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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles " Can I just ask,are you actually looking to meet today as your profile indicates? | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles " What did you put as your requested meet for Sunday? | |||
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"I don't believe for one second that you failed to get a meet. There are thousands of men on here who would have been willing. I'm 100% certain if that. How picky/choosy are you?" We're not looking for guys, how picky or choosy? If we wouldn't pull them in Vanilla life then we won't swing with them | |||
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"I don't believe for one second that you failed to get a meet. There are thousands of men on here who would have been willing. I'm 100% certain if that. How picky/choosy are you?" They're not looking for single guys. | |||
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"I don't believe for one second that you failed to get a meet. There are thousands of men on here who would have been willing. I'm 100% certain if that. How picky/choosy are you?" They arent looking for men | |||
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"I don't believe for one second that you failed to get a meet. There are thousands of men on here who would have been willing. I'm 100% certain if that. How picky/choosy are you? We're not looking for guys, how picky or choosy? If we wouldn't pull them in Vanilla life then we won't swing with them" Ok, well the reason is due to the ratios and marketing. No females will meat just like that. You have to befriend them first. No woman will just turn up at a hotel. It takes time to befriend them. As for couples, they aren't as hard, but you need to message then and connect. | |||
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"Yeah we're looking to meet, we put our post as looking to meet for a few drinks, if all happy then back to our hotel, we were looking for couples and the elusive single female Purpose of the post, this site is a site to meet people, it seems to us that it's becoming near impossible to get meets on here " The only reason I ask is because there are some profiles on here who put their 'meet today' sign very regularly when looking for weekend fun. I can only assume it is as a means of trying to get more options for the weekend meets. The problem with this approach is that you see the 'meet today' sign so often you don't know when they are actually looking to meet. | |||
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"I don't believe for one second that you failed to get a meet. There are thousands of men on here who would have been willing. I'm 100% certain if that. How picky/choosy are you? We're not looking for guys, how picky or choosy? If we wouldn't pull them in Vanilla life then we won't swing with them Ok, well the reason is due to the ratios and marketing. No females will meat just like that. You have to befriend them first. No woman will just turn up at a hotel. It takes time to befriend them. As for couples, they aren't as hard, but you need to message then and connect." Women will 'meat'. Damn you phone...  | |||
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"Yeah we're looking to meet, we put our post as looking to meet for a few drinks, if all happy then back to our hotel, we were looking for couples and the elusive single female Purpose of the post, this site is a site to meet people, it seems to us that it's becoming near impossible to get meets on here " Yes, it's getting harder on here, lots of talk and no meet, must be us | |||
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"I don't believe for one second that you failed to get a meet. There are thousands of men on here who would have been willing. I'm 100% certain if that. How picky/choosy are you? We're not looking for guys, how picky or choosy? If we wouldn't pull them in Vanilla life then we won't swing with them Ok, well the reason is due to the ratios and marketing. No females will meat just like that. You have to befriend them first. No woman will just turn up at a hotel. It takes time to befriend them. As for couples, they aren't as hard, but you need to message then and connect." We've done all of the above, we've spoke for weeks etc, in our meet post it specified drinks and to see how we all felt before we went back to our hotel, we had a few messages but nothing solid, most pulling out at the last min, clubs are great as everyone is there for the same thing. | |||
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"Yeah we're looking to meet, we put our post as looking to meet for a few drinks, if all happy then back to our hotel, we were looking for couples and the elusive single female Purpose of the post, this site is a site to meet people, it seems to us that it's becoming near impossible to get meets on here Yes, it's getting harder on here, lots of talk and no meet, must be us" Here's another couple who we think are hot having the same problems on here, so it can't just be us xx | |||
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"I don't believe for one second that you failed to get a meet. There are thousands of men on here who would have been willing. I'm 100% certain if that. How picky/choosy are you? We're not looking for guys, how picky or choosy? If we wouldn't pull them in Vanilla life then we won't swing with them Ok, well the reason is due to the ratios and marketing. No females will meat just like that. You have to befriend them first. No woman will just turn up at a hotel. It takes time to befriend them. As for couples, they aren't as hard, but you need to message then and connect." I DO meet just like that. I'm not here to be befriended first. In most cases I prefer to meet in clubs to check there's connection but there's enough to see from the profile already to go for the hotel meet. Maybe I'm not a typical single fem  | |||
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"I don't believe for one second that you failed to get a meet. There are thousands of men on here who would have been willing. I'm 100% certain if that. How picky/choosy are you? We're not looking for guys, how picky or choosy? If we wouldn't pull them in Vanilla life then we won't swing with them Ok, well the reason is due to the ratios and marketing. No females will meat just like that. You have to befriend them first. No woman will just turn up at a hotel. It takes time to befriend them. As for couples, they aren't as hard, but you need to message then and connect. We've done all of the above, we've spoke for weeks etc, in our meet post it specified drinks and to see how we all felt before we went back to our hotel, we had a few messages but nothing solid, most pulling out at the last min, clubs are great as everyone is there for the same thing." Well that is annoying. I agree. But what I've found is thst with women, you really do have to fully connect. You have to befriend them properly. They have to trust you. Generally speaking, if you befriend her enough, she will stay true to her word. Couples, well, I generally find that, if you befriend the man, it will go well. | |||
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"I don't believe for one second that you failed to get a meet. There are thousands of men on here who would have been willing. I'm 100% certain if that. How picky/choosy are you? We're not looking for guys, how picky or choosy? If we wouldn't pull them in Vanilla life then we won't swing with them Ok, well the reason is due to the ratios and marketing. No females will meat just like that. You have to befriend them first. No woman will just turn up at a hotel. It takes time to befriend them. As for couples, they aren't as hard, but you need to message then and connect. I DO meet just like that. I'm not here to be befriended first. In most cases I prefer to meet in clubs to check there's connection but there's enough to see from the profile already to go for the hotel meet. Maybe I'm not a typical single fem "In my time here, I have never met a woman who would meet up just like that. I find that I have to prove myself first. But that's just how I see it. Maybe other men know something I don't.  | |||
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"Yeah we're looking to meet, we put our post as looking to meet for a few drinks, if all happy then back to our hotel, we were looking for couples and the elusive single female Purpose of the post, this site is a site to meet people, it seems to us that it's becoming near impossible to get meets on here Yes, it's getting harder on here, lots of talk and no meet, must be us Here's another couple who we think are hot having the same problems on here, so it can't just be us xx" Aww thanks, you are a hot couple too and the correct footie team, maybe when we get up to watch LFC we can meet up, go to Townhouse? On another note, finding a single lady off here is a waste of time, all our lady friends have been via clubs initially, meeting couples if you chat for more than 48 hours without arranging a meet, forget it, waste of time, if they are not excited about meeting you initially they will be even less so a few weeks down the line! | |||
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"Yeah we're looking to meet, we put our post as looking to meet for a few drinks, if all happy then back to our hotel, we were looking for couples and the elusive single female Purpose of the post, this site is a site to meet people, it seems to us that it's becoming near impossible to get meets on here Yes, it's getting harder on here, lots of talk and no meet, must be us" If we only looked for couples and single women , we would agree. Luckily we meet single guys too ..... | |||
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"Yeah we're looking to meet, we put our post as looking to meet for a few drinks, if all happy then back to our hotel, we were looking for couples and the elusive single female Purpose of the post, this site is a site to meet people, it seems to us that it's becoming near impossible to get meets on here " Do you mail people? | |||
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"We have quiet a few friends who we meet socially with, main problem is people say they will meet but pull out at the last minute, honestly we weren't that gutted as we had hours of fun back at the hotel, the main observation of the majority of people on here is all talk and no action, we won't play unless there is a physical attraction as well as personality attraction etc, as the meet post said we wanted to meet for drinks before any play went on " I understand that. But people will meet. Even rare women will meet. For me, I found that I had to get to know them well before any sort of meet, social or not. If anyone says they will meet and then don't turn up, give them a second chance, then push them to the side. Look for someone else. It's annoying I know. One lady I befriended a long time ago did this, backed out last minute. That's fine but I never messaged her again. | |||
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"Yeah we're looking to meet, we put our post as looking to meet for a few drinks, if all happy then back to our hotel, we were looking for couples and the elusive single female Purpose of the post, this site is a site to meet people, it seems to us that it's becoming near impossible to get meets on here Do you mail people?" Yeah we do, again promised the world and get nothing lol | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles " I think you're probably right to meet at clubs only. It does remove a lot of variables. Hope you get better luck. | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles " Book a hotel near us, advertise a meet and then call the police as we try to break down your door | |||
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"Just to clear the Daydreamer comment up.. We class a Daydreamers profile as this, No pics, No Veris, The absolute bullshit excuse of trying to upload pics but for some reason they are taking hours/days to be approved...oh and if anyone thinks that these profiles are genuine and not some Weirdo hiding behind a couples profile then I can see them buying a jar of magic beans "Trust your gut. If something doesn't seem quite right, stop chatting. Daydreamer types are easy to spot and avoid. How much for the beans...?  | |||
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"Just to clear the Daydreamer comment up.. We class a Daydreamers profile as this, No pics, No Veris, The absolute bullshit excuse of trying to upload pics but for some reason they are taking hours/days to be approved...oh and if anyone thinks that these profiles are genuine and not some Weirdo hiding behind a couples profile then I can see them buying a jar of magic beans
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles " It's surprising to read this. I thought couples get 1,000's of messages to go through. | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles I think you're probably right to meet at clubs only. It does remove a lot of variables. Hope you get better luck." We agree , but it does have to be said , it's a sad reflection on the site . | |||
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"No females will meat just like that. You have to befriend them first. No woman will just turn up at a hotel. It takes time to befriend them. As for couples, they aren't as hard, but you need to message then and connect." Not entirely true, I meet when I'm horny. Both my meets have been arranged a few hours before they happen. I'm more reluctant to arrange meets in advance incase I'm not horny although that is pretty rare these days  | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles " So failed to get any offers at all or failed to get any offers from aomone you wanted to fuck? Sounds a bit like you put the cart before the horse though booking a room on an awkward night then trying to arrange a meet. Why not get the meet then book the room. | |||
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"Yeah we're looking to meet, we put our post as looking to meet for a few drinks, if all happy then back to our hotel, we were looking for couples and the elusive single female Purpose of the post, this site is a site to meet people, it seems to us that it's becoming near impossible to get meets on here Yes, it's getting harder on here, lots of talk and no meet, must be us" Really ?? - you've have 300+ meets? - cannot be that hard for you!  | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles So failed to get any offers at all or failed to get any offers from aomone you wanted to fuck? Sounds a bit like you put the cart before the horse though booking a room on an awkward night then trying to arrange a meet. Why not get the meet then book the room." Not at all, we booked the room for ourselves to have a few drinks and a meal, we thought it would be good fun to get a meet, it wasn't the bee all and end all for the reason of our hotel visit, again we had offers but 90% from suspect profiles and 10% from profiles that didn't seem compatible for what we were all looking for | |||
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"Yeah we're looking to meet, we put our post as looking to meet for a few drinks, if all happy then back to our hotel, we were looking for couples and the elusive single female Purpose of the post, this site is a site to meet people, it seems to us that it's becoming near impossible to get meets on here " This site is just a contact site, a tool to contact others, nothing more | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles " Other than statuses and a meet did you do anything pro-active? Maybe seeking people out and messaging them yourself would be better than waiting for them to come to you? | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles Other than statuses and a meet did you do anything pro-active? Maybe seeking people out and messaging them yourself would be better than waiting for them to come to you?" Yeah we sent smoke signals out for a week lol, honestly we did message profiles etc | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles So failed to get any offers at all or failed to get any offers from aomone you wanted to fuck? Sounds a bit like you put the cart before the horse though booking a room on an awkward night then trying to arrange a meet. Why not get the meet then book the room. Not at all, we booked the room for ourselves to have a few drinks and a meal, we thought it would be good fun to get a meet, it wasn't the bee all and end all for the reason of our hotel visit, again we had offers but 90% from suspect profiles and 10% from profiles that didn't seem compatible for what we were all looking for" Why 90% from suspect profiles what you described as suspect before no pics, no veries, new etc there is a filter for each of those things so you should get none | |||
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"I think it depends on how you view the site. Meets can happen in many ways, it seems. We use fab to arrange to meet people at clubs. If they don't show, it's no big deal as there are generally other people to play with while we're there. We also use fab as a way of staying in contact with people we have already met. Oh, and we have also used the 'who is close to me' option on a couple of occasions to have socials. I guess we'd have a contingency of heading for the nearest club in the event of a no show at a hotel...." Oh we did have contingency plans, we went to a lap dance bar, the girl gave A one very hot & naughty dance | |||
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"I think it depends on how you view the site. Meets can happen in many ways, it seems. We use fab to arrange to meet people at clubs. If they don't show, it's no big deal as there are generally other people to play with while we're there. We also use fab as a way of staying in contact with people we have already met. Oh, and we have also used the 'who is close to me' option on a couple of occasions to have socials. I guess we'd have a contingency of heading for the nearest club in the event of a no show at a hotel.... Oh we did have contingency plans, we went to a lap dance bar, the girl gave A one very hot & naughty dance " Excellent | |||
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"Yeah we're looking to meet, we put our post as looking to meet for a few drinks, if all happy then back to our hotel, we were looking for couples and the elusive single female Purpose of the post, this site is a site to meet people, it seems to us that it's becoming near impossible to get meets on here Yes, it's getting harder on here, lots of talk and no meet, must be us Really ?? - you've have 300+ meets? - cannot be that hard for you! "90% are from club meets and hosting newbie night, very rarely have we been able to arrange a meet just from here x | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles " Do you ever try and chat to people first? I can't see the point of the meets section as I'd get absolutely zero out of fucking a random who came knocking at my door. | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles " Profile only 9 months old and 24 veris. You poor kids | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles Do you ever try and chat to people first? I can't see the point of the meets section as I'd get absolutely zero out of fucking a random who came knocking at my door. " Disclaimer: obviously if it works for you, great. But if not, I think I see a solution here. | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles " cool  | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles " So very true. | |||
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"It can be hard for most people, couples or singles to get a meet on fab. We struggle sometimes too." I agree, it's hard for a single woman to get a meet; especially if you don't play on the first meet (like me). | |||
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"It can be hard for most people, couples or singles to get a meet on fab. We struggle sometimes too. I agree, it's hard for a single woman to get a meet; especially if you don't play on the first meet (like me)." We would never expect anyone to play on a first meet, like ourselves if we meet we don't expect anything to happen, we will only play if ALL parties are happy and comfortable x | |||
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"I have often put up a meet request 'social only' I have never had any response (from people who meet my criteria) It seems that unless they are guaranteed sex, they are just not interested " Can't say we blame them | |||
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"I have often put up a meet request 'social only' I have never had any response (from people who meet my criteria) It seems that unless they are guaranteed sex, they are just not interested Can't say we blame them "I'm not going to garantee sex if I'm not interested am I? But some do I suppose | |||
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"We had a fab hotel room booked yesterday, we know Sunday's aren't the best nights to get a meet as people have family and work commitments. After advertising for 1 week and status updates for a week we failed to get a meet, this is becoming more common in this site, we've both decided that from now on we will only meet at clubs as that's where the real players are, this site is full of daydreamers and fake profiles " For what it's worth, you guys look great can't believe you found it hard to get a meet. We've had our share of let downs too, maybe swap stories some time? | |||
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