FabSwingers.com forum: How many couples on here just to fulfill male half fantasies?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We read so many profiles that say want to meet a sexy woman to play with the female so male can watch.....

Ok granted there are a few that have genuine bi fems and that's their thing.

However other than fake profiles wonder how many female's are here and doing this purely to satisfy male needs to see fem in fem?

Look before people start with the whole,

Does it matter, don't meet them blah blah blah.

Just trying to get a adult conversation about stuff that does affect lot's of us.

Example being we have met socially a few couples where the female is very clearly an unwilling participant or they are not interested in us as a couple just jools.

Lots of time and effort could have been saved if this was stated upfront.

Have others encountered this or so other's see evidence of males pushing fems into situations they may not entirely be happy with?

Just a discussion feel free to add opinions !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sarah loves to play with girls, she does it primarily for her, however there's just something about watching two girls together that turns me on a lot and Sarah loves to see that effect on me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sarah loves to play with girls, she does it primarily for her, however there's just something about watching two girls together that turns me on a lot and Sarah loves to see that effect on me

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brilliant, both parties are happy and willing. Have you come across couples who aren't?

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester

People could think this of us. I was bi before I got together with my other half. This is an outlet so I can explore although he would get involved too.

It is all to do with me, I would never have any sort of sex just to keep a man happy.

How many straight men would suck cock just to turn on the Mrs? Most straight men would be repulsed at the idea. I would have thought that it is the same for most women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner loves to watch me with other girls, I love him watching. He gets turned on watching me give and receive pleasure from a woman. That makes me even more turned on knowing how turned on he's getting by watching x so it's win win x

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester

"People could think this of us. I was bi before I got together with my other half. This is an outlet so I can explore although he would get involved too.

It is all to do with me, I would never have any sort of sex just to keep a man happy.

How many straight men would suck cock just to turn on the Mrs? Most straight men would be repulsed at the idea. I would have thought that it is the same for most women

And I mean straight guys not 'straight ' guys

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

It's definitely a common thing as far as we have seen. Surely it can't be good though? I'd imagine sooner or later feelings of resentment would surface. Luckily we both have fantasies we want to fulfill

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)

I am here to satisfy my fantasies. I wanted to experience other women, to sate my bisexual feelings.

Tone (my hubby) always allowed me that freedom once I had come to terms with the fact that by "swinging" with his consent I would not be deceiving him nor cheating on him.

When meeting another couple or a single female, he always allows me time alone with the lady first. On occasions we have had to drag him into bed with us!!

So not all men are fulfilling their fantasies in a selfish manner!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes, we have met couples where it has transpired after a couple of social meets that the man just wants to watch two women together despite this not being clear on their profile. In both cases both of them were willing participants who must have read our profile and seen that I'm straight...but that's another discussion for another day.

We have also met couples where the woman is very obviously unhappy to be swinging, it emanates from every pore and fibre

Very sad in both cases but for different reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People could think this of us. I was bi before I got together with my other half. This is an outlet so I can explore although he would get involved too.

It is all to do with me, I would never have any sort of sex just to keep a man happy.

How many straight men would suck cock just to turn on the Mrs? Most straight men would be repulsed at the idea. I would have thought that it is the same for most women

And I mean straight guys not 'straight ' guys

My other half would xx I know it says bi on profile but that's more to let others know he will play with guys because some profiles state male must be bi and if I wanna play with that couple the other half is gonna have to play bi x this sounds like I'm in charge but it's always a joint decision. If I don't find the male attractive then we won't play. I'm the fussy 1 lol x

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

I have twice met couples for MMF, to find thatvthecwoman was an extremely unwilling participant, and was doing it under duress as the make half wanted to see her being fucked, or wanted to DP.

In both cases I had seen them both on cam, and spoken on the phone first, the female half seemed very quiet, initially I assumed just unusually shy.

But on meeting them it was obvious that the woman was under duress.

In each case I managed to get a quiet word with the woman while the male was out of earshot, confirmed that it was the case; and quickly left before anything started.

In both cases the male became very angry and aggressive.

In one of the cases I happened to bump into the female in town; she told me she got quite badly beaten as a result of her unwillingness to play .

I am very wary of couples now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many couples are on fab just to feed a cock hungry unsatisfied controlling women? I think its unfair to make assumptions on anyones reasons for being here.. yes weve all experienced unwilling partners (both M&F) but this just sounds like man bashing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have started chatting to couples where it's the man writing, he fires off a bunch of questions about the Mrs and then says "so when can you meet?"

It leaves us thinking, 'well hang on, you haven't asked a single question on behalf of your wife'. Perhaps they have such cock hungry wives, they will be grateful for whatever comes through the door. But we like to know that the woman is an excited about it as the husband.

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester

"People could think this of us. I was bi before I got together with my other half. This is an outlet so I can explore although he would get involved too.

It is all to do with me, I would never have any sort of sex just to keep a man happy.

How many straight men would suck cock just to turn on the Mrs? Most straight men would be repulsed at the idea. I would have thought that it is the same for most women

And I mean straight guys not 'straight ' guys

It wouldn't enjoy it if I thought other half was taking one for the team. I guess there are lots of shades of grey when it comes to being straight.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"We read so many profiles that say want to meet a sexy woman to play with the female so male can watch.....

Ok granted there are a few that have genuine bi fems and that's their thing.

However other than fake profiles wonder how many female's are here and doing this purely to satisfy male needs to see fem in fem?

Look before people start with the whole,

Does it matter, don't meet them blah blah blah.

Just trying to get a adult conversation about stuff that does affect lot's of us.

Example being we have met socially a few couples where the female is very clearly an unwilling participant or they are not interested in us as a couple just jools.

Lots of time and effort could have been saved if this was stated upfront.

Have others encountered this or so other's see evidence of males pushing fems into situations they may not entirely be happy with?

Just a discussion feel free to add opinions ! "

Just on one occasion I met with a couple where I felt there was a certain degree of 'coercion' on the part of the male partner...I was not at all comfortable with this.

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By *aycee70Couple
over a year ago

Eastbourne

Nope, Mrs J has tried and not for her, guys for her only

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)

"I have twice met couples for MMF, to find thatvthecwoman was an extremely unwilling participant, and was doing it under duress as the make half wanted to see her being fucked, or wanted to DP.

In both cases I had seen them both on cam, and spoken on the phone first, the female half seemed very quiet, initially I assumed just unusually shy.

But on meeting them it was obvious that the woman was under duress.

In each case I managed to get a quiet word with the woman while the male was out of earshot, confirmed that it was the case; and quickly left before anything started.

In both cases the male became very angry and aggressive.

In one of the cases I happened to bump into the female in town; she told me she got quite badly beaten as a result of her unwillingness to play .

I am very wary of couples now.

We have had a similar unfortunate experience too. We had chatted, texted, seen her on cam and thought everything was good. When we met them for a first meet there was something wrong. Polly and the girl went to the ladies and the girl took her own panties off and begged Polly to say that she had peeled them off her and licked her pussy otherwise her BF would be "Very Upset" with her.

Polly went along with that, but when they asked for another more intimate meet we refused. Next time Polly saw her in town she had a cut, bruised and swollen lip and just broke down crying. You can imagine the conversation!

We blocked them and to our horror note they are still on FAB !!

Gotta be so careful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Us.

(Ooer, hope she doesn't read this)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many couples are on fab just to feed a cock hungry unsatisfied controlling women? I think its unfair to make assumptions on anyones reasons for being here.. yes weve all experienced unwilling partners (both M&F) but this just sounds like man bashing!! "
Here here, altho we are a sub/dom relationship were here for both of us as to fully enjoy you both need to want to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Us.

(Ooer, hope she doesn't read this)

Brilliant..hahaha

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I have refused to play with couples where it's obvious that she is being coerced. To carry on would be tantamount to rape in my opinion.

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester

"I have refused to play with couples where it's obvious that she is being coerced. To carry on would be tantamount to rape in my opinion.

consent must be clear not coerced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends entirely on the couple. I like seeing my partner having fun. He enjoys watching me or participating with me in meets.

Is that me here because of him, or him letting me be here for me or us?

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"I have refused to play with couples where it's obvious that she is being coerced. To carry on would be tantamount to rape in my opinion.

consent must be clear not coerced "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that some females do it purely to keep the man happy maybe he's controlling or she has insecurities in the relationship and feels she has to do it to keep him,I've seen it in a club a few times where the female part of the couple didn't look happy.Some females love doing things for themselves and that's the way it should be,never do anything to please someone else that you do not agree with it's called controlling which isn't good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lou is bi but would prefers cocks, she will happily have FF OR FFM fun.

I'm straight but happy in a MFM.

Never do anything unless its what we both want.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

God No! I don't like the old man that much

To be fair though if there is something he would like to try but it isn't on either my bucket or my no fucking way lists then I may try to see if it is for me. If it isn't then well at least I know for sure.

Have we meet couples where it seems like he is the driver? Yes but it could just be that she wasn't really in the mood that night or she had no interest in us, I know I have felt that way. One of the reasons we no-longer make plans because on the night I may not want to be there, have no interest in sex but we made plans and it seems rude to say 'Nicky doesn't feel like it' after they have got a sitter etc*. Easier to say see how we feel on the night.

* Doesn't mean I take 1 for the team, I don't.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"I have twice met couples for MMF, to find thatvthecwoman was an extremely unwilling participant, and was doing it under duress as the make half wanted to see her being fucked, or wanted to DP.

In both cases I had seen them both on cam, and spoken on the phone first, the female half seemed very quiet, initially I assumed just unusually shy.

But on meeting them it was obvious that the woman was under duress.

In each case I managed to get a quiet word with the woman while the male was out of earshot, confirmed that it was the case; and quickly left before anything started.

In both cases the male became very angry and aggressive.

In one of the cases I happened to bump into the female in town; she told me she got quite badly beaten as a result of her unwillingness to play .

I am very wary of couples now.

We blocked them and to our horror note they are still on FAB !!

Gotta be so careful!"

It's a lot more common than people here would care to admit.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have twice met couples for MMF, to find thatvthecwoman was an extremely unwilling participant, and was doing it under duress as the make half wanted to see her being fucked, or wanted to DP.

In both cases I had seen them both on cam, and spoken on the phone first, the female half seemed very quiet, initially I assumed just unusually shy.

But on meeting them it was obvious that the woman was under duress.

In each case I managed to get a quiet word with the woman while the male was out of earshot, confirmed that it was the case; and quickly left before anything started.

In both cases the male became very angry and aggressive.

In one of the cases I happened to bump into the female in town; she told me she got quite badly beaten as a result of her unwillingness to play .

I am very wary of couples now.

We blocked them and to our horror note they are still on FAB !!

Gotta be so careful!

It's a lot more common than people here would care to admit....."

Abusive relationships are common, fab is a microcosm of society at large and the issues there are here too, despite the delusions many here seem to have

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Some really horrible stories here, awful to imagine finding yourself in those situations, and heartbreaking to think about the women concerned.

It may be difficult meeting single bi fems on Fab, but at least you can be sure when they do they are meeting you because they want to!

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

If anyone knows Frisky, they know that she would never do something she didn't like just to please me.

We started going to clubs out of curiosity, it was my idea.

We liked being watched but Frisky never wanted to swing. After a little while Frisky got asked to dance. Over a period of club visits hands started wandering, then kissing. Eventually this led to soft play and then onto mfm a short while later.

At this point Frisky hadn't shown any real interest in women. She'd been kissed once or twice and had her bum slapped but that was it.

One night we were playing outside on the bonnet of the car and a couple we knew came over. She made a complimentary comment and jokingly I said Frisky has never had a woman touch her. The woman had a little play and went down on Frisky and she loved it. Since then Frisky has had plenty of fun with women. She makes it clear that she isn't ready to give a woman oral. We have only had one person say that's not fair. We are upfront as we won't lead anyone on. She says one day she will try it but she won't do it to please me. It will be for her and her playmate...

In fact she has only squirted once and that was due to a woman.

That is why Frisky is down as curious not bi. We are mainly here for mfm but we like to push our boundaries and experiment...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People could think this of us. I was bi before I got together with my other half. This is an outlet so I can explore although he would get involved too.

It is all to do with me, I would never have any sort of sex just to keep a man happy.

How many straight men would suck cock just to turn on the Mrs? Most straight men would be repulsed at the idea. I would have thought that it is the same for most women

And I mean straight guys not 'straight ' guys

Good for you for admitting you force him to do stuff so that you can fuck people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are here for mutual fun with others very rare he plays as is very picky who he will play with and finding other couples we both like is difficult,so here mainly for her pleasure as and when free time arrives we started out together and stay together if one or other not happy we say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

girls and bi fem couples we have played with all know that i am very bi - i attend fem events whevever i can and have a group of bi fem girlfriends i socialise with as well - of course the fellas love to watch us play and thats part of our fun then we let them join in - we have had a meet where the lady was obviously not really wanting to do anything than get W - and we ended play rather rapidish -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know of many couples where one half is only doing it to please the other. Not just men 'encouraging' the woman- also men that only play because their partner wants to.

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

I was with some one and she was genuine bi she would never let a man touch her she only wanted the female only

I use to enjoy her with her lady

but lots of messages from Cpl that used to say bi but it was him only wanted to have my misses and was not interested in the lady or wife he was with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP is asking if people have encountered couples where one half is swinging against their wishes.

Interesting that so many couples have posted just to say they aren't being coerced. That wasn't the question. Guilty consciences all over the place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting post to say the least. Paying close attention. Thanx for starting it OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do enjoy seeing Sabrina enjoy herself .

However , I am not in the slightest bit more or less aroused by who she is playing with .

It's only about whether she is having fun , and believe me , I can tell the difference between her really having fun or putting on a show .

If the day ever comes when I think she is only doing anything just to please me , we will certainly stop swinging .

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester

"girls and bi fem couples we have played with all know that i am very bi - i attend fem events whevever i can and have a group of bi fem girlfriends i socialise with as well - of course the fellas love to watch us play and thats part of our fun then we let them join in - we have had a meet where the lady was obviously not really wanting to do anything than get W - and we ended play rather rapidish - "

I think we need to move up north, lol

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

I meet women alone, not with my partner, hence this profile. I don't do it for him ... and I would not expect to meet a woman doing it for 'her man'. On the other hand, I do like to sneak a peak then he is playing with a male friend ... or join in with ...

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

"I have twice met couples for MMF, to find thatvthecwoman was an extremely unwilling participant, and was doing it under duress as the make half wanted to see her being fucked, or wanted to DP.

In both cases I had seen them both on cam, and spoken on the phone first, the female half seemed very quiet, initially I assumed just unusually shy.

But on meeting them it was obvious that the woman was under duress.

In each case I managed to get a quiet word with the woman while the male was out of earshot, confirmed that it was the case; and quickly left before anything started.

In both cases the male became very angry and aggressive.

In one of the cases I happened to bump into the female in town; she told me she got quite badly beaten as a result of her unwillingness to play .

I am very wary of couples now.

We blocked them and to our horror note they are still on FAB !!

Gotta be so careful!"

Oh crumbs that is awful.. I would have taken her home and told her partner she had realised women are far better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not us. We're here because *I* suggested it.

- Female Half

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

The first time we had a threesome I was unsure and nervous but it was divine.... I am glad my partner suggested it and now I call all the shots.... And swinging is great when I realised I missed female company.... Only rule we really have is both have to be happy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not bi in the slightest but I wanted to fulfil my other half's fantasy and why not, it's only sex. I don't lick or touch pussy it's really not my bag but a bit of kissing and touching isn't gonna hurt. I wouldn't want to do it all the time but I get a kick out of knowing and seeing he is loving it. My first experience with a woman was a bit over the top and she was very domineering,like she was trying to prove something and he knew I wasn't really enjoying it but the next time was with a lovely sexy lady who was just normal and so it felt good and he enjoyed it much more. People get into swinging so they can try out new stuff and fulfil fantasies,is it really so bad x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm not bi in the slightest but I wanted to fulfil my other half's fantasy and why not, it's only sex. I don't lick or touch pussy it's really not my bag but a bit of kissing and touching isn't gonna hurt. I wouldn't want to do it all the time but I get a kick out of knowing and seeing he is loving it. My first experience with a woman was a bit over the top and she was very domineering,like she was trying to prove something and he knew I wasn't really enjoying it but the next time was with a lovely sexy lady who was just normal and so it felt good and he enjoyed it much more. People get into swinging so they can try out new stuff and fulfil fantasies,is it really so bad x"

I agree with you up to a point but if I thought that someone was having sex with me to fulfil a third parties fantasy I would feel used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you up to a point but if I thought that someone was having sex with me to fulfil a third parties fantasy I would feel used."

Yes I agree but in our case we are totally upfront with people if they ask us. Our profile says straight which we are but we get asked all the time of I play bi,most of them want to play with just me and that's not happening at all I don't care how much he wants to see it it's not happening. We are in this for fun and enjoyment not to upset or anger anybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you up to a point but if I thought that someone was having sex with me to fulfil a third parties fantasy I would feel used."

same - and if i knew that was the case we wouldnt play

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I agree with you up to a point but if I thought that someone was having sex with me to fulfil a third parties fantasy I would feel used.

same - and if i knew that was the case we wouldnt play "

Happened to us once, we only realised half way through, it'll never happen again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the male half I can at least say that Mrs S fantasys are being fulfilled. Mrs S isn't bi doesn't mind a bit of kissing and touching but she isn't that into it and she thinks that is harming our chances of meeting couples and single females im not to fussed about the whole bi females thing if she ever wanted it, id be more than happy for her to explore alone. But I couldn't do anything that she was not 100% comfortable with as its about us and our enjoyment not just to satisfy what ever fantasy I may have that day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As the male half I can at least say that Mrs S fantasys are being fulfilled. Mrs S isn't bi doesn't mind a bit of kissing and touching but she isn't that into it and she thinks that is harming our chances of meeting couples and single females im not to fussed about the whole bi females thing if she ever wanted it, id be more than happy for her to explore alone. But I couldn't do anything that she was not 100% comfortable with as its about us and our enjoyment not just to satisfy what ever fantasy I may have that day. "

This is how my other half sees it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty couples the other way around too.....and I don't mean wife watching a bi /gay guy with hubby. But some genuine cuckold, others where the wife takes the lead, looks for other GUYS and the hubby likes to watch, or just know she is enjoying another man.

Just saying it takes all sorts.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I play with girls because I want to. It's been all about the girls the men have not had a look in tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit different I guess but I (male half) suggested we went to a club. Scarlett enjoyed it and it has led to me ending up being cuck and her enjoying every minute! A case of be careful what you wish for on my part haha!

On topic we went to a club night a couple of weeks ago and there was a couple there where the fem clearly having been coerced by hubby and was a bit self conscious and nervous about her outfit and being at the club. SHe wouldnt take her coat off for ages. As the wine flowed she got more and more confident, started flirting a bit and dancing with a guy fairly sexily. Immediately after the dance she went back to hubby who was suddenly not so happy about his wife getting sexy attention and they left rather sharpish. Another case of be careful what you wish for lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here only to fulfill my needs and hopefully my fantasies. If they happen to coincide with Mr Juicys then that's great, but he has his own. Yeah good luck with them lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People could think this of us. I was bi before I got together with my other half. This is an outlet so I can explore although he would get involved too.

It is all to do with me, I would never have any sort of sex just to keep a man happy.

How many straight men would suck cock just to turn on the Mrs? Most straight men would be repulsed at the idea. I would have thought that it is the same for most women

And I mean straight guys not 'straight ' guys

It wouldn't enjoy it if I thought other half was taking one for the team. I guess there are lots of shades of grey when it comes to being straight."

He gets turned on to see me turned on by it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are here because we both enjoy it and like trying out new things. Neither of us would be here to simply fulfill the other's fantasy.

-Courtney

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"I do enjoy seeing Sabrina enjoy herself .

However , I am not in the slightest bit more or less aroused by who she is playing with .

It's only about whether she is having fun , and believe me , I can tell the difference between her really having fun or putting on a show .

If the day ever comes when I think she is only doing anything just to please me , we will certainly stop swinging .

This post absolutely resonates with me (him). I absolutely love watching Mrs N, it's her responses, letting herself go and seeing her in the third perdon which does it for me and she absolutely loves this. At the moment we're inactive due to an op recovery but she's very much wanting to play, any hint of her not wanting to do this or me not wanting this and we're finished with swinging, it's working right now. As for the male watching, yes we'd like to experience this, seeing how she responds to this fascinates us both, it has little to do with watching two women, total focus on my part as always on her. It maynot work but we'd like to find out, it'll take a very understanding woman for this to happen, could be a while, could never happen.

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By *unkydesignCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Neither of us would do anything we didn't want to do just to please the other. We swing because we both enjoy it. We have done full swap with couples in the past but K (her) finds that she prefers to just play with other women and share T (him) with them if they wish.

Each to their own. We are all into different things and as long as we chat about boundaries beforehand neither of us are doing anything that makes us feel uneasy.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

We had the awaful experience of a couple coming to play where she freaked out as I went to suck him at his request. The meet had been his idea and she was clearly agreeing to keep him. We ended the meet, it was so awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See the thing for me is my attention span aint the best if i was with two women, just watching, I'd probbaly get bored after 2 minutes and go make some toast or something.

I know the watching is a big fantasy for a lot of guys but if the girls want to get it on then go for it, I'll be downstairs if they need an extra set of hands :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, we are here for both of us. I enjoy playing with other women, I've done that both with and without B's involvement. I have a fantasy that keeps evolving in my head of being tied up and just watching B with another lady, so I can't get involved at all to start with.

Equally B and I have met other guys together and he's just watched or got involved , depending on the play. If we both stopped enjoying what we do then we wouldn't do it anymore. Simple as.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God i get loads of messages from couples were the guy just wants to meet me lol x

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By *avebabeWoman
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say 80% of couples are on here because of the male getting round the female to join because of the relationship going a bit stale or the wife has put a bit of weight on and he is needing more to excite him etc etc it's a fact and I bet the relationship is wrecked with guilt one way or other the trust ebbing away too some woman will take anything and stay attached whatever he wants some will go with others behind partners backs after swopping I do think a few may find it excites both and both may love it very few though and some woman wil be feeling unloved after trying it it will never be equal as the male is the buffalo hunter gatherer : what I find funny is when people say I will have sex but won't kiss the person it's to personal hehe hehe now that is funny ! Have a great Sunday everyone ??

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over a year ago

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By *unkydesignCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"I would say 80% of couples are on here because of the male getting round the female to join because of the relationship going a bit stale or the wife has put a bit of weight on and he is needing more to excite him etc etc it's a fact and I bet the relationship is wrecked with guilt one way or other the trust ebbing away too some woman will take anything and stay attached whatever he wants some will go with others behind partners backs after swopping I do think a few may find it excites both and both may love it very few though and some woman wil be feeling unloved after trying it it will never be equal as the male is the buffalo hunter gatherer : what I find funny is when people say I will have sex but won't kiss the person it's to personal hehe hehe now that is funny ! Have a great Sunday everyone ??

We must be in the 20% that don't fit into that category then. One of our earliest dates was at a swinging club and neither of us were pressured into it. K (the lady) just prefers to play with other ladies, her choice. It has nothing to do with him having his cake and eating it, cuckolds can be male or female. There's no strict rules for swinging, it's down to personal choice.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Well, that's a view, at least!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

You are obviously contacting the wrong people.

We haven't come across any couples where one seems to be an unwilling partner. Though have met these that are shy of unsure.

We mainly meet in clubs and can honestly say that your suggestion is not matching the reality we've seen.

Nita

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

"We read so many profiles that say want to meet a sexy woman to play with the female so male can watch.....

Ok granted there are a few that have genuine bi fems and that's their thing.

However other than fake profiles wonder how many female's are here and doing this purely to satisfy male needs to see fem in fem?

Look before people start with the whole,

Does it matter, don't meet them blah blah blah.

Just trying to get a adult conversation about stuff that does affect lot's of us.

Example being we have met socially a few couples where the female is very clearly an unwilling participant or they are not interested in us as a couple just jools.

Lots of time and effort could have been saved if this was stated upfront.

Have others encountered this or so other's see evidence of males pushing fems into situations they may not entirely be happy with?

Just a discussion feel free to add opinions ! "

Could be the other way around. If you go without a bit of girl-girl action for a long time, you do miss it. Might not be so keen on watching your fella pound another woman, but he might feel jealous of being completely left out.

Women aren't always the passive victims of an unequal swinging relationship.

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By *unkydesignCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I've just noticed you have a couples profile... Does that mean you're part of this 80% majority of couples with a female who is on here unwillingly??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did I hit a nerve

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By *litheroevoyeurMan
over a year ago

Clitheroe

"Did I hit a nerve "

No just a sweeping generalisation.

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By *ast Coast DelightCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Edinburgh

No man in our couple but no issue with fulfilling some fantasies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't always agree with you - but I think you have a valid point here!

I've noticed far more 'hot wives' than 'cuck queens' - in fact I've never met a couple where the lady doesn't get to play with either males or females (or both) - but loads where only the woman gets to play!

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By *unkydesignCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Did I hit a nerve "

Nope. You just quoted a statistic without explaining your source.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We read so many profiles that say want to meet a sexy woman to play with the female so male can watch.....

Ok granted there are a few that have genuine bi fems and that's their thing.

However other than fake profiles wonder how many female's are here and doing this purely to satisfy male needs to see fem in fem?

Look before people start with the whole,

Does it matter, don't meet them blah blah blah.

Just trying to get a adult conversation about stuff that does affect lot's of us.

Example being we have met socially a few couples where the female is very clearly an unwilling participant or they are not interested in us as a couple just jools.

Lots of time and effort could have been saved if this was stated upfront.

Have others encountered this or so other's see evidence of males pushing fems into situations they may not entirely be happy with?

Just a discussion feel free to add opinions ! "

Great post. One of the reasons I don't meet cpls is precisely because of experiencing this in the past. Very uncomfortable to find yourself naked with a woman and it's obvious it is not her thing at all. x

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

For us swinging is all about sharing. Neither of us have any desire to do something that will upset or make the other feel uncomfortable.

I love to play with other women, men and couples, singly and in groups and do so because we both enjoy the experience, as do the people we play with.

Whilst there may be couples in which he or she might hide their real feelings in order to please the other person, in our experience they really are few and far between.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Him posting.

Felt a bit selfish at times but she loves to please me and she loves to play with girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The words she loves to please me says it all really don't forget she could make you a nice meal and wear sexy clothing would that not please you ?

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

Occasionally one of us has had to put one in for the team... But as a whole we both enjoy the meetings we have

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

It is such a chore that I get to

Play with women and my partner loves to watch and/or join in.....

Louise x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The words she loves to please me says it all really don't forget she could make you a nice meal and wear sexy clothing would that not please you ? "

He has probably wondered that wrong I find women attractive too

And when I play with other women I love his reaction

I love being watched as well but I get massive kicks out of the fact I'm fulfilling his fantasies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a couple early last year. Had spoken to the female a few times over the phone. Status clearly stated that they are both straight. When we eventually met at a hotel hubby had booked and paid for the wife seemed to be rather very shy. We had a few drinks and headed up to the room. It was discussed before the meet that hubby would watch and join in for DP. Hubby joined in a quarter of an hour later but took my cock and shoved it down his gob. I literally shoved him away, got dressed and left without saying a word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is such a chore that I get to

Play with women and my partner loves to watch and/or join in.....

Louise x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very high % of woman play with other fems just for their man! I get offers daily to take a bi cherry or introduce his fem to bi play. I wont do it!

I'll play if a lady is at a meet, gang bang, dogging ect. But I wont do ffm meets.

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