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"looks fine to me but maybe get rid of photo with L and the hand gun "I totally agree. I see nothing wrong.  | |||
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"looks fine to me but maybe get rid of photo with L and the hand gun "Point taken, was a still from a movie shoot thought it looked cool.. removed | |||
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"You are a rather attractive couple. Your profile says you want to meet attractive people. Not everyone has your confidence. " Understood, we still get nervous and have insecurities like most though  | |||
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"We wouldn't feel intimidated by your profile, you look pretty normal to us!" Thank you!! | |||
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"We wouldn't feel intimidated by your profile, you look pretty normal to us! Thank you!! "You're welcome | |||
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"I'm being completely honest here. I'm one of those who sees it as intimidating! I wouldn't meet or send a message to you based on your profile and I was totally put off! It's mainly because I see your pics as very 'in your face' and a way too confident for my preference. I read the profile up until he is 'dominant, strong well endowed, master' then stopped reading. To me, the whole thing screams out "we're amazing and were serious". Sorry guys! You probably don't even think that, but that is honestly how I see it. " Hi, thanks for taking the time to read it, i guess the descriptive part of the profile is what we consider our "selling" points and dont appeal to all, as for the pictures, well how do you tone down a selfie to not be in your face? We appreciate we may not be to everyones taste but then surely as you said, stop reading and move on, why message us to tell us.. would you message someone to say, youre too boring/ugly/explicit/weird/kinky/sexy/mentally unstable for me? ... | |||
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"I've just thought that really, it's fair to read the whole profile. So I did. Towards the end, it does get a little bit warmer. Still, by default, when I read the 'bigging up', I'd move on to the next profile. In my opinion, if you are really concerned about the 'intimidation' issue, I'd; Firstly: Get rid of the two 'bigging up' bits. Secondly, try to show pics where you aren't looking too confident! Sounds ridiculous! Maybe just a smiling picture or two. John x" Thanks again john... should we remove the bit about the GG'S and long legs or is that fitting for you lol... of course we can revise based on this feedback we get, as for pics, well we have what we have for now x | |||
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"I'm being completely honest here. I'm one of those who sees it as intimidating! I wouldn't meet or send a message to you based on your profile and I was totally put off! It's mainly because I see your pics as very 'in your face' and a way too confident for my preference. I read the profile up until he is 'dominant, strong well endowed, master' then stopped reading. To me, the whole thing screams out "we're amazing and were serious". Sorry guys! You probably don't even think that, but that is honestly how I see it. Hi, thanks for taking the time to read it, i guess the descriptive part of the profile is what we consider our "selling" points and dont appeal to all, as for the pictures, well how do you tone down a selfie to not be in your face? We appreciate we may not be to everyones taste but then surely as you said, stop reading and move on, why message us to tell us.. would you message someone to say, youre too boring/ugly/explicit/weird/kinky/sexy/mentally unstable for me? ... " To tone down a selfie, I have no idea. Nope, I wouldnt message to tell somebody they were boring, etc. But, remember, your question on the forum was: "does our profile read in such a way? Should we take some pics off our profile? Any feedback greatfully recieved" And I told you how I saw your profile - that's all. | |||
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"I've just thought that really, it's fair to read the whole profile. So I did. Towards the end, it does get a little bit warmer. Still, by default, when I read the 'bigging up', I'd move on to the next profile. In my opinion, if you are really concerned about the 'intimidation' issue, I'd; Firstly: Get rid of the two 'bigging up' bits. Secondly, try to show pics where you aren't looking too confident! Sounds ridiculous! Maybe just a smiling picture or two. John x Thanks again john... should we remove the bit about the GG'S and long legs or is that fitting for you lol... of course we can revise based on this feedback we get, as for pics, well we have what we have for now x " The long legs bit is great yes. I'll let you keep that bit in! Yeah! I wasn't having a go. I just answered the question, that's all. Haha! | |||
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"I've just thought that really, it's fair to read the whole profile. So I did. Towards the end, it does get a little bit warmer. Still, by default, when I read the 'bigging up', I'd move on to the next profile. In my opinion, if you are really concerned about the 'intimidation' issue, I'd; Firstly: Get rid of the two 'bigging up' bits. Secondly, try to show pics where you aren't looking too confident! Sounds ridiculous! Maybe just a smiling picture or two. John x Thanks again john... should we remove the bit about the GG'S and long legs or is that fitting for you lol... of course we can revise based on this feedback we get, as for pics, well we have what we have for now x The long legs bit is great yes. I'll let you keep that bit in! Yeah! I wasn't having a go. I just answered the question, that's all. Haha!" Of course and honesty appreciated.. have a read now x | |||
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"If I could also add; Anyone who would view you as being too 'intimidating', would most probably not message you, and is clearly not the sort of person you'd be interested in anyway, so there's nothing lost at the end of the day. I'm sure you're not short of offers. You're both confident, attractive, sexy and have a lot going for you "Thank you x | |||
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"I've just thought that really, it's fair to read the whole profile. So I did. Towards the end, it does get a little bit warmer. Still, by default, when I read the 'bigging up', I'd move on to the next profile. In my opinion, if you are really concerned about the 'intimidation' issue, I'd; Firstly: Get rid of the two 'bigging up' bits. Secondly, try to show pics where you aren't looking too confident! Sounds ridiculous! Maybe just a smiling picture or two. John x Thanks again john... should we remove the bit about the GG'S and long legs or is that fitting for you lol... of course we can revise based on this feedback we get, as for pics, well we have what we have for now x The long legs bit is great yes. I'll let you keep that bit in! Yeah! I wasn't having a go. I just answered the question, that's all. Haha! Of course and honesty appreciated.. have a read now x" The text is much much more appealing in my opinion. With the pics, I think it's to do with the pose. It's more of an assertive 'model' look, rather than a friendly, endearing look. X | |||
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"I've just thought that really, it's fair to read the whole profile. So I did. Towards the end, it does get a little bit warmer. Still, by default, when I read the 'bigging up', I'd move on to the next profile. In my opinion, if you are really concerned about the 'intimidation' issue, I'd; Firstly: Get rid of the two 'bigging up' bits. Secondly, try to show pics where you aren't looking too confident! Sounds ridiculous! Maybe just a smiling picture or two. John x Thanks again john... should we remove the bit about the GG'S and long legs or is that fitting for you lol... of course we can revise based on this feedback we get, as for pics, well we have what we have for now x The long legs bit is great yes. I'll let you keep that bit in! Yeah! I wasn't having a go. I just answered the question, that's all. Haha! Of course and honesty appreciated.. have a read now x The text is much much more appealing in my opinion. With the pics, I think it's to do with the pose. It's more of an assertive 'model' look, rather than a friendly, endearing look. X" Had a picture clear out.. although we thought we would rather have a nice classy picture approach instead of cock or a dripping quim picture, wrong approach i guess!! Thanks again john and all you guys for feedback x | |||
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"I've just thought that really, it's fair to read the whole profile. So I did. Towards the end, it does get a little bit warmer. Still, by default, when I read the 'bigging up', I'd move on to the next profile. In my opinion, if you are really concerned about the 'intimidation' issue, I'd; Firstly: Get rid of the two 'bigging up' bits. Secondly, try to show pics where you aren't looking too confident! Sounds ridiculous! Maybe just a smiling picture or two. John x Thanks again john... should we remove the bit about the GG'S and long legs or is that fitting for you lol... of course we can revise based on this feedback we get, as for pics, well we have what we have for now x The long legs bit is great yes. I'll let you keep that bit in! Yeah! I wasn't having a go. I just answered the question, that's all. Haha! Of course and honesty appreciated.. have a read now x The text is much much more appealing in my opinion. With the pics, I think it's to do with the pose. It's more of an assertive 'model' look, rather than a friendly, endearing look. X Had a picture clear out.. although we thought we would rather have a nice classy picture approach instead of cock or a dripping quim picture, wrong approach i guess!! Thanks again john and all you guys for feedback x " Lol, well you wouldnt necessarily have those pics either! That's the opposite end. There were a lot of pics which were very good in your library too. If you want me to, if you send them in a message, I'll tell you which ones are good/not intimidating. Totally up to you though. Xxx | |||
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"I've just thought that really, it's fair to read the whole profile. So I did. Towards the end, it does get a little bit warmer. Still, by default, when I read the 'bigging up', I'd move on to the next profile. In my opinion, if you are really concerned about the 'intimidation' issue, I'd; Firstly: Get rid of the two 'bigging up' bits. Secondly, try to show pics where you aren't looking too confident! Sounds ridiculous! Maybe just a smiling picture or two. John x Thanks again john... should we remove the bit about the GG'S and long legs or is that fitting for you lol... of course we can revise based on this feedback we get, as for pics, well we have what we have for now x The long legs bit is great yes. I'll let you keep that bit in! Yeah! I wasn't having a go. I just answered the question, that's all. Haha! Of course and honesty appreciated.. have a read now x The text is much much more appealing in my opinion. With the pics, I think it's to do with the pose. It's more of an assertive 'model' look, rather than a friendly, endearing look. X Had a picture clear out.. although we thought we would rather have a nice classy picture approach instead of cock or a dripping quim picture, wrong approach i guess!! Thanks again john and all you guys for feedback x Lol, well you wouldnt necessarily have those pics either! That's the opposite end. There were a lot of pics which were very good in your library too. If you want me to, if you send them in a message, I'll tell you which ones are good/not intimidating. Totally up to you though. Xxx" Its alright.. we will keep it simple for a while.. and try not to intimidate anyone else, shame as we got a heap of new picture sets to upload lol.. Cheers | |||
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"I've just thought that really, it's fair to read the whole profile. So I did. Towards the end, it does get a little bit warmer. Still, by default, when I read the 'bigging up', I'd move on to the next profile. In my opinion, if you are really concerned about the 'intimidation' issue, I'd; Firstly: Get rid of the two 'bigging up' bits. Secondly, try to show pics where you aren't looking too confident! Sounds ridiculous! Maybe just a smiling picture or two. John x Thanks again john... should we remove the bit about the GG'S and long legs or is that fitting for you lol... of course we can revise based on this feedback we get, as for pics, well we have what we have for now x The long legs bit is great yes. I'll let you keep that bit in! Yeah! I wasn't having a go. I just answered the question, that's all. Haha! Of course and honesty appreciated.. have a read now x The text is much much more appealing in my opinion. With the pics, I think it's to do with the pose. It's more of an assertive 'model' look, rather than a friendly, endearing look. X Had a picture clear out.. although we thought we would rather have a nice classy picture approach instead of cock or a dripping quim picture, wrong approach i guess!! Thanks again john and all you guys for feedback x Lol, well you wouldnt necessarily have those pics either! That's the opposite end. There were a lot of pics which were very good in your library too. If you want me to, if you send them in a message, I'll tell you which ones are good/not intimidating. Totally up to you though. Xxx Its alright.. we will keep it simple for a while.. and try not to intimidate anyone else, shame as we got a heap of new picture sets to upload lol.. Cheers "You sound really pissed off! Haha! Don't take it personally. This is fab afterall. :D | |||
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"I've just thought that really, it's fair to read the whole profile. So I did. Towards the end, it does get a little bit warmer. Still, by default, when I read the 'bigging up', I'd move on to the next profile. In my opinion, if you are really concerned about the 'intimidation' issue, I'd; Firstly: Get rid of the two 'bigging up' bits. Secondly, try to show pics where you aren't looking too confident! Sounds ridiculous! Maybe just a smiling picture or two. John x Thanks again john... should we remove the bit about the GG'S and long legs or is that fitting for you lol... of course we can revise based on this feedback we get, as for pics, well we have what we have for now x The long legs bit is great yes. I'll let you keep that bit in! Yeah! I wasn't having a go. I just answered the question, that's all. Haha! Of course and honesty appreciated.. have a read now x The text is much much more appealing in my opinion. With the pics, I think it's to do with the pose. It's more of an assertive 'model' look, rather than a friendly, endearing look. X Had a picture clear out.. although we thought we would rather have a nice classy picture approach instead of cock or a dripping quim picture, wrong approach i guess!! Thanks again john and all you guys for feedback x Lol, well you wouldnt necessarily have those pics either! That's the opposite end. There were a lot of pics which were very good in your library too. If you want me to, if you send them in a message, I'll tell you which ones are good/not intimidating. Totally up to you though. Xxx Its alright.. we will keep it simple for a while.. and try not to intimidate anyone else, shame as we got a heap of new picture sets to upload lol.. Cheers
You sound really pissed off! Haha! Don't take it personally. This is fab afterall. :D"No not at all.. honestly, its good to get honest feedback and we acted on it, it is appreciated, we would rather make genuine changes than to appear as intimidating, we want to enjoy our fab experience and continue to meet amazimg people.. plus it needed an update soon anyway, its just going to be less tittys for the boys to perve at is all lol  | |||
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"I've just thought that really, it's fair to read the whole profile. So I did. Towards the end, it does get a little bit warmer. Still, by default, when I read the 'bigging up', I'd move on to the next profile. In my opinion, if you are really concerned about the 'intimidation' issue, I'd; Firstly: Get rid of the two 'bigging up' bits. Secondly, try to show pics where you aren't looking too confident! Sounds ridiculous! Maybe just a smiling picture or two. John x Thanks again john... should we remove the bit about the GG'S and long legs or is that fitting for you lol... of course we can revise based on this feedback we get, as for pics, well we have what we have for now x The long legs bit is great yes. I'll let you keep that bit in! Yeah! I wasn't having a go. I just answered the question, that's all. Haha! Of course and honesty appreciated.. have a read now x The text is much much more appealing in my opinion. With the pics, I think it's to do with the pose. It's more of an assertive 'model' look, rather than a friendly, endearing look. X Had a picture clear out.. although we thought we would rather have a nice classy picture approach instead of cock or a dripping quim picture, wrong approach i guess!! Thanks again john and all you guys for feedback x Lol, well you wouldnt necessarily have those pics either! That's the opposite end. There were a lot of pics which were very good in your library too. If you want me to, if you send them in a message, I'll tell you which ones are good/not intimidating. Totally up to you though. Xxx Its alright.. we will keep it simple for a while.. and try not to intimidate anyone else, shame as we got a heap of new picture sets to upload lol.. Cheers "I'm going to hotlist just in case you do upload | |||
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" I'm going to hotlist just in case you do upload
We will just private message you the pics "Thank you!
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" I'm going to hotlist just in case you do upload
We will just private message you the pics
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And no I don't find your profile intimidating though I'm aware you've made changes."Its obviously working then lol.. x | |||
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" I'm going to hotlist just in case you do upload
We will just private message you the pics
Thank you!
And no I don't find your profile intimidating though I'm aware you've made changes.
Its obviously working then lol.. x
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" I'm going to hotlist just in case you do upload
We will just private message you the pics
Thank you!
And no I don't find your profile intimidating though I'm aware you've made changes.
Its obviously working then lol.. x
Put more pics on, but just be careful of the pose!"Its cool.. we will just keep pics private for now x | |||
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"We recieved a message today along the lines of.. "i would love to chat to you guys about a meet, but i feel intimidated buy your profile" We have had this said before, we are genuine lovely people (so we are told) and hate the fact the someone would feel intimidated by us, does our profile read in such a way? Should we take some pics off our profile? Any feedback greatfully recieved "There's nothing intimidating about your profile. There are a lot of people with insecurities and fragile egos on this site who feel the need to burden others with them. See it as a filter. Your confidence in yourselves suggest you're seeking other confident people. Never the twain will meet, you'll never have universal appeal so why worry about it? Post pictures you like and reflects you...like will attract like! | |||
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"We recieved a message today along the lines of.. "i would love to chat to you guys about a meet, but i feel intimidated buy your profile" We have had this said before, we are genuine lovely people (so we are told) and hate the fact the someone would feel intimidated by us, does our profile read in such a way? Should we take some pics off our profile? Any feedback greatfully recieved
There's nothing intimidating about your profile. There are a lot of people with insecurities and fragile egos on this site who feel the need to burden others with them.
See it as a filter. Your confidence in yourselves suggest you're seeking other confident people. Never the twain will meet, you'll never have universal appeal so why worry about it?
Post pictures you like and reflects you...like will attract like!"Thank you, we did change the description a bit and removed some pics that where "in your face poses" il make them public x | |||
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"Just one thing... You're a couple yet no pics of him? (I actually like your profile btw) "We removed all our pics but a few x | |||
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"We recieved a message today along the lines of.. "i would love to chat to you guys about a meet, but i feel intimidated buy your profile" We have had this said before, we are genuine lovely people (so we are told) and hate the fact the someone would feel intimidated by us, does our profile read in such a way? Should we take some pics off our profile? Any feedback greatfully recieved
There's nothing intimidating about your profile. There are a lot of people with insecurities and fragile egos on this site who feel the need to burden others with them.
See it as a filter. Your confidence in yourselves suggest you're seeking other confident people. Never the twain will meet, you'll never have universal appeal so why worry about it?
Post pictures you like and reflects you...like will attract like!"I agree with this | |||
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somebody needs to reach model looks because they feel confident only then, because in eyes of society that is beauty
People need to accept each other as they are, obviously it is not happening, people putting obstacles between each other and then wonder how they are being treated, mental silliness, bless them. | |||
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"Also you look strongly confident, you are who you are. Somebody obviously tries to manipulate mentally and start to doubt, just brain washers, ignore them, do not let them to put you down! You do not have to have bodies like yours absolutely model type, to have a strong confidence. It is coming from inside how you feel about with yourself, not just plain looks somebody needs to reach model looks because they feel confident only then, because in eyes of society that is beauty
People need to accept each other as they are, obviously it is not happening, people putting obstacles between each other and then wonder how they are being treated, mental silliness, bless them. "Thank you, nice to hear a differnt opinion, and we agree being accepting both ways should be the case x | |||
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"if someone feels genuinelyintimidated by your profile they wouldn't contact you. I reckon it's a touch of reverse psychology, they know most people are kind at heart and won't want to appear intimidating so will respond nicely. Hey presto! They're in conversation and possibly with a chance of a meet. It's similar with the ones who message saying "I know you're out of my league but"...it would be a cruel person who replied saying "yes I am, now clear off" "That might be the way forward on fab lol x | |||
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"Stuff like "We would love to chat to single girls and we are rather picky and would like our playmates to be well kept, under 40 (unless exceptionally hot) and be well mannered and above all classy!" And where you repeatedly say "if youre a hot fem" and you current status. Is all very intimidating to people, messageing and getting knocked back automaticaly means theyre not hot etc. Try writing it less agresisvly "you must be worthy of us" and more open. Yes you may get more messages from pwople you dont like, but youll get more of the ones you do like too x" We will never change our preference of well hot/mannered/classy (which are all subjective of course) just to get a meet.. it appears the running theme of this conversation has been to lower a standard or a preference just to gain favour. Thats not going to happen | |||
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"Stuff like "We would love to chat to single girls and we are rather picky and would like our playmates to be well kept, under 40 (unless exceptionally hot) and be well mannered and above all classy!" And where you repeatedly say "if youre a hot fem" and you current status. Is all very intimidating to people, messageing and getting knocked back automaticaly means theyre not hot etc. Try writing it less agresisvly "you must be worthy of us" and more open. Yes you may get more messages from pwople you dont like, but youll get more of the ones you do like too x We will never change our preference of well hot/mannered/classy (which are all subjective of course) just to get a meet.. it appears the running theme of this conversation has been to lower a standard or a preference just to gain favour. Thats not going to happen "I am sure there is plenty of couples of your choice here to contact with. Just as I said do not let anybody feel worse about yourself, just ignore. Happy Saturday!  | |||
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"We recieved a message today along the lines of.. "i would love to chat to you guys about a meet, but i feel intimidated buy your profile" We have had this said before, we are genuine lovely people (so we are told) and hate the fact the someone would feel intimidated by us, does our profile read in such a way? Should we take some pics off our profile? Any feedback greatfully recieved "I don't find anything about your profile to be 'intimidating'...just outrageously hot!! Some people are intimidated by profiles of people they deem to be 'out of their league' or far more attractive than themselves....personally I don't suffer from this problem
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"You are a rather attractive couple. Your profile says you want to meet attractive people. Not everyone has your confidence. " | |||
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"Hooray that you've kept the swimming costume picture, boo that you've got rid of the hot pic of him! "Haha which pics did you like of Mr x | |||
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"We recieved a message today along the lines of.. "i would love to chat to you guys about a meet, but i feel intimidated buy your profile" We have had this said before, we are genuine lovely people (so we are told) and hate the fact the someone would feel intimidated by us, does our profile read in such a way? Should we take some pics off our profile? Any feedback greatfully recieved
I don't find anything about your profile to be 'intimidating'...just outrageously hot!!
Some people are intimidated by profiles of people they deem to be 'out of their league' or far more attractive than themselves....personally I don't suffer from this problem
I say, don't worry about those who are intimidated, stick to meeting peeps, like yourselves, who are confident in themselves and their own attractiveness, just like the pair of you "Thank you x | |||
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"We recieved a message today along the lines of.. "i would love to chat to you guys about a meet, but i feel intimidated buy your profile" We have had this said before, we are genuine lovely people (so we are told) and hate the fact the someone would feel intimidated by us, does our profile read in such a way? Should we take some pics off our profile? Any feedback greatfully recieved "Not intimating at all. It's honest. ( f**k me the pics are sexy as hell ) female here lol x | |||
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"I wouldn't message you in a million years (unless I lost approx 7 stone and had plastic surgery). I am sexy as fuck and have my own confidence but it's a squidgy, wobbly, imperfect kind of sexy that is a wholly different thing and I wouldn't feel comfortable naked in your company. That's my problem, not yours. You shouldn't change your profile or photos in any way at all if it's a good reflection of you both. " This is a perfect example.. we think youre hot hot hot.. all the right curves in all the right places, classy profike and we have definatley winked you before!! What a dilema lol x | |||
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"I wouldn't message you in a million years (unless I lost approx 7 stone and had plastic surgery). I am sexy as fuck and have my own confidence but it's a squidgy, wobbly, imperfect kind of sexy that is a wholly different thing and I wouldn't feel comfortable naked in your company. That's my problem, not yours. You shouldn't change your profile or photos in any way at all if it's a good reflection of you both. " I understand Ruby, but, I'm sure you realize that lots of people who are in amazing shape are also hugely attracted to 'squidgy, wobbly and imperfect'...I know I am | |||
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"I wouldn't message you in a million years (unless I lost approx 7 stone and had plastic surgery). I am sexy as fuck and have my own confidence but it's a squidgy, wobbly, imperfect kind of sexy that is a wholly different thing and I wouldn't feel comfortable naked in your company. That's my problem, not yours. You shouldn't change your profile or photos in any way at all if it's a good reflection of you both. " Exactly this | |||
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"I've just thought that really, it's fair to read the whole profile. So I did. Towards the end, it does get a little bit warmer. Still, by default, when I read the 'bigging up', I'd move on to the next profile. In my opinion, if you are really concerned about the 'intimidation' issue, I'd; Firstly: Get rid of the two 'bigging up' bits. Secondly, try to show pics where you aren't looking too confident! Sounds ridiculous! Maybe just a smiling picture or two. John x Thanks again john... should we remove the bit about the GG'S and long legs or is that fitting for you lol... of course we can revise based on this feedback we get, as for pics, well we have what we have for now x The long legs bit is great yes. I'll let you keep that bit in! Yeah! I wasn't having a go. I just answered the question, that's all. Haha! Of course and honesty appreciated.. have a read now x The text is much much more appealing in my opinion. With the pics, I think it's to do with the pose. It's more of an assertive 'model' look, rather than a friendly, endearing look. X Had a picture clear out.. although we thought we would rather have a nice classy picture approach instead of cock or a dripping quim picture, wrong approach i guess!! Thanks again john and all you guys for feedback x " Your pictures are fine. You are a very attractive woman and there is no reason why you should not show that. With regard to your text; what I read was good but I got a bit bored before the end (probably because I knew by then I'm not what you are looking for). On a final note you should consider that most women (which seems to be your current target audience) are more attractive than they think they are. As you are a very attractive woman some may find your attractiveness a little intimidating. Short of not showing of pictures of yourself (her), I'm not sure you can really do much about that. I'd say keep with what you've got, or similar, and wait for what you want to find you. I'm sure they will in time. After all, if an ugly f**cker like me can find and meet attractive women on here I'm sure you can to. | |||
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"I wouldn't message you in a million years (unless I lost approx 7 stone and had plastic surgery). I am sexy as fuck and have my own confidence but it's a squidgy, wobbly, imperfect kind of sexy that is a wholly different thing and I wouldn't feel comfortable naked in your company. That's my problem, not yours. You shouldn't change your profile or photos in any way at all if it's a good reflection of you both. " You make my point about many women thinking they are not as attractive as they really are perfectly. I would have put you in the same league as the OP (her) and definitely one of the hottest women on this site. Guess we can't agree about everything. | |||
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"Hooray that you've kept the swimming costume picture, boo that you've got rid of the hot pic of him!
Haha which pics did you like of Mr x"The one of both of you was hot, but I liked the one where you could see his arms clearly. I have an arm 'thing'  | |||
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"Stuff like "We would love to chat to single girls and we are rather picky and would like our playmates to be well kept, under 40 (unless exceptionally hot) and be well mannered and above all classy!" And where you repeatedly say "if youre a hot fem" and you current status. Is all very intimidating to people, messageing and getting knocked back automaticaly means theyre not hot etc. Try writing it less agresisvly "you must be worthy of us" and more open. Yes you may get more messages from pwople you dont like, but youll get more of the ones you do like too x We will never change our preference of well hot/mannered/classy (which are all subjective of course) just to get a meet.. it appears the running theme of this conversation has been to lower a standard or a preference just to gain favour. Thats not going to happen "Im not saying lower your standards just change your language. You dont have to say "only contact us if your hot" because then a lot of hot pwople wont. If you dont have that then youl get people who are to your "stabdard" but maybe dont think of themselves as hot enough | |||
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"Hooray that you've kept the swimming costume picture, boo that you've got rid of the hot pic of him!
Haha which pics did you like of Mr x
The one of both of you was hot, but I liked the one where you could see his arms clearly. I have an arm 'thing' "Have a peak.. weve trimmed faces out now x | |||
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"Hooray that you've kept the swimming costume picture, boo that you've got rid of the hot pic of him!
Haha which pics did you like of Mr x
The one of both of you was hot, but I liked the one where you could see his arms clearly. I have an arm 'thing'
Have a peak.. weve trimmed faces out now x " | |||
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"Hooray that you've kept the swimming costume picture, boo that you've got rid of the hot pic of him!
Haha which pics did you like of Mr x
The one of both of you was hot, but I liked the one where you could see his arms clearly. I have an arm 'thing'
Have a peak.. weve trimmed faces out now x
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"Well, We noticed your profile a while ago and note that it is now "toned down". Much better. However, it clearly states you are looking for young ladies only and, when we sent you a message earlier, the system warns us off doing so. That stated preference in itself precludes us from contacting you. As for intimidating, yes, we know one of our close fem friends who did not contact you because she felt you were a league above her. I will ask her to look again at your profile. xx" Well thank you, and hopefully from our message chat its clear we arent intimidating/arrogant or likewise stated, weve taken on board a lot of good feedback and constructive criticism and put it to use.. Dam its hard being uber hot!! .. lol | |||
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"We recieved a message today along the lines of.. "i would love to chat to you guys about a meet, but i feel intimidated buy your profile" We have had this said before, we are genuine lovely people (so we are told) and hate the fact the someone would feel intimidated by us, does our profile read in such a way? Should we take some pics off our profile? Any feedback greatfully recieved
There's nothing intimidating about your profile. There are a lot of people with insecurities and fragile egos on this site who feel the need to burden others with them.
See it as a filter. Your confidence in yourselves suggest you're seeking other confident people. Never the twain will meet, you'll never have universal appeal so why worry about it?
Post pictures you like and reflects you...like will attract like!" | |||
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"I have sometimes had women tell me that they are intimidated by both my physique and also by the people who have verified me...at the end of the day if people are not comfortable enough in themselves when in the presence of extremely fit individuals then a meet would be disappointing anyhow..." Good point. | |||
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"I have sometimes had women tell me that they are intimidated by both my physique and also by the people who have verified me...at the end of the day if people are not comfortable enough in themselves when in the presence of extremely fit individuals then a meet would be disappointing anyhow... Good point. "Little bit intimidating perspective though?... Almost "arrogant"? | |||
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I think you are both hot, which can sometimes be a rarity on here.
If I was looking for couple would I message you? I'm not sure I'd be confident enough to meet you on my own but if I was at a club with a friend I would definitely approach you. | |||
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"I have sometimes had women tell me that they are intimidated by both my physique and also by the people who have verified me...at the end of the day if people are not comfortable enough in themselves when in the presence of extremely fit individuals then a meet would be disappointing anyhow... Good point.
Little bit intimidating perspective though?... Almost "arrogant"?"Why arrogant...just honest surely | |||
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"I have sometimes had women tell me that they are intimidated by both my physique and also by the people who have verified me...at the end of the day if people are not comfortable enough in themselves when in the presence of extremely fit individuals then a meet would be disappointing anyhow... Good point.
Little bit intimidating perspective though?... Almost "arrogant"?
Why arrogant...just honest surely "You do sound arrogant and up yourself. | |||
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"I have sometimes had women tell me that they are intimidated by both my physique and also by the people who have verified me...at the end of the day if people are not comfortable enough in themselves when in the presence of extremely fit individuals then a meet would be disappointing anyhow... Good point.
Little bit intimidating perspective though?... Almost "arrogant"?
Why arrogant...just honest surely
You do sound arrogant and up yourself."Thank you ...I find that very insulting.. | |||
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"I have sometimes had women tell me that they are intimidated by both my physique and also by the people who have verified me...at the end of the day if people are not comfortable enough in themselves when in the presence of extremely fit individuals then a meet would be disappointing anyhow... Good point.
Little bit intimidating perspective though?... Almost "arrogant"?
Why arrogant...just honest surely
You do sound arrogant and up yourself.
Thank you ...I find that very insulting.."I'm not insulting you its an honest opinion. | |||
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"I have sometimes had women tell me that they are intimidated by both my physique and also by the people who have verified me...at the end of the day if people are not comfortable enough in themselves when in the presence of extremely fit individuals then a meet would be disappointing anyhow... Good point.
Little bit intimidating perspective though?... Almost "arrogant"?
Why arrogant...just honest surely
You do sound arrogant and up yourself.
Thank you ...I find that very insulting..
I'm not insulting you its an honest opinion." | |||
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"Well, We noticed your profile a while ago and note that it is now "toned down". Much better. However, it clearly states you are looking for young ladies only and, when we sent you a message earlier, the system warns us off doing so. That stated preference in itself precludes us from contacting you. As for intimidating, yes, we know one of our close fem friends who did not contact you because she felt you were a league above her. I will ask her to look again at your profile. xx Well thank you, and hopefully from our message chat its clear we arent intimidating/arrogant or likewise stated, weve taken on board a lot of good feedback and constructive criticism and put it to use.. Dam its hard being uber hot!! .. lol "It's a lot better. What the hell is a flakey by the way? Lol | |||
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"Phew....pics of Mr P4K are still intact!!!
I think you are both hot, which can sometimes be a rarity on here.
If I was looking for couple would I message you? I'm not sure I'd be confident enough to meet you on my own but if I was at a club with a friend I would definitely approach you. "Thank you, well next time we host a party we shall drop you an invite or maybe a nice social.. its unnerving for all the first time people meet we get that, its the same for all of us x | |||
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"Hiya OP, I haven't read the thread so apologies if this has already been said. I wouldn't find your profile "intimdating," but when people put, constantly, that they are looking for attractive, fit, good looking people, then it does put me off. I'm not saying it intimidates me, just that it is off-putting. And I don't mean that you have to look for people who are unattractive, but I always feel like it is implicit that we all want to play with people we consider good looking. When someone states it in their profile then I feel like they have an objective idea if what is good-looking and I don't really want to be measured against it. So I personally wouldn't message. Having said that, I think if that is how you feel then it is perfectly reasonable to put it on your profile. Many people would even like it. It's going to be impossible to please everyone so just do what you feel represents you the best. -Courtney " Exactly this! Love your pics though! | |||
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"Would, like most on here, love an invite too "Respectivley i agree.. | |||
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"Would, like most on here, love an invite too
Respectivley i agree.. " | |||
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"I have sometimes had women tell me that they are intimidated by both my physique and also by the people who have verified me...at the end of the day if people are not comfortable enough in themselves when in the presence of extremely fit individuals then a meet would be disappointing anyhow... Good point.
Little bit intimidating perspective though?... Almost "arrogant"?
Why arrogant...just honest surely "Then we rest our case M'Lud...
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"We have had the same guys ! However we recently met a couple who had thought that of us and now we have become good friends ! Don't let it out you off ... Eventually the right people find out that you are just a normal couple )
Have fun xx"Thank you, we displayed our veris and they state just that lol, your profile is stunning very classy xxx | |||
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"We have had the same guys ! However we recently met a couple who had thought that of us and now we have become good friends ! Don't let it out you off ... Eventually the right people find out that you are just a normal couple )
Have fun xx
Thank you, we displayed our veris and they state just that lol, your profile is stunning very classy xxx "Thank you .... And so is urs xxx | |||
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"We have had the same guys ! However we recently met a couple who had thought that of us and now we have become good friends ! Don't let it out you off ... Eventually the right people find out that you are just a normal couple )
Have fun xx
Thank you, we displayed our veris and they state just that lol, your profile is stunning very classy xxx
Thank you .... And so is urs xxx"Mwah | |||
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"I have sometimes had women tell me that they are intimidated by both my physique and also by the people who have verified me...at the end of the day if people are not comfortable enough in themselves when in the presence of extremely fit individuals then a meet would be disappointing anyhow... Good point.
Little bit intimidating perspective though?... Almost "arrogant"?
Why arrogant...just honest surely
You do sound arrogant and up yourself."Just goes to show you can't please all the people all the time. I'm nowhere near what he's looking for and don't "take care of myself" but where you see arrogance I see confidence: something I admire as I have it myself despite being old and fat. Wouldn't have bagged my partner I met on here (a Jason Statham lookalike) if I were a shrinking violet. | |||
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"I have sometimes had women tell me that they are intimidated by both my physique and also by the people who have verified me...at the end of the day if people are not comfortable enough in themselves when in the presence of extremely fit individuals then a meet would be disappointing anyhow... Good point.
Little bit intimidating perspective though?... Almost "arrogant"?
Why arrogant...just honest surely
You do sound arrogant and up yourself.
Just goes to show you can't please all the people all the time. I'm nowhere near what he's looking for and don't "take care of myself" but where you see arrogance I see confidence: something I admire as I have it myself despite being old and fat.
Wouldn't have bagged my partner I met on here (a Jason Statham lookalike) if I were a shrinking violet. "Thank you..I certainly like to consider myself confident as opposed to arrogant...two entirely different things altogether | |||
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"We recieved a message today along the lines of.. "i would love to chat to you guys about a meet, but i feel intimidated buy your profile" We have had this said before, we are genuine lovely people (so we are told) and hate the fact the someone would feel intimidated by us, does our profile read in such a way? Should we take some pics off our profile? Any feedback greatfully recieved "Your pics are gorgeous-what a great looking cpl. People send those sort of messages fishing for sympathy. Just ignore these pathetic limp wrists. Your are not intimidating at all-just gooooorgeous xx | |||
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"We recieved a message today along the lines of.. "i would love to chat to you guys about a meet, but i feel intimidated buy your profile" We have had this said before, we are genuine lovely people (so we are told) and hate the fact the someone would feel intimidated by us, does our profile read in such a way? Should we take some pics off our profile? Any feedback greatfully recieved
Your pics are gorgeous-what a great looking cpl. People send those sort of messages fishing for sympathy. Just ignore these pathetic limp wrists. Your are not intimidating at all-just gooooorgeous xx"^^^^ agreed | |||
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"We recieved a message today along the lines of.. "i would love to chat to you guys about a meet, but i feel intimidated buy your profile" We have had this said before, we are genuine lovely people (so we are told) and hate the fact the someone would feel intimidated by us, does our profile read in such a way? Should we take some pics off our profile? Any feedback greatfully recieved
Your pics are gorgeous-what a great looking cpl. People send those sort of messages fishing for sympathy. Just ignore these pathetic limp wrists. Your are not intimidating at all-just gooooorgeous xx"Fishing for sympathy? No, sometimes it's how they actually feel. This doesn't make me a pathetic limp wrist, it makes me a human. | |||
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 ) Some have confidence, some don't. Some are arrogant, some are not. The intimidation comes from the uncertainty of which one you'll get.
I don't find the OP's profile intimidating. But as was mentioned before "like attracts like." But, sadly, this is not one of those times. Says a lot about true confidence and potential arrogance.
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