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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been involved in activity of a sexual nature with half of a swing couple (man not there) after finishing shall we say, I don't just jump up trousers on and leave. I go for the naked cuddle is this wrong - have swing rules been broken here? #new to this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's against the rules then we've broken them too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love cuddles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't beat a good cwtch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh ..I love a snuggle after

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Been involved in activity of a sexual nature with half of a swing couple (man not there) after finishing shall we say, I don't just jump up trousers on and leave. I go for the naked cuddle is this wrong - have swing rules been broken here? #new to this."

Not in my eyes! Best to gauge the rules beforehand though if meeting part of a couple

I only meet 1-1 and if the guy jumped up and got dressed straight away I would not be happy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet one on one but if I did I'd freak if a guy ( not my partner ) tried to cuddle up after sex. I'd expect him to leave

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I think we have a clear conclusion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuddles are for singles.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"Cuddles are for singles."

I have to say, I would feel uncomfortable openly cuddling the mrs of a couple, especially, the 'lying together cuddling' that tends to go on with a partner after sex.

With a single woman it is entirely different and absolutely fine...but I tend just to roll over and fall asleep if I am perfectly honest

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I think a cuddle can be a way of saying thank you and I really enjoyed your company

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My meets always end in cuddles

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I love a good cuddle.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"I think a cuddle can be a way of saying thank you and I really enjoyed your company "

I think there is a big difference between a cuddle and a hug....hugging (when you meet or say good bye for example) is perfectly natural between any good friends. However, when that hug is lying down and lingers on, involving stroking and holding the person, then it is definitely now a cuddle and inappropriate with another man's partner...at least I think so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't mind a hug on the doorstep on the way out but cuddling is off our menu on meets...we tend to lie about on the bed and have a natter and a joke...it's not that we're unfriendly and want someone to leave straight away...

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"Don't mind a hug on the doorstep on the way out but cuddling is off our menu on meets...we tend to lie about on the bed and have a natter and a joke...it's not that we're unfriendly and want someone to leave straight away..."

I agree...cuddling is hugely intimate...perhaps more intimate than anything else in some ways, and conveys all kinds of affection....

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"I think a cuddle can be a way of saying thank you and I really enjoyed your company

I think there is a big difference between a cuddle and a hug....hugging (when you meet or say good bye for example) is perfectly natural between any good friends. However, when that hug is lying down and lingers on, involving stroking and holding the person, then it is definitely now a cuddle and inappropriate with another man's partner...at least I think so"
true .. I didn't mean inappropriate trying it on fill yer boots cuddles..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love some downtime cuddling after a play. Just to slow down and take in what has just happened. Redressing straight afterwards is such an anticlimax.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I am very cuddly.....sex usually ends up with me cuddling the guy/girl and we do the whole stroking back, arms and legs thing - this sometimes leads to more sex so it's all good. Most couples we meet do this too so I will be getting my back stroked and look across at my husband who will be stroking the thighs of the other girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No cuddles, i would hate to see hubby cuddling any guy we met.

I only watch the guys play so i don't want to cuddle anyone except hubby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The op meets the female half of a couple on her own , so staying on track .....

If her husband and her are ok with what goes on , including cuddling afterwards , then it's cool .

But he doesn't say whether this is the case ,

So if the husband is unaware of this going on , then there's no way it's ok . It could lead to problems ahead .

Just make sure all ground rules are in place .

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"The op meets the female half of a couple on her own , so staying on track .....

If her husband and her are ok with what goes on , including cuddling afterwards , then it's cool .

But he doesn't say whether this is the case ,

So if the husband is unaware of this going on , then there's no way it's ok . It could lead to problems ahead .

Just make sure all ground rules are in place .

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I hadn't taken onboard that the OP was referring to cuddling when the husband isn't present...slightly different than in front of him, but, still dangerous territory in my mind...it just all smacks of too much affection/emotional attachment to me....perhaps that's just how I perceive cuddling though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been involved in activity of a sexual nature with half of a swing couple (man not there) after finishing shall we say, I don't just jump up trousers on and leave. I go for the naked cuddle is this wrong - have swing rules been broken here? #new to this."

I think it's polite to ask.

I don't enjoy cuddling random strangers personally. If I'm honest, I don't really enjoy cuddling people I'm regularly having sex with either. I sometimes cuddle with my platonic friends, but that's quite rare as well.

Ask first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the meet and the man/ men. Laying down in the forest after a doggin would be weird.One on ones at home or hotel, just depends on the other person. Some I've cuddled after, some have dressed and run. I would not get offended if they did either.

Theres that one man whom I love to cuddle for hours after.

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

I always ask if they want to cuddle after only manners xxx But most just cuddle me without asking that i dont mind xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like it depends on the meet oh god more pressure to add to all the dos and don'ts lol

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By *rs PleasuresWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Ive enjoyed the odd cuddle now and again. So has my fella. The main thing is knowing where our hearts lie and having that trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I didn't get a cuddle and chat (which usually leads to round 2) I think I'd feel used. I love the kissing and cuddling, just as important to me as the sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a cuddle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

after a bdsm session which can be total physically and emotionally draining a long cuddling session after is a must for me

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I'm always up for a cuddle after sex, especially if it's been a long session.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

If you're OK with it and they're OK with it, than no.

I don't like cuddling strangers personally, so once all is done, that's usually where the session ends for me.

Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who doesn't love a cuddle or a spoon after a vigorous sweaty couple hours?? I mean it must be different for couples or cuck situation but I do love a cuddle and kiss after cumming hard. Everyone's different though I suppose?

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

Must admit I expect a cuddle or at least a pat on the back for my efforts.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"Must admit I expect a cuddle or at least a pat on the back for my efforts. "

You'll get a high 5 and be happy with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who doesn't love a cuddle or a spoon after a vigorous sweaty couple hours??"

Me. I really, really don't like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If man or women just had their "wicked way" with me then wanted to bugger off in a flash - i'd be well pissed off

Sexual contact in whatever format, should always contain and element of intimacy beyond a quick shag

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"Who doesn't love a cuddle or a spoon after a vigorous sweaty couple hours??

Me. I really, really don't like it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexual contact in whatever format, should always contain and element of intimacy beyond a quick shag "

You missed off the bit saying that's your personal preference and not a rule for everyone to live by...

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Must admit I expect a cuddle or at least a pat on the back for my efforts.

You'll get a high 5 and be happy with it! "

From the bloke.im happy

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"Sexual contact in whatever format, should always contain and element of intimacy beyond a quick shag

You missed off the bit saying that's your personal preference and not a rule for everyone to live by..."

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

Personally I love cuddling, but I would be uncomfortable doing it where I'm the 3rd party in an MMF with a couple. As others have said, best to ask and obviously respect boundaries.

When it's a 1-1 with a single woman, I'd be disappointed not to have a cuddle!

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I'm single so I love a good cuddle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Must admit I expect a cuddle or at least a pat on the back for my efforts. "

I would only want to cuddle my husband. I'm not at all interested in cuddling any guy we met and i can't imagine hubby would want to cuddle any guy we met and i would hate it if he did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a cuddle can be a way of saying thank you and I really enjoyed your company

I think there is a big difference between a cuddle and a hug....hugging (when you meet or say good bye for example) is perfectly natural between any good friends. However, when that hug is lying down and lingers on, involving stroking and holding the person, then it is definitely now a cuddle and inappropriate with another man's partner...at least I think so"
More inappropriate than taking her outside and snogging by the bins afterwards with the husband still in the house probably unaware?

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By *pen_minded_gentMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Nothing wrong with a nice cuddle and some light stroking after a some fun, often leads to even more fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't meet one on one but if I did I'd freak if a guy ( not my partner ) tried to cuddle up after sex. I'd expect him to leave "

I have met alone and cuddling is for me and my hubby!!! I would feel very uncomfortable with anybody else ..We fuck they leave !! As requested by me

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By *emini1637Woman
over a year ago

Warwickshire

I do like a cuddle, kissing and stroking after, like others have said it will invariably lead to more sex which is great.

I'm a very cuddly person and would feel strange if they just upped and left.

Just my personal choices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't tend to cuddle other men. After play we all tend to lie about on the bed chatting and laughing, but I am closer to my own partner at that point.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Well in my eyes that is a great compliment, huggs mean a lot to some with warm blood

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If its a one to one meet, for me, cuddles are good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crap now I'm totally confused do I dress and go

Or stay and cuddle

Decisions decisions

Oh dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been involved in activity of a sexual nature with half of a swing couple (man not there) after finishing shall we say, I don't just jump up trousers on and leave. I go for the naked cuddle is this wrong - have swing rules been broken here? #new to this."
yes you tart ,your conscience is going to play merry hell with you if you split them up

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London

I'd be happy just to get a meet in 2016.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuddling is very nice, shame so few guys want to do it!!!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Been involved in activity of a sexual nature with half of a swing couple (man not there) after finishing shall we say, I don't just jump up trousers on and leave. I go for the naked cuddle is this wrong - have swing rules been broken here? #new to this."

Always best to ask first.

We tend to all end up on the bed together afterwards, chatting and laughing. But cuddling up closely with others wouldn't be for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't beat a nice naked cwtch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No cuddle????

No meet. East for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easy! Not east...

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"Must admit I expect a cuddle or at least a pat on the back for my efforts.

You'll get a high 5 and be happy with it!

From the bloke.im happy "

That was Amy, lol

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"Cuddling is very nice, shame so few guys want to do it!!!"

Obviously I can only speak for how I feel, but I'm surprised that's been your experience. I feel like it's not complete without a cuddle afterwards. Maybe I'm in a minority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With all my meets we have cuddles and more kisses after

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Some will cuddle, some won't.

I won't.

I don't kick them out or anything, will lay there and chat n laugh but I won't cuddle.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

If it feels right do it, something's are just part of the moment.

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

Love cuddles hate it when guys just get up and leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuddles are good!!

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk


"I think a cuddle can be a way of saying thank you and I really enjoyed your company "
love having cuddles after....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't beat a nice naked cwtch "

We love a naked cwtch, or if that's not forthcoming a fully dressed xgtyu is nice.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"Can't beat a nice naked cwtch

We love a naked cwtch, or if that's not forthcoming a fully dressed xgtyu is nice. "

I agree a leisurely cwtch just feels right following a good session.

Not sure what a xgtyu is, but a Welsh snuggle is far more pleasurable I am sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't beat a nice naked cwtch

We love a naked cwtch, or if that's not forthcoming a fully dressed xgtyu is nice.

I agree a leisurely cwtch just feels right following a good session.

Not sure what a xgtyu is, but a Welsh snuggle is far more pleasurable I am sure. "

Ah yes, the Welsh snuggle. Sorry, completely forget about these. Definitely better than a xgtyu, but not as good as a cwtch, especially when done in a leisurely fashion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when we have finished playing we always lay together - and chat and cuddle and caress as we come down - part of the fun for us

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

If its a single guy ... yes I would enjoy the cuddle ..

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By *issminxandmrcCouple
over a year ago

Rotherham

Cuddles & kisses and a MASSAGE ~ ;o) and 100% always a lovely hot soapy shower or warm lingering bath together are definately on the menu for me with my single's meet...

and NOWAY does Mr C mind....after all it's ALL ABOUT trust xx

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe


"Cuddles & kisses and a MASSAGE ~ ;o) and 100% always a lovely hot soapy shower or warm lingering bath together are definately on the menu for me with my single's meet...

and NOWAY does Mr C mind....after all it's ALL ABOUT trust xx

"

Exactly ive done showers and baths with wonen before because they trusted me that much xx Personally baths are better if ones availible nice way to clean up and be close xxx I always help the lady in and out of the bath too and offer to dry her off if she likes xxx

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I cant do the wipe and walk off thing; a post-coital cuddle is a must for me! Shared shower is also a bonus!

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By *ristol_MTB_cplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Depends on the people and the situation. Our meets with couples often end up with some cuddles, especially as the guys may finish at different times.

We've only had a couple of mmfs but no cuddling for the other guy, we prefer if they leave so we can have time to wind down as just the two of us.

But best rule is just to talk about it. Do what all involved are comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a cuddle! Am really tactile. Would be quite offended if somebody would shag me but not give me a cuddle! Lol xx

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