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By *unCoupleTX OP   Couple
over a year ago

Longview

...is fascinating to me! I just read on another thread someone say that bisexual means "half straight"... I have played with women, and I enjoyed it, but I'm not sure if I would consider myself half lesbian. I have come across profiles of men who label themselves bisexual, but they really appear to like men more... And of course, vice versa. I know bisexual men who say they prefer women, but just like to play with a cock sometimes. There is Kinsey's scale, of course, which I agree with... What do you think?

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

I dunno what I am, I've spent most of my life with pussy and only recently found out I like willy too... and I think I might like it more than pussy!

I'll leave it to you to put a label on that.

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By *unCoupleTX OP   Couple
over a year ago

Longview


"I dunno what I am, I've spent most of my life with pussy and only recently found out I like willy too... and I think I might like it more than pussy!

I'll leave it to you to put a label on that. "

Hmmm. I didn't mean to come across as wanting to assign labels. I guess I wonder if those fellas who seem to like "willy" more would consider themselves mostly gay but would get it on with a girl now and then...? And then again, men who consider themselves mostly straight but just like some man play... They say they would never kiss a man and are not attracted to men... What is they like about playing with their willies then? Like I said, I just find it all very interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...is fascinating to me! I just read on another thread someone say that bisexual means "half straight"... I have played with women, and I enjoyed it, but I'm not sure if I would consider myself half lesbian. I have come across profiles of men who label themselves bisexual, but they really appear to like men more... And of course, vice versa. I know bisexual men who say they prefer women, but just like to play with a cock sometimes. There is Kinsey's scale, of course, which I agree with... What do you think? "

Don't label yourself, just have fun and enjoy yourself x

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I'm certainly enjoying my new found bisexuality that I ignored for so long.... my preference now is for Bi MMF fun where I can have an equal amount of pussy and cock... although I still have a preference for boobs and pussy, a lovely looking throbbing cock gets me drooling

Can't be bothered with labels

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central


"...is fascinating to me! I just read on another thread someone say that bisexual means "half straight"... I have played with women, and I enjoyed it, but I'm not sure if I would consider myself half lesbian. I have come across profiles of men who label themselves bisexual, but they really appear to like men more... And of course, vice versa. I know bisexual men who say they prefer women, but just like to play with a cock sometimes. There is Kinsey's scale, of course, which I agree with... What do you think?

Don't label yourself, just have fun and enjoy yourself x"

Well said xxxxxxx

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By *unCoupleTX OP   Couple
over a year ago

Longview


"...is fascinating to me! I just read on another thread someone say that bisexual means "half straight"... I have played with women, and I enjoyed it, but I'm not sure if I would consider myself half lesbian. I have come across profiles of men who label themselves bisexual, but they really appear to like men more... And of course, vice versa. I know bisexual men who say they prefer women, but just like to play with a cock sometimes. There is Kinsey's scale, of course, which I agree with... What do you think?

Don't label yourself, just have fun and enjoy yourself x

Well said xxxxxxx"

Well, darn. Not the direction I meant for this pos . Not into labels at all... Just find the whole topic interestin . Thanks for your replies!

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales


"I dunno what I am, I've spent most of my life with pussy and only recently found out I like willy too... and I think I might like it more than pussy!

I'll leave it to you to put a label on that.

Hmmm. I didn't mean to come across as wanting to assign labels. I guess I wonder if those fellas who seem to like "willy" more would consider themselves mostly gay but would get it on with a girl now and then...? And then again, men who consider themselves mostly straight but just like some man play... They say they would never kiss a man and are not attracted to men... What is they like about playing with their willies then? Like I said, I just find it all very interesting. "

Ok, I don't consider myself as being Gay as I'm not attracted to (most) men. I haven't had or tried to form a relationship with a female for quite some time but purposely sought bisexual activities to test the water so to speak and found I love it... but mainly with tgirls. Not hairy men in their wifes knickers, real Tgirls that look good and know what they want.

I'm still no wiser myself...

Am I gay, bisexual or just weird?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think in my case, when I first 'experimented', I realised that what I thought would be repulsive years ago, can actually be quite intimate and enjoyable now, and doesn't in fact do any harm occasionally. I can see that a male can be attractive both visually and mentally. That said, I'll never stray away from LOVING the ladies in any way, shape or form. I think!???......

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By *unCoupleTX OP   Couple
over a year ago

Longview


"I dunno what I am, I've spent most of my life with pussy and only recently found out I like willy too... and I think I might like it more than pussy!

I'll leave it to you to put a label on that.

Hmmm. I didn't mean to come across as wanting to assign labels. I guess I wonder if those fellas who seem to like "willy" more would consider themselves mostly gay but would get it on with a girl now and then...? And then again, men who consider themselves mostly straight but just like some man play... They say they would never kiss a man and are not attracted to men... What is they like about playing with their willies then? Like I said, I just find it all very interesting.

Ok, I don't consider myself as being Gay as I'm not attracted to (most) men. I haven't had or tried to form a relationship with a female for quite some time but purposely sought bisexual activities to test the water so to speak and found I love it... but mainly with tgirls. Not hairy men in their wifes knickers, real Tgirls that look good and know what they want.

I'm still no wiser myself...

Am I gay, bisexual or just weird? "

Well, I just don't know, darlin. I think we can go thru phases of experimentation, likes, desires, etc. Maybe that phase will stick with us...maybe it will fizzle out... Just as long as we enjoy the ride!

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By *unCoupleTX OP   Couple
over a year ago

Longview


"I think in my case, when I first 'experimented', I realised that what I thought would be repulsive years ago, can actually be quite intimate and enjoyable now, and doesn't in fact do any harm occasionally. I can see that a male can be attractive both visually and mentally. That said, I'll never stray away from LOVING the ladies in any way, shape or form. I think!???...... "

I totally agree! I do understand when people say their bisexuality is just in sexuality and fun and not at all in wanting anything romantic... I would say I'm straight but bi-friendly/bi-open... But who knows, maybe I'm just bisexual. I just like to smooch on and play with a sexy woman when the opportunity presents itself, but I'm not running around looking for girls. It's all in fun. But at the end of the day, I want my man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's me too, but if/when I do meet a guy, and I must say I prefer to meet guys than other 'dressers', and the situation becomes to warm up, there really is nothing to beat the feeling of seeing them aroused, and knowing that it's me that's the cause of that, whether it's just my appearance as Lav, or whether it's any intimate contact that's taken place, but its very exhilarating and the natural conclusion to it all, Ahem...., is always very intimate, loving and enjoyable and has never left me feeling any regret

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Glad to have been of assistance OP

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I don't actively arrange meets with guys, although I have in the past. If I want any man on man fun there is a guy that lives opposite me, or I go to the sauna

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...is fascinating to me! I just read on another thread someone say that bisexual means "half straight"... I have played with women, and I enjoyed it, but I'm not sure if I would consider myself half lesbian. I have come across profiles of men who label themselves bisexual, but they really appear to like men more... And of course, vice versa. I know bisexual men who say they prefer women, but just like to play with a cock sometimes. There is Kinsey's scale, of course, which I agree with... What do you think? "

Bisexual means "two-sexual". You find two genders attractive. Nothing about how much you like them each.

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales


"I dunno what I am, I've spent most of my life with pussy and only recently found out I like willy too... and I think I might like it more than pussy!

I'll leave it to you to put a label on that.

Hmmm. I didn't mean to come across as wanting to assign labels. I guess I wonder if those fellas who seem to like "willy" more would consider themselves mostly gay but would get it on with a girl now and then...? And then again, men who consider themselves mostly straight but just like some man play... They say they would never kiss a man and are not attracted to men... What is they like about playing with their willies then? Like I said, I just find it all very interesting.

Ok, I don't consider myself as being Gay as I'm not attracted to (most) men. I haven't had or tried to form a relationship with a female for quite some time but purposely sought bisexual activities to test the water so to speak and found I love it... but mainly with tgirls. Not hairy men in their wifes knickers, real Tgirls that look good and know what they want.

I'm still no wiser myself...

Am I gay, bisexual or just weird?

Well, I just don't know, darlin. I think we can go thru phases of experimentation, likes, desires, etc. Maybe that phase will stick with us...maybe it will fizzle out... Just as long as we enjoy the ride! "

Ha ha, I love riding... and being ridden as the old saying goes I'm not gay but my boyfriend is! Only my boyfriend is my tgirlfriend.... Oh, it's just getting confusing now.

I'm bisexual

Happy New Year. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would agree there is a scale of some kind but its more about the perception of an individual and how they feel themselves. For example, using Kinsey's scale, a 0 might be someone who very occasionally likes to play with the same sex right through to a 10 who prefers and is attracted to the same sex.

Life gets in the way too as some may deny their feelings right up until death so they maybe perceived by others as straight but actually do like the same sex anywhere along that scale.

Kinseys scale would never be accurate so to speak because there are those like me who didn't realise they liked the same sex until later on in life, so had he only looked at those below 40 yrs old, I and any others like me, wouldn't 'appear'.

I have no interest in entering into a relationship with a woman as I had thought when I first realised that I liked women. That could however change if I fell in love but for now, I am happily bisexual

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By *erts_darlings1Couple
over a year ago

watford

We find it's the person and personality that attracts us, male, female or transgender. Not sure about the science behind it, only know it works for us.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I don't know what the Kinsey scale is but for me, I enjoy being with women and having sex with women, but I prefer a relationship with a guy. For now anyway, I think it's dependant on the person and a lady might come along that I want a relationship with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perfect summary for me personally lavina x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who repeatedly engage in same sex activity are not straight,,,

If you don't believe me ask your Granny or your mates down the pub...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have played with a few couples where the guys have said they are straight, and do no want contact at all with the person of the same sex, now these, to us, are definitely straight.

Not much different to those guys who say they are straight and then reply to Bi couple ads, and then admit that they are bi, or to those who say they are Bi curious, but then upon reading their profiles you find that they have played numerous times with Bi couples and have feedback to say so.

To us, Bi curious means that you are wanting to see what the grass is like on the other side, once you have tasted it, then you are no longer Bi curious,

straight to us means that you have no wish to find out about same sex.

Of course on here, you take people with a pinch of salt as we have had loads of replies from guys who's profiles say straight, and then you find out that they are bi, but they don't want to put Bi in their profile as it will reduce their chances of getting a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a very early age I knew that I 'liked' men & women and as time went by I had girlfriends/wife etc.

The fact always remained that from this early age I also had an attraction to men and this never went away.

I remember wanking as a school boy over the naughty thoughts of possibly playing with their cocks and when getting changed I used to look at their cocks and I caught them looking at mine.

I know that this could have been adolescents being curious but I always used to dry myself after showering very slowly so that all the other boys could see me cock. As I knew that were secretly looking my cock used to grow and as it's quite big some boys used to be obviously take time to look and I was called 'banana dick' for which I didn't mind.

As time went by, I used to wank with friends and this was a massive turn on watching all them with their nice & different sized cocks wanking away and I used to think it was so sexy when they used to shoot their loads(when they could shoot) & they used to find me watching their cocks but this didn't embarrass me as being caught watching was a turn on in itself and I always put on a display being last to cum knowing that my friends were watching me wank and explode my 'banana'. Wow!!

I did have a 'friend' who we used to wank each other off until after a concert we were wanking each other and out the blue he asked if he could suck me.

I let him and cum very quickly but I had a funny feeling that it wasn't right. I of course put this to the back of my mind and sucked his cock until he cum.

This was so wrong but felt so right but at the time-being so confusing.

These meets carried on through the years but I had loads of girlfriends and enjoyed sex so much with them and they put up with my extremely high sex drive.

I mentioned to two long term partners that I had sucked cock and liked it and at first they were shocked and one didn't talk about it again until I confessed that I sucked a man off at a party but the other was so turned on she used to talk about it when having sex as she was Bi as well and had sex with women.

I am happily married with family but my wife doesn't know about my secret life and I am more than happy to keep this secret as I now have the perfect balance.

I am very discreet, clean & safe and I now suck cock on a regular basis but I still love & have amazing sex with my wife.

I have the best of both worlds as long as they don't collide!!

I really do consider & have always known to be Bi Sexual so much so I put this in applications etc.

My dirty history lesson is over.

Enjoy life people. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there's a scale.

I think a lot of people are in denial- both to other people and to themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

To us, Bi curious means that you are wanting to see what the grass is like on the other side, once you have tasted it, then you are no longer Bi curious,

"

So... are people who haven't done anything with the opposite sex called 'straight curious'? Or is 'bi curious' just a horrible made up word by a society that sees interest in the same sex as yourself to be somewhat weird?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

To us, Bi curious means that you are wanting to see what the grass is like on the other side, once you have tasted it, then you are no longer Bi curious,

So... are people who haven't done anything with the opposite sex called 'straight curious'? Or is 'bi curious' just a horrible made up word by a society that sees interest in the same sex as yourself to be somewhat weird? "

I think the sexuality labels on here should be deleted. Just show who people are wanting to meet at that point in time. Straight/ bi etc is irrelevant.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

bisexual when I feel like it, straight the rest of the time? Or bisexual all the time but have sex with mainly ladies.

No idea really. It's just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not one for the whole labeling thing ,i love ladies but im slso an admirer of a hot guys.....why bullshit.?i love looking at hot ,younger,smooth,toned guys and in the past have played with cock....id never do anal with a guy!! Most of my fabs are from guys !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

To us, Bi curious means that you are wanting to see what the grass is like on the other side, once you have tasted it, then you are no longer Bi curious,

So... are people who haven't done anything with the opposite sex called 'straight curious'? Or is 'bi curious' just a horrible made up word by a society that sees interest in the same sex as yourself to be somewhat weird?

I think the sexuality labels on here should be deleted. Just show who people are wanting to meet at that point in time. Straight/ bi etc is irrelevant."

Well they're not really pointless, are they? I mean as a couple my partner and I want to meet men, but we only want to meet men who are interested in playing with penises. So we look for men who are self-identified as bisexual. If we had to mail every single man to ask if they liked penises this site would become an awful lot more frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

To us, Bi curious means that you are wanting to see what the grass is like on the other side, once you have tasted it, then you are no longer Bi curious,

So... are people who haven't done anything with the opposite sex called 'straight curious'? Or is 'bi curious' just a horrible made up word by a society that sees interest in the same sex as yourself to be somewhat weird?

I think the sexuality labels on here should be deleted. Just show who people are wanting to meet at that point in time. Straight/ bi etc is irrelevant."

So true

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I've always felt bisexuality is in the mind, and more about someone being able to overcome society's mores. Logically, if you think about it, if you turn out the lights, the only difference between oral sex from a man or a woman must be in your mind. The same must go for women wearing strap-ons. And, bearing in mind the role they play, I can't imagine there is much difference in taste between a small cock and a large clit.

So maybe those of us who are straight are really just a little staid.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am boringly straight, but I am married to a bi woman, so know something on the subject. Yes there are degrees of bi, some are mostly straight, some mostly gay, statistically there will be a few who sit on the 50 50 mark. but most will fall somewhere else on the scale.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"

To us, Bi curious means that you are wanting to see what the grass is like on the other side, once you have tasted it, then you are no longer Bi curious,

So... are people who haven't done anything with the opposite sex called 'straight curious'? Or is 'bi curious' just a horrible made up word by a society that sees interest in the same sex as yourself to be somewhat weird? "

No, I agree with NECouple, it serves a purpose on here for people who are experimenting. But it isn't a sexuality in itself, just an indication of where you are on your journey, and where you wouldn't mind going imho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I think the sexuality labels on here should be deleted. Just show who people are wanting to meet at that point in time. Straight/ bi etc is irrelevant."

I agree with this.

Swinging to me is a fantasy world, a time to explore, experiment, to be as outrageous and decadent as you wish.

I think many people wonder what it's like to have a sexual experience with the same sex. Some people are more adventurous and try it out. Some people find an outlet for suppressed feelings etc etc.

We both have experimented with oral sex with the same sex. This wasn't planned or expected. For him we just happened to be in a jacuzzi with a group of people all having oral sex.

For me I was in a club whereby two women asked if they could give me oral sex. I agreed because we were in a group room, there were quite a few watching and I thought great let's go for it. I'm an exhibitionist.

I wasn't turned on particularly with the women, the fact the whole club was watching was the pull for me. I didn't like licking the one woman, I didn't do it for very long. I prefer being with men. I've done it, was ok.

We don't class ourselves as bisexual, just adventurous. I don't define my sexuality by what happened in a club for 10 minutes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the main reasons we started swinging was for Sabrina to explore her bi side . She had a dabble in her teens , a full on kiss with a girlfriend on a camping trip , but no more than that .

So since starting some four years ago , it didn't take long for her to realise that her desire for women was there and this was a perfect way to satisfy it .

As for myself , I had no desire as a teenager for same sex experimentation . Nor indeed did I until we met a convincing t girl , who sucked me off and I definately enjoyed it . However I felt no desire to reciprocate . So I guess I may be bi selfish , and that's how things have remained .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

To us, Bi curious means that you are wanting to see what the grass is like on the other side, once you have tasted it, then you are no longer Bi curious,

So... are people who haven't done anything with the opposite sex called 'straight curious'? Or is 'bi curious' just a horrible made up word by a society that sees interest in the same sex as yourself to be somewhat weird?

I think the sexuality labels on here should be deleted. Just show who people are wanting to meet at that point in time. Straight/ bi etc is irrelevant.

Well they're not really pointless, are they? I mean as a couple my partner and I want to meet men, but we only want to meet men who are interested in playing with penises. So we look for men who are self-identified as bisexual. If we had to mail every single man to ask if they liked penises this site would become an awful lot more frustrating."

Ah yeah good point. A bi guy just wanting to meet bi couples wouldn't really show up on the search I was thinking of.

However, when I was looking for bi guys I just searched for 'guys looking for men'. It worked great.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"...is fascinating to me! I just read on another thread someone say that bisexual means "half straight"... I have played with women, and I enjoyed it, but I'm not sure if I would consider myself half lesbian. I have come across profiles of men who label themselves bisexual, but they really appear to like men more... And of course, vice versa. I know bisexual men who say they prefer women, but just like to play with a cock sometimes. There is Kinsey's scale, of course, which I agree with... What do you think?

Don't label yourself, just have fun and enjoy yourself x"

I've said this before: there is nothing wrong with labels. They aren't for you yourself but for the people you hope to play with - they remove a lot of misunderstandings and complications before a meet, and let people know what to expect.

Let's face it you would be pretty pissed off if you bought an unlabelled tin expecting caviar and it turned out to be dog food, or in some circumstances vice versa. Let's stop bashing labels and take them for what they are - a show of necessary honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Mr C) loves pussy but over the past year iv found I love to suck a nice big cock, but sucking is as far as i will go, not sure if I'm classed as bi or what lol, I just know me and Mrs C enjoy sharing one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...is fascinating to me! I just read on another thread someone say that bisexual means "half straight"... I have played with women, and I enjoyed it, but I'm not sure if I would consider myself half lesbian. I have come across profiles of men who label themselves bisexual, but they really appear to like men more... And of course, vice versa. I know bisexual men who say they prefer women, but just like to play with a cock sometimes. There is Kinsey's scale, of course, which I agree with... What do you think?

Don't label yourself, just have fun and enjoy yourself x

I've said this before: there is nothing wrong with labels. They aren't for you yourself but for the people you hope to play with - they remove a lot of misunderstandings and complications before a meet, and let people know what to expect.

Let's face it you would be pretty pissed off if you bought an unlabelled tin expecting caviar and it turned out to be dog food, or in some circumstances vice versa. Let's stop bashing labels and take them for what they are - a show of necessary honesty."

But, if you discuss play expectations/boundaries before meeting - there aren't any misunderstandings?

Labels don't mean anything - people lie.

The only people that like labels are control freaks (not saying you are, I don't know you) it's all about compartmentalising people so the labeller thinks they're in control of a situation when really they could have been duped because someone's telling them what they want to hear.

Instinct, open dialogue and gut feelings are the indicator of who/what someone is - not a label

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...is fascinating to me! I just read on another thread someone say that bisexual means "half straight"... I have played with women, and I enjoyed it, but I'm not sure if I would consider myself half lesbian. I have come across profiles of men who label themselves bisexual, but they really appear to like men more... And of course, vice versa. I know bisexual men who say they prefer women, but just like to play with a cock sometimes. There is Kinsey's scale, of course, which I agree with... What do you think?

Don't label yourself, just have fun and enjoy yourself x

I've said this before: there is nothing wrong with labels. They aren't for you yourself but for the people you hope to play with - they remove a lot of misunderstandings and complications before a meet, and let people know what to expect.

Let's face it you would be pretty pissed off if you bought an unlabelled tin expecting caviar and it turned out to be dog food, or in some circumstances vice versa. Let's stop bashing labels and take them for what they are - a show of necessary honesty.

But, if you discuss play expectations/boundaries before meeting - there aren't any misunderstandings?

Labels don't mean anything - people lie.

The only people that like labels are control freaks (not saying you are, I don't know you) it's all about compartmentalising people so the labeller thinks they're in control of a situation when really they could have been duped because someone's telling them what they want to hear.

Instinct, open dialogue and gut feelings are the indicator of who/what someone is - not a label"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (Mr C) loves pussy but over the past year iv found I love to suck a nice big cock, but sucking is as far as i will go, not sure if I'm classed as bi or what lol, I just know me and Mrs C enjoy sharing one.

"

That's awesome as long as you enjoy it that's all that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish the only label available on here was 'sexual'. Not hetero, not homo, not bi. Then people can just discuss between themselves what 'sexual' means for them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I consider myself bisexual because gender barriers don't particularly matter to me with regards to who I find sexually attractive, it's not really much more complicated than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish the only label available on here was 'sexual'. Not hetero, not homo, not bi. Then people can just discuss between themselves what 'sexual' means for them! "

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I've said this before: there is nothing wrong with labels. They aren't for you yourself but for the people you hope to play with - they remove a lot of misunderstandings and complications before a meet, and let people know what to expect.

... Let's stop bashing labels and take them for what they are - a show of necessary honesty."

well sad

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

*Said...

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

Whilst labels often don't work very well, they are important indicators.

In truth, I don't really know what I am. Largely straight, but aware that there are more important things in life and this world to worry about whether I play with a cock?

I don't particularly enjoy it, but if I'm in a group situation and feeling generous, meh, I don't see the harm in giving a suck, haha.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Whilst labels often don't work very well, they are important indicators.

In truth, I don't really know what I am. Largely straight, but aware that there are more important things in life and this world to worry about whether I play with a cock?

I don't particularly enjoy it, but if I'm in a group situation and feeling generous, meh, I don't see the harm in giving a suck, haha. "

A healthy and mature and open minded attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst labels often don't work very well, they are important indicators.

In truth, I don't really know what I am. Largely straight, but aware that there are more important things in life and this world to worry about whether I play with a cock?

I don't particularly enjoy it, but if I'm in a group situation and feeling generous, meh, I don't see the harm in giving a suck, haha. "

Then you should be honest for the labelettes and put that you're bi ? They need to know your sexual history straightaway, not what you're planning to do with them, for some reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not bisexual I'm just greedy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not bisexual I'm just greedy lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op some mentioned on the post bi friendly I think that's a great phase and seems to sum me up rather well . I love men totally but am very attracted to women and just exploring that side of my sexual nature . I am just going with the flow and loving it X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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To us, Bi curious means that you are wanting to see what the grass is like on the other side, once you have tasted it, then you are no longer Bi curious,

So... are people who haven't done anything with the opposite sex called 'straight curious'? Or is 'bi curious' just a horrible made up word by a society that sees interest in the same sex as yourself to be somewhat weird? "

Doesn't make any difference to us what label you use, we are what we are, but feel that since we have 'tasted the grass on the other side' and liked the taste of it, we are no longer curious.

can't see where that is weird.

we like to put on our profile what it is that we like, and to try and be honest, but we know, that honesty on for for a few ( NOT all, so don't go jumping down our necks ) is rare.

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts


"

Then you should be honest for the labelettes and put that you're bi ? They need to know your sexual history straightaway, not what you're planning to do with them, for some reason"

But I'm not bi. I don't find men or cock particularly appealing. Nor do I plan to engage in bi activity when I meet people. It's only if asked, I may oblige

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I consider myself 60 / 40

I love men I love everything about them and have never doubted that!

So that's the 60% ....

But I admire women and usually have a better connection with them and they are beautiful!

So that's my 40%

Meh - I'm not bothered about the label!

I just want to be with who I want to be with at the time!

I have always felt this way.

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Then you should be honest for the labelettes and put that you're bi ? They need to know your sexual history straightaway, not what you're planning to do with them, for some reason

But I'm not bi. I don't find men or cock particularly appealing. Nor do I plan to engage in bi activity when I meet people. It's only if asked, I may oblige "

The label lovers would say you are bi as obligingly sucking cock isn't something straight men would do, therefore, to them, you labelling yourself as straight is dishonest. The straight label doesn't indicate 'oh he might suck cock'. You said labels are needed to indicate?

Again, labels tell don't tell us anything really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...is fascinating to me! I just read on another thread someone say that bisexual means "half straight"... I have played with women, and I enjoyed it, but I'm not sure if I would consider myself half lesbian. I have come across profiles of men who label themselves bisexual, but they really appear to like men more... And of course, vice versa. I know bisexual men who say they prefer women, but just like to play with a cock sometimes. There is Kinsey's scale, of course, which I agree with... What do you think?

Don't label yourself, just have fun and enjoy yourself x"

This is all that we should care about

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By *obyorkMan
over a year ago

Keighley

I'm happy to be called bisexual. I suppose it's a sort of shorthand, to say I will have sex with both women and men. Hopefully, as society's mores change, labels will become less important. Many ancient cultures readily accepted that people would have relationships with both sexes.

I'm definitely more attracted to women than men. Just looking at a beautiful woman is a pleasure, something I could never say about a man. I also prefer the soft curves of a woman and particularly her scent.

With men, it's more basic. I want their cock! I like to have a cuddle and a snog with a bloke, but ultimately it's their dick I'm interested in, and swallowing their cum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only over the last few months I've become in touch with my bi side but only orally and I have to be attracted to the guy, I wouldn't put a label on what is other than experimental and greedy lol ?? I'd love to try mmf mmff would be fantastic for everyone to explore each other

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"

Then you should be honest for the labelettes and put that you're bi ? They need to know your sexual history straightaway, not what you're planning to do with them, for some reason

But I'm not bi. I don't find men or cock particularly appealing. Nor do I plan to engage in bi activity when I meet people. It's only if asked, I may oblige

The label lovers would say you are bi as obligingly sucking cock isn't something straight men would do, therefore, to them, you labelling yourself as straight is dishonest. The straight label doesn't indicate 'oh he might suck cock'. You said labels are needed to indicate?

Again, labels tell don't tell us anything really."

I think you are taking this anti label stance a little too far - do you object to being labelled male or female or a couple? It might lead to some interesting fab encounters if you removed that label.

When it comes to sexuality and sexual preferences it is best to be honest. We wouldn't expect a guy who says he is straight to start playing with my partner's cock - if he did it would be a total turn off for both of us. Being bi wouldn't stop us from playing with him - it would just signal that we needed to discuss boundaries before hand

Labels are not for control freaks as you assert. They are how you choose to describe yourself to people who know nothing else about you. They are not imposed externally but voluntarily by yourself - in other words "this is how I see myself - are you interested or not?"

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By *hilledPCMan
over a year ago

Grantham


"

Labels are not for control freaks as you assert. They are how you choose to describe yourself to people who know nothing else about you. They are not imposed externally but voluntarily by yourself - in other words "this is how I see myself - are you interested or not?" "

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By *ne hung loMan
over a year ago

gloucester


"I'm certainly enjoying my new found bisexuality that I ignored for so long.... my preference now is for Bi MMF fun where I can have an equal amount of pussy and cock... although I still have a preference for boobs and pussy, a lovely looking throbbing cock gets me drooling

Can't be bothered with labels "
spot on buddy same ere a portion of pussy and a side order of cock hmm yum yum

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley


"...is fascinating to me! I just read on another thread someone say that bisexual means "half straight"... I have played with women, and I enjoyed it, but I'm not sure if I would consider myself half lesbian. I have come across profiles of men who label themselves bisexual, but they really appear to like men more... And of course, vice versa. I know bisexual men who say they prefer women, but just like to play with a cock sometimes. There is Kinsey's scale, of course, which I agree with... What do you think?

Don't label yourself, just have fun and enjoy yourself x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm certainly enjoying my new found bisexuality that I ignored for so long.... my preference now is for Bi MMF fun where I can have an equal amount of pussy and cock... although I still have a preference for boobs and pussy, a lovely looking throbbing cock gets me drooling

Can't be bothered with labels spot on buddy same ere a portion of pussy and a side order of cock hmm yum yum"

I like a bit of both sometimes more one than the other and vice versa I love sex with open sexual people so I am what I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Then you should be honest for the labelettes and put that you're bi ? They need to know your sexual history straightaway, not what you're planning to do with them, for some reason

But I'm not bi. I don't find men or cock particularly appealing. Nor do I plan to engage in bi activity when I meet people. It's only if asked, I may oblige

The label lovers would say you are bi as obligingly sucking cock isn't something straight men would do, therefore, to them, you labelling yourself as straight is dishonest. The straight label doesn't indicate 'oh he might suck cock'. You said labels are needed to indicate?

Again, labels tell don't tell us anything really.

I think you are taking this anti label stance a little too far - do you object to being labelled male or female or a couple? It might lead to some interesting fab encounters if you removed that label.

When it comes to sexuality and sexual preferences it is best to be honest. We wouldn't expect a guy who says he is straight to start playing with my partner's cock - if he did it would be a total turn off for both of us. Being bi wouldn't stop us from playing with him - it would just signal that we needed to discuss boundaries before hand

Labels are not for control freaks as you assert. They are how you choose to describe yourself to people who know nothing else about you. They are not imposed externally but voluntarily by yourself - in other words "this is how I see myself - are you interested or not?" "

Yes I'm anti label and I'll take it as far as I like. Just like you need to assert your straightness on mostly every bi thread it seems.

Yes, and he may see himself as straight, so he uses the straight label even though he's had man on man fun.

You'd believe he is straight because he says he is - doesn't mean he is. And just because he's had man on man before doesn't mean he wants your mans cock.

Discuss boundaries. That's all you need to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Then you should be honest for the labelettes and put that you're bi ? They need to know your sexual history straightaway, not what you're planning to do with them, for some reason

But I'm not bi. I don't find men or cock particularly appealing. Nor do I plan to engage in bi activity when I meet people. It's only if asked, I may oblige

The label lovers would say you are bi as obligingly sucking cock isn't something straight men would do, therefore, to them, you labelling yourself as straight is dishonest. The straight label doesn't indicate 'oh he might suck cock'. You said labels are needed to indicate?

Again, labels tell don't tell us anything really.

I think you are taking this anti label stance a little too far - do you object to being labelled male or female or a couple? It might lead to some interesting fab encounters if you removed that label.

When it comes to sexuality and sexual preferences it is best to be honest. We wouldn't expect a guy who says he is straight to start playing with my partner's cock - if he did it would be a total turn off for both of us. Being bi wouldn't stop us from playing with him - it would just signal that we needed to discuss boundaries before hand

Labels are not for control freaks as you assert. They are how you choose to describe yourself to people who know nothing else about you. They are not imposed externally but voluntarily by yourself - in other words "this is how I see myself - are you interested or not?"

Yes I'm anti label and I'll take it as far as I like. Just like you need to assert your straightness on mostly every bi thread it seems.

Yes, and he may see himself as straight, so he uses the straight label even though he's had man on man fun.

You'd believe he is straight because he says he is - doesn't mean he is. And just because he's had man on man before doesn't mean he wants your mans cock.

Discuss boundaries. That's all you need to do. "

'He' is used as a general term.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"

Then you should be honest for the labelettes and put that you're bi ? They need to know your sexual history straightaway, not what you're planning to do with them, for some reason

But I'm not bi. I don't find men or cock particularly appealing. Nor do I plan to engage in bi activity when I meet people. It's only if asked, I may oblige

The label lovers would say you are bi as obligingly sucking cock isn't something straight men would do, therefore, to them, you labelling yourself as straight is dishonest. The straight label doesn't indicate 'oh he might suck cock'. You said labels are needed to indicate?

Again, labels tell don't tell us anything really.

I think you are taking this anti label stance a little too far - do you object to being labelled male or female or a couple? It might lead to some interesting fab encounters if you removed that label.

When it comes to sexuality and sexual preferences it is best to be honest. We wouldn't expect a guy who says he is straight to start playing with my partner's cock - if he did it would be a total turn off for both of us. Being bi wouldn't stop us from playing with him - it would just signal that we needed to discuss boundaries before hand

Labels are not for control freaks as you assert. They are how you choose to describe yourself to people who know nothing else about you. They are not imposed externally but voluntarily by yourself - in other words "this is how I see myself - are you interested or not?"

Yes I'm anti label and I'll take it as far as I like. Just like you need to assert your straightness on mostly every bi thread it seems.

Yes, and he may see himself as straight, so he uses the straight label even though he's had man on man fun.

You'd believe he is straight because he says he is - doesn't mean he is. And just because he's had man on man before doesn't mean he wants your mans cock.

Discuss boundaries. That's all you need to do. "

Sorry, I don't assert that I am straight - I am quite open that I am bi. I, and my partner, are simply turned off by man on man, just as I guess some things turn you off.

Secondly your profile is nothing but a long list of labels - because that is all descriptors are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Then you should be honest for the labelettes and put that you're bi ? They need to know your sexual history straightaway, not what you're planning to do with them, for some reason

But I'm not bi. I don't find men or cock particularly appealing. Nor do I plan to engage in bi activity when I meet people. It's only if asked, I may oblige

The label lovers would say you are bi as obligingly sucking cock isn't something straight men would do, therefore, to them, you labelling yourself as straight is dishonest. The straight label doesn't indicate 'oh he might suck cock'. You said labels are needed to indicate?

Again, labels tell don't tell us anything really.

I think you are taking this anti label stance a little too far - do you object to being labelled male or female or a couple? It might lead to some interesting fab encounters if you removed that label.

When it comes to sexuality and sexual preferences it is best to be honest. We wouldn't expect a guy who says he is straight to start playing with my partner's cock - if he did it would be a total turn off for both of us. Being bi wouldn't stop us from playing with him - it would just signal that we needed to discuss boundaries before hand

Labels are not for control freaks as you assert. They are how you choose to describe yourself to people who know nothing else about you. They are not imposed externally but voluntarily by yourself - in other words "this is how I see myself - are you interested or not?"

Yes I'm anti label and I'll take it as far as I like. Just like you need to assert your straightness on mostly every bi thread it seems.

Yes, and he may see himself as straight, so he uses the straight label even though he's had man on man fun.

You'd believe he is straight because he says he is - doesn't mean he is. And just because he's had man on man before doesn't mean he wants your mans cock.

Discuss boundaries. That's all you need to do.

Sorry, I don't assert that I am straight - I am quite open that I am bi. I, and my partner, are simply turned off by man on man, just as I guess some things turn you off.

Secondly your profile is nothing but a long list of labels - because that is all descriptors are. "

Sorry, didn't you say above labels save confusion? So you should label each post you make with a name perhaps?

Labels in a profile aren't descriptors - they say as much as one is willing to say in public. Private messages/dialogue tell the real story.

Never trust labels. Only yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all in the lifestyle to have fun, that's all it is, so if everyone is comfortable and the moment presents something a little different, then let go and have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am most deff BI, crashed the car almost a few times dribbling over some womans ass / legs/ boobs ect. However, I love a pussy and will dive like the next man. However I'm not keen on FF play. I do like my pussy filled. I had a gang bang in the Forest the other night a BI lady was there too. She was a receiver not a giver. I gave and full stop nothing...... So why should I give and not receive. Like BJ's I dont just met for them! Might be a red head hing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd consider myself more hetero-flexible.

I don't think I'd ever have a relationship with a woman so can't really call myself fully bi, though it is easier to call myself that.

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By *lintshire72Man
over a year ago

North Wales

This is such a difficult question. Certainly somewhere on the bi spectrum lol, but hard thing to measure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I just don't believe in sexualities (plural),just sexuality (singular).I feel that I have red hot passion flowing through my veins and to limit the opportunities to share that passion would be foolish.

To refer to it as 'gay' 'bi' or 'straight' is just labelling,,I just call it passion.

(this is not the same as being not fussy,,,got to be someone nice but can be a nice woman or a nice man).

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very Bi, I lust over women more than men but I think that's cause it's still a bit taboo, outside of swinging. I could never be in a relationship with a girl as that doesn't appeal to me & I have always had boyfriends

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By *aughtyman45Man
over a year ago

lincoln

Life is too short to worry about labels.

If you enjoy it do it ! There is no point in wondering what might have been if .........

Just go for it and enjoy it. If you don't enjoy it, then don't do it again.

Also never judge others - Who says you are right ! Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Then you should be honest for the labelettes and put that you're bi ? They need to know your sexual history straightaway, not what you're planning to do with them, for some reason

But I'm not bi. I don't find men or cock particularly appealing. Nor do I plan to engage in bi activity when I meet people. It's only if asked, I may oblige

The label lovers would say you are bi as obligingly sucking cock isn't something straight men would do, therefore, to them, you labelling yourself as straight is dishonest. The straight label doesn't indicate 'oh he might suck cock'. You said labels are needed to indicate?

Again, labels tell don't tell us anything really.

I think you are taking this anti label stance a little too far - do you object to being labelled male or female or a couple? It might lead to some interesting fab encounters if you removed that label.

When it comes to sexuality and sexual preferences it is best to be honest. We wouldn't expect a guy who says he is straight to start playing with my partner's cock - if he did it would be a total turn off for both of us. Being bi wouldn't stop us from playing with him - it would just signal that we needed to discuss boundaries before hand

Labels are not for control freaks as you assert. They are how you choose to describe yourself to people who know nothing else about you. They are not imposed externally but voluntarily by yourself - in other words "this is how I see myself - are you interested or not?" "

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By *unCoupleTX OP   Couple
over a year ago

Longview


"I'd consider myself more hetero-flexible.

I don't think I'd ever have a relationship with a woman so can't really call myself fully bi, though it is easier to call myself that. "

Great answer... I agree completely. But I think the term bi isn't constricted to wanting a romantic relationship; I think it also defines sexual attraction whether it is just to play and enjoy in the right setting which many on here seem to relate to- or a true ongoing attraction to both sexes. That's what I always used to think it was before learning and becoming involved in the LS. But now I think it is much, much more involved than all that! I've loved reading everyone's answers!! Thank y'all so much!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I just don't believe in sexualities (plural),just sexuality (singular).I feel that I have red hot passion flowing through my veins and to limit the opportunities to share that passion would be foolish.

To refer to it as 'gay' 'bi' or 'straight' is just labelling,,I just call it passion.

(this is not the same as being not fussy,,,got to be someone nice but can be a nice woman or a nice man).

X"

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