FabSwingers.com forum: Social meets

By *inkylouise OP Woman
over a year ago

Burnley

Hi all I (the Mrs) don't often post on here however I am curious. .. as a couple who 99% of the time play together we feel that a social meet is nice to see how we get on with other couples before play. We do clubs and don't generally have a problem but have found when we meet people first and we click the enjoyment of play is greater. Now a lot of people post that they too enjoy socials on first meet to also see if they click.... as you can appreciate sometimes the look of someone doesn't do it for you but after meeting those you possibly wouldn't play with on sight may end up playing because of fab personality....However whenever we post for social meets we never get a reply...is this because like I have previously said looks go along way and possibly people aren't interested ...and that's fine....or is it people generally just don't do socials???? Like I said just curious and throwing it out there

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By *irty Fun GuyMan
over a year ago

Kidderminster

We always meet socially I think it's essential as many people lie on their profiles.

Not so long ago were chatting with a great guy, profile was good age mid thirties, PIC on there was good.

We asking if pic was up to date he said he'd send a recent one....he was 60 if he was a day!!! Not a problem if that's what your after.

When asked about this he got abusive and apparently we were time wasters!?

So socials are a must we'd say

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By *inkylouise OP Woman
over a year ago

Burnley

Oh no

see we have had it the other way pics haven't done people justice but when we have met we have had a fab time just not many seem to want to meet for a drink

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We as a couple don't do socials. With work and children its tricky for us to get time together, to plan a play meet. So if we did the social too it would be weeks / months before we got time for a play date. And would have gone off the boil by then. Thats why we only meet to play. Not a preference thing, just a time constraints thing.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

When we feel ready to meet, it would be socially first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle to get socials also, but the ones i've had were great and i prefer meeting those people more than the unsocial people.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We have our vanilla friends for socialising - for us swinging is about nsa sexual fun. We only ever play in clubs, and this allows us to see potential playmates, and they to see us, before making any commitments to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think about it its the organising four people to be in same place at same time and for no sex to be at end of it its not appealing for a lot of couples on the swinging scene ,people are so busy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From here I meet socially first as you don't know the people behind a screen. In a club, because its face to face contact immediately its different as you can know if you want to play or not, and the atmosphere, for me, makes it more spontaneous and relaxed

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By *ovkid66Man
over a year ago

Warwick

I'm always happy to meet socially in the first instance. I find its a good thing. I might be one of the only few men who doesn't judge the book so to speak. I have had some great fun after a social meet. I am not the best looking guy in the world, although not the worst either but I have been told by one couple I was mildly appealing to them but because they were sure they arranged a social to see my personality, which they liked as im very down to earth and dont take myself to seriously and so we were having fun in their hotel soon after. But it is down to the individual I guess.

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By *inkylouise OP Woman
over a year ago

Burnley

Thankyou for responses I do understand time is precious and most like to meet and play it was more for the people who state on profiles they like to meet socially first prior to play yet never seem to meet

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Thankyou for responses I do understand time is precious and most like to meet and play it was more for the people who state on profiles they like to meet socially first prior to play yet never seem to meet

I think the issue may be that you are posting social only meets. Many will want a social prior to a play meet but I doubt many would be interested in what appears to be a purely social meet.

We are probably in the minority, as we quite like the idea of a "couples date", where the conversation can stray to more risqué topics without fear of embarrassment.

However, we rarely look at the meets section.

Nita

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

I hear that but really it just comes down to the individuals I think..I've had socials that have turned into something naughty and also really nice socials that have set up a very anticipated play meet for a later date. I wouldn't go miles for solely a social meet but as we all know we have to be attracted to the person in question so a social will always be important.

What I tend to do is say looking for a social with the added bonus that if all get along and are attracted, then play

...it hasn't failed me yet and everyone I've met for a social has come back for a play as personality is priceless

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