FabSwingers.com forum: etiquette For cum in mouth do you ask first?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just curious to what everyone does in this situation.

My here are plenty of lady's who don't like cum in mouth and I think those that don't like are more common

normally if there's chit chat before hand do's and dont's are often mentioned however in a party or club play with no chit chat I have been in mid blow job with out knowing.

I hate inturupting a lady enjoying herself

But being s gentleman I always ask sometimes mid blow job I actually get a confused look lol.

So the question for the gents do you ask or assume if nothing's been mentioned then all is ok?

Lady's do you always warn before? Have you been in situations mid blow Job without warning and had to tell them Or totally forgot to warn them and had unwated cum in your mouth

Mrs always try's to remember to warn in advance as she doesn't like cum in mouth but she has forgotten sometimes and it's actually been down to me to warn they guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone came in my mouth without asking, they'd get a slap and I'd spit it back in their face...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone came in my mouth without asking, they'd get a slap and I'd spit it back in their face..."

Some people might like that though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I didn't want a man's cum in my mouth I would tell him beforehand. I wouldn't expect him to stop and ask or play guessing games. If I didn't tell him first it would be my own tough luck if he did,a blow job quite often ends with spunk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should make it clear before any play takes part..

If not a simple.. Where do you Want my cum... From the male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's rare anyone surprises me but I do also make clear that I want it over my face xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I didn't want a man's cum in my mouth I would tell him beforehand. I wouldn't expect him to stop and ask or play guessing games. If I didn't tell him first it would be my own tough luck if he did,a blow job quite often ends with spunk. "

Yep. Pretty much sums up my thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone came in my mouth without asking, they'd get a slap and I'd spit it back in their face...

Some people might like that though

Raises hand to volunteer

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

You can't just say oops after the event can you lol

Ask before things go to far, or mention you are about to come, so the person can move away or suck harder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We arnt mind readers, we need to be told beforehand otherwise we think its ok . But after reading some of these replies ill def ask from now on.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Asking first is best, respectful too. Though I am quick to state my own preferences.

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

I only like my partners cum in my mouth.... Make this clear but on a meet a man nearly cum in my mouth with no warning.. I pulled away and lost the moment.... Only told my partner after.... Good job as he was not best pleased.... X

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

I usually ensure I'm aware of others sexual do's & dont's, will's & wont's beforehand.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Shoot first, ask questions last...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife don't usually but when she's getting in the mood loves it but only from me lol

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

women that don't like it to my experience do mention it before hand.

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By *oinMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

I guess it really is up to the female if she keeps going when the guy starts to exhibit signs of ejaculating then that is her decision,any woman who took offense and got nasty afterwards has but themselves to blame for being too damn good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jizz on the face.....I say

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Asking "where do you want my cum?" In the heat of the moment. Can get some spectacular and sexy answers from women. Pre determined could be a turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like swallowing cum, but only Marc's. I see it like a condom, though - meaning that I think it is both parties' responsibility to discuss. I tell guys where I like their cum. If I didn't, though, I would hope they would ask before putting it in my mouth.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Asking "where do you want my cum?" In the heat of the moment. Can get some spectacular and sexy answers from women. Pre determined could be a turn off"

Yep I agree, I've never had a problem with being asked this question ~ hasn't put me off in the slightest

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

"Asking "where do you want my cum?" In the heat of the moment. Can get some spectacular and sexy answers from women. Pre determined could be a turn off

Yep I agree, I've never had a problem with being asked this question ~ hasn't put me off in the slightest

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its something I'd love to ask you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Asking "where do you want my cum?" In the heat of the moment. Can get some spectacular and sexy answers from women. Pre determined could be a turn off"

Yeah in the moment I like to ask this. Especially if it's seen as a reward for my partner. Very hot.

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By *uny1122Man
over a year ago

longeton

Yes as a man I will ask ,do u like cum I u r month ,if she say yes I m happy ,if she say no I don't ,I m happy manxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you say "I'm going to cum" before you do then she can decide to stay or go.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

If I don't want a guy to cum in my mouth I tell him before I start sucking his cock. I don't like men to cum over me, so I tell them when we start playing.

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By *rs PleasuresWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Asking "where do you want my cum?" In the heat of the moment. Can get some spectacular and sexy answers from women. Pre determined could be a turn off"

This works well. Although A lot of the time, it won't have been discussed beforehand. I prefer to go with the flow - pardon the pun.

I can usually read a guy and know when he is close. And also they can usually read me. I think keeping the stroke going and seeing my enthusiasm gives them a clue that I'm keeping latched on to that cock!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Asking "where do you want my cum?" In the heat of the moment. Can get some spectacular and sexy answers from women. Pre determined could be a turn off"

This.

I don't think I can remember a time when I've not been asked at the point of ejac.... 'where do you want me to cum?'

I only sleep with polite souls, obviously!

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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

This is the next thing we are wanting for our next meet. Before we meet Em will chat to people on kik and all will be talked about before hand. The can and cannot of the meets there is no doubt in any way from either party

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By *ick-brown27Man
over a year ago

worsley

I would ask though it has been a long time where I have been in that position

I enjoy blowjobs (what guy doesn't

)but I have only cum once with a blowjob so far.

it hasn't happened since

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"If you say "I'm going to cum" before you do then she can decide to stay or go."

Yes, this is my approach! Pretty simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Off course you ask. Folk have different opinions some do some don't. Be rude not to ask. And if you didn't I'd perhaps be taken so much by surprise I couldn't be blamed if I ended up biting it off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone came in my mouth without asking, they'd get a slap and I'd spit it back in their face...

Some people might like that though

Like yeah one of my fantays, that and to snowball me

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

"If you say "I'm going to cum" before you do then she can decide to stay or go.

Yes, this is my approach! Pretty simple."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can normally tell when a guy is about to cum so rarely been taken by surprise but then I always swallow anyway xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you say "I'm going to cum" before you do then she can decide to stay or go.

Yes, this is my approach! Pretty simple."

Like shouting "fore" on a golf course. If they get in the way after that then you've absolved yourself from responsibility

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By *ent4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Herts / Bucks / London

As a rule I may not ask explicitely if I can cum in a girls mouth mid play as wouldn't want to ruin the moment.

But would always make it clear that I am very close to cumming and read the moment from there. However would never assume that cum in mouth is a given, although a gorgeous bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Top tip: make a lot of noise when you're about to cum and the woman will make it pretty obvious where she wants it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im sorry but were all adults. I know what the end is going to be if I put it in my mouth so why wouldnt I want to swallow...

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

When playing vanilla, I have a disclaimer.

No cum in my mouth or face fucking.

The lady cums first.

Condoms.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

I wasn't given a choice lol.

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By *iscellaneousCouple
over a year ago

Idle

Most guys seem to say 'ummm, I'm going to cum' with a questioning tone - I take this as my cue to move if I don't want it in my mouth! I generally don't mind it in my mouth but sometimes I want it in another place instead so move accordingly!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Discuss. And in the heat of the moment a guy should indicate/say he's about to cum imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would always ask where the lady would want me to cum, I would never just cum in her mouth without asking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always ask unless I have been offered the option first, which happens too little

Simple manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The simple and polite thing to do is say when you're about to cum, then they can chose what to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you say "I'm going to cum" before you do then she can decide to stay or go.

Yes, this is my approach! Pretty simple."

This - the woman can then choose to keep going or 'aim' it elsewhere

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Stopping to ask sort of spoils the mood, but letting the lady know you are close to coming is simple enough and then it is their choice. Mrs Tyke will always remove her mouth and finish with her hands over some part of her body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To keep the fun moving in the right direction and if it wasn't mentioned before

I de usually make sounds

Probably say something like

" Hmmmmmmm I am gonna cum "

some move away and continue with the hand some don't

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

"If someone came in my mouth without asking, they'd get a slap and I'd spit it back in their face...

Some people might like that though

Raises hand to volunteer"

sexy answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good point and as sucking a dick can bring out pre-cum at least then actually saying you want to suck dick but not have the dick cum in your mouth is about as erotic as following the Catholic "Withdrawal Contraception Method"

Good etiquette is discussing ANY aspect of sex before actually doing it.

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By *hat the hellCouple
over a year ago

Down South

"If someone came in my mouth without asking, they'd get a slap and I'd spit it back in their face..."

Don't you kind of thinking that the end result of a blow job is probably a man coming...

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

I sometimes give blow jobs, but I would ALWAYS expect a man to ask if he is allowed to ejaculate in my mouth. Most men don't reach a climax from oral only (or maybe I just give crap blow jobs), so I don't discuss it with them beforehand. However, if a man ejaculated in my mouth without warning I would be severely pissed off. Accepting a penis into my mouth is NOT the same as agreeing to accept semen in my mouth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it in my mouth! So it can go down my neck or be snow balled.

I do like them to shot a load across my belly thou.

I would slap any one who shot it across any clothing I'm wearing.

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By *herrygrayCouple
over a year ago

Wellingborough

No good asking afterwards, they won't be able to answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been instructed. I think it's something that's caught on from porn. If i state my intent to come then hopefully she will give some kind of heavy hint to where she wants it.

... It's almost like porn is entirely fake and scripted... Hmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When playing vanilla, I have a disclaimer.

No cum in my mouth or face fucking.

The lady cums first.

Condoms.

Ah but what if there's two ladies? Infinite loop, quantum paradoxes ensue. Fabric of reality tears.

Bad times had by all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually finds it comes up in early rounds of screening. Then they have to pass all my audition stages

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By *hiterabbit69Man
over a year ago

Romford

Al this talk of slapping is getting me hot under the collar

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"When playing vanilla, I have a disclaimer.

No cum in my mouth or face fucking.

The lady cums first.

Condoms.

Ah but what if there's two ladies? Infinite loop, quantum paradoxes ensue. Fabric of reality tears.

Bad times had by all"

Ha, good point

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By *indy SometimesTV/TS
over a year ago

BoxHill

When receiving a blow job and I feel the early signs I always tell the giver that I'm close. Something like " this feels great, if you carry on you will make me cum" from that point on it's their choice.

If I'm giving said BJ, I will usually back off at some point and ask where they want to cum and also to let me know when they are close so I can either stop, or go full throttle for a nice mouth full of warm cum!

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