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By *lasscouple123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Preston

We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a swinger.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

I swapped my ex for a lawn mower

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a man to swap so I'm not a swinger per se.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Define swinger

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By *lasscouple123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Preston

Already that's only 25%, with us being the only ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a shagger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yup...i am

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By *lasscouple123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Preston


"Define swinger

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Wikipedia lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a shagger "
your a legend

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By *lasscouple123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Preston


"I am a shagger "

Shagger, but would you swap partners?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a shagger your a legend "
lol thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a shagger

Shagger, but would you swap partners? "
Yes I would if I had a partner. I am single you know.

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By *r appyMan
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

used to swing but had a bad meet, lost a really good lawnmower

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By *lasscouple123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Preston


"I am a shagger

Shagger, but would you swap partners? Yes I would if I had a partner. I am single you know."

Have you ever swung??? Have you ever had a gf?? That's not a dig... X

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

"Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping"

Are single people swingers? Or is it more nsa sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping"

Are single people swingers? Or is it more nsa sex

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We're facilitators

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about just sexually liberated people who enjoy the finer things, we dont generalise ourselves as swingers because its a very dated word, we love to be in the company of sexy people doing sexy stuff.. swapping doesnt have to be a factor all the time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a shagger

Shagger, but would you swap partners? Yes I would if I had a partner. I am single you know.

Have you ever swung??? Have you ever had a gf?? That's not a dig... X"
no I have never had swung and never had a gf. I prefer the single life you know. I like the no commitment sex life style, cos bodybuildin comes first you know, its a 24 hr job lol.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston


""Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping"

Are single people swingers? Or is it more nsa sex

We're facilitators "

Just an opinion..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping"

Are single people swingers? Or is it more nsa sex

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I have more strings with men I meet from here than a couple going to clubs and meeting different people every week. Being single means strings don't have to be drama or cause complications.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I swing most weekends...I like to get my stiff shaft out....

My golf pro says I need to work on getting my ball in the hole with a few lessstrokes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had a man I'd be a Swinger......I am trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Already that's only 25%, with us being the only ones"

You're in the minority then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't class myself as a swinger, I came on here to meet Women/couples, But since I have been on here I have been to a few clubs and I will be going to few more, I mainly use the forums for the banter and I like chatting to people from different parts of the country which I wouldn't normally do,

If I had a partner and she wanted to swing I would be up for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X"

Probably ones who don't have a partner to swap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have a man to swap so I'm not a swinger per se. "

This. Though hopefully that'll change in the future.

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By *adystephanieTV/TS
over a year ago

glos

Unfortunately I do not have a partner

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By *lasscouple123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Preston


"I am a shagger

Shagger, but would you swap partners? Yes I would if I had a partner. I am single you know.

Have you ever swung??? Have you ever had a gf?? That's not a dig... Xno I have never had swung and never had a gf. I prefer the single life you know. I like the no commitment sex life style, cos bodybuildin comes first you know, its a 24 hr job lol."

Fair enough... It certainly looks like the effort is paying off, that's dedication..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love swing went to club expecting to hear all rat pack stuff etc . Instead loads off people in towels or under garments some having sex . Oh well this beats frank Sinatra I thought lol !

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston


""Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping"

Are single people swingers? Or is it more nsa sex

I have more strings with men I meet from here than a couple going to clubs and meeting different people every week. Being single means strings don't have to be drama or cause complications."

Absolutely.. we all have our own opinions... nsa for me is no strings.. best way for me

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm not a swinger, I've been single for over 10 years after all, though I did try a couples (looking only once) and to find what we both found attractive was a no go, so if I did find someone it would probably be still looking for singles for each to enjoy separately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a shagger

Shagger, but would you swap partners? Yes I would if I had a partner. I am single you know.

Have you ever swung??? Have you ever had a gf?? That's not a dig... Xno I have never had swung and never had a gf. I prefer the single life you know. I like the no commitment sex life style, cos bodybuildin comes first you know, its a 24 hr job lol.

Fair enough... It certainly looks like the effort is paying off, that's dedication.."
Thanks and yeah it is. I have done it since I was 18, so pretty long time x.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I find the tone quite condescending OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope dont class myself as a swinger but was a swingi_g couple that recommended the site to myself.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Not sure what we are...We swap with couples, invite single men and women to come and play and sometimes she plays alone...All I know is that we're both happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

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By *lasscouple123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Preston


"I find the tone quite condescending OP"

Wtf, why??? Please explain...

The site is called 'fabSWINGERS'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the tone quite condescending OP

Wtf, why??? Please explain...

The site is called 'fabSWINGERS'"

But the site allows single people to join. There's a lot on here that isn't synonymous with swinging. It's just the name of a site for people to meet or keep in touch,whatever they want to call themselves. If you want actual swinging invite friends over for a party at yours and have a bowl set out for the keys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the tone quite condescending OP

Wtf, why??? Please explain...

The site is called 'fabSWINGERS'

But the site allows single people to join. There's a lot on here that isn't synonymous with swinging. It's just the name of a site for people to meet or keep in touch,whatever they want to call themselves. If you want actual swinging invite friends over for a party at yours and have a bowl set out for the keys. "

This

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By *lasscouple123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Preston


"I find the tone quite condescending OP

Wtf, why??? Please explain...

The site is called 'fabSWINGERS'

But the site allows single people to join. There's a lot on here that isn't synonymous with swinging. It's just the name of a site for people to meet or keep in touch,whatever they want to call themselves. If you want actual swinging invite friends over for a party at yours and have a bowl set out for the keys. "

Thanks for the tip... I didn't realise swinging hadn't progress since the 70s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the tone quite condescending OP

Wtf, why??? Please explain...

The site is called 'fabSWINGERS'

But the site allows single people to join. There's a lot on here that isn't synonymous with swinging. It's just the name of a site for people to meet or keep in touch,whatever they want to call themselves. If you want actual swinging invite friends over for a party at yours and have a bowl set out for the keys.

Thanks for the tip... I didn't realise swinging hadn't progress since the 70s"
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the tone quite condescending OP

Wtf, why??? Please explain...

The site is called 'fabSWINGERS'

But the site allows single people to join. There's a lot on here that isn't synonymous with swinging. It's just the name of a site for people to meet or keep in touch,whatever they want to call themselves. If you want actual swinging invite friends over for a party at yours and have a bowl set out for the keys.

Thanks for the tip... I didn't realise swinging hadn't progress since the 70s"

I noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do people on POF have to be fish?

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By *lasscouple123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Preston


"I find the tone quite condescending OP

Wtf, why??? Please explain...

The site is called 'fabSWINGERS'

But the site allows single people to join. There's a lot on here that isn't synonymous with swinging. It's just the name of a site for people to meet or keep in touch,whatever they want to call themselves. If you want actual swinging invite friends over for a party at yours and have a bowl set out for the keys. "

Btw, what was the question?? I wasn't saying there was anything wrong with coming on here looking for sex, I was just wondering how many are swingers.. ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I swap from one to another to another.....don't always have a partner but still see myself as a "swinger".... More a way of life, a lifestyle choice.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bugger I meant judgmental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people on POF have to be fish? "

I was barred for not being a fish. (Actually, it was because I wasn't "looking for love" )

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

We are swingers, and no that doesn't involve putting car keys in a bowl. Im surprised how people on this site can be so ignorant to think that that actually happens.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"I find the tone quite condescending OP

Wtf, why??? Please explain...

The site is called 'fabSWINGERS'"

Because you seem to confuse wife swapping with swinging. Asking who would swap partners does preclude single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people on POF have to be fish?

I was barred for not being a fish. (Actually, it was because I wasn't "looking for love" )"

I left when you got a message saying they are restricting people from messaging anyone more or less than 10 years of age than they are. Bloody cheek of him

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X"

So for couples,they are only swingers if they swap partners?

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By *rchie300Man
over a year ago

Hamworthy

I'm single so I've not got anyone too swap either ...

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich


"Do people on POF have to be fish? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are swingers, and no that doesn't involve putting car keys in a bowl. Im surprised how people on this site can be so ignorant to think that that actually happens. "

You mean they don't ????

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london


"Do people on POF have to be fish? "

Yes and have an outline on car boot

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I think singles can be swingers, if they have swapped before, or would swap in a future relationship.

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By *lasscouple123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Preston

I haven't done anything wrong.. how could I get all this abuse, it was a simple question but the pack of wolves love to descend... I'm off now, this bullying is getting tiresome...

Goodnight ppl... X

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"We are swingers, and no that doesn't involve putting car keys in a bowl. Im surprised how people on this site can be so ignorant to think that that actually happens.

You mean they don't ???? "

Nope, none of the ones I have ever met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are swingers, and no that doesn't involve putting car keys in a bowl. Im surprised how people on this site can be so ignorant to think that that actually happens.

You mean they don't ????

Nope, none of the ones I have ever met."

Well blow me down,and there's me thinking swinging was all about keys in a bowl. Thank you for enlightening me,I'll remember that if I ever get myself a husband

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't have a partner to swap so no I'm not a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i put the ger in swinger baby

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By *arker66Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X"

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By *a petite madameWoman
over a year ago

London / Essex


"I don't have a man to swap so I'm not a swinger per se. "

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I have in the past and I happily would swap again in the future I. Fact is prefer a relationship where I could

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Im not a swinger but they let me in so staying*

*until I get myself a bf then I'm fucking off...though I may stay for the titties

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

Don't think we are swingers. Don't really know what we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest if I had a partner who wanted to swing. Mind you I am actually on this site too find a partner to go swinging with.

But I am beginning to think that is a pipe dream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It wouldn't bother me in the slightest if I had a partner who wanted to swing. Mind you I am actually on this site too find a partner to go swinging with.

But I am beginning to think that is a pipe dream"

after just seven weeks?

takes more than that for some people just to get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't "swap partners" id have a foursome or moresome with them though

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By *adystephanieTV/TS
over a year ago

glos

I can just feel the lovvvvvvvve here ......just not getting any myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and ex wife liked to indulge in group sex..now single and enjoying the single life...but would do it all again

Ps. I've had sex on a garden swing..so guess I was a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im definitely far from a swinger..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im definitely far from a swinger.."

Move then

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

We don't swing but love being in sexual situations with others. Watching and being watched.... It's lovely. Xxxx

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By *s_4_uCouple
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

Personally I'd say it's more of a fitness physique than bodybuilding.

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By *s_4_uCouple
over a year ago

nottinghamshire


"I am a shagger

Shagger, but would you swap partners? Yes I would if I had a partner. I am single you know.

Have you ever swung??? Have you ever had a gf?? That's not a dig... Xno I have never had swung and never had a gf. I prefer the single life you know. I like the no commitment sex life style, cos bodybuildin comes first you know, its a 24 hr job lol.

Fair enough... It certainly looks like the effort is paying off, that's dedication..Thanks and yeah it is. I have done it since I was 18, so pretty long time x."

Personally I'd say it was more of a fitness physique than body building.

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By *exy_HornyCouple
over a year ago

Leigh


"we swing"

As do we

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By *irentwoCouple
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"We are swingers, and no that doesn't involve putting car keys in a bowl. Im surprised how people on this site can be so ignorant to think that that actually happens. "

Would love to try it!? x

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By *luey manMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe


"I swapped my ex for a lawn mower"
That's a good deal - I got sweet fa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a swinger but definitely a sexual deviant.

Back in the day if you didn't have a wife to swap you couldn't be a swinger lol.

The swinging scene has changed dramatically since then and the rise of the Internet has been a big factor.

Far too many labels are used these days imo and to be a swinger is not like becoming a freemason or something similar lol.

Some people still possess old skool attitudes but that's their prerogative we can all have some fun, swinger or not

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X"

I like to fuck the other guys wife and he can watch if he behaves himself

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X"

I don't have a partner to swap.

But I go to swingers clubs and have group sex.

We all know a single can't technically be a swinger. But then, how would people have 3sums?!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm not a swinger as my wife doesn't like sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem. "

Absolutely this! Nicely put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

I always thought you had to be married to be a swinger met other people with there partner for adult fun single people looking for sex was called going out shagging year,s ago so in fact every one is a swinger

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By *lasscouple123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Preston


"I always thought you had to be married to be a swinger met other people with there partner for adult fun single people looking for sex was called going out shagging year,s ago so in fact every one is a swinger"

Good point.. you are not allowed to think and write about it in here though.. people just can't reply to a normal question without being aggressive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always thought you had to be married to be a swinger met other people with there partner for adult fun single people looking for sex was called going out shagging year,s ago so in fact every one is a swinger

Good point.. you are not allowed to think and write about it in here though.. people just can't reply to a normal question without being aggressive"

OP the green arrow is a marvellous thing. You seem to deliberately set out to antagonise people with your posts yet can't take it when people reply in kind. Maybe you should think before you post. Or at least grow a pair when people reply in a similar manner!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X"

It's two separate things. Swinging isn't just about partner swapping anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't done anything wrong.. how could I get all this abuse, it was a simple question but the pack of wolves love to descend... I'm off now, this bullying is getting tiresome...

Goodnight ppl... X"

What bullying? Does an answer (from the vast majority) that disagrees with your own point of view constitute bullying? It doesn't in my dictionary....but swearing at other forumites certainly does!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"used to swing but had a bad meet, lost a really good lawnmower"

Similar experience here, did you hear about my shoe?

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By *lasscouple123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Preston


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X

It's two separate things. Swinging isn't just about partner swapping anymore. "

Ok, I now realise that swinging is the same as shagging loads 1 to 1 every weekend, which I didn't know when I posted the normal (in my eyes) question at the start of the thread.. Sorry for asking...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people on POF have to be fish? "

Or Match dot com swan vestas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X"
82% my cock swings that's all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is not about shagging loads 1 to 1. But it can be and there's nothing wrong with that if it's what people want to do, there's no need to be so sneery about it. What about single people who join a couple, a single man who joins a gangbang, four strangers who have a foursome at a swingers club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X

It's two separate things. Swinging isn't just about partner swapping anymore.

Ok, I now realise that swinging is the same as shagging loads 1 to 1 every weekend, which I didn't know when I posted the normal (in my eyes) question at the start of the thread.. Sorry for asking..."

I don't think anyone suggested that but if I have a threesome with a couple, what is that called? It's not swinging apparently because I haven't got a partner to swing with, but it's also not shagging one to one.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"Ok, I now realise that swinging is the same as shagging loads 1 to 1 every weekend, which I didn't know when I posted the normal (in my eyes) question at the start of the thread.. Sorry for asking..."

We don't play out every weekend and most often attend parties where I might wander off and play with anyone who takes my fancy....sometimes a few people at the same time as will my husband so it's hardly 1 to 1

Swinging is whatever you want it to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't done anything wrong.. how could I get all this abuse, it was a simple question but the pack of wolves love to descend... I'm off now, this bullying is getting tiresome...

Goodnight ppl... X"
you bring a lot of this abuse on yourself though you post negative comments ,the majority here are singles and are single males ,couples form the basis of swinging but couples want singles ,everyone had different requirements ,some achieve them some don't ,sometimes you go on a meet and you don't fancy them so in that event you were nearly a swinger

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I'm not a swinger.

I'm not going to apologise for my 'I'll eat off your plate but you can't eat off mine mentality'

I'm a single woman who wants to have fun. However I know if I got into a relationship swinging would be the last thing on my mind.

I do have huge respect for couples who do though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not a swinger, I am single and looking for some sexy fun. Sadly swinging in these parts is harder to find than last night's six lotto numbers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X

It's two separate things. Swinging isn't just about partner swapping anymore.

Ok, I now realise that swinging is the same as shagging loads 1 to 1 every weekend, which I didn't know when I posted the normal (in my eyes) question at the start of the thread.. Sorry for asking..."

Swingers can go out every weekend and individually shag loads of people 1 to 1. Some have only one person join them so it's 2 to 1. Some don't go to clubs and just invite a man or woman to join only one of the couple,with the other watching or not being anywhere in the vicinity of them. Some only consider themselves and others swingers if they are a married couple who only meet other married couples and both swap. Some only meet for soft swap. Some aren't on internet sites with swinging in the title. People do what they like and call themselves what they want. I like it that way.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


" I like to fuck the other guys wife and he can watch if he behaves himself"

Huh! What does that mean??

Oh, that's the cuck stuff I read about and you're playing to the bull character, get it now.

..............

We see ourselves as swingers although it's a "hotwife/candaulist set up for us with her playing primarily. Suppose it's how you view yourself in the scene, labels can be what you make of them.

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By *lasscouple123 OP   Man
over a year ago

Preston

I apologise for the 'rock' comment, I should have acted more mature.. drinks and forums are a bad mixture....

I certainly don't apologize for the original thread question, there was absolutely no nastiness intended and to be honest, a lot of you lot should stand up and apologize also for the rudeness, will we see it, will we heck!!!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"

We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X

It's two separate things. Swinging isn't just about partner swapping anymore.

Ok, I now realise that swinging is the same as shagging loads 1 to 1 every weekend, which I didn't know when I posted the normal (in my eyes) question at the start of the thread.. Sorry for asking...

Swingers can go out every weekend and individually shag loads of people 1 to 1. Some have only one person join them so it's 2 to 1. Some don't go to clubs and just invite a man or woman to join only one of the couple,with the other watching or not being anywhere in the vicinity of them. Some only consider themselves and others swingers if they are a married couple who only meet other married couples and both swap. Some only meet for soft swap. Some aren't on internet sites with swinging in the title. People do what they like and call themselves what they want. I like it that way. "

1000% Agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X

It's two separate things. Swinging isn't just about partner swapping anymore.

Ok, I now realise that swinging is the same as shagging loads 1 to 1 every weekend, which I didn't know when I posted the normal (in my eyes) question at the start of the thread.. Sorry for asking...

Swingers can go out every weekend and individually shag loads of people 1 to 1. Some have only one person join them so it's 2 to 1. Some don't go to clubs and just invite a man or woman to join only one of the couple,with the other watching or not being anywhere in the vicinity of them. Some only consider themselves and others swingers if they are a married couple who only meet other married couples and both swap. Some only meet for soft swap. Some aren't on internet sites with swinging in the title. People do what they like and call themselves what they want. I like it that way. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are deffo on here for full swap filthy fun. After all I'm sure it's called "fabswingers" so therefore let's have a fabulous swinging time we are both very open minded and up for most things also having a party soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X

It's two separate things. Swinging isn't just about partner swapping anymore.

Ok, I now realise that swinging is the same as shagging loads 1 to 1 every weekend, which I didn't know when I posted the normal (in my eyes) question at the start of the thread.. Sorry for asking..."

That's ok it's not your fault you're clueless.

This thread is a perfect example of why I will never call myself a Swinger. I don't ever want people to be thinking I'm like you.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"I find the tone quite condescending OP

Wtf, why??? Please explain...

The site is called 'fabSWINGERS'

But the site allows single people to join. There's a lot on here that isn't synonymous with swinging. It's just the name of a site for people to meet or keep in touch,whatever they want to call themselves. If you want actual swinging invite friends over for a party at yours and have a bowl set out for the keys.

Thanks for the tip... I didn't realise swinging hadn't progress since the 70s"

It appears so, as swinging isn't all about couples now. My Google tells me swingers are "sexually liberated or promiscuous".

If your very narrow view on what constitutes a swinger was used as a means to take all "non-swingers" off the site there wouldn't be many profiles left at all.

I mean all the couples looking for singles would have to fuck off straight away.. How dare they not look for couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I swing most weekends...I like to get my stiff shaft out....

My golf pro says I need to work on getting my ball in the hole with a few lessstrokes. "

Nah, tell him you prefer to prolong the session and not finish too fast.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X"

Its not a sex site, its a swingers site. The admin allow single men and women to join because there is a huge percentage of couples who wish to play with single men and women. As all these people are engaged in the swinging lifestyle why can't they be called swingers, swingles, shaggers, or whatever the hell they want to call themselves?

OK, you are more than entitled to hold your own opinion as to what you call others, but advising them that they cannot call themselves it is a bit rude.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE


"We are deffo on here for full swap filthy fun. After all I'm sure it's called "fabswingers" so therefore let's have a fabulous swinging time we are both very open minded and up for most things also having a party soon "

snap to most but add a bit of social chat with like minded people and let the fun began..connie x

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

If you are going to attack a person don't be surprised if they answer back.

If you are going to attack or retaliate, don't be surprised if you get a time out, report the posts instead.

The OP's question is a good one, I am not sure why so many people need to get their knickers in a twist.

Play nice please

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

To the OP....I think there are a lot of people about who wouldn't swap partners if they were a couple.

For us we have only ever had 3somes ( or 4somes but that being 2 extra men rather than another couple) so I suppose we are half swingers as Mr Ruggers let men do me

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

The answer to this question quite simply is: 22.4%

Thanks

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By *oyuer99Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

I would swing with people off here but I need to know a little about them and to have a little trust that they are discrete clean and at least of marginal sanity.

If being choosey means I am not a real swinger well I will live with the label.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont class myself as a swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are going to attack a person don't be surprised if they answer back.

If you are going to attack or retaliate, don't be surprised if you get a time out, report the posts instead.

The OP's question is a good one, I am not sure why so many people need to get their knickers in a twist.

Play nice please "

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich


"Im not a swinger but they let me in so staying*

*until I get myself a bf then I'm fucking off...though I may stay for the titties "

lol

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"i dont class myself as a swingers "

I don't, either. If I had a partner, I wouldn't want other people enjoying her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the OP....I think there are a lot of people about who wouldn't swap partners if they were a couple.

For us we have only ever had 3somes ( or 4somes but that being 2 extra men rather than another couple) so I suppose we are half swingers as Mr Ruggers let men do me "

That's so romantic.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"To the OP....I think there are a lot of people about who wouldn't swap partners if they were a couple.

For us we have only ever had 3somes ( or 4somes but that being 2 extra men rather than another couple) so I suppose we are half swingers as Mr Ruggers let men do me

That's so romantic. "

He is so good to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the OP....I think there are a lot of people about who wouldn't swap partners if they were a couple.

For us we have only ever had 3somes ( or 4somes but that being 2 extra men rather than another couple) so I suppose we are half swingers as Mr Ruggers let men do me

That's so romantic.

He is so good to me "

Does he buy you flowers?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Only when he has been naughty

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"Only when he has been naughty "

Or conveniently when driving past a garage. ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X"

There is nothing wrong with your question. Some of the responses have made me go .

In reading your question I have exchanged "swapping" for "sharing". For me it encompasses couples who swing wanting one person to join them or many.

For those who have slated your "opinion of swinging". I say that an opinion has not been stated but merely implied (through the term swapping). In fact your question presents an openness to learn.

I agree you do not owe an apology for the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hang about on a swingers site..not sure that makes me a swinger

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"The answer to this question quite simply is: 22.4%

Thanks"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The answer to this question quite simply is: 22.4%

Thanks

"
I think its 87.6%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem. "

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the tone quite condescending OP

Wtf, why??? Please explain...

The site is called 'fabSWINGERS'

But the site allows single people to join. There's a lot on here that isn't synonymous with swinging. It's just the name of a site for people to meet or keep in touch,whatever they want to call themselves. If you want actual swinging invite friends over for a party at yours and have a bowl set out for the keys.

Thanks for the tip... I didn't realise swinging hadn't progress since the 70s

It appears so, as swinging isn't all about couples now. My Google tells me swingers are "sexually liberated or promiscuous".

If your very narrow view on what constitutes a swinger was used as a means to take all "non-swingers" off the site there wouldn't be many profiles left at all.

I mean all the couples looking for singles would have to fuck off straight away.. How dare they not look for couples "

It looks to me that labelling yourself a swinger to some people means you're not just shagging about,like everyone who isn't. A justification for casual sex to make them feel superior to shaggers. It's no different,however many people are involved,or in whatever environment. We're all having a great time having sex with other people. Embrace the liberation and stop trying to justify your actions. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a jungle VIP

Does that count.

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By *ullbackbuttMan
over a year ago

Purton


""Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping"

Are single people swingers? Or is it more nsa sex

We're facilitators "

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By *ullbackbuttMan
over a year ago

Purton


"Don't have a partner to swap so no I'm not a swinger. "

Would be happy to be your partner and then we could both be swingers

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

not meeting; only here for forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not meeting; only here for forums "

Not even a couple with a combined height of 11'1"?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So by definition of a swinger I'm not one on this account. However if I logged off, logged back in with my couples account and commented on this thread I would be. So what actually am I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinger. I'm single as we speak so naughty fun times with a male friend and couples at parties or at clubs.

Would I have a relationship with a guy if it was one to one all the time. No would always like to invite others in

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"not meeting; only here for forums

Not even a couple with a combined height of 11'1"?

-Courtney"

But will the two of you combined and me be the same height when laying down?

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By *rs TootyWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

When my ex and I originally joined it was to find someone to join us for an mfm.

Swapping partners is not my thing.. I'm too selfish..

So no, not a swinger.. I imagine if it was purely swingers on here the numbers would drop dramatically..

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Surely swinging is about sexual liberation don't they have singles nights in swingers clubs??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was married I would have been happy to dump my husband on some poor wife. If the husband was hot and we had an agreement that no matter what happened between him and her I don't leave until I'm finished with the husband

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So by definition of a swinger I'm not one on this account. However if I logged off, logged back in with my couples account and commented on this thread I would be. So what actually am I "

Magic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So by definition of a swinger I'm not one on this account. However if I logged off, logged back in with my couples account and commented on this thread I would be. So what actually am I

Magic! "

Oh I like the idea of being that

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag."

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it.

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

To me, swinging isn't about relationship status, or about what you do and with whom. It's a state of mind. It's a belief that it's acceptable to have recreational sex with people outside a committed relationship. So I go to swingers clubs, and I've never been refused entry yet And likewise Fabswingers allows me to join, even though I am single.

However, many couples cam be precious about the label 'swinger', insisting that it can only apply to couples who swap. So to avoid offending them I sometimes call myself a swingle-r.

But personally, I don't see the need for labels. I am me, not a label.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the tone quite condescending OP

Wtf, why??? Please explain...

The site is called 'fabSWINGERS'

But the site allows single people to join. There's a lot on here that isn't synonymous with swinging. It's just the name of a site for people to meet or keep in touch,whatever they want to call themselves. If you want actual swinging invite friends over for a party at yours and have a bowl set out for the keys.

Thanks for the tip... I didn't realise swinging hadn't progress since the 70s

It appears so, as swinging isn't all about couples now. My Google tells me swingers are "sexually liberated or promiscuous".

If your very narrow view on what constitutes a swinger was used as a means to take all "non-swingers" off the site there wouldn't be many profiles left at all.

I mean all the couples looking for singles would have to fuck off straight away.. How dare they not look for couples

It looks to me that labelling yourself a swinger to some people means you're not just shagging about,like everyone who isn't. A justification for casual sex to make them feel superior to shaggers. It's no different,however many people are involved,or in whatever environment. We're all having a great time having sex with other people. Embrace the liberation and stop trying to justify your actions. It's nothing to be ashamed of. "

We're all shaggers. No matter what the uppity people like to tell themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it. "

I don't see why it would be a problem for non-swingers to be on here. Can you enlighten me please. A problem for who exactly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on this site before for a fair few years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it.

I don't see why it would be a problem for non-swingers to be on here. Can you enlighten me please. A problem for who exactly? "

I may have missed something but I didn't see anyone attacking the OP. Posts may have been removed that I missed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X"

I'm not a swinger

I'm single

I just like young men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about just sexually liberated people who enjoy the finer things, we dont generalise ourselves as swingers because its a very dated word, we love to be in the company of sexy people doing sexy stuff.. swapping doesnt have to be a factor all the time x "

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I find the tone quite condescending OP

Wtf, why??? Please explain...

The site is called 'fabSWINGERS'

Because you seem to confuse wife swapping with swinging. Asking who would swap partners does preclude single men.

"

I think the more interesting question to turn the question back on the OP would have been.....

"when the OP is looking for single women, as is said in the profile.... are they "swinging" but the single person not?"........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We know it's a sex site but what percentage are not swingers??

For example, how many men/women come on here looking for sex but wouldn't dream of swapping partners?? X"

Is this part of the infamous Sydney University study of the fab swingers site?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Maybe I should leave then.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it.

I don't see why it would be a problem for non-swingers to be on here. Can you enlighten me please. A problem for who exactly? "

Well say you have a couple who swing separately as well as together, and the man is looking for a single woman to meet. If the majority of single women are not swingers and for example dont want to meet married men, or men in a relationship, it can be incredibly difficult to find the single women who are swingers.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I find the tone quite condescending OP

Wtf, why??? Please explain...

The site is called 'fabSWINGERS'

Because you seem to confuse wife swapping with swinging. Asking who would swap partners does preclude single men.

I think the more interesting question to turn the question back on the OP would have been.....

"when the OP is looking for single women, as is said in the profile.... are they "swinging" but the single person not?"........

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They are; but she is just a 'shagger'

In technically correct terms, the guy in the couple will be the 'shagger' and the two women, 'shagees'.

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over a year ago


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it.

I don't see why it would be a problem for non-swingers to be on here. Can you enlighten me please. A problem for who exactly?

Well say you have a couple who swing separately as well as together, and the man is looking for a single woman to meet. If the majority of single women are not swingers and for example dont want to meet married men, or men in a relationship, it can be incredibly difficult to find the single women who are swingers. "

But would that be any different if all those people weren't on here? Wouldn't there be the same (small) number of single women who ate swingers? Just as part of a smaller total population?

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over a year ago


"Swinging is not about shagging loads 1 to 1. But it can be and there's nothing wrong with that if it's what people want to do, there's no need to be so sneery about it. What about single people who join a couple, a single man who joins a gangbang, four strangers who have a foursome at a swingers club? "

Very well put x

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over a year ago


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it.

I don't see why it would be a problem for non-swingers to be on here. Can you enlighten me please. A problem for who exactly?

Well say you have a couple who swing separately as well as together, and the man is looking for a single woman to meet. If the majority of single women are not swingers and for example dont want to meet married men, or men in a relationship, it can be incredibly difficult to find the single women who are swingers.

But would that be any different if all those people weren't on here? Wouldn't there be the same (small) number of single women who ate swingers? Just as part of a smaller total population?"

Oops just noticed my typo single women who *are swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me, swinging isn't about relationship status, or about what you do and with whom. It's a state of mind. It's a belief that it's acceptable to have recreational sex with people outside a committed relationship. So I go to swingers clubs, and I've never been refused entry yet And likewise Fabswingers allows me to join, even though I am single.

However, many couples cam be precious about the label 'swinger', insisting that it can only apply to couples who swap. So to avoid offending them I sometimes call myself a swingle-r.

But personally, I don't see the need for labels. I am me, not a label."

In total agreement here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't class myself as a swinger tbh..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not meeting; only here for forums

Not even a couple with a combined height of 11'1"?

-Courtney

But will the two of you combined and me be the same height when laying down? "

Depends how you stack them.

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over a year ago


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it.

I don't see why it would be a problem for non-swingers to be on here. Can you enlighten me please. A problem for who exactly?

Well say you have a couple who swing separately as well as together, and the man is looking for a single woman to meet. If the majority of single women are not swingers and for example dont want to meet married men, or men in a relationship, it can be incredibly difficult to find the single women who are swingers. "

They have would be a problem for the couple and not a non swinger. Or to be exact,a problem for the man of the couple. In the spirit of the OP would you be swingers when you meet alone? Or just looking for singles to shag? Also,you could find a couple who meet as singles too,problem solved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it. "

It always seems to be people who give themselves specific titles criticising, belittling or rubbishing other people who don't anoint themselves with the same title.

It's like designer label wars here sometimes.

I'm a Pierre Cardin kind of guy. I wouldn't want to be associated with someone who wears George at Asda.

Labels titles names blah blah blah bollocks.

We're all people looking for other people.

We all have different needs, we're all here to satisfy said needs.

I don't give a fuck what someone calls me, as long as they call me and give me a fuck.

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over a year ago


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it. "

Not attacked anyone? Have I misread something?

I really don't care what I am - I just wanna get laid!

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

used to swap and still will when I meet my partner cant beat both of us get fk

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over a year ago


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it.

Not attacked anyone? Have I misread something?

I really don't care what I am - I just wanna get laid! "

Waves........

I'm in Bury the week after next if you'd like to chat.

Apologies for the thread hijack op, I'm trying to do something naughty between two consenting non labelled adults.....

Which let's be honest, is why we're here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it.

I don't see why it would be a problem for non-swingers to be on here. Can you enlighten me please. A problem for who exactly?

Well say you have a couple who swing separately as well as together, and the man is looking for a single woman to meet. If the majority of single women are not swingers and for example dont want to meet married men, or men in a relationship, it can be incredibly difficult to find the single women who are swingers.

But would that be any different if all those people weren't on here? Wouldn't there be the same (small) number of single women who are swingers? Just as part of a smaller total population?"

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it. "

I've not actually seen anyone point out why having single people on this site is a problem.

Given that a large number of couples are looking to meet single women, I'm not sure why any couples are objecting.

It's easy enough to use filters to define what you're looking for and prevent those you're not looking for from contacting you.

So, these problems that having singles on this site causes the "genuine swingers", could you summarise them please because I haven't seen them on the thread?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I find the tone quite condescending OP

Wtf, why??? Please explain...

The site is called 'fabSWINGERS'

But the site allows single people to join. There's a lot on here that isn't synonymous with swinging. It's just the name of a site for people to meet or keep in touch,whatever they want to call themselves. If you want actual swinging invite friends over for a party at yours and have a bowl set out for the keys.

Thanks for the tip... I didn't realise swinging hadn't progress since the 70s

It appears so, as swinging isn't all about couples now. My Google tells me swingers are "sexually liberated or promiscuous".

If your very narrow view on what constitutes a swinger was used as a means to take all "non-swingers" off the site there wouldn't be many profiles left at all.

I mean all the couples looking for singles would have to fuck off straight away.. How dare they not look for couples

It looks to me that labelling yourself a swinger to some people means you're not just shagging about,like everyone who isn't. A justification for casual sex to make them feel superior to shaggers. It's no different,however many people are involved,or in whatever environment. We're all having a great time having sex with other people. Embrace the liberation and stop trying to justify your actions. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

We're all shaggers. No matter what the uppity people like to tell themselves. "

Except when those uppity hot men decline my fancy a fuck messages. No shaggerating for me then

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it.

I don't see why it would be a problem for non-swingers to be on here. Can you enlighten me please. A problem for who exactly?

Well say you have a couple who swing separately as well as together, and the man is looking for a single woman to meet. If the majority of single women are not swingers and for example dont want to meet married men, or men in a relationship, it can be incredibly difficult to find the single women who are swingers. "

So the man is a swinger even when he meets alone? And the woman is a swinger if she'll meet married or attached men?

How is that actually about swinging, which couples seem to be claiming is couples swapping partners.

It sounds to me like a complaint about single women who dare to decide they don't want to meet married men.

If all the single people were removed, the married man would be shit out of luck because the site would now be solely for "genuine swingers", i.e. couples that want to meet couples.

The suggestion that willingness to meet married people by themselves is what makes a woman a swinger is one of the most ludicrous things I've heard in ages!

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it.

I don't see why it would be a problem for non-swingers to be on here. Can you enlighten me please. A problem for who exactly?

Well say you have a couple who swing separately as well as together, and the man is looking for a single woman to meet. If the majority of single women are not swingers and for example dont want to meet married men, or men in a relationship, it can be incredibly difficult to find the single women who are swingers.

So the man is a swinger even when he meets alone? And the woman is a swinger if she'll meet married or attached men?

How is that actually about swinging, which couples seem to be claiming is couples swapping partners.

It sounds to me like a complaint about single women who dare to decide they don't want to meet married men.

If all the single people were removed, the married man would be shit out of luck because the site would now be solely for "genuine swingers", i.e. couples that want to meet couples.

The suggestion that willingness to meet married people by themselves is what makes a woman a swinger is one of the most ludicrous things I've heard in ages!"

The responses from all the non swingers are what I mean about people getting attacked if they say there is a problem with non swingers on here!

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over a year ago


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it.

I don't see why it would be a problem for non-swingers to be on here. Can you enlighten me please. A problem for who exactly?

Well say you have a couple who swing separately as well as together, and the man is looking for a single woman to meet. If the majority of single women are not swingers and for example dont want to meet married men, or men in a relationship, it can be incredibly difficult to find the single women who are swingers.

So the man is a swinger even when he meets alone? And the woman is a swinger if she'll meet married or attached men?

How is that actually about swinging, which couples seem to be claiming is couples swapping partners.

It sounds to me like a complaint about single women who dare to decide they don't want to meet married men.

If all the single people were removed, the married man would be shit out of luck because the site would now be solely for "genuine swingers", i.e. couples that want to meet couples.

The suggestion that willingness to meet married people by themselves is what makes a woman a swinger is one of the most ludicrous things I've heard in ages!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, "all the non-swingers" are not attacking you for asking the question. Some of them are just asking questions to try to understand the argument you're making better.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I didn't attack anyone.

People questioning a statement or even disagreeing with it is not an attack.

I do not understand the claim that single people on this site cause problems for "genuine swingers". I'm asking for clarification. You've given one example but it didn't make sense to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a swinger. I don't pretend to be a swinger. Nobody is lulled into any pretence that I'm a swinger. But the site is big enough for everyone so I don't see that as a problem.

Same here.

I don't want a partner - just a shag.

It always seems to be the people who don't call themselves swingers, who don't see the problem with being on a swingers site. But if a swinger points out when it can be a problem for non-swingers to be on a swingers site, they tend to get attacked for it.

I don't see why it would be a problem for non-swingers to be on here. Can you enlighten me please. A problem for who exactly?

Well say you have a couple who swing separately as well as together, and the man is looking for a single woman to meet. If the majority of single women are not swingers and for example dont want to meet married men, or men in a relationship, it can be incredibly difficult to find the single women who are swingers. "

It always seems to boil down to what the menfolk want. Another of the infamous 1970's Swinger beliefs. "No wife to swap/ use as currency for a shag then they're not Swingers."

Thankfully not all swingers think the same.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It seems to me that the man in most couples has a problem with single men on here because they just want to shag his wife without offering anything in return (for him). They're also competition when it comes to meeting single women.

Funnily enough, these same men are entirely happy with the concept of there being single women on here because he can play with them and he can get off on watching them put on an exhibition with his wife for him. These men don't seem so concerned that the single woman doesn't bring a partner for the wife to play with.

I wonder why.

Yup, it's mostly about what the men want.

In general, the problem, I strongly suspect, isn't single people here, it's single men. Just like at couples nights.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Dee Viante, you seem to be confusing single, with non swinger.

I assume your last post was aimed at me, no I don't see single men as competition, or want single women to come and put on a show.

What I am talking about is non-swinging singles who just want to meet other non-swinging singles.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

How can singles who want to meet other singles possibly cause a problem for couples?

So, to clarify, you're saying single people should only be on this site if they're willing to meet couples?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Oh and no, my previous comment was an observation and not aimed at anyone specifically.

It seems to me still that couples, or maybe just the men in couples, don't want anyone here that they can't make us of (for want of a better phrase).

If they won't meet couples, they shouldn't be here.

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