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"but some affairs can be good as long asthere is good comunication between the two people involved To listen to the whole reason rather than cutting it short " More excuses as far as I am concerned. If you're going to cheat, get on with it. Don't try to justify it. If there was a good enough reason that would justify it, the cheater would raise it with their committed partner first and wouldn't need to cheat. | |||
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"By default there are three people involved in an affair.. At least one is going to get very hurt... " Very true | |||
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"By default there are three people involved in an affair.. At least one is going to get very hurt... Very true" But it's accidental due to "chance encounters" and all the fault of DNA. Oh, and just a fact of life. Poor cheaters, it's not their fault. With all that against them how could they avoid it? | |||
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"I love the virtuous! People have been having affairs since day for, sorry it's human nature, I couldn't care less if someone wants to look down on me I bet if i micro scoped their life I could easily do the same to them, just not that pious" I'm happy to let them get on with it and say nothing, as long as they don't try to involve me in it. It's the attempts to justify it and blame DNA, sunspots and everything but oneself that is irksome. Cheats would get far less criticism if they just got on with it, quietly, and didn't keep drawing attention to it by trying to justify it. Would the innocent party/parties that get hurt think it's justifiable? I doubt it. So trying to justify it to a bunch of strangers is ridiculous. If the cheat(s) don't care what the person they are supposed to love thinks, why worry what anyone else thinks? Plus "it's not my fault, my DNA made me do it" is the most absurd excuse I've heard in a while. As is the suggestion that it comes down to "chance encounters", as if such things can't be resisted. If you're going to do it, do it. If you're going to start threads trying to justify it, don't expect everyone to agree. | |||
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"Cheating & the happy marriage - a new understanding of adultery ---- newspaper article in The Times 23.1 16 I found this article enlightening espec as it explains the New Kinsey research whyhhappily married couples seek connection with chance encounters . A lot of it is to do with our DNA 334 vasopressin allele. " Can't read the article without a subscription. What does it say? | |||
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"Having not read the article i get the feeling something is being misrepresented here. Going from a gene to, behavioural expression is such a leap at this point it's almost akin to reading the guts of a goat to predict the weather. While large studies and metadata analysis of other studies could possibly give some hints/a general trend. Proving causality would be near impossible. " I just went to check and my goat entrails say today will be cold but bright. Now, how do I get goat blood stains out of my living room rug. That's my next conundrum. | |||
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"Cheating & the happy marriage - a new understanding of adultery ---- newspaper article in The Times 23.1 16 I found this article enlightening espec as it explains the New Kinsey research whyhhappily married couples seek connection with chance encounters . A lot of it is to do with our DNA 334 vasopressin allele. Can't read the article without a subscription. What does it say?" I'm not paying £12 for a subscription to read it either. The gist, looking at other sources referring to it, and the research, seems to be that even people in good, happy relationships have affairs and that an affair does not necessarily indicate problems in a relationship. I suspect that's not actually news to a lot of people. Some people cheat, even though they're happy at home, for various reasons, (they want excitement, they just want more sex, they can etc). | |||
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"thank you for sharing your honesty -- I am not trying to be judgemental I am offering the newspaper article that says an affair is not adultery? And nearly half the population are in this special situation . I have met and enjoyed and would againsshould it occur m m this is the joy of being a member of f abswingers and making contact with other like minded honest folk." As you say this is fabswingers..... Not fabadulterers! | |||
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"Cheating & the happy marriage - a new understanding of adultery ---- newspaper article in The Times 23.1 16 I found this article enlightening espec as it explains the New Kinsey research whyhhappily married couples seek connection with chance encounters . A lot of it is to do with our DNA 334 vasopressin allele. Can't read the article without a subscription. What does it say? I'm not paying £12 for a subscription to read it either. The gist, looking at other sources referring to it, and the research, seems to be that even people in good, happy relationships have affairs and that an affair does not necessarily indicate problems in a relationship. I suspect that's not actually news to a lot of people. Some people cheat, even though they're happy at home, for various reasons, (they want excitement, they just want more sex, they can etc)." Yeah that's not news. Blaming it on DNA etc is cowardly. The amount of times people 'accidentally' have affairs by pure coincidence.. bless their little cotton socks. | |||
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"Cheating & the happy marriage - a new understanding of adultery ---- newspaper article in The Times 23.1 16 I found this article enlightening espec as it explains the New Kinsey research whyhhappily married couples seek connection with chance encounters . A lot of it is to do with our DNA 334 vasopressin allele. Can't read the article without a subscription. What does it say? I'm not paying £12 for a subscription to read it either. The gist, looking at other sources referring to it, and the research, seems to be that even people in good, happy relationships have affairs and that an affair does not necessarily indicate problems in a relationship. I suspect that's not actually news to a lot of people. Some people cheat, even though they're happy at home, for various reasons, (they want excitement, they just want more sex, they can etc). Yeah that's not news. Blaming it on DNA etc is cowardly. The amount of times people 'accidentally' have affairs by pure coincidence.. bless their little cotton socks. " Im starting to think little cotton socks are the cause of all the worlds evils | |||
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"Cheating & the happy marriage - a new understanding of adultery ---- newspaper article in The Times 23.1 16 I found this article enlightening espec as it explains the New Kinsey research whyhhappily married couples seek connection with chance encounters . A lot of it is to do with our DNA 334 vasopressin allele. Can't read the article without a subscription. What does it say? I'm not paying £12 for a subscription to read it either. The gist, looking at other sources referring to it, and the research, seems to be that even people in good, happy relationships have affairs and that an affair does not necessarily indicate problems in a relationship. I suspect that's not actually news to a lot of people. Some people cheat, even though they're happy at home, for various reasons, (they want excitement, they just want more sex, they can etc). Yeah that's not news. Blaming it on DNA etc is cowardly. The amount of times people 'accidentally' have affairs by pure coincidence.. bless their little cotton socks. Im starting to think little cotton socks are the cause of all the worlds evils " True fact. | |||
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"but some affairs can be good as long asthere is good comunication between the two people involved To listen to the whole reason rather than cutting it short " Try telling that to my sons | |||
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"thank you for sharing your honesty -- I am not trying to be judgemental I am offering the newspaper article that says an affair is not adultery? And nearly half the population are in this special situation . " Perhaps they should swing then? - have the sex but ditch the lies... | |||
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"If someone wants to cheat they will ,just be honest and don't hide behind stupid lies or excuses " Also I have no sympathy for them only the innocent people involved ..partners /kids. Not on my high horse just witnessed first hand damage it can cause . | |||
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" this is the joy of being a member of f abswingers and making contact with other like minded honest folk." Honest folk | |||
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"thank you for sharing your honesty -- I am not trying to be judgemental I am offering the newspaper article that says an affair is not adultery? And nearly half the population are in this special situation . I have met and enjoyed and would againsshould it occur m m this is the joy of being a member of f abswingers and making contact with other like minded honest folk." When I last looked at a dictionary, an affair was adultery. Yes, some people are more predisposed to adultery than others. It may well be that DNA has a part to play but people also have the ability to use self-restraint to curtail their predispositions. I have no axe to grind on the issue of cheating and I have met people who are married. But please do not play the honesty card. No definition of the word "honesty" can be found to describe your situation from your partner's _iewpoint. | |||
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"but some affairs can be good as long asthere is good comunication between the two people involved To listen to the whole reason rather than cutting it short Try telling that to my sons " My son too though perhaps slightly different to what you are suggesting as his ex suddenly decided she didn't want him any more and rather than tell him, she took the cowardly way out and cheated on him with 3 lads, that may potentially be 4. Wasn't nice having him turn up at 3am telling me so no cheating isn't nice, not that they care | |||
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