FabSwingers.com forum: Cheeting husbands

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Has any of you ladies on here recieved an abusive mail off a wife whos hubby has obviously been caught with his pants down lol ?. I just did and Ive now updated my profile saying dont contact me if your playing behind the wife/gf back, only play with husbands whos wife is happy for him to play solo and Ive spoken/web cammed with her before

Its not easy though is it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Has any of you ladies on here recieved an abusive mail off a wife whos hubby has obviously been caught with his pants down lol ?. I just did and Ive now updated my profile saying dont contact me if your playing behind the wife/gf back, only play with husbands whos wife is happy for him to play solo and Ive spoken/web cammed with her before

Its not easy though is it

PS Ive never even met the guy either as we are at each end of the country

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not easy though is it

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i have not but im divorced so i couldnt but i would not anyway

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By *manaughtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Newbury

End of the day its his decision to cheat so it should be him the abuse is aimed at not you. Its a shame though that so many men are just using this to get their rocks off behind their wives backs.

I always tell them I'm not interested (Possibly not quite so elequently) when I find out their married and she doesnt know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn’t you know its now frowned upon to disagree with married people playing away in the swinging scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did not have a wife ... she never new a thing i had his fuck bubbie after me .... really nasty saying all sorts .. and i never new he had a wife or a fuck bubbie she see me on his friends list and mailed asking if i new him making out she had never really meet him before i said i had meet god she was mad ...... and the wife she never cared about her at all ,, now left the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah i sent her a email ruby

you do have to feel sorry for the other halfs a cheat is a cheat no matter how you hide it

she seems nice just real hurt by what he has done

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"End of the day its his decision to cheat so it should be him the abuse is aimed at not you. Its a shame though that so many men are just using this to get their rocks off behind their wives backs.

I always tell them I'm not interested (Possibly not quite so elequently) when I find out their married and she doesnt know."

totaly agree with what you say naughtygirl

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"yeah i sent her a email ruby

you do have to feel sorry for the other halfs a cheat is a cheat no matter how you hide it

she seems nice just real hurt by what he has done "

Yeah had to say I did feel really sorry for her especially after she had caught an std of him too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

real nice bloke obv .............. not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ho dear

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By *manaughtygirlWoman
over a year ago

Newbury

Hopefully an STD and his wife finding out will teach that guy a lesson or two (Namely don't cheat and lie... and secondly if you are going to cheat and lie to your wife then at least use protection) *shudders at the thought. Poor woman!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Yes we have recieved a mail once, not abusive but telling us the man was in a relationship with someone.

I am sure there are lots of people about who are not telling the whole truth when arranging meets.

PS it isn't frowned upon to disagree with married men playing on this site....but it is frowned upon to attack them for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a fucking doghnut this guy must be...fancy getting caught before you have even fucked the woman. What exactly did he get caught doing...sending you smutty e-mails?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeah i sent her a email ruby

you do have to feel sorry for the other halfs a cheat is a cheat no matter how you hide it

she seems nice just real hurt by what he has done "

Did he send both you and Ruby mails? or did his wife contact you both?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"What a fucking doghnut this guy must be...fancy getting caught before you have even fucked the woman. What exactly did he get caught doing...sending you smutty e-mails?"

I think that's missing the point somewhat.

Cheating and not getting away with it, or not getting to the sex part, is not the reason people have a low opinion of this guy.

No one likes to be lied to and some people have rules. ie not wanting to be party to someone who lies to their 'most beloved'

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

Its not easy though is it

interesting this one...2 of the couples I've had meets with have ended up with the wives wanting to meet behind their respective hubbies backs.(I haven't given in to their lustful demands!)..what does the sister hood think of this?

the morale of this story is both sexes cheat..and he got caught and you unfortunately were caught up in the fall out...i suggest you won't be the first or the last..and as for the comments re the STD well someone must have given it to him and who knows if that person was playing honestly or not..we don't have his side here do we?

cheating is wrong otherwise it wouldn't be called cheating..but how many here have cheated and broken there marriage vows? ok so both parties play so that makes it ok?..you've still broken those vows? we don't know why this guy felt it necessary to cheat so really why do we feel we have the right to damn him for it without knowing the whole story?

if you ladies fantasies about someone other than your partner and don't tell them is that cheating? some will think yes...these are the views of a person who was cheated on..angry at the time..but got over it..life's to short and we are only here once..

i should add that one couple is no longer here so no good looking for the party in my veris and the other was at Chams so def not on my list..

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

"Ive now updated my profile saying dont contact me if your playing behind the wife/gf back, only play with husbands whos wife is happy for him to play solo"

Oh yeah, that'll stop them for about...ooooh, a microsecond.

Just let people know that if they ARE cheating and you find out, their other half will get all the juicy details.

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By *eighleedsMan
over a year ago

leeds

theer are a good few profiles on the site. posted as couples, but go on to say we are both married, but not to each other, and the married partners do not know.

that cheating in my book not swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i once had real problems with a couple i met

they guy tried to meet me behind his wifes back, i said no because firstly i wouldnt do that to a woman i had never met im certainly not doing it to one i have and considered a friend

he then tried to black mail me by saying if i didnt meet him he would tell his wife it was me who had contacted him trying to get him to play away, which he did when i told him to f**k off

well you can imagine the rest, of course his wife believed him and i was the marrage wrecker etc

nasty man who has no place in swinging

one of the reason i now never meet couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We specify on our profile that we won't meet guys who are either married or in a relationship because slut specifically won't do that to other women. However, our first meet ever was with a guy in a relationship that we hadn't got a clue about, found out after when he tried to get slut to play away without Rob knowing, and he then informed her quite happily that he had played with Rob previously when he was in another relationship. Tried to break us up. Charming! Funnily enough, he is now blocked!

That said, so many guys who are in relationships have contacted us, and once we find that out, we refer them back to our profile and won't play with them. Who wants the aggro?

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

Do I agree with cheating? No, do I understand why “some” men cheat? Yes.

It's worth bearing in mind, it's not only “men” who are deceitful, numerous profiles on this site from “females” who openly state they are happily married / in a relationship, but looking for that extra bit of excitement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BIG differnce to a happly married woman who TELLS her husband and one who dus NOT tho

if your partner is happy for you to do what you like then thats cool

but if you cudnt even think of telling them or asking then maybe you shud have a long hard think about what your doing with that person ...

so many guys on here saying the same old line

and to be honest its sad

either tell her or leave if your not happy simple as

i wonder how many wives wud be up for a bit of extra fun if there hubbys sugested it to them

i know if mine wanted to have a 3sum or some grp fun i wud be right there

he isnt into all that

but hes happy for me to get on and do what i like x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What a fucking doghnut this guy must be...fancy getting caught before you have even fucked the woman. What exactly did he get caught doing...sending you smutty e-mails?"

tbh I dont even remeber who the guy is think he was just some random guy who sent me a mail I dont remember every single guy who contacts me on here lol my memory aint that good

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"yeah i sent her a email ruby

you do have to feel sorry for the other halfs a cheat is a cheat no matter how you hide it

she seems nice just real hurt by what he has done

Did he send both you and Ruby mails? or did his wife contact you both?"

No just me I told Crystal about the mail I just recieved off his wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whoop whoop i am in the sunday sport friday and saturday !

lol thought id tell u ruby lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its not easy though is it

i should add that one couple is no longer here so no good looking for the party in my veris and the other was at Chams so def not on my list.."

Agree with all the above I guess at the end of the day no one is in a postion to judge anyone on the way they decide to lead their lives.

Everyone has a different outlook on life for whatever reason, me personaly I had a close brush with death at the end of 09 which totaly changed my outlook on life to lifes to short and to fill it with as much fun as you can, as we never know when our time will be up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i once had real problems with a couple i met

they guy tried to meet me behind his wifes back, i said no because firstly i wouldnt do that to a woman i had never met im certainly not doing it to one i have and considered a friend

he then tried to black mail me by saying if i didnt meet him he would tell his wife it was me who had contacted him trying to get him to play away, which he did when i told him to f**k off

well you can imagine the rest, of course his wife believed him and i was the marrage wrecker etc

nasty man who has no place in swinging

one of the reason i now never meet couples "

Thats awfull

Im pretty much the same re cpls so much prefer single guys as they come with no baggage

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"whoop whoop i am in the sunday sport friday and saturday !

lol thought id tell u ruby lol "

lol wooo hooo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"BIG differnce to a happly married woman who TELLS her husband and one who dus NOT tho

if your partner is happy for you to do what you like then thats cool

but if you cudnt even think of telling them or asking then maybe you shud have a long hard think about what your doing with that person ...

so many guys on here saying the same old line

and to be honest its sad

either tell her or leave if your not happy simple as

i wonder how many wives wud be up for a bit of extra fun if there hubbys sugested it to them

i know if mine wanted to have a 3sum or some grp fun i wud be right there

he isnt into all that

but hes happy for me to get on and do what i like x "

If Im going out on a meet I always tell hubby exactly who im meeting and where im going even show him their profiles/pics

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

rather than calling this thread "cheating husbands" I think this could have been called "cheating people" to encompass both of the sexes.... and I don't think there would have been the argument...

Should cheating men and cheating women be treated the same?.... yes

Do i think cheating men and cheating woman are treated the same?.... no

It just happens to be... not sure why that is the case...but it is.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

haha last time i had a meet my hubby called and asked me if he was a good sh*g lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"rather than calling this thread "cheating husbands" I think this could have been called "cheating people" to encompass both of the sexes.... and I don't think there would have been the argument...

Should cheating men and cheating women be treated the same?.... yes

Do i think cheating men and cheating woman are treated the same?.... no

It just happens to be... not sure why that is the case...but it is.....

yeah sorry I should of put cheating partners up was just because I got this mail from the wife I wasnt thinking appologies as it does cover women aswell as men

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"haha last time i had a meet my hubby called and asked me if he was a good sh*g lol "

Lol he would hahaha and was it ?? hehe

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"haha last time i had a meet my hubby called and asked me if he was a good sh*g lol "

mine texts me the same. the other week he emailed on on here and asked if I was good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"BIG differnce to a happly married woman who TELLS her husband and one who dus NOT tho

if your partner is happy for you to do what you like then thats cool

but if you cudnt even think of telling them or asking then maybe you shud have a long hard think about what your doing with that person ...

so many guys on here saying the same old line

and to be honest its sad

either tell her or leave if your not happy simple as

i wonder how many wives wud be up for a bit of extra fun if there hubbys sugested it to them

i know if mine wanted to have a 3sum or some grp fun i wud be right there

he isnt into all that

but hes happy for me to get on and do what i like x

If Im going out on a meet I always tell hubby exactly who im meeting and where im going even show him their profiles/pics

How very considerate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i had alot of fun so yeah lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Didn’t you know its now frowned upon to disagree with married people playing away in the swinging scene

we normally wish the cheating bastard bad luck and a nasty infection along with his dear wifes pussy growing teeth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Didn’t you know its now frowned upon to disagree with married people playing away in the swinging scene

we normally wish the cheating bastard bad luck and a nasty infection along with his dear wifes pussy growing teeth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so sorry you had such a nasty email / experience

thats rotten

as for cheating - i dont know why the men or women do this on here

there will always be a majority that dont want to go near them and wish them the worst - but there will also be those that dont care and arrange to meet on other criteria.

If your 'cheating or playing away' - just put it in the profile and only meet with those that are happy to do so

I havent read all the site rules so forgive me if i have this wrong - but i dont think those cheating on their partners are band from here - so it then becomes a personal choice

and one last word of advice to those wanton few - never come in to the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hopefully an STD and his wife finding out will teach that guy a lesson or two (Namely don't cheat and lie... and secondly if you are going to cheat and lie to your wife then at least use protection) *shudders at the thought. Poor woman!"

not nice for the wife to have a hubby bring her home an std. surely that's punishing her?!

to the op...they don't all admit to being married...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just caught another one out

sometimes it's a satisfyingly small world - so nice to send the text asking after the wife, I only wish I'd been there to see his face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i recently had a women contact me who stated on her profile she was single.

but from watching in the chatroom she clearly wasnt and was looking to play because her other half lived a few miles away from her.

she was even whispering me when he was in the room.

i backed off as i did feel uncomfortable about it because he clearly did not know what she was doing.

but as for you getting abuse ruby that's not on. you hav'nt done anything wrong and i think maybe this woman was just lashing out at you because she was angry and didn't have all the facts.

i know what your like ruby and your a fine woman so don't let it get to you please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i recently had a women contact me who stated on her profile she was single.

but from watching in the chatroom she clearly wasnt and was looking to play because her other half lived a few miles away from her.

she was even whispering me when he was in the room.

i backed off as i did feel uncomfortable about it because he clearly did not know what she was doing.

...did she watch you riding of into the sunset...?

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

not nice for the wife to have a hubby bring her home an std. surely that's punishing her?!

to the op...they don't all admit to being married...

how about not nice of the person with the STD to pass it on in the first place!

you never know because shes not on here but who's to say she didn't pick it up on a d*unken night out with the girls???

and he's been caught out on here but she hasn't! ah! thats got you thinking..all married ladies are whiter than white! thats DAZ for you! lol devils advocate..

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

That said, so many guys who are in relationships have contacted us, and once we find that out, we refer them back to our profile and won't play with them. Who wants the aggro?

If Im going out on a meet I always tell hubby exactly who im meeting and where im going even show him their profiles/pics

But this would mean that neither ruby or officple would ever go for each others profile.

With both of your being in relationships and not wanting other people who are also in relationships.

It's a fair and safe stance to take considering the nastiness of some people (which was a surprise, all be it naive, to me reading this that anyone would try that and then try to switch it around on you).

But what a shame such people spread distrust.

Having said that we are not into the social side so much, so have not had repeated meets. Maybe in such circumstances we would have been made aware of this ourselves.

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

"BIG differnce to a happly married woman who TELLS her husband and one who dus NOT tho

if your partner is happy for you to do what you like then thats cool

but if you cudnt even think of telling them or asking then maybe you shud have a long hard think about what your doing with that person ...

so many guys on here saying the same old line

and to be honest its sad

either tell her or leave if your not happy simple as "

Would like to comment on the 'cheating/not telling' part of this thread.

For many couples, sex may no longer be part of their lives together, yet they choose to remain together for everything else they have invested in their relationship.

If one partner is seeking sex elsewhere, the other, whilst aware, may not wish to be burdened with all the details, or wish be reminded. Is this still cheating?

Those fortunate, or honest enough to have the kind of open relationship that swinging demands, sometimes forget that they are in the minority and that the relationship they enjoy is special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say that,unfortunately, I have to 'vet' guys on this site. I am usually pretty savvy but even I have been caught out! One guy annoyed me so much (ie texting all the time) that I eventually tracked him down (NO! I am not a stalker) and emailed him his wedding pics. He soon shut up. Why do married men do this? At least be honest, then all persons know what is going on.

An Irritated but not beaten Muse x

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I find women that cheat just as dispicable as.men that do. The partners that know and are ok with it then are not cheating as going behind someones back is cheating. If they know and everyone is ok with it then it means they have had that discussion.

Just found out last night that a female friend of mine is being cheated on by hwr boyfriend. They went on hol with his parents and she found out with evidence that he has still been having sex with his ex aswell as her.

Told her to tell him to fooks off. Its horrible when you find out your partners feelins lay elsewhere literally!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try wearing other people's shoes and walk around in them for a while before making judgement about them I'd say!

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

After having it done to me i dont plan on doing it to someone else and have more lives ruined. Its not a nice feeling to be on the receiving end of deceit. Dont need to walk a mile to already know that. Deceit is deceit no matter how touch butter it up. For those that are deceitful then dont be surprised if they land in the pooh. At least if your honest and all is cleared as ok its a different matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do I agree with cheating? No, do I understand why “some” men cheat? Yes.

Come back Gray & Keys! All is forgiven! lol

Too soon? oops!

This is a good point. Right now we are attacking men for their indiscretions but women are no angels either and we'd be wise to remember that.

Ahh Sexism. Alive and well in the world today!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One more thing: Cheating, not "cheeting."

Sorry. Something I brought up in another post. As you were!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do I agree with cheating? No, do I understand why “some” men cheat? Yes.

Come back Gray & Keys! All is forgiven! lol

Too soon? oops!

This is a good point. Right now we are attacking men for their indiscretions but women are no angels either and we'd be wise to remember that.

Ahh Sexism. Alive and well in the world today!

As I said earlier and apologised I wasnt saying its just all men I know women are just as bad it was purley a mistake as Id just recieved the mail of the women saying about her husband wasnt meant to be targeted just at men lol

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By *ifornowCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

We met a so called single guy from this site.We met him first on a social basis as we usually do and had a long chat.He came accross as very sincere informing us that he was divorced and back living with his parents which was the reason why he couldn't accomodate.We discussed that we find cheating behind partners backs very distateful and he agreed with us.We met again soon after and played.A few weeks later the same guy contacted us on another site(we have a different username and different pics on that site).He contacted us as a cpl and attached pics of himself and his wife.We wrote back and said "It's us !!"...so you were married and cheating.....Needless to say he then blocked us,obviously having been caught out !We have been involved in this scene for many years and are not easily hoodwinked,but it just goes to show you just never know.These guys who are adept at lying and deceiving both their potential playmates and their partners really do give the genuine respectful single guys (who we have met) a bad name.Ubfortunately we feel this will nevr change.

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