happened, we both enjoyed it and never looked back since.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all your replies

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Although single now, I was still with my ex when we opened up our relationship.

We were (and still are) always very open and honest about everything and had talked about our fantasies, so I had already told her about my fantasy of having both a MFF and also a MMF with her. She had similar fantasies.

The light bulb moment however came when we started discussing monogamous relationships. I'd not really given it any thought as I was happy enough following societal rules about marriage and respect and "to have and to hold from this day forward" blah blah blah, but she had never really believed in any of that. It was very refreshing to be able to openly say that although being married I still had plenty of thoughts about fucking the neighbour and the receptionist and the dentist's assistant and the woman at the corner shop etc... etc... etc...

I've yet to meet a bloke whose sexual urges towards other women are switched off once he's in a relationship, however most of them go home to their partner and suppress those feelings - I certainly did for a very long time. I would have loved to have fucked a number of my female colleagues given half the chance over the years but I was still thinking of it as "cheating" so would never have gone there.

It took me a while to really feel comfortable with the idea. I spent many months as a non-participating member on another website just observing from the sidelines. In fact, it wasn't until my relationship had broken down and we had separated that I had my first meet. I was happy for Mrs Carambar to play but didn't feel comfortable at that time taking part. Maybe things would have turned out different if we'd opened up our relationship sooner... who knows? My stance has changed now and if I have another relationship then I'd be happy to swing together providing the other person is too.

Anyway, so... erm, yeah, that's how it started for me.

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By *ornyandnymphoCouple
over a year ago

poole

It was about five years ago, we were to meet friends of ours for a meal as it was her birthday. We were texting just to make final arrangements when we got a text asking what we'd like for desert, wife swapping perhaps? First off we thought it was a joke! But when we replied saying don't think she'd be happy you offering her for desert lol the reply was it's her idea! This shocked us and scared the crap out of us lol. Needless to say we made excuses and never went for that meal!

But it put the thought of swinging in our heads, and over time and lots of talking we decided to give swinging a go. But not with said couple for personal reasons, and they have no idea what they started!! But they do still sometimes ask if we've changed our mind?! They have now become very open about swinging within our circle of friends, who frown upon it as dirty and seedy. We don't tell our ordinary friends about us swinging as we don't want our children to find out.

So that's how we started x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were watching a porn movie about swinging and thought that looks fun and decided together to give it a go.After getting over the initial nerves we've never looked back.Had lots of fun and made new friends along the way.

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By *s_4_uCouple
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

I (mr) stumbled across a swinging site and after we went out for a drink i suggested putting some pics on the net of mrs naked. the next day we tryed caming.After this we talked alot bout swinging and valentines 1 year we book a posh hotel, got to the room aranged a meet had dinner and some dutch courage then went to the room. Along came the knock at the door he had arrived.On our first meet was just soft play. the rest is history

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a saying which you will hear sooner or later at any social or club: "The most enthusiastic partner may get a couple swinging but the least enthusiastic will keep them doing it." One of the partners (usually the man) will suggest swinging, and the lady may agree to start exploring fantasies, albeit a bit reluctantly. Then what happens? The lady loves it, gets lots of offers of sex, gets to explore her bisexual fantasies as well, and wants to keep coming back. The man gets fewer offers, realises that swinging doesn't mean unlimited pussy like he thought, and would prefer to stop.

Illustrates why only couples who are very secure in their relationship should contemplate swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the above post is completely spot on

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

As a MM couple, one Bi one gay, Ol has always had the freedom to “play away” but declined because he felt it was one sided, we therefore discussed the options open to us,we started off initially viewing contact magazines / internet and was pleasantly surprised by the number of bi males within M/F relationships, meeting couples with a bi male within M/F relationships gave us the option to fulfil both our requirements, we decided to dip our toes into swinging, we've met some wonderful people through swinging, including those we've met for sex

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By *exywheelsCouple
over a year ago

inverness

with us it was the F who first suggested that we try swinging. spent a very long time talking about it and both of us were very nervous at first. now both enjoy just wish we could get more

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By *eedshornycplsCouple
over a year ago

leeds

99 percent male idea i would think lol

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By *eedshornycplsCouple
over a year ago

leeds

99 percent male idea i would think lol

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By *imnher2Woman
over a year ago

watford

with us it started on a night out with another couple.. invited them back to ours for a drink.. put on music dancing away and the other guy made a move on me hubby told me to go for it and he moved in on her... i got very upset walked out stayed away 3 nights.. when i had calmed down went home and we talked about it and decided we would try it.. and thats where we are now... just wish we had started sooner

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By *lizabethhotMan
50 weeks ago

Norton

Husbands persistent pillow talk lead us to swinging .. first time was out dogging down at scammonden on m62 . Chatted to one guy through window .. he followed us to slip Rd down side of huge motorway bridge over motorway .. we all got out never chatted . He bent me over back of our car while we both were shaking with nerves and fucked me .. did I enjoy it . I fucking loved it . The buzz the sex hits huge cock .. yes pls xx

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By *onosplayCouple
50 weeks ago

banbury

Was my wife although at the time she was my girlfriend and was with an ex of hers. She was very sexually active when I met her and was not taken aback. Happened after a very random evening at a party and seemed to just flow along.

Then got us talking even more and onto another well known website and we met a chap who was visiting London and so we met for drinks then dinner and spent a very active evening in the hotel room.

Like others I am sure , you learn what works and doesn’t work along the way.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
50 weeks ago

tf1

An ex introduced me to the scene and we swung together but it was always on his terms.

We split and I dabbled for a while at clubs. Then ended up in vanilla relationship who wouldn’t even entertain the idea. Got stroppy and sulked when I bumped into an old girlfriend Ffs

That didn’t last long and I got back on the scene as a single lady and I’m having a blast

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By *amesnplanesMan
50 weeks ago

Banbridge

I was working in the far east at the time, and a female connection asked me around one weekend for a coffee.

Well she could have been a bit clearer and basically suggest she wanted to play.

She told me that her Brit partner didn't satisfy her much, but was feeling her needs were such that she needed a new friend.... Which turned out to be me.

Ironically at the time I had no idea about the lifestyle, no the possibility that actually the bf was loitering in the flat during my visits. Seems he was a cuckold - another unknown to me.

Looking back it's all a bit of blur, but a lovely start to something rather interesting

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By *xfordjohnMan
50 weeks ago

Oxford

My first wife and my best friend obviously fancied each other. She asked if she could; we all talked; I agreed and off they went. That started our open marriage and then my obsession with threesomes when she decided to share a boyfriend or two with me.

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By *tirlingshire matureMan
50 weeks ago

falkirk

Wife

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By *hurrock couple for funCouple
50 weeks ago

Thurrock

IV all ways played with my long term partners it's me that instergates things

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Mine was by accident when my wife and I went to the pub with my brother. After a lot of drinks we went home and while she got some food I put a porn channel on. She came back, had a go and then sat down and we all watched ad joked about it. I could see she was getting turned on so started slyly feeling her boobs and made my way to her pussy. She was d*unk and didn’t object. I could see my brother watching so, expecting her to tell me to F off, told her my brother was feeling Left out. She replied saying he knows where to find it so we both ended up fingering her together. I was first to get my cock out for a suck and my brother got on t he floor, got her knickers off and started licking her. Not long after that the sly bastard had his cock out and was stroking her pussy with it. I never knew he was so well endowed! A quick glance at me and a nod back and he was inserting it. After a lot of fun the next morning was little quiet but we agreed it was fun and the rest is history!

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By *enatton2Couple
49 weeks ago

West Midlands

Ben had one threesome before he met me. Other than that, all our swinging has been together

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By *rNightMan
49 weeks ago

Coventry

My better half had multiple playful meets before I met her, great to hear the details of. Ao we were both active before we got together. I would’ve never have thought we’d have this dynamic when I first met her

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
49 weeks ago

Bolton

Wife, previous partner.

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By *udy3Man
49 weeks ago

Corby

Would hate it in a relationship but love fucking peoples wifes

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By *lik and PaulCouple
49 weeks ago

cahoots

"Would hate it in a relationship but love fucking peoples wifes "

Not a swinger then.

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By *helroyCouple
49 weeks ago

Skegness

both started together

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Started together by accident lol

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By *ickedwillyCouple
49 weeks ago

Bangor

Hubby’s suggestion and wife enjoyed the excitement.

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By *irty-pairCouple
49 weeks ago

South Essex

We started together after realising that so much of our dirty, fantasy talk in bed involved other people. And when a mutual friend said a MMMF was the best night of her life, it got us seriously thinking about it. A club visit later we became a full swap couple and have never looked back xx

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By *ndianLuxCouple
49 weeks ago

West midlands

Both at same time , obviously started looking for single guys for bj fun and then gradually moved to cpls swap .

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