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" Do any women on here have similar feelings? I've tried to put her at ease but I don't understand her. " I only speak for myself Yes I have come across more dysfunctional and weird people in the 'swinging scene' than I have come across in the big-wide world out there "Can anyone understand this scenario?" I can I met someone from a similar site two years ago. He wasn't really a swinger. We met for dinner. We met for dinner again and then we met for dinner again. We have spent whole weekends in each other's company. We have never had sex even when we have slept together both naked He knows what I am upto and has never mentioned swinging. I know he is interested in me and if my circumstances were different and if I wasn't so screwed up myself, I would have married him | |||
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"Can anyone understand this scenario?" Kind of. "In the end, she said that she was feeling emotional about her breakup and needed space" This bit, yeah i can. I split with someone before joining fab, it was fizzling out anyway and i was happy to get back into promiscuous sex because while with him we hardly had any sex. I felt the relationship was over and dealt with it then joined another site and eventually here. Felt over him. Met someone on here just over a year ago, last november, who wanted a relationship with me, i was happy for about 2 days then felt really sad about getting into a relationship and told him i didn't want one. So yeah sometimes you feel ready for something but aren't. "she isn't happy with the fact that she met me on a swinging site. She thinks it's dirty and taboo" This, not really. But i do know some people are brought up a certain way and do not agree with promiscuity, and wouldn't enjoy it. my mum has only ever slept with my dad and she married for life. | |||
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"The interaction you describe isn't swinging. Therefore, it is not amenable to any analysis in relation to swinging with its innate rules and dynamics." Totally agree If your chatting/txt etc daily about everything deffo not swinging That's a relationship | |||
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"Hi guys, I just wanted to relate a scenario to you all to get your thoughts. A few weeks ago, a lady in her late 30's joined this site. I got chatting with her and we started to get on really well. We both started chatting outside of fab and we were chatting throughout the day, every day. We could talk about normal life as well as sex. After only a week of fab, she closed the account and told me that people on there were just too intense. We were still chatting, she was being flirty, friendly and we were getting on brilliantly. She asked if I wanted to go to her house, but I couldn't over Christmas. We were still chatting, etc. After Christmas was over, I did go to hers one night, we chatted, etc and had really great sex. She was happy, chatty and smiling that night. The day after, she was so quiet. That night she sent me a message saying "I can't do this. Sorry!". When I delved deeper and tried to talk to her to find out why she had suddenly changed her mind, it seems that she isn't happy with the fact that she met me on a swinging site. She thinks it's dirty and taboo. In the end, she said that she was feeling emotional about her breakup and needed space, and therefore, I accepted it I gracefully pulled away. Do any women on here have similar feelings? I've tried to put her at ease but I don't understand her. I'd like help because I like this lady, even if I was to keep her only as a friend without sex, I'd be happy. Can anyone understand this scenario?" Sometimes I do find people on here too intense! It's hard work some days. When I joined, I was looking forward to meeting lots of new people and exploring my sexuality. I have to say, I thought I would be more confident than I am though. Despite being on here 6 months or so, im still meeting socially and only played at a club with females and a guy I met a couple of times. I'm very anxious about it. Does that mean I am in the wrong place? I sometimes wonder this. But figure I have to allow myself time to get comfortable and come out of my shell. It's not that I feel it's taboo, I'm pretty open about it to friends etc. i just find it hard to fall into bed with someone I barely know. As a result, I will only meet someone I've chatted to and got to know a bit. Even then only socially at first. | |||
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"The interaction you describe isn't swinging. Therefore, it is not amenable to any analysis in relation to swinging with its innate rules and dynamics." Yeah, two single people having sex without any mention of more people or non-monogamy isn't really swinging. If it was virtually every teenager would be a swinger. | |||
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"I understand the whole ex thing that she's going through... I split up with someone a few weeks ago & until veeeeery recently I've not wanted any contact with any man at all, and I think if your situation had happened to me - removing any "dirty or taboo" feelings thar others might associate with swinging - I might have backed off in a similar way." She did say this to me. Something like she doesn't want a man to be in her life right now. I don't understand it though, because I'm not in her life. We lead separate lives completely. | |||
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"I understand the whole ex thing that she's going through... I split up with someone a few weeks ago & until veeeeery recently I've not wanted any contact with any man at all, and I think if your situation had happened to me - removing any "dirty or taboo" feelings thar others might associate with swinging - I might have backed off in a similar way. She did say this to me. Something like she doesn't want a man to be in her life right now. I don't understand it though, because I'm not in her life. We lead separate lives completely. " Apart from when you text her all the time and put your penis inside her? | |||
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"I understand the whole ex thing that she's going through... I split up with someone a few weeks ago & until veeeeery recently I've not wanted any contact with any man at all, and I think if your situation had happened to me - removing any "dirty or taboo" feelings thar others might associate with swinging - I might have backed off in a similar way. She did say this to me. Something like she doesn't want a man to be in her life right now. I don't understand it though, because I'm not in her life. We lead separate lives completely. Apart from when you text her all the time and put your penis inside her? " I can see where you're coming from. I've decided to let it go. I will miss her though! Xx | |||
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"I understand the whole ex thing that she's going through... I split up with someone a few weeks ago & until veeeeery recently I've not wanted any contact with any man at all, and I think if your situation had happened to me - removing any "dirty or taboo" feelings thar others might associate with swinging - I might have backed off in a similar way. She did say this to me. Something like she doesn't want a man to be in her life right now. I don't understand it though, because I'm not in her life. We lead separate lives completely. " Maybe she thinks you like her enough for her to think you want a relationship with her but she's not ready for that.... | |||
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"Hi guys, I just wanted to relate a scenario to you all to get your thoughts. A few weeks ago, a lady in her late 30's joined this site. I got chatting with her and we started to get on really well. We both started chatting outside of fab and we were chatting throughout the day, every day. We could talk about normal life as well as sex. After only a week of fab, she closed the account and told me that people on there were just too intense. We were still chatting, she was being flirty, friendly and we were getting on brilliantly. She asked if I wanted to go to her house, but I couldn't over Christmas. We were still chatting, etc. After Christmas was over, I did go to hers one night, we chatted, etc and had really great sex. She was happy, chatty and smiling that night. The day after, she was so quiet. That night she sent me a message saying "I can't do this. Sorry!". When I delved deeper and tried to talk to her to find out why she had suddenly changed her mind, it seems that she isn't happy with the fact that she met me on a swinging site. She thinks it's dirty and taboo. In the end, she said that she was feeling emotional about her breakup and needed space, and therefore, I accepted it I gracefully pulled away. Do any women on here have similar feelings? I've tried to put her at ease but I don't understand her. I'd like help because I like this lady, even if I was to keep her only as a friend without sex, I'd be happy. Can anyone understand this scenario?" she's just an ordinary everyday nice woman and this place isn't for her ,if you are not into this lifestyle either grasp the opportunity | |||
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"I agree. I've decided that I will leave her to her own devices." hope it works out for her! | |||
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"I agree. I've decided that I will leave her to her own devices. hope it works out for her!" Me too. X | |||
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