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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello

A little question, probably most helpful if answered by subs or masochists.

I love being caned etc. But can't stop myself from screaming and I don't know how to stay quiet.

I get punished for being loud but them I'm just even louder!

Can I train myself to not scream? If so any tips would be welcome. Or am I just always going to be a screamer?

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Hello

A little question, probably most helpful if answered by subs or masochists.

I love being caned etc. But can't stop myself from screaming and I don't know how to stay quiet.

I get punished for being loud but them I'm just even louder!

Can I train myself to not scream? If so any tips would be welcome. Or am I just always going to be a screamer? "

I'm noisy as fuck. Also fidget, constantly move and when things get heavy, I run across the dungeon and ball into a corner. I laugh loudly when I'm in pain. I swear, shriek, cry, whine.

I absolutely cannot remain still and silent. It's just not me. I've watched really hardcore impact scenes when the masochist has instantly gone into space and remained still and quiet.

When I do start to float I will calm and the noise dies off.

In my experience, the sadists I've played with prefer my reactions to their activities rather than me being passive.

I'll watch the thread for any other comments to see if I can pick up some tips.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hello

A little question, probably most helpful if answered by subs or masochists.

I love being caned etc. But can't stop myself from screaming and I don't know how to stay quiet.

I get punished for being loud but them I'm just even louder!

Can I train myself to not scream? If so any tips would be welcome. Or am I just always going to be a screamer?

I'm noisy as fuck. Also fidget, constantly move and when things get heavy, I run across the dungeon and ball into a corner. I laugh loudly when I'm in pain. I swear, shriek, cry, whine.

I absolutely cannot remain still and silent. It's just not me. I've watched really hardcore impact scenes when the masochist has instantly gone into space and remained still and quiet.

When I do start to float I will calm and the noise dies off.

In my experience, the sadists I've played with prefer my reactions to their activities rather than me being passive.

I'll watch the thread for any other comments to see if I can pick up some tips. "

That's what I'm like! I can never keep still or quiet. But I'd like to as I know it would make life easier for him! Haha. Glad to see its not just me though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id gag you!! Just a lil idea..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Id gag you!! Just a lil idea.."

Tried. I can still make noise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think they like the screaming

I couldn't keep quiet if I tried. Although the gas mask helps lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go into my own head pisses them of more than being noisy cause I don't do anything but take it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello

A little question, probably most helpful if answered by subs or masochists.

I love being caned etc. But can't stop myself from screaming and I don't know how to stay quiet.

I get punished for being loud but them I'm just even louder!

Can I train myself to not scream? If so any tips would be welcome. Or am I just always going to be a screamer? "

Request from your Master or Mistress to be "Ball Gagged"

or feel each strike not as pain but has pleasure as the intensity rips through your body .... feel it deep within .... loose your mind to the pleasure .... control your thoughts of screaming to the intense pleasure that you are giving your Master or Mistress... x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I go into my own head pisses them of more than being noisy cause I don't do anything but take it lol "

I need to learn how to do this coz I'm just too loud. I'm always wary coz I play in hotels and people might think I'm being murdered haha. I can be good at first and I get progressively worse as it goes on.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I can't stand the cane so he doesn't use it, and sticks to hand, floggers and paddles.....have you tried a bit gag?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

You can train yourself to do it but it's hard to explain quite how but I find it requires an immense ammount of focus and most people don't have the attention span for it while enjoying the experience

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By *ndykinkyMan
over a year ago

STOKE-ON-TRENT

Get your Dom to stop when he feels the noise is too loud. Break until regain composure and then try again.

If you like to be spanked you will learn to control yourself and be able to take more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try eating a large scotch egg whilst you're being caned, hard to scream with one of them in your mouth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go into my own head pisses them of more than being noisy cause I don't do anything but take it lol

I need to learn how to do this coz I'm just too loud. I'm always wary coz I play in hotels and people might think I'm being murdered haha. I can be good at first and I get progressively worse as it goes on. "

If you are meant to be quiet then you should be slowly taught to manage it. find the limit up to that. Or maybe you just can't be. Not a big deal. Explain that in early chats along with other limits. However there are Manu things that can be over come with time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I go into my own head pisses them of more than being noisy cause I don't do anything but take it lol

I need to learn how to do this coz I'm just too loud. I'm always wary coz I play in hotels and people might think I'm being murdered haha. I can be good at first and I get progressively worse as it goes on.

If you are meant to be quiet then you should be slowly taught to manage it. find the limit up to that. Or maybe you just can't be. Not a big deal. Explain that in early chats along with other limits. However there are Manu things that can be over come with time. "

We've had quite a few sessions already and I've never managed to stay quiet. Maybe its just how I am. I just want to be the perfect sub instead of looking like a pussy lol

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"I go into my own head pisses them of more than being noisy cause I don't do anything but take it lol

I need to learn how to do this coz I'm just too loud. I'm always wary coz I play in hotels and people might think I'm being murdered haha. I can be good at first and I get progressively worse as it goes on.

If you are meant to be quiet then you should be slowly taught to manage it. find the limit up to that. Or maybe you just can't be. Not a big deal. Explain that in early chats along with other limits. However there are Manu things that can be over come with time.

We've had quite a few sessions already and I've never managed to stay quiet. Maybe its just how I am. I just want to be the perfect sub instead of looking like a pussy lol "

Maybe a perfect sub to him is a girl that screams and wriggles and feels every bit of the pain he administers, and tries to take it... For him.

You're not a pussy for not staying quiet. You're putting your body through pain. Whatever your threshold is. It's never a competition. You'll have days where you feel disappointed in yourself for taking less that day. Try not to get into that mindset.

When I start to float/space I can take more and I'm calmer. It's only been a few people that can get me into that state though. A slow build up in an extended session.

Maybe that becomes easier to achieve with practise?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I go into my own head pisses them of more than being noisy cause I don't do anything but take it lol

I need to learn how to do this coz I'm just too loud. I'm always wary coz I play in hotels and people might think I'm being murdered haha. I can be good at first and I get progressively worse as it goes on.

If you are meant to be quiet then you should be slowly taught to manage it. find the limit up to that. Or maybe you just can't be. Not a big deal. Explain that in early chats along with other limits. However there are Manu things that can be over come with time.

We've had quite a few sessions already and I've never managed to stay quiet. Maybe its just how I am. I just want to be the perfect sub instead of looking like a pussy lol

Maybe a perfect sub to him is a girl that screams and wriggles and feels every bit of the pain he administers, and tries to take it... For him.

You're not a pussy for not staying quiet. You're putting your body through pain. Whatever your threshold is. It's never a competition. You'll have days where you feel disappointed in yourself for taking less that day. Try not to get into that mindset.

When I start to float/space I can take more and I'm calmer. It's only been a few people that can get me into that state though. A slow build up in an extended session.

Maybe that becomes easier to achieve with practise? "

Im always getting in to trouble for being too loud and wriggly. I do get to a point where the pain goes and I get intense pleasure but that doesn't last long and I start screaming again.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I think you need to discuss with him what the "perfect sub" is for him.

Maybe you never will be quiet. Some people are loud, others can lie there and take it. Everyone is different. It might not be appropriate to punish you for being loud - or you might see it as part of the fun even knowing that you cannot be quiet.

Your Dom/Master ought to learn when the screaming is your usual reaction to pain and when it means you're genuinely in serious distress. It's the kind of thing I look for when topping/domming. In many ways it is better to have someone vocal, the subs who are capable of lying silent and taking a beating are impressive but it's more difficult to know what effect the play is having on them.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Hello

A little question, probably most helpful if answered by subs or masochists.

I love being caned etc. But can't stop myself from screaming and I don't know how to stay quiet.

I get punished for being loud but them I'm just even louder!

Can I train myself to not scream? If so any tips would be welcome. Or am I just always going to be a screamer? "

My first experience with a paddle caused me to say a rather pathetic "ow" and then no verbal reaction with more use.

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By *arah_11TV/TS
over a year ago

Yeadon/Leeds

"I go into my own head pisses them of more than being noisy cause I don't do anything but take it lol

I need to learn how to do this coz I'm just too loud. I'm always wary coz I play in hotels and people might think I'm being murdered haha. I can be good at first and I get progressively worse as it goes on. "

I'm more on the quite side! And some complain as they are not sure I'm enjoying it!

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

When subbing I am also on the quiet side. It has been suggested I am so quiet and "just lie there and take it" such that it's no fun for the domme and possibly even dangerous. I can take impact play to the point of bleeding before I make a sound, on some occasions.

On the other hand, if I do start shouting, then the person topping me knows they're really causing some serious pain.

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