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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't understand why so little interest ? Not being arrogant but I'm not ugly. Have posted meets sent many messages and not had any luck. I'm a nice guy just want to have some fun.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Well you're married and you smoke which are no no's for me straight away,but that's just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well you're married and you smoke which are no no's for me straight away,but that's just me."

Ditto but at least you're honest about being married.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

You're married, you have used the word professional which if you nip on over to the thread of the same name gets some people all hot under the collar in a bad way and we can't tell if you're good looking...you've chopped your head off .

It does take time and all of the above won't necessarily hold you back but it's not improving your chances either.

Good luck.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"I don't understand why so little interest ? Not being arrogant but I'm not ugly. Have posted meets sent many messages and not had any luck. I'm a nice guy just want to have some fun. "

Have you read the countless other threads in the archives from (mainly) guys bemoaning their lack of success...

The same answers and advice (generic) will be in those. . Happy reading

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for advise. So far

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Nice guys don't cheat do they...apologies if I said that out loud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nice guys don't cheat do they...apologies if I said that out loud! "

Did you type that with one hand whilst polishing your halo with the other?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not cheating emotionally. Sex is physical to me about pleasure and fun. I love my wife but need a bit more spice in bedroom

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nice guys don't cheat do they...apologies if I said that out loud!

Did you type that with one hand whilst polishing your halo with the other? "

Do you have a camera at my place ? Lol

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Nice guys don't cheat do they...apologies if I said that out loud!

Did you type that with one hand whilst polishing your halo with the other? "

Ooh I did say that out loud . Please excuse me while I continue to polish my halo...

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nice guys don't cheat do they...apologies if I said that out loud!

Did you type that with one hand whilst polishing your halo with the other?

Ooh I did say that out loud . Please excuse me while I continue to polish my halo..."

Nice is yours silver like mine ?

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Nice guys don't cheat do they...apologies if I said that out loud!

Did you type that with one hand whilst polishing your halo with the other?

Ooh I did say that out loud . Please excuse me while I continue to polish my halo...

Nice is yours silver like mine ? "

Silver?! Nar mine is pure gold!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would of guessed lol you seem the sort

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"I don't understand why so little interest ? Not being arrogant but I'm not ugly. Have posted meets sent many messages and not had any luck. I'm a nice guy just want to have some fun. "

Your pic and profile don't stand out at all. They don't allow the reader to learn anything about you other than you want sex. N

That's not a good look at all.

You status will put some ladies off straight away.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Would of guessed lol you seem the sort "

My top tip! Concentrate on what you're here for and don't get involved in any seeming justification or defence of your marital status, it will make things even more difficult for you.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I'm not cheating emotionally. Sex is physical to me about pleasure and fun. I love my wife but need a bit more spice in bedroom "

I clearly don't know your circumstances and why you can't speak to your wife and clearly I don't know that either,but maybe just maybe your wife may need some spice as well. I fully respect the couples that are on here together and seeking that extra spice,have you tried speaking to her. Clearly you don't have to tell me anything either...I just find it incredibly sad that you're doing this behind her back if you are and I don't mean sad in a patronising way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could be nice, single and a non smoker but will still struggle to meet anyone.

Its simple, the odds are against men on here, women have the control.

Women are wired up differently to men, which is why there are few women here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers have removed the word professional lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not cheating emotionally. Sex is physical to me about pleasure and fun. I love my wife but need a bit more spice in bedroom "

Would your wife see it that way? Thats its ok because its not emotional? I have nothing against married men being on here - but that comment is a crock of shit

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Would of guessed lol you seem the sort "

Thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to recap..

Married

Playing without permission

Smoker

Cant accommodate (see points 1 and 2)

Lack of pics

Certain buzzwords in profile (now removed)

Bonus points for honesty though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have nothing against married men. Not our relationship at risk . Maybe talk to her she might want try something as a couple to put spice back into your marriage. We dnt meet smokers.i can't stand kissing ashtrays lol. You might want try male female couples dnt have to play with the male. Marie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP was just asking for advice, but sadly its the same advice which is asked at least in 3 or 4 threads per day either here of in one of the other forums and of course he will get same responses

one which as stood out here is the fact that he dared be honest about his status - its a risky thing this honesty lark, I know I'm both married a bi so a double whammy lol - however in my experience those in glass house should not throw stones - as I have meet/chatted to loads of married women playing alone on here - just an observation

Finally to the OP id say - give it time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular."

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady"

5f6 is definitely short. x

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

How can anyone say he's cheating. It doesn't say if his wife knows about being on fab or not. I bet Not. But still shouldn't assume. Sometimes 1 woman just isn't enough for 1 man or 1 man for 1 woman. Like someone said at least he's honest. Well done mate.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular."

Ouch! Harsh...but probably true

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

5f6 is definitely short. x"

So so rude. No need for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poor bloke, only asked for a little help and some of the replies have been less than polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

5f6 is definitely short. x"

Ok you got me there, horizontally it's all good tho lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for replys as harsh as sum are lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

5f6 is definitely short. x

So so rude. No need for that. "

You are just moaning because I blocked you for stalking me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

5f6 is definitely short. x

Ok you got me there, horizontally it's all good tho lol "

Yeah, but London is a long ways away also x

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady"

Think you maybe too short for her,think she may be hard to please anyway

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Cheers have removed the word professional lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

Think you maybe too short for her,think she may be hard to please anyway "

It's just called having some standards I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

5f6 is definitely short. x

Ok you got me there, horizontally it's all good tho lol

Yeah, but London is a long ways away also x"

Have car will travel also a great host. Where there is lust there is will , and where there is a will ... Nothing else matters

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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"I don't understand why so little interest ? Not being arrogant but I'm not ugly. Have posted meets sent many messages and not had any luck. I'm a nice guy just want to have some fun. "

Not much about your profile to make me look twice am afraid, poor profile pic, the fact you are cheating on your wife and you have a Gay on your friends list would make me think you are also Bi-Sexual

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

Think you maybe too short for her,think she may be hard to please anyway

It's just called having some standards I think."

I don't think anyone's height has anything to do with standards

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod

over a year ago

My Own Little World


"I'm not cheating emotionally. Sex is physical to me about pleasure and fun. I love my wife but need a bit more spice in bedroom "

Not cheating emotionally?

Oh that's OK then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

5f6 is definitely short. x

Ok you got me there, horizontally it's all good tho lol

Yeah, but London is a long ways away also x

Have car will travel also a great host. Where there is lust there is will , and where there is a will ... Nothing else matters "

Lol, well no way does a sane man travel 500 miles round trip for fun. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

Think you maybe too short for her,think she may be hard to please anyway

It's just called having some standards I think.

I don't think anyone's height has anything to do with standards "

I don't fuck short guys-height is one of my standards.

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By *orth_hantscplCouple
over a year ago

camberley

Now you're saying you're a non smoker? We would be pissed off if we arranged to meet and it was obvious you were actually a smoker. Whatever you do you can't mask it I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

5f6 is definitely short. x

Ok you got me there, horizontally it's all good tho lol

Yeah, but London is a long ways away also x

Have car will travel also a great host. Where there is lust there is will , and where there is a will ... Nothing else matters

Lol, well no way does a sane man travel 500 miles round trip for fun. x"

500 Miles .... You got a very good point there . Checkmate.

Legs gave out chasing lol Officially unable to jump through any more hoops

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm 5,9 not 5,6 lol 3 inches makes all the difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here to offer you support OP. The reason why you're not getting much interest is simply because you're a man. It's a numbers game. More men than women.

As far as marriage is concerned, it's less important. But the forum is full of internet yellers.

Married women cheating on fab are empowering themselves from their areshole husbands and getting what they are entitled to.

Married men cheating are total shits who stopping their saintly wives from getting what they are entitled to.

Yet again, it's a numbers thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

Think you maybe too short for her,think she may be hard to please anyway

It's just called having some standards I think.

I don't think anyone's height has anything to do with standards

I don't fuck short guys-height is one of my standards."

I know I am no 6.7 Shaka Zulu, but lady your 5.2, are you into piggy backs or something lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

5f6 is definitely short. x

Ok you got me there, horizontally it's all good tho lol

Yeah, but London is a long ways away also x

Have car will travel also a great host. Where there is lust there is will , and where there is a will ... Nothing else matters

Lol, well no way does a sane man travel 500 miles round trip for fun. x

500 Miles .... You got a very good point there . Checkmate.

Legs gave out chasing lol Officially unable to jump through any more hoops "

Never want guys jumping through hoops, hence being specific about the guys I like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

Think you maybe too short for her,think she may be hard to please anyway

It's just called having some standards I think.

I don't think anyone's height has anything to do with standards

I don't fuck short guys-height is one of my standards.

I know I am no 6.7 Shaka Zulu, but lady your 5.2, are you into piggy backs or something lol"

Now you seem to be offended by my choice of taller men. Aww, there will be women out there for short guys, don't get upset about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

Think you maybe too short for her,think she may be hard to please anyway

It's just called having some standards I think.

I don't think anyone's height has anything to do with standards

I don't fuck short guys-height is one of my standards.

I know I am no 6.7 Shaka Zulu, but lady your 5.2, are you into piggy backs or something lol

Now you seem to be offended by my choice of taller men. Aww, there will be women out there for short guys, don't get upset about it."

Oh no not upset at all lady, it's all,good and I respect your preference even if it leaves shorty out in the cold.

If I could put my (wang) on top of my head I would be 6.2 easy so I am still smiling.

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By *carlet_heavenWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks


"Thanks for advise. So far"

Its adviCe…grrrr!

Advise is a VERB-a doing word.

Advice is a noun-a physical thing (ok, so you can't see it, but its still a thing)

In context:

'I felt the need to ask someone to advise me on my lack of success on FAB.'

'I was grateful to the nice people that took time to give me some good advice.'

You may wish to add…'Except for one angry lady, who's advice I didn't ask for, but who advised me on my grammar, anyway.'

Apologies, but its a pet hate & poor spelling/grammar will ALWAYS put me off a profile…even if he isn't ugly!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

Think you maybe too short for her,think she may be hard to please anyway

It's just called having some standards I think.

I don't think anyone's height has anything to do with standards

I don't fuck short guys-height is one of my standards."

Oh fair enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular."

Yeah, your pics and profile are oh so wonderful

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular."

Omg... There's been a recent thread which seems to describe you well lady.

;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Omg... There's been a recent thread which seems to describe you well lady.

;)"

Lmao I know the one

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

5f6 is definitely short. x

Ok you got me there, horizontally it's all good tho lol

Yeah, but London is a long ways away also x

Have car will travel also a great host. Where there is lust there is will , and where there is a will ... Nothing else matters

Lol, well no way does a sane man travel 500 miles round trip for fun. x

500 Miles .... You got a very good point there . Checkmate.

Legs gave out chasing lol Officially unable to jump through any more hoops "

You give up easy don't you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Omg... There's been a recent thread which seems to describe you well lady.

;)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Omg... There's been a recent thread which seems to describe you well lady.

;)

Lmao I know the one "

It's a secret...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow so many replies if only my inbox was like this lol

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Wow so many replies if only my inbox was like this lol "

I don't think it's about you anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

5f6 is definitely short. x

Ok you got me there, horizontally it's all good tho lol

Yeah, but London is a long ways away also x

Have car will travel also a great host. Where there is lust there is will , and where there is a will ... Nothing else matters

Lol, well no way does a sane man travel 500 miles round trip for fun. x

500 Miles .... You got a very good point there . Checkmate.

Legs gave out chasing lol Officially unable to jump through any more hoops

You give up easy don't you "

Just a bit of banter, I thought it was fun until it started getting a little twilight zone ish. Sorry for the high jack OP, remix your profile and you will be ok

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

5f6 is definitely short. x

Ok you got me there, horizontally it's all good tho lol

Yeah, but London is a long ways away also x

Have car will travel also a great host. Where there is lust there is will , and where there is a will ... Nothing else matters

Lol, well no way does a sane man travel 500 miles round trip for fun. x

500 Miles .... You got a very good point there . Checkmate.

Legs gave out chasing lol Officially unable to jump through any more hoops

You give up easy don't you

Just a bit of banter, I thought it was fun until it started getting a little twilight zone ish. Sorry for the high jack OP, remix your profile and you will be ok"

I'm with ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Non of the above ! Check me out lady

5f6 is definitely short. x

Ok you got me there, horizontally it's all good tho lol

Yeah, but London is a long ways away also x

Have car will travel also a great host. Where there is lust there is will , and where there is a will ... Nothing else matters

Lol, well no way does a sane man travel 500 miles round trip for fun. x

500 Miles .... You got a very good point there . Checkmate.

Legs gave out chasing lol Officially unable to jump through any more hoops "

Well done fella. Play your own game, not anyone elses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short, look fat, dress terribly, smoke, are married and have a a boring and silly sounding profile. Shock horror-you are not popular.

Omg... There's been a recent thread which seems to describe you well lady.

;)

Lmao I know the one "

Yup....

Some people just dont play nicely haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all good, everyone has their own type and we all have to respect that no matter how narrow minded the individual may be.

But what ever happened to the 'open minded' element to swinging ? Some people just need to lighten up and try to enjoy having a laugh with like minded people. Isnt that what this is supposed to be about ? Kick me in the nuts if I have got it wrong but .... Dam !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's all good, everyone has their own type and we all have to respect that no matter how narrow minded the individual may be.

But what ever happened to the 'open minded' element to swinging ? Some people just need to lighten up and try to enjoy having a laugh with like minded people. Isnt that what this is supposed to be about ? Kick me in the nuts if I have got it wrong but .... Dam ! "

Dont worry. Nuts are safe for now..just avoid the crazy ones

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