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By *amesbig2015 OP   Man
over a year ago

Weston-super-Mare

Hey fab, so I had a met, not going to go into details or name and shame.

Was a good met, nice 1 hour and half hot and sexy fun, ending with a snog a "see you soon" and a "I'll verify you".

So now a week on and no verification, I have sent two very polite messages asking/reminding them to verifiy me if they get a free min. Both messages ignored and deleted

If they dont want to meet again thats fine, but at least have the dedecency of repling!

So can anything spread some light on this? Is this normal on this site?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


" Is this normal on this site?"

all human behaviour is displayed on here, the normal and the rest

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Yes. No one has to verify anyone even after a meet and no one is under any obligation to reply to a message.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

You're not entitled to a verification I am afraid.

I always assume its because they didn't enjoy the meet so don't arrange to meet them again.

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By *exysarah69Woman
over a year ago

gloucestershire

Some people don't like to veri! I don't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly it happens. Best thing you can do is forget and move on. You've done all you can do. Not everyone is like that so better luck with the next one

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By *tudmcmuffinMan
over a year ago

Swindon

I've seen this can happen on here, personally all my meets have verified me as I have them. Your meet may verify you at some point but if not I wouldn't worry just move on to the next victim...err I mean meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it is very common on here, happened to me as well.

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By *amesbig2015 OP   Man
over a year ago

Weston-super-Mare

But wouldnt it be easier for everyone if you simply say "I didnt enjoy the meet, dont want to meet again blablabla" instead of just ignoring the person?

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

I wouldn't worry about it. Sometimes it can be for background reasons other than someone being rude.

Live, learn & leave it there

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Yes, it is very common on here, happened to me as well."

Me too. I decided I'd been a shit shag after all haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes guys ask me to verify them and i say 'sure, verify me back' and they don't and display the veri. Not sure if it's the site blocks fucking this up coz i know it's fucked up some already.

Maybe check she hasn't already verified you and it's not gone through?

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I tend not to verify immediately, usually a few days to weeks later.

I realise its annoying to some but I find it more annoying when some people can draw a timeline of who they believe you played with, when, what part of the country and hence how often you play. As if they manage your diary.

By staggering veris, it throws the stalkers and nosy Parker's off so they really can't tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But wouldnt it be easier for everyone if you simply say "I didnt enjoy the meet, dont want to meet again blablabla" instead of just ignoring the person?"

Actually it's easier just to ignore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its not normal - it's rude and ignorant .

Sorry it happened .

Don't think we are all like that

Chin up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has the other person got any other verifications, themselves? - If not, they might not be able to leave you one.

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS
over a year ago

Epsom

Yes happens to all of us. I recently met a couple and after verifing them received nothing, not even a "nice but not for us!" so you're far from alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, it is very common on here, happened to me as well.

Me too. I decided I'd been a shit shag after all haha "
lol yes, that is a good one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has the other person got any other verifications, themselves? - If not, they might not be able to leave you one."

That doesn't sound like the case if they are also ignoring and deleting the messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that keen on veries anyway really. I have a couple to prove I'm real, but I don't want dozens or I'll look like a slut. I can do without the treat her with the respect she deserves and don't pass this one by remarks too.

Apologies to all you sluts out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people don't like to veri! I don't! "

Why not? You must like to receive so why not give?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Not that keen on veries anyway really. I have a couple to prove I'm real, but I don't want dozens or I'll look like a slut. I can do without the treat her with the respect she deserves and don't pass this one by remarks too.

Apologies to all you sluts out there "

I've got a fair few but I'm far from slutty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that keen on veries anyway really. I have a couple to prove I'm real, but I don't want dozens or I'll look like a slut. I can do without the treat her with the respect she deserves and don't pass this one by remarks too.

Apologies to all you sluts out there

I've got a fair few but I'm far from slutty. "

Don't lie! You're a total slag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But wouldnt it be easier for everyone if you simply say "I didnt enjoy the meet, dont want to meet again blablabla" instead of just ignoring the person?"

Be careful sending additional messages. This person might turn around and report you for abuse.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Not that keen on veries anyway really. I have a couple to prove I'm real, but I don't want dozens or I'll look like a slut. I can do without the treat her with the respect she deserves and don't pass this one by remarks too.

Apologies to all you sluts out there "

I've got hundreds. Literally hundreds.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Not that keen on veries anyway really. I have a couple to prove I'm real, but I don't want dozens or I'll look like a slut. I can do without the treat her with the respect she deserves and don't pass this one by remarks too.

Apologies to all you sluts out there

I've got a fair few but I'm far from slutty.

Don't lie! You're a total slag "

If people want to have sex with me I'm not going to say no (very often)

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

OP I don't always veri after a meet and don't always get veries after one either.

If you really want to get a few veries, which will help in getting future meets, go along to a few social nights and talk and socialise with people there. You should get ar least one or two veries from each.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi in my case I can't verify any one as don't have any myself but then can't get meet with out either lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that keen on veries anyway really. I have a couple to prove I'm real, but I don't want dozens or I'll look like a slut. I can do without the treat her with the respect she deserves and don't pass this one by remarks too.

Apologies to all you sluts out there

I've got hundreds. Literally hundreds. "

Well, if I was that way inclined I'd give you one too , because you sound like a lot of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No its not normal - it's rude and ignorant .

Sorry it happened .

Don't think we are all like that

Chin up "

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps she didn't enjoy herself as much as you and doesn't know what to write on a verification. Are you looking for something that says how amazing you were or just a yes,he's a man and showed up? She also may not want anyone to know she met you,for whatever reason. Humans are complicated creatures.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I see you don't have any verifications. Perhaps she feels like you're hassling her to write one for you and is wondering if that's the only reason you met her? To get yourself that first veri I mean.

Be patient and get yourself a haribo!

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