FabSwingers.com forum: Cuckolding

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just wondered if anyone had any thoughts on the psychology behind cuckolding or just seeing your partner have sex with others. It features in my fantasies but I haven't really thought about the reasons why it is so appealing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just wondered if anyone had any thoughts on the psychology behind cuckolding or just seeing your partner have sex with others. It features in my fantasies but I haven't really thought about the reasons why it is so appealing."

Personal porn star is the most common reason....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe so but not the reason I would cite. It's more to do with the joy of sharing my partner with other men who appreciate her the joy of sharing.

I find it a great turn on that other men have enjoyed her company as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Personal porn star is the most common reason.... "

Interesting but I thought it may run a bit deeper than that. Fab pics by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal porn star is the most common reason....

Interesting but I thought it may run a bit deeper than that. Fab pics by the way

There was some research into it and that was the most common reason. Less than half of cuckold husbands want any humiliation...

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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

The only reason why i like this is that it turns me on watching my wife with other guys. Dont know why, its a mutual thing we both get turned on. And its fun. And a good thought for my wank bank.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The only reason why i like this is that it turns me on watching my wife with other guys. Dont know why, its a mutual thing we both get turned on. And its fun. And a good thought for my wank bank. "

Fair point. And wank banks are important lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal porn star is the most common reason....

Interesting but I thought it may run a bit deeper than that. Fab pics by the way

If you want the deep reasons then it's to do with evolutionary psychology...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only reason why i like this is that it turns me on watching my wife with other guys. Dont know why, its a mutual thing we both get turned on. And its fun. And a good thought for my wank bank. "

For us it's not dissimilar nor do we think our views are anything other than "the norm", if there ever was one. Pussy has almost unlimited sexual libido, Prick will only ever see her fully satisfied if one or more guys take her to the limits. Her appetite is not greed and his submission not abuse, in fact an air of generosity is common.

Not wishing to start an angry flaming but we feel our "ethics" far better than the couples you readily find where ALL the sexual activity is based solely upon what the Hubby wants or who he wants to fuck. There is a true element of abuse hiding out there you know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're interested in this topic then a book called 'Sex At Dawn' covers the topic in a supposedly scientific piece of research. Women apparently are programmed to have sex with multiple men in prehistoric times so each man would socially look after any offspring (no one knowing for sure who the father was). Men have a sperm competition thing going on which turns them on seeing their partner having sex with another guy.

Perhaps, to us, that's why the whole swinging and MFM seemed so natural.

There's lots of research and counter research but it's interesting to read if you like that sort of thing.

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By *aneSmith5TV/TS
over a year ago

Eastbourne

It is all down to personal choice.

Everyone is different, we are not all clones of the state yet.

All happy to go away with the wish of the date and enjoy mutual pleasure in it's many forms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been a cuckold I am however a Bull and have spoken to a few couples regarding their thoughts especially as I am a counsellor and therapist in my profession.

As a bull the thrill of being able to take another mans wife I dare same relates to a thief breaking into his house or inner sanctum.

The humiliation part which a number of people hold in high esteem for me is the fact that I can and do take another mans wife home with me for a night sending her home satiated the next day. Or having sex with her in their marital bed whether he is present or not is irrelevant, it was a huge turn on at the beginning.

Majority of cuckold men I've spoken to appear to have this 'sub' side of them that loves the idea of watching or at least knowing their wife is being sexually desired or appreciated by others

Not read that particular book but have read similar and spoken to a few couples who at first thought they had serious issues when discovering they had this urge to cuckold

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some very interesting replies so far. Thank you all for taking the time to answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just was saying in another threw it's a head fuck for cuck with the negative emotions vying with the positive ones. The jealously, anxiety of knowing or seeing your partner give her body to another man as well as the horniness of knowing she's having a good time as your own personal porn star. Then once you two are alone once more trying to reclaim your place yet failing miserably as after awhile she's going to do it all over again!

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By *oistknickersCouple
over a year ago

London

Hi all, for us we don't think it as humiliation but more of sharing my wife with a guy that my wife fancies, she can get sexually fulfilled by him and I get the wank bank stocked up.

For me it's saying here try my wife out, I feel secure in my relationship with her to allow this to happen.

Also to say you've had a moment with her but I've got her all the time I wake up with her the morning after, which is why we do it.

It's for the buzz we share the morning after.

"Live the life, drink the wine, share the wife"

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By *iam4Man
over a year ago

Chiswick

"If you're interested in this topic then a book called 'Sex At Dawn' covers the topic in a supposedly scientific piece of research. Women apparently are programmed to have sex with multiple men in prehistoric times so each man would socially look after any offspring (no one knowing for sure who the father was). Men have a sperm competition thing going on which turns them on seeing their partner having sex with another guy. "

Jared Diamond wrote a book called "Why sex is fun". It suggest there are two mating strategies, and species may switch from one strategy to the other. It is quite possible for humans to be in a transition, which would makes cucks quite logical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just 2 mating strategies? I can think of more from an evolutionary psychology perspective...

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By *r DeviantMan
over a year ago

Nowhere Land

I was just about to reccomended this book. Its Chris Ryan , fascinating book

Perhaps, to us, that's why the whole swinging and MFM seemed so natural.

There's lots of research and counter research but it's interesting to read if you like that sort of thing. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to play with a cuck couple big turn on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both really enjoy mfm,but mr said cuckold makes him feel sick,voyeurism yes cockold no,not our thing at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure of the psychology behind it but it's fucking hot when it happens lol

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By *obynwooCouple
over a year ago

letchworth

Cuckolding has so many different levels, voyerism, humilation, fascination, servitude, inadequency, mutual interdependecy and sharing to name a few. Just find out what turns each other on and establish a mutually beneficial understanding that meets both of your needs and then sit back and enjoy one of the most awesome sexual experiences of your life because damn, it is one helluva emotional ride of pure ecstacy!!

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By *iclassyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

The fact that she loves to have another sexual experience in front off you be it with a man or better still a woman is such a turn on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I loved watching my wife with another guy, but not in a cuckold situation, more of a 'hotwife' situation!

I believe there is a difference!

But reasons why, because its extremely hot... Hotter than I ever could of imagined.. Ever couple should do it once!!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"I loved watching my wife with another guy, but not in a cuckold situation, more of a 'hotwife' situation!

I believe there is a difference!

But reasons why, because its extremely hot... Hotter than I ever could of imagined.. Ever couple should do it once!!"

nooooo deffo more than once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps, to us, that's why the whole swinging and MFM seemed so natural.

There's lots of research and counter research but it's interesting to read if you like that sort of thing. "

That's an interesting theory, James really gets off seeing me with another guy, but does this work both ways? Do women like seeing their guy with another woman as much? Have to say I'm not as turned on when I see him with another woman. Dawn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I loved watching my wife with another guy, but not in a cuckold situation, more of a 'hotwife' situation!

I believe there is a difference!

But reasons why, because its extremely hot... Hotter than I ever could of imagined.. Ever couple should do it once!!

I was supposed to say 'at least once'...

Do it as much as possible!! Lol

nooooo deffo more than once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps, to us, that's why the whole swinging and MFM seemed so natural.

There's lots of research and counter research but it's interesting to read if you like that sort of thing.

Probably not, the science is different for men and women. Geberally speaking, women are more threatened if their man has an emotional attachement to another woman, physical less so. Hence polygamy is far more widespread than polyandry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We regularly partake in the cuckold lifestyle. For us it's about the submission. She can have who she wants and how she wants and as often as she wants.

We have just recently met a guy who is becoming a regular and is respectful of what we want! It's important to have someone who understands what you as a couple want but also is enjoying those things too. It helps if they are well endowed too!

I am a straight speaking no nonsense kind of man most of the time so it's an escape from that I believe. Kelly is the only person who I would allow to make me do the things we do and we both absolutely love it! There are new things to try all the time so our relationship is always developing and exciting!

That's just our take on it but I think that different people have different perceptions of cuckolding and that makes it endlessly developing and exciting too!

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I can't add anything to the discussion re the psychology of it, but I just wanted to say i'm envious of those of you in cuck/hotwife relationships!

My dream.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been turned on by the thought of my wife being unfaithful. The personal porn star bit doesn't work as she meets without me.

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By *errynjuneCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

I just enjoy being married to what i consider a hotwife. I love watching and she loves cock, works for us. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me (the male) I just love being verbally humiliated whilst the wife is being pleasured by a m/f couple or man/men. Don't know why - but it is a huge turn on. As for the wife - well she just loves sex - so everyone is happy!

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By *auradCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

I (Mr) don't want any verbal humiliation while Laura and a bull are having fun, to me the humiliation side is more subtle it is about the public flirting and the suggestion of some thing going on. I love the meeting in the hotel bar where the 3 of us are together and anyone nearby paying attention may notice that the married couple have been joined by a guy and that the guy and wife are flirting, maybe even touching.

Has to be subtle, before we all go up to the room for fun.

I think there is a vast spectrum covered by Cuckolding and a good bull makes sure that everyone gets what they want out of a meet.

That's why social meets are very important to us before play, there has to be a spark / connection for all 3 of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single but have been with guys who like to sit back and watch. The humiliation thing I could not do. Believe me if a guy allows me to have more there is no way I could humiliate him

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By *icetimescoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I read an article, but I'm not sure how the science holds up.

Apparently females used to mate with a lot of males in prehistoric times with the theory being the best quality sperm would impregnate her.

The reason this apparently turns her main partner on is that if he knows that if she is taking lots of other guys sperm, the best chance of him impregnating his own partner is by fucking her often and regularly. The thought of other guys sperm in his wife apparently increases the sex drive of the male so that he keeps putting his own sperm in her to increase the chances of him breeding her.

The article also claimed the shape of the penis is also effected by this. A penis head is designed to pull out other sperm whilst plunging in your own. So as a cock withdraws from the vagina during sex the head pulls out lots of sperm from other guys before depositing your own.

As I say, no idea if the science holds up, but that apparently is why guys get turned on by cuckolding.

For us - we just find it horny

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By *iganpairCouple
over a year ago

Wigan, Lancs.

No exactly how you feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never been a cuckold I am however a Bull and have spoken to a few couples regarding their thoughts especially as I am a counsellor and therapist in my profession.

As a bull the thrill of being able to take another mans wife I dare same relates to a thief breaking into his house or inner sanctum.

Majority of cuckold men I've spoken to appear to have this 'sub' side of them that loves the idea of watching or at least knowing their wife is being sexually desired or appreciated by others

Not read that particular book but have read similar and spoken to a few couples who at first thought they had serious issues when discovering they had this urge to cuckold

Superb answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't add anything to the discussion re the psychology of it, but I just wanted to say i'm envious of those of you in cuck/hotwife relationships!

My dream.

Well it's my dream too, send me a message and we can talk about maybe arranging something.

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