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By *bsinthe_boy OP   Man
over a year ago

Luton

I know that the men of Fab are notorious for writing to ladies without reading their profiles. My wife and friends are always receiving inappropriate messages.

just this week I got chatting to a local lady. We seemed to get on, exchanged messages for a few days and were looking at a social meet in the new year. I happened to mention my wife and got a response "I don't meet married men"

Now that is all fair enough and her choice. But the first line of my profile says I am in an open marriage. Clearly she hadn't read it.

Who would meet someone without reading their profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone who says they are in an open relationship is truthful.

Despite you being honest, it's still a personal choice to get involved with a married man regardless if he has the wife's consent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you overestimated how memorable you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know that the men of Fab are notorious for writing to ladies without reading their profiles. My wife and friends are always receiving inappropriate messages.

just this week I got chatting to a local lady. We seemed to get on, exchanged messages for a few days and were looking at a social meet in the new year. I happened to mention my wife and got a response "I don't meet married men"

Now that is all fair enough and her choice. But the first line of my profile says I am in an open marriage. Clearly she hadn't read it.

Who would meet someone without reading their profile? "

Nope.. And I read more than once.. Before talking... And nip back from time to time incase they have added to it

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By *bsinthe_boy OP   Man
over a year ago

Luton

Absolutely, it is her right to choose not to get involved. My point is, why exchange messages over several days and almost arrange a meet without reading the person's profile?

She clearly hadn't read mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this with my profile because it's lengthy but sometimes things can be missed.. They might just glance over it

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By *bsinthe_boy OP   Man
over a year ago

Luton

Gilette, that is how I tend to be too...nipping back to read a profile again especially if we are looking at arranging a first meet. I might have missed or forgotten something or the lady might update hers.

I would have thought that a deal breaker in the first line is something noticeable. It's also easy to confirm that I am being truthful. I run meetings centred around ethical non monogamy with my wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read profiles well most off them . Some are very long and you spend time reading them to find at bottom that no large men etc or no single men .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe you overestimated how memorable you are."

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its life on here I guess. I have many smokers/married men/people who cannot accommodate message me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe you overestimated how memorable you are."

Ouch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gilette, that is how I tend to be too...nipping back to read a profile again especially if we are looking at arranging a first meet. I might have missed or forgotten something or the lady might update hers.

I would have thought that a deal breaker in the first line is something noticeable. It's also easy to confirm that I am being truthful. I run meetings centred around ethical non monogamy with my wife. "

I find reading a profile saves a lot of time in the long run. Even if it's lengthy... Mine is.. But if people can't spare 3 minutes to find out my likes and dislikes then I'd hate to think what the foreplay would be like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know, that was quite catty. Sorry OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gilette, that is how I tend to be too...nipping back to read a profile again especially if we are looking at arranging a first meet. I might have missed or forgotten something or the lady might update hers.

I would have thought that a deal breaker in the first line is something noticeable. It's also easy to confirm that I am being truthful. I run meetings centred around ethical non monogamy with my wife. "

What's an ethical non monogamy?

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By *bsinthe_boy OP   Man
over a year ago

Luton


"I know, that was quite catty. Sorry OP. "

it's ok. No offence taken

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By *bsinthe_boy OP   Man
over a year ago

Luton


"

What's an ethical non monogamy? "

Being non monogamous ethically! Which means everyone concerned knows and approves.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Its life on here I guess. I have many smokers/married men/people who cannot accommodate message me."

Feck and we thought it was only us they contacted!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps she was just exchanging messages and stringing you along out of politeness and then decided to back out using a lame excuse?

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By *bsinthe_boy OP   Man
over a year ago

Luton


"Perhaps she was just exchanging messages and stringing you along out of politeness and then decided to back out using a lame excuse? "

she was suggesting a meet so I didn't feel she was looking for a way out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will never know what goes on inside other people's head.

Move on and find someone else to chat to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

What's an ethical non monogamy?

Being non monogamous ethically! Which means everyone concerned knows and approves. "

Not sure ethic is the right word to use but I get where you're coming from

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage


"I know that the men of Fab are notorious for writing to ladies without reading their profiles. My wife and friends are always receiving inappropriate messages.

just this week I got chatting to a local lady. We seemed to get on, exchanged messages for a few days and were looking at a social meet in the new year. I happened to mention my wife and got a response "I don't meet married men"

Now that is all fair enough and her choice. But the first line of my profile says I am in an open marriage. Clearly she hadn't read it.

Who would meet someone without reading their profile? "

I read all profiles first personally, but others chat first, she was obviously a chat first.

Ultimately she said no, she could have strung you along or just blocked not giving you a reason

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By *bsinthe_boy OP   Man
over a year ago

Luton


"

What's an ethical non monogamy?

Being non monogamous ethically! Which means everyone concerned knows and approves.

Not sure ethic is the right word to use but I get where you're coming from"

how is it unethical? The idea of ethical non monogamy is being openly and honestly non monogamous, where everyone concerned knows and agrees to the lifestyle. I would have thought all swinging apart from cheating falls into this category.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how is it unethical? The idea of ethical non monogamy is being openly and honestly non monogamous, where everyone concerned knows and agrees to the lifestyle. I would have thought all swinging apart from cheating falls into this category. "

I've tried to have his conversation on here before and it was a total waste of time. Amazing how closed-minded a lot of swingers are towards poly/non-monogamy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gilette, that is how I tend to be too...nipping back to read a profile again especially if we are looking at arranging a first meet. I might have missed or forgotten something or the lady might update hers.

I would have thought that a deal breaker in the first line is something noticeable. It's also easy to confirm that I am being truthful. I run meetings centred around ethical non monogamy with my wife.

I find reading a profile saves a lot of time in the long run. Even if it's lengthy... Mine is.. But if people can't spare 3 minutes to find out my likes and dislikes then I'd hate to think what the foreplay would be like "
hardly the same thing reading and foreplay !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

What's an ethical non monogamy?

Being non monogamous ethically! Which means everyone concerned knows and approves.

Not sure ethic is the right word to use but I get where you're coming from

how is it unethical? The idea of ethical non monogamy is being openly and honestly non monogamous, where everyone concerned knows and agrees to the lifestyle. I would have thought all swinging apart from cheating falls into this category. "

I didn't say it was unethical either did I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK I'll be honest, I don't always read profiles especially if I like the look of their pictures it has bitten me on the bum a few times where I've been found out but mostly it's worked out OK

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By *bsinthe_boy OP   Man
over a year ago

Luton


"

What's an ethical non monogamy?

Being non monogamous ethically! Which means everyone concerned knows and approves.

Not sure ethic is the right word to use but I get where you're coming from

how is it unethical? The idea of ethical non monogamy is being openly and honestly non monogamous, where everyone concerned knows and agrees to the lifestyle. I would have thought all swinging apart from cheating falls into this category.

I didn't say it was unethical either did I "

you questioned the use of the word "ethic" which comes across as questioning whether consensual non monogamy can be "ethical"

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