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By *ohnjones3210 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester

I had a meet last night and we got talking about insecurities, fab and the mental/emotional side of sex/meeting up. She told me what her insecurities were and it was interesting and quite sad.

For me, it's an insecurity about not being able to please my partner sexually. I find myself sometimes thinking; "Am I big enough?", "Is she having fun?", "What if I don't stay hard?".

What are your insecurities?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

In the context of swinging: none

I am happy with what I have and am at total peace with it

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Mainly to do with body size and shape.

Oh look, a woman feeling insecure about her body, whatever next. hee hee hee

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I dont feel that I have any insecurities about sex .... only that I knew when I was not ready for a relationship, I used fab for sexual encounters that meant I could keep my emotional distance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My size n shape here too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact I'm a fat lump

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By *issnwtyWoman
over a year ago

manchester

Always how I look naked must b a woman thing

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By *lay4RealCouple
over a year ago

London

Mine ( HE) if you call it insecurity is that I don't like to be watched by everybody. Don't mind it if everyone is getting on with it.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Always how I look naked must b a woman thing "

Definitely is more prevalent in women. But then, we are under much more societal pressure to look a certain way.

The thing that bugs me is that I love my body, I'd never change it. It's only when I have to parade it in front of others, people who I know have expectations etc, that I get insecure.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I know someone with body image issues and it's very very limiting.

I don't have any. If you don't like what you see, look at someone else.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I know someone with body image issues and it's very very limiting.

I don't have any. If you don't like what you see, look at someone else. "

But babe, if I had a body like yours, I wouldn't have any either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really have insecurities when it comes to fab. It is sex. If someone doesn't like me, we can just not meet again.

I get more insecure about my relationship. I want to be in shape and such for Marc.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To begin with when we began swinging , I was concerned about my age , and Sabrina about her body size .

Pretty soon we realised we needn't have worried , and now we don't really have any worries at all .

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"I know someone with body image issues and it's very very limiting.

I don't have any. If you don't like what you see, look at someone else. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bizarrely none when naked.

More issues in daily stuff than pleasure.

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

My body

How I talk

How I act

What I wear

How I smell

Everything lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

General looks/body.....low self esteem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None anymore. I know that some guys find me attractive and i can't be that bad as most i meet turn into repeat meets so for me there is nothing to feel insecure about.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"I don't really have insecurities when it comes to fab. It is sex. If someone doesn't like me, we can just not meet again.

I get more insecure about my relationship. I want to be in shape and such for Marc.

-Courtney"

You're certainly achieving that goal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"None anymore. I know that some guys find me attractive and i can't be that bad as most i meet turn into repeat meets so for me there is nothing to feel insecure about. "

You look amazing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it comes to fab, clubs, meeting, being watched, photos, videos etc. I have no issues with myself in anyway.

The only time I ever feel bad about myself is in normal clubs. Every night out I have had a prick of a guy has humiliated me about the way I look.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong


"My size n shape here too x "

Yeah, I'm another one that feels uncomfortable about the way I look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So one for the men what do you really think when you come across the stretch marks and sagging bits that many of us mums have

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

Stretch marks and been eating too much over xmas. Fatter too. These are my insecurities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So one for the men what do you really think when you come across the stretch marks and sagging bits that many of us mums have "

I've never had a guy throw up upon seeing mine

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"So one for the men what do you really think when you come across the stretch marks and sagging bits that many of us mums have "

wouldn't bother me at all, unless they are making a song and dance about it and then, I would up and leave.

I am here for sex, not provide counselling, reassurance and validation

but again, it wouldn't bother me at all, unless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of pressure on men nowadays to be fair to look a certain way gotta have big muscles, tattoos etc oh dick down to your knee. When I was younger I had a few but I couldn't care, I'm quite happy if a woman's not happy she can go find someone else. Like we all can

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"So one for the men what do you really think when you come across the stretch marks and sagging bits that many of us mums have "

They make me think 'she's had sex and I like that' - mainly, I look and don't actually think anything. Empty sex head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So one for the men what do you really think when you come across the stretch marks and sagging bits that many of us mums have "

Would check out the eyes and the smile. If they tell me they are happy and positive, I'd talk to them and see if there was a spark.

For me the other person has to want to be there because it is fun.

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By *ohnjones3210 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester

Thanks for your honesty everyone!

Mine isn't an insecurity so much. It's more like a fear? But who knows!

The interesting thing is that the lady who I met, she thought she was fat... But she seriously wasn't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for your honesty everyone!

Mine isn't an insecurity so much. It's more like a fear? But who knows!

The interesting thing is that the lady who I met, she thought she was fat... But she seriously wasn't!"

Oh dear. You fell for that one??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thoughts about not getting much pleasure from the sex with the girl I'm with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My body

How I talk

How I act

What I wear

How I smell

Everything lol"

Omg I agree with all of the above. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a man in a couple, sometimes I wonder - is this woman really into me or is she taking one for the team to please her husband? So I like some reassurance in that respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I think Mr cheshire I'd way more attractive and desirable than myself, so my insecurities are when playing with couples is that the guy is "taking one for the team" by playing with me, or that the fem only plays with me as I come along with the package. I know its silly mind but yeah

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

How I look naked is the biggest insecurity. All wobbly and podgy bits. But I'm not bothered by it so much that it puts me off since I reckon probably everyone has some form of insecurity and if I don't notice what they're insecure about then they probably won't have an issue with mine.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I know someone with body image issues and it's very very limiting.

I don't have any. If you don't like what you see, look at someone else.

But babe, if I had a body like yours, I wouldn't have any either. "

Thank you. I think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate my stretch marks and mum tum. I'm slowly trying to move away from being insecure about it but I always feel the need to point it out, especially to the gym bods, as I wouldn't want to disappoint. I wobble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had loads until I realised that it was hindering the one thing I enjoy most, sex! So slowly but surely I have got to the stage where I just do not give a fudge nugget

If someone doesn't like how you look, that's their problem, not yours!

Everyone is hot in their own way

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

Not really got any. I haven't got the perfect body, and i can't be bothered to put the effort into bulking up, so i just look that I'm in decent shape for my age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oddly, for a very shy person, I have very few insecurities sexually. I'm actually at my most comfortable when naked and getting jiggy with it, which is incredibly liberating for someone who struggles with day to day social interaction. I assume that if someone didn't like my body they just wouldn't arrange a meet.

The only thing I'm a little self-conscious about is my how my lady bits look as I have large labia, although I'm lead to believe that isn't always considered a negative. There isn't anything I can do about it so I try to disregard my worries about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the context of swinging: none

I am happy with what I have and am at total peace with it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate my stretch marks and mum tum. I'm slowly trying to move away from being insecure about it but I always feel the need to point it out, especially to the gym bods, as I wouldn't want to disappoint. I wobble. "

Not blowing smoke up your ass but you honestly look fantastic. Believe it or not, a lot of men understand that the porn star body isn't reality (at least not after children) and actually we can appreciate signs that a woman has given birth as quite natural, feminine and attractive.

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By *rs Mia WallaceWoman
over a year ago

Bathwyche

That I will be as good as their long list of veri's were

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?


"So one for the men what do you really think when you come across the stretch marks and sagging bits that many of us mums have "

They don't worry me, it's a fact of life, our little imperfections, corners, edges, cuts, lumps etc...

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

My body, am I big enough

Is she having fun?

What if I don't stay hard?

Was that a real orgasm she just had..

I God I'm going to cum too quickly.

God she's so sexy hope she likes me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh boy

Starting from the top...

My right eye is lazy.

I don't like having a proper open mouth smile.

Big mole on my neck.

Boobs are small for my frame.

Fat stomach.

I still have a ring of hymen that people do notice close up.

I have two freckles under my vagina that look a bit odd, especially in photos.

And... I don't like my feet.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"That I will be as good as their long list of veri's were"

That's why I don't read them in detail.

They are full of tosh!

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By *ne hung loMan
over a year ago

gloucester


"My size n shape here too x "
nothing wrong with your shape n size

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By *ne hung loMan
over a year ago

gloucester


"So one for the men what do you really think when you come across the stretch marks and sagging bits that many of us mums have "
stretch marks saggy bits etc turn me right on prefer that to young slim bodies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting people on here gives me a self esteem boost, if anything. I used to be worried about what people would think of my body until I realised that if they were already at the 'let's get naked' stage they're already interested in me. Realistically you're not going to undress and then hear 'oh actually, no thanks' because they're just thinking 'hot damn they're getting undressed!'

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I'm worried whenever meeting a new guy. I'm scared that I'm not what they are expecting. People can't really see my masculinity and blemishes on pictures. I always tell them in advance and always tell them it's ok to go if they're not OK with how I look once they arrived.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"In the context of swinging: none

I am happy with what I have and am at total peace with it "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a meet last night and we got talking about insecurities, fab and the mental/emotional side of sex/meeting up. She told me what her insecurities were and it was interesting and quite sad.

For me, it's an insecurity about not being able to please my partner sexually. I find myself sometimes thinking; "Am I big enough?", "Is she having fun?", "What if I don't stay hard?".

What are your insecurities?"

My stomach, having had 3 pregnancies. My face more so than my body though, which is odd considering I have to expose it on a daily basis

Once I'm having sex though, I don't care anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My insecurities are not being found desirable in clubs and parties. This is then reinforced when the guy can't get/maintain a hardon. As this is happening a lot it's starting to get to me!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I know someone with body image issues and it's very very limiting.

I don't have any. If you don't like what you see, look at someone else. "

Personally find it a major turn off encountering people with body issues when swinging. It's meant to be fun and liberating, not a counselling, ego massaging session.

When I had health issues that didn't make me feel body confident I stopped meeting. Didn't cross my mind to continue and limit the enjoyment of playmates because of my issues and insecurities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My insecurities are not being found desirable in clubs and parties. This is then reinforced when the guy can't get/maintain a hardon. As this is happening a lot it's starting to get to me! "

Probably has a lot more to do with the guy's own issues about performing in front of others...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wobble ... I have jiggly bits and floppy bits ... When I first joined fab on my single profile I was very insecure about my size. But I figured my pics were there for all to see, including the wobbly bits, so if someone wanted to meet me, why worry. I actually feel more insecure about it when out in day to day life, shopping etc.

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very low self esteem which generally results in me not trusting anyone who is complimentary of me. Instantly think they must be lying and why.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Interesting thread.

I only have insecurities about myself when my skin decides to break out. I'm a fatty and I love being a fatty, I find it weird really that so many women are hung up on their size or shape.

If you're bothered about your size, change it.

I'm losing weight, but for my health not my appearance.

In terms of relationships; I have numerous insecurities. But none of them are about looks. Frustratingly my abusive ex partner has largely ruined relationships for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mainly to do with body size and shape.

Oh look, a woman feeling insecure about her body, whatever next. hee hee hee "

I feel insecure about my body too and I'm a guy. Feel inadequate at times too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Insecurities sometimes stay away for many months then come back too haunt me ....maybe when I am tired or a bit struggling with certain aspects of life that affects my mood and confidence when swinging?

Insecurities - Mr -

performing in front of others,

cock size,

coming too soon,

length of time able to stay hard.

Insecurities - Mrs -

my body is 53 yrs old, I have flabby, saggy bits,

will I pleasure him how he likes it?

i prefer not to be fully shaved - does my strip of trimmed pubic hair offend some people?

Interestingly - my husbands insecurities are also partially what started us talking about going swinging - he was worried about cock size, coming too soon, not staying hard - and I was saying that's why multiple partners, exhibitionist play, mutual masturbation etc could be good for us.

Now we have a much more secure relationship, a better understanding of each others and or our own sex drive and sexual kinks and much much better sex together too! m x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mainly to do with body size and shape.

Oh look, a woman feeling insecure about her body, whatever next. hee hee hee "

It's ridiculous to think that only women have these insecurities - height, penis size, baldness - strike a chord anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very low self esteem which generally results in me not trusting anyone who is complimentary of me. Instantly think they must be lying and why."

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very low self esteem which generally results in me not trusting anyone who is complimentary of me. Instantly think they must be lying and why.

Same "

I grew up with hypercritical parents, any comment on my appearance was a negative one. That kind of negative reinforcement is a difficult thing to shake, but I have at least learned to accept a compliment and thank the giver rather than brush it away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Negative reinforcement not the correct term, but I imagine others out there know what I mean

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By *ohnjones3210 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester

Hmmmm, it's been an interesting read. Thanks for your comments.

It seems that a shocking amount of women have insecurities about their bodies. I'd say that is to do with our culture.

There are not many men commenting or expressing any insecurities, but in our culture, men are not allowed to show any weakness - I'm not bothered about that, I'm only human afterall.

I guess that quite a number of men have similar issues. Who knows?

Ours seem to be performance related.

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By *anda and CatCouple
over a year ago

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She doesn't really have any, mine is being a short arse but nothing can be done about that!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I'm not really sure - I suspect that that part of my brain dealing with doubt has been switched off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the top down:

Prematurely greying hair - so I worry about the state of my roots if I'm giving someone a BJ;

Bad skin - so I worry that too much of my makeup has been rubbed off;

Approx 7 chins;

Saggy boobs;

Excess body hair;

Saggy stomach and stretch marks - not as a result of children so I can't even tell myself they're "tiger stripes" or similar self-congratulatory bollocks;

Since I can take more than a finger, according to this place I have a fanny like the channel tunnel;

Large labia, which apparently I should put away in case it gets mistaken for a badly packed kebab;

I don't have a pink arsehole;

I have ginormous feet;

I hate my toenails.

That's before I even touch performance related insecurities in my brain.

Hey ho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From the top down:

Prematurely greying hair - so I worry about the state of my roots if I'm giving someone a BJ;

Bad skin - so I worry that too much of my makeup has been rubbed off;

Approx 7 chins;

Saggy boobs;

Excess body hair;

Saggy stomach and stretch marks - not as a result of children so I can't even tell myself they're "tiger stripes" or similar self-congratulatory bollocks;

Since I can take more than a finger, according to this place I have a fanny like the channel tunnel;

Large labia, which apparently I should put away in case it gets mistaken for a badly packed kebab;

I don't have a pink arsehole;

I have ginormous feet;

I hate my toenails.

That's before I even touch performance related insecurities in my brain.

Hey ho.

"

I think a lot of women have the same insecurities.

I know I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact I'm a fat lump "

Begging to differ, but you are NOT "a fat lump". What you are is a beautiful lady with curves where they should be. Your photos are classy and you have plenty to be proud about. Just saying! x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Am I too short, fat, ugly for people to want to meet, if they do will they like me. Will I be able to please them, satisfy them. Wil they be happy if it's just girl on girl.

Plus many many more.. Low self esteem. Red

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really have insecurities when it comes to fab. It is sex. If someone doesn't like me, we can just not meet again.

I get more insecure about my relationship. I want to be in shape and such for Marc.

-Courtney"

I like this way of looking at it, makes a lot of sense to me...

Any insecurities I may have are heightened with a person I really like as opposed to a more nsa meet.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"From the top down:

Prematurely greying hair - so I worry about the state of my roots if I'm giving someone a BJ;

Bad skin - so I worry that too much of my makeup has been rubbed off;

Approx 7 chins;

Saggy boobs;

Excess body hair;

Saggy stomach and stretch marks - not as a result of children so I can't even tell myself they're "tiger stripes" or similar self-congratulatory bollocks;

Since I can take more than a finger, according to this place I have a fanny like the channel tunnel;

Large labia, which apparently I should put away in case it gets mistaken for a badly packed kebab;

I don't have a pink arsehole;

I have ginormous feet;

I hate my toenails.

That's before I even touch performance related insecurities in my brain.

Hey ho.

"

This list surprises me.

Because you're so flipping gorgeous and have such excellent photos!

xxx

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

Weirdly, I'm insecure about people liking me or me liking them as a person. I'd like to think that I am or I've found good company!

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Mainly to do with body size and shape.

Oh look, a woman feeling insecure about her body, whatever next. hee hee hee

It's ridiculous to think that only women have these insecurities - height, penis size, baldness - strike a chord anyone?"

Um.... No one said only women have them.....?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I am a sexy BBW and I am proud, I have huge boobs that I have grown to love. I enjoy sex, if guys don`t like my body someone else will love it.

Ladies and gents we are all beautiful inside, outside all over.

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By *luemelonMan
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Being too skinny, too hairy, not lasting long enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My personal insecurity is my body, obviously. After losing 14 stone, i have some loose skin that cannot be toned.

However, if a person wants to meet me, and they see me as attractive and find me sexy then i can look past my own insecurities. I have been verrry lucky in that the majority of ppl i meet just see me for me, they see my humour and the rest all just happens naturally.

I like me x

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"From the top down:

Prematurely greying hair - so I worry about the state of my roots if I'm giving someone a BJ;

Bad skin - so I worry that too much of my makeup has been rubbed off;

Approx 7 chins;

Saggy boobs;

Excess body hair;

Saggy stomach and stretch marks - not as a result of children so I can't even tell myself they're "tiger stripes" or similar self-congratulatory bollocks;

Since I can take more than a finger, according to this place I have a fanny like the channel tunnel;

Large labia, which apparently I should put away in case it gets mistaken for a badly packed kebab;

I don't have a pink arsehole;

I have ginormous feet;

I hate my toenails.

That's before I even touch performance related insecurities in my brain.

Hey ho.

"

My reply would be very similar. Im always going to cover up my stomach for those reasons.

I do meet someone fairly regularly who strips me naked and Im still shocked..everytime. It hasnt helped with my insecurities however.

I also worry am I being energetic enough or trying enough different things. No one wants to be accused of just lying there.

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm generally a quiet person and when in a social situation I tend to take a step back and let the larger characters take the stage. I worry that I'm boring. I worry that my pic's are misleading ( love all my pic's but still think are they really me?). When I see who they have met in their veris I wonder why they want to meet me. Although have been told im a confident person my mind tells me otherwise

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I mean really, NONE of us are perfect and perfection is as subjective as it is impossible.

I think I was about 25 before I clocked that, chances are, the other person is just as worried about their body & performance as you.

Let your mind go and your body will follow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean really, NONE of us are perfect and perfection is as subjective as it is impossible.

I think I was about 25 before I clocked that, chances are, the other person is just as worried about their body & performance as you.

Let your mind go and your body will follow "

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

Having some insecure thoughts now female half

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My height I'm a short ass

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"

Large labia, which apparently I should put away in case it gets mistaken for a badly packed kebab;

"

I honestly can't imagine ever bring put off by the look of any pussy. I know this is a cliche, but there really is is a huge variety out there and that's part of the fun. From the point of _iew of a guy giving oral, large labia offer all sorts of possibilities that aren't really an option with ladies who have smaller lips. And I love seeing the more generously proportioned labia enveloping my shaft too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean really, NONE of us are perfect "

Speak for yourself

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I occasionally make the mistake of looking at the profiles of some of the guys a woman has met if I'm thinking of sending her a message. Now that is guaranteed to create insecurities, even if I didn't have them before!

My main insecurity is body size - I'm quite slender and would love a bigger chest, but previous attempts to "bulk up" a bit have failed and I simply don't have the time any more. I'm also starting to grey, although the consensus among women in my vanilla life is that I shouldn't dye it, so maybe that's not the end of the world. Aside from that, I guess it's the usual bloke worry of will I be able to "perform" to her expectations, thankfully that one is generally unfounded!

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By *ohnjones3210 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester


"

Large labia, which apparently I should put away in case it gets mistaken for a badly packed kebab;

I honestly can't imagine ever bring put off by the look of any pussy. I know this is a cliche, but there really is is a huge variety out there and that's part of the fun. From the point of _iew of a guy giving oral, large labia offer all sorts of possibilities that aren't really an option with ladies who have smaller lips. And I love seeing the more generously proportioned labia enveloping my shaft too!"

Haha! You're right. I met up with a lady. Few days ago who was so different to what I'm used to. But she was great fun! A great figure with bulging lips!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the context of swinging: none

I am happy with what I have and am at total peace with it "

Same here!

I'm far from perfect so list my imperfections in glorious technicolour on my profile! If people make the decision to still meet an old fart like me though then that's fine!

After that I'm very confident!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pritty much the same for us.

For her, it's body image

For him, it's fear of not being able to perform, in all aspects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do women have insecurities on here? with all the bbw diva behaviour, we'd have thought there is no such thing as a lack of confidence regardless of looks/size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do women have insecurities on here? with all the bbw diva behaviour, we'd have thought there is no such thing as a lack of confidence regardless of looks/size."

Can't speak for anyone else but I know I'm a million miles from perfect! Probably the opposite of a diva though to be fair so perhaps the wrong person to answer your post! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do women have insecurities on here? with all the bbw diva behaviour, we'd have thought there is no such thing as a lack of confidence regardless of looks/size.

Can't speak for anyone else but I know I'm a million miles from perfect! Probably the opposite of a diva though to be fair so perhaps the wrong person to answer your post! Xx"

Not a million miles at all. Slim, with great curves where they should be, very pretty. Seems pretty close to us xx

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

Everyone to a certain extent has insecurities. It's whether we allow them to take over and stop ourselves from enjoying life. What we may dislike in ourselves others may like.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

the question was about insecurities, not am I perfect.

far from it but I am 56 and i am not going to be seeing nature change what I have. If I don't like it, I will endeavour to change it: either naturally or surgically.

But I am not insecure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the question was about insecurities, not am I perfect.

far from it but I am 56 and i am not going to be seeing nature change what I have. If I don't like it, I will endeavour to change it: either naturally or surgically.

But I am not insecure"

Exactly. I'm quite capable of having bits i don't like about myself without being insecure about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In relation to Fab absolutely no insecurities...I like me and so do the men I meet.

Very few in the real world either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do women have insecurities on here? with all the bbw diva behaviour, we'd have thought there is no such thing as a lack of confidence regardless of looks/size."

Divas come in all shapes and sizes on Fab

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Do women have insecurities on here? with all the bbw diva behaviour, we'd have thought there is no such thing as a lack of confidence regardless of looks/size."

I am far from perfect. Large with wobbly bits and I compare myself to the female half from the _iews our profile gets from others and I find myself lacking

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Do women have insecurities on here? with all the bbw diva behaviour, we'd have thought there is no such thing as a lack of confidence regardless of looks/size.

Divas come in all shapes and sizes on Fab "

cheers

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over a year ago

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"the question was about insecurities, not am I perfect.

far from it but I am 56 and i am not going to be seeing nature change what I have. If I don't like it, I will endeavour to change it: either naturally or surgically.

But I am not insecure

Exactly. I'm quite capable of having bits i don't like about myself without being insecure about them."

Exactly. And whilst I can appreciate affirmation, I do not need validation - especially not from a stranger on a sex site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hiding my beer belly mainly - but corsets hide a multitude of sins!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From the top down:

Prematurely greying hair - so I worry about the state of my roots if I'm giving someone a BJ;

Bad skin - so I worry that too much of my makeup has been rubbed off;

Approx 7 chins;

Saggy boobs;

Excess body hair;

Saggy stomach and stretch marks - not as a result of children so I can't even tell myself they're "tiger stripes" or similar self-congratulatory bollocks;

Since I can take more than a finger, according to this place I have a fanny like the channel tunnel;

Large labia, which apparently I should put away in case it gets mistaken for a badly packed kebab;

I don't have a pink arsehole;

I have ginormous feet;

I hate my toenails.

That's before I even touch performance related insecurities in my brain.

Hey ho.

"

Oh my goodness, you just described me! Anal bleach anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of curiosity has anyone ever had somone complain thier asshole isnt pink?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do women have insecurities on here? with all the bbw diva behaviour, we'd have thought there is no such thing as a lack of confidence regardless of looks/size.

Divas come in all shapes and sizes on Fab

cheers "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the question was about insecurities, not am I perfect.

far from it but I am 56 and i am not going to be seeing nature change what I have. If I don't like it, I will endeavour to change it: either naturally or surgically.

But I am not insecure

Exactly. I'm quite capable of having bits i don't like about myself without being insecure about them.

Exactly. And whilst I can appreciate affirmation, I do not need validation - especially not from a stranger on a sex site! "

Why would being insecure mean you meed external validation.

Validation from external sources is very easily come across.

Internal validation of your own self wkrth can be hard to come across

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been an interesting read and seems like most posts are honest. In my younger days very insecure about life, pretty shy etc although a few beers solved it every time.

As an older bloke not at sll insecure but not in an arrogant way. Not a gym guy so plenty if better bods out there, not a porn cock but it's what I have and no body has laughed ha ha . Wrinkles ! When did they appear. It's an ageing body and mind. Be happy all cos we're all different and not everyone's cuppa! Happy new year all

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Also, there's a difference between "being confident" and "having insecurities". They're not mutually exclusive.

Most people think I'm confident, but I have masses of insecurities. Just no one sees them behind this massive wall I hide them behind.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I do tend to have a feeling of unworthiness a lot when I talk to women on here. In real life I don't have that problem. But when women talk to me on here I start wondering why on earth they would want to talk to little old me when they've got a million guys they could be talking to. Like I can't believe it or something. I often find myself apologising to them when I message them. Apologising for bothering them and things like that. I know it's daft but I lack confidence in myself I guess. My self-esteem can be very low at times.

A lot of it's wired into my anxiety, which I can also suffer from. Sometimes quite severly. Though I'm learning to control that, it can rear it's ugly head from time to time. It's such a self-destructive thing. I don't have any specific reason for feeling like this but I think it comes from things that have happened in my past. It's not based on insecurities I have in my body either. Though I'm no oil painting I don't worry too much about my physical self. A lot of my problems are in my head I guess.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"the question was about insecurities, not am I perfect.

far from it but I am 56 and i am not going to be seeing nature change what I have. If I don't like it, I will endeavour to change it: either naturally or surgically.

But I am not insecure

Exactly. I'm quite capable of having bits i don't like about myself without being insecure about them.

Exactly. And whilst I can appreciate affirmation, I do not need validation - especially not from a stranger on a sex site!

Why would being insecure mean you meed external validation.

Validation from external sources is very easily come across.

Internal validation of your own self wkrth can be hard to come across"

I agree. And yet many seek validation on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ronnie

Size

Body

How long he lasts

Not disappointing

Lou

Is she sex enough

Am i any good

Body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of curiosity has anyone ever had somone complain thier asshole isnt pink?"

Not to my face. But you see comments about disgusting brown arseholes etc. - well yeah, it is brown because the skin is brown. Doesn't mean I'm not clean. Same with the labia thing - no one has ever made the comment directly to me, but they're always quick to sing the praises of those which are the exact opposite of the way I look. Neat and tidy and pink is what everyone finds attractive, ergo mine is not.

I just have to distract them with a pretty face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of curiosity has anyone ever had somone complain thier asshole isnt pink?

Not to my face. But you see comments about disgusting brown arseholes etc. - well yeah, it is brown because the skin is brown. Doesn't mean I'm not clean. Same with the labia thing - no one has ever made the comment directly to me, but they're always quick to sing the praises of those which are the exact opposite of the way I look. Neat and tidy and pink is what everyone finds attractive, ergo mine is not.

I just have to distract them with a pretty face "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no physical insecurities

Sex is emotive for me however and sometimes there are lows after the highs....that's the hardest bit for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of curiosity has anyone ever had somone complain thier asshole isnt pink?

Not to my face. But you see comments about disgusting brown arseholes etc. - well yeah, it is brown because the skin is brown. Doesn't mean I'm not clean. Same with the labia thing - no one has ever made the comment directly to me, but they're always quick to sing the praises of those which are the exact opposite of the way I look. Neat and tidy and pink is what everyone finds attractive, ergo mine is not.

I just have to distract them with a pretty face "

Be thankful you can do that....men would rather play wobble my flab than look at my face!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of curiosity has anyone ever had somone complain thier asshole isnt pink?

Not to my face. But you see comments about disgusting brown arseholes etc. - well yeah, it is brown because the skin is brown. Doesn't mean I'm not clean. Same with the labia thing - no one has ever made the comment directly to me, but they're always quick to sing the praises of those which are the exact opposite of the way I look. Neat and tidy and pink is what everyone finds attractive, ergo mine is not.

I just have to distract them with a pretty face

Be thankful you can do that....men would rather play wobble my flab than look at my face!! "

But youve got to jiggle it like a bowl full of jelly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of curiosity has anyone ever had somone complain thier asshole isnt pink?

Not to my face. But you see comments about disgusting brown arseholes etc. - well yeah, it is brown because the skin is brown. Doesn't mean I'm not clean. Same with the labia thing - no one has ever made the comment directly to me, but they're always quick to sing the praises of those which are the exact opposite of the way I look. Neat and tidy and pink is what everyone finds attractive, ergo mine is not.

I just have to distract them with a pretty face

Be thankful you can do that....men would rather play wobble my flab than look at my face!!

But youve got to jiggle it like a bowl full of jelly "

Sometimes i line up jelly beans and turn them into jumping beans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of curiosity has anyone ever had somone complain thier asshole isnt pink?

Not to my face. But you see comments about disgusting brown arseholes etc. - well yeah, it is brown because the skin is brown. Doesn't mean I'm not clean. Same with the labia thing - no one has ever made the comment directly to me, but they're always quick to sing the praises of those which are the exact opposite of the way I look. Neat and tidy and pink is what everyone finds attractive, ergo mine is not.

I just have to distract them with a pretty face

Be thankful you can do that....men would rather play wobble my flab than look at my face!!

But youve got to jiggle it like a bowl full of jelly

Sometimes i line up jelly beans and turn them into jumping beans "

*seriously considers asking to meet just to see this*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, I am pretty comfortable with myself. I am a realist and ensure that the people I meet have a true picture of how I am and what to expect so there is little room for problems x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oddly, for a very shy person, I have very few insecurities sexually. I'm actually at my most comfortable when naked and getting jiggy with it, which is incredibly liberating for someone who struggles with day to day social interaction. I assume that if someone didn't like my body they just wouldn't arrange a meet.

The only thing I'm a little self-conscious about is my how my lady bits look as I have large labia, although I'm lead to believe that isn't always considered a negative. There isn't anything I can do about it so I try to disregard my worries about it."

This sums me up perfectly! I have things I know could be better but they don't particularly bother me and I feel quite comfortable naked and having sex but having to chat etc I get so self conscious. Feels a bit backwards really..

I have the same issue with my labia, I've found with swinging no one seems bothered by them but I've had 3 "vanilla" boyfriends tell me they look weird/are a turn off. I never let partners I meet out side of fabs or swinging go down on me because I worry about how they will feel about it..xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From the top down:

Prematurely greying hair - so I worry about the state of my roots if I'm giving someone a BJ;

Bad skin - so I worry that too much of my makeup has been rubbed off;

Approx 7 chins;

Saggy boobs;

Excess body hair;

Saggy stomach and stretch marks - not as a result of children so I can't even tell myself they're "tiger stripes" or similar self-congratulatory bollocks;

Since I can take more than a finger, according to this place I have a fanny like the channel tunnel;

Large labia, which apparently I should put away in case it gets mistaken for a badly packed kebab;

I don't have a pink arsehole;

I have ginormous feet;

I hate my toenails.

That's before I even touch performance related insecurities in my brain.

Hey ho.

Oh my goodness, you just described me! Anal bleach anyone? "

It is strangely comforting to know that there are plenty of other spotty faced, freaky fannied, big footed, brown arsed, hairy Mary's out there.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From the top down:

Prematurely greying hair - so I worry about the state of my roots if I'm giving someone a BJ;

Bad skin - so I worry that too much of my makeup has been rubbed off;

Approx 7 chins;

Saggy boobs;

Excess body hair;

Saggy stomach and stretch marks - not as a result of children so I can't even tell myself they're "tiger stripes" or similar self-congratulatory bollocks;

Since I can take more than a finger, according to this place I have a fanny like the channel tunnel;

Large labia, which apparently I should put away in case it gets mistaken for a badly packed kebab;

I don't have a pink arsehole;

I have ginormous feet;

I hate my toenails.

That's before I even touch performance related insecurities in my brain.

Hey ho.

Oh my goodness, you just described me! Anal bleach anyone?

It is strangely comforting to know that there are plenty of other spotty faced, freaky fannied, big footed, brown arsed, hairy Mary's out there.xx"

It's the best club to be in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And thankfully despite all these insecurities people still manage to meet on Fabs...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And thankfully despite all these insecurities people still manage to meet on Fabs... "

I didn't recognize you.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And thankfully despite all these insecurities people still manage to meet on Fabs...

I didn't recognize you.

-Courtney"

I didn't either although I've changed my name too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And thankfully despite all these insecurities people still manage to meet on Fabs...

I didn't recognize you.

-Courtney

I didn't either although I've changed my name too."

I felt to carry on being on Fabs a little tweak was needed for 2016 x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And thankfully despite all these insecurities people still manage to meet on Fabs...

I didn't recognize you.

-Courtney

I didn't either although I've changed my name too.

I felt to carry on being on Fabs a little tweak was needed for 2016 x"

And who is going to be the lucky fella and be tweaked?

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By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"From the top down:

Prematurely greying hair - so I worry about the state of my roots if I'm giving someone a BJ;

Bad skin - so I worry that too much of my makeup has been rubbed off;

Approx 7 chins;

Saggy boobs;

Excess body hair;

Saggy stomach and stretch marks - not as a result of children so I can't even tell myself they're "tiger stripes" or similar self-congratulatory bollocks;

Since I can take more than a finger, according to this place I have a fanny like the channel tunnel;

Large labia, which apparently I should put away in case it gets mistaken for a badly packed kebab;

I don't have a pink arsehole;

I have ginormous feet;

I hate my toenails.

That's before I even touch performance related insecurities in my brain.

Hey ho.

Oh my goodness, you just described me! Anal bleach anyone?

It is strangely comforting to know that there are plenty of other spotty faced, freaky fannied, big footed, brown arsed, hairy Mary's out there.xx

It's the best club to be in "

Great club to be in but there's so much more to a person than just their body, beauty is in the eye of the beholder of course but it's the mind that stimulates! Likewise, everyone should be genuine and therefore a social meet is a prerequisite, plus you don't have to go for a kebab unless you would like one that day . Everyone likes different things, we're human after all - it makes it so much more fun!

Sexy erotic pictures say an awful lot about a person, it gets the mental stimulation going from the start!

Nobody is perfect and everyone has imperfections of some kind - It's having the confidence to over come these things - try it and enjoy!

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

Mine is a grower and not a shower, so my insecurity is "what if it doesn't grow!"

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I know what I look like, some will find me attractive and some won't and some won't have an opinion either way.

I'm not sure its having insecurities that's the problem but how that affects you, its not good if insecurities interred with your pleasure. But quite a lot of people can have insecurities or lack confidence but are more than capable of blagging it.

What I do find a turn off from either sex is people that put others down on how they look to cover their own insecurities and I don't mean just on here.

I'm sure we've all come across people in everyday life mocking how others look to cover themselves up.

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