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"I can only speak for myself but i would never get into s relationship with anyone i had met off here simply because if i found someone i wanted to share my life with i would give up swinging as i feel i would no longer need to meet random people for sex if i had someone i loved I also feel it would be unfair to meet someone thro doing this and then expect them to stop because it was what i nolonger wanted to do therefor i just wouldnt entertain meeting someone off here fior anything more than NSA sex saying that im quite happy as i am at the moment and loving my single and free lifestyle and have no plans to change it for now " Totally agree. | |||
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"It's a shame for you. I'll explain what goes on in my head and perhaps it might help? I've been cheated on by a guy who used Fab as a single guy. We didn't swing together and hadn't met through the scene. I personally have a lot of trust issues with men, rightly, wrongly - just down to my past partners. But I know I can and have stopped using the site in the past because I know why I use it when I'm single. But I think I'd worry that once a guy got a taste for it, he'd not give it up and would do it behind my back. Bearing in mind I'd not want to swing if I was in a relationship. Plus, I'd worry that meeting on the scene would possibly carry an expectation that we would now swing as a couple." I see this sort of thing all the time. call me cynical but I usually give any swinging couple made up of two swingles about 3 months max - one or the other seems to find the temptation to play alone surreptitiously too great to resist. there are of course exceptions .............. some dont last more than a month | |||
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"It's a shame for you. I'll explain what goes on in my head and perhaps it might help? I've been cheated on by a guy who used Fab as a single guy. We didn't swing together and hadn't met through the scene. I personally have a lot of trust issues with men, rightly, wrongly - just down to my past partners. But I know I can and have stopped using the site in the past because I know why I use it when I'm single. But I think I'd worry that once a guy got a taste for it, he'd not give it up and would do it behind my back. Bearing in mind I'd not want to swing if I was in a relationship. Plus, I'd worry that meeting on the scene would possibly carry an expectation that we would now swing as a couple. I see this sort of thing all the time. call me cynical but I usually give any swinging couple made up of two swingles about 3 months max - one or the other seems to find the temptation to play alone surreptitiously too great to resist. there are of course exceptions .............. some dont last more than a month" yeah i agree, i know quite a few people who have met thro swinging and some have even got married and tho so far some have worked and lasted i know more couples who have met thro swinging who have split up than whos made it work | |||
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"It's a shame for you. I'll explain what goes on in my head and perhaps it might help? I've been cheated on by a guy who used Fab as a single guy. We didn't swing together and hadn't met through the scene. I personally have a lot of trust issues with men, rightly, wrongly - just down to my past partners. But I know I can and have stopped using the site in the past because I know why I use it when I'm single. But I think I'd worry that once a guy got a taste for it, he'd not give it up and would do it behind my back. Bearing in mind I'd not want to swing if I was in a relationship. Plus, I'd worry that meeting on the scene would possibly carry an expectation that we would now swing as a couple. I see this sort of thing all the time. call me cynical but I usually give any swinging couple made up of two swingles about 3 months max - one or the other seems to find the temptation to play alone surreptitiously too great to resist. there are of course exceptions .............. some dont last more than a month" An interesting view point and i have to assume its from personal experience. Trust issues and insecurity are quite common with less confident people. | |||
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"Question though when are you ready to give swinging up as I think for me it would always be in the back of my mind. I dont think I could or is that being selfish." For the right person - tomorrow. For now, though, I'm still looking for that person so I'm happy to continue as I am. | |||
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"I know this doesn't apply to everyone, or even most. It is just something I've seen over the years (both in real life and online). Why do some single women actively involved in swinging avoid even the idea of dating a man also actively involved in the lifestyle but will date and try to bring a man who knows nothing about swinging into it? I ask this question because in August I met a woman (I seem meet a lot of women, but I don't seem to click with them) who seemed real eager to be in a LTR with me UNTIL she saw my ad on Fab in September. Then she said she didn't date guys who thought they were swingers. No matter what I said, she thought I was running some kind of game on her. Funny thing is, she also had an ad on the site, with full face pictures, some explicit, on the site, and she was verified from meets too. (she no longer uses the site and no longer has a profile here) I was/am a little confused over the situation, what do other think about this. Its a mystery to me. Then again, I like mysteries. I think that is why I'm so interested in women. Just looking for a little insight so I can finally put that little episode behind me. Especially since I met her at my favourite pub and now she totally snubs me when I go there. What did I do wrong? " What did you do wrong? Nothing, fella. At least, not as far as I can tell. I've given up trying to understand women and their logic. It's a lost cause. | |||
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"Im the opposite I love the swinging lifestyle and the social side of swinging and would love to be in a relationship with a male swinger but I would want our relationship to be rock solid before we got into the scene together. So would perhaps come out of the scene for a year or two and then come back. But swinging would always be in the back of my head. Hope this makes sense. The Couples that I have met through swinging I am totally in awe of them and they are some of the best relationships I have ever seen. And I want one like that." Here's a hypothetical question for you, Shaz... What if tomorrow you found yourself meeting Mr Right? The man of your dreams. (The one and only true love - or at least it seems. With brown coco skin and curly black hair. It's just the way he looks at you, that gentle lovin' stare.) But you met him at work or at the supermarket or when putting out your dustbin... i.e. he's vanilla not a swinger. Could you picture yourself falling for him to the extent that you'd give up the lifestyle? Or would you try to involve him in it? And what if you tried to bring him into the scene but he didn't want to be a part of it? If you had to choose one or the other - which would it be? | |||
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"I can only speak for myself but i would never get into s relationship with anyone i had met off here simply because if i found someone i wanted to share my life with i would give up swinging as i feel i would no longer need to meet random people for sex if i had someone i loved I also feel it would be unfair to meet someone thro doing this and then expect them to stop because it was what i nolonger wanted to do therefor i just wouldnt entertain meeting someone off here fior anything more than NSA sex saying that im quite happy as i am at the moment and loving my single and free lifestyle and have no plans to change it for now Totally agree. " Pretty much sums it up for me too! | |||
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"I can only speak for myself but i would never get into s relationship with anyone i had met off here simply because if i found someone i wanted to share my life with i would give up swinging as i feel i would no longer need to meet random people for sex if i had someone i loved I also feel it would be unfair to meet someone thro doing this and then expect them to stop because it was what i nolonger wanted to do therefor i just wouldnt entertain meeting someone off here fior anything more than NSA sex saying that im quite happy as i am at the moment and loving my single and free lifestyle and have no plans to change it for now Totally agree. Pretty much sums it up for me too! " I suppose it depends why you swing - most women view sexuality differently than men BUT there is a lot more diversity in womens attitudes towards sex, many women can also easily flip sexual orientation wheras considrably less men can. What I mean is, some girls do it for a shag, a bit of fun, and to feel attractive and other women may do it for some type of added sexual excitement and twist - wheras most guys do it cause they want to shag as many women as possible | |||
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"Oh, and it's only fair I answer the same questions (although you've probably guessed my answers from my comment a few posts above this one). If I met someone who I fell for hook, line and sinker - I'd give this up immediately if necessary. In fact, if I ever fall for someone who isn't a swinger then I can see myself just saying goodbye to the friends I've made here, deleting this account and never ever mentioning it to them. For me, swinging would always come 2nd to a vanilla relationship with the right person." Swinging for me, is already low on my list of priorities. So yes, if I met "the one" I'd be out of here: no looking back! | |||
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"Oh, and it's only fair I answer the same questions (although you've probably guessed my answers from my comment a few posts above this one). If I met someone who I fell for hook, line and sinker - I'd give this up immediately if necessary. In fact, if I ever fall for someone who isn't a swinger then I can see myself just saying goodbye to the friends I've made here, deleting this account and never ever mentioning it to them. For me, swinging would always come 2nd to a vanilla relationship with the right person." I have to agree with this. Swinging is fun and great to be involved with. But what i have found when i start to get feelings for a guy. I naturally pull away from swinging. Whether hes a swinger or not. Although im not actively looking for that. If you float each others boats then why not. | |||
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"Oh, and it's only fair I answer the same questions (although you've probably guessed my answers from my comment a few posts above this one). If I met someone who I fell for hook, line and sinker - I'd give this up immediately if necessary. In fact, if I ever fall for someone who isn't a swinger then I can see myself just saying goodbye to the friends I've made here, deleting this account and never ever mentioning it to them. For me, swinging would always come 2nd to a vanilla relationship with the right person. Swinging for me, is already low on my list of priorities. So yes, if I met "the one" I'd be out of here: no looking back!" I'll third that. | |||
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"Im the opposite I love the swinging lifestyle and the social side of swinging and would love to be in a relationship with a male swinger but I would want our relationship to be rock solid before we got into the scene together. So would perhaps come out of the scene for a year or two and then come back. But swinging would always be in the back of my head. Hope this makes sense. The Couples that I have met through swinging I am totally in awe of them and they are some of the best relationships I have ever seen. And I want one like that. Here's a hypothetical question for you, Shaz... What if tomorrow you found yourself meeting Mr Right? The man of your dreams. (The one and only true love - or at least it seems. With brown coco skin and curly black hair. It's just the way he looks at you, that gentle lovin' stare.) But you met him at work or at the supermarket or when putting out your dustbin... i.e. he's vanilla not a swinger. Could you picture yourself falling for him to the extent that you'd give up the lifestyle? Or would you try to involve him in it? And what if you tried to bring him into the scene but he didn't want to be a part of it? If you had to choose one or the other - which would it be?" Hard one I think I would choose him and give it a go but swinging and the experiences that i have had and would be potentially missing out on would always be in the back of my mind. I dont know if I will ever settle down. | |||
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"Im the opposite I love the swinging lifestyle and the social side of swinging and would love to be in a relationship with a male swinger but I would want our relationship to be rock solid before we got into the scene together. So would perhaps come out of the scene for a year or two and then come back. But swinging would always be in the back of my head. Hope this makes sense. The Couples that I have met through swinging I am totally in awe of them and they are some of the best relationships I have ever seen. And I want one like that." we are a couple, very much in love and trust each other 100%, so much on the same wave length, totally understanding of each other, neither of us had done anything like this before. It is because our relationship is so strong and so good that enables and allows us to do this. I would never swing with a new partner or someone i didnt feel as strongly as i do for my husband, and i dont believe there is another man alive i will ever feel like that for. I couldnt imagine sharing that level of trust, commitment, excitment, pleasure with anyoneelse. So being in a couple is what allows me to swing | |||
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"I have met someone from here, (not what I was expecting at all) and we are working at a relationship, yes we hope it will last, as we both have the same mentality, as in we both want more than just one on one. I will admit I was never faithful through both my marriages, and now being able to have met someone who what's to watch me with other guys is a dream come true. My attitude has changed over the years, and it has taken until now to know exactly what I wanted in a relationship. I can understand where the lady you were seeing cam from, as you did not meet on fab, but in a pub. And a lot of men, have said to me once a swinger always a swinger, and the temptation is always there to go and play. It all depends on how honest and open you are with each other, and each persons mind set." I met my partner on here...its now 14 months and counting..we had a couples profile briefly ...but we have very differing tastes and preferences sexually...so it was a waste of time..!!! We go to Chams together...house parties together..but dont behave like a "traditional" swinging couple...I do my thing..he does his... But our home life together is amazing..we work together as a team..loving and supporting each other...on paper we shouldn't be working out I guess...but hey at this point in time we are both very happy. | |||
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"It's a shame for you. I'll explain what goes on in my head and perhaps it might help? I've been cheated on by a guy who used Fab as a single guy. We didn't swing together and hadn't met through the scene. I personally have a lot of trust issues with men, rightly, wrongly - just down to my past partners. But I know I can and have stopped using the site in the past because I know why I use it when I'm single. But I think I'd worry that once a guy got a taste for it, he'd not give it up and would do it behind my back. Bearing in mind I'd not want to swing if I was in a relationship. Plus, I'd worry that meeting on the scene would possibly carry an expectation that we would now swing as a couple. I see this sort of thing all the time. call me cynical but I usually give any swinging couple made up of two swingles about 3 months max - one or the other seems to find the temptation to play alone surreptitiously too great to resist. there are of course exceptions .............. some dont last more than a month" 8 months here and doing fine | |||
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