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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After a few conversations both on here and with some people at club F tonight, it seams as though within the swinging community, that is constantly under judgment from the vanilla, there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. Is this really still a thing. If someone chooses to fuck 20 guys in one night or bend over and let anyone regardless of looks and age have their turn then that is their fantasy/kink and the should feel comfortable enough to experiment with it as long as everyone is 8n agreement.

Remember, one persons kink is another's vanilla and another's turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't worry about what other people think, as long as myself and the other person/people involved are having fun all's good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't worry so much about judgment from the vanilla community. There's far too much judgment already from WITHIN the community - just spend a day reading the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't worry about what other people think, as long as myself and the other person/people involved are having fun all's good "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't worry so much about judgment from the vanilla community. There's far too much judgment already from WITHIN the community - just spend a day reading the forums "

And absolutely this.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I wouldn't worry so much about judgment from the vanilla community. There's far too much judgment already from WITHIN the community - just spend a day reading the forums

And absolutely this. "

Yep!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I wouldn't worry so much about judgment from the vanilla community. There's far too much judgment already from WITHIN the community - just spend a day reading the forums "

Absolutely spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Live YOUR life in a way that makes YOU happy.you're never going to please everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Live YOUR life in a way that makes YOU happy.you're never going to please everyone."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Live YOUR life in a way that makes YOU happy.you're never going to please everyone."

But the police keep saying i cant do that

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Yup, everyone judges in one way or another

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

And someone passing judgement of me on the internet means absolutely fuck all to me, I couldn't care less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own as long as everyone is happy. I don't tend to judge anyone, and if someone judges me it says more about them than me.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

[Removed by poster at 24/12/15 09:48:58]

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Just to let you all know, I judge every last one of you.

Judgy judge judge.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You see judgement of the way people run their sex life on here daily in the forums and in profiles.

Humans judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oooh I dunno some girls choice of fashion n makeup on here is shocking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few conversations both on here and with some people at club F tonight, it seams as though within the swinging community, that is constantly under judgment from the vanilla, there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. Is this really still a thing. If someone chooses to fuck 20 guys in one night or bend over and let anyone regardless of looks and age have their turn then that is their fantasy/kink and the should feel comfortable enough to experiment with it as long as everyone is 8n agreement.

Remember, one persons kink is another's vanilla and another's turn off"

I've not experience that kind of judgement.

Perhaps some people need to consider changing their friendship circles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few conversations both on here and with some people at club F tonight, it seams as though within the swinging community, that is constantly under judgment from the vanilla, there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. Is this really still a thing. If someone chooses to fuck 20 guys in one night or bend over and let anyone regardless of looks and age have their turn then that is their fantasy/kink and the should feel comfortable enough to experiment with it as long as everyone is 8n agreement.

Remember, one persons kink is another's vanilla and another's turn off

I've not experience that kind of judgement.

Perhaps some people need to consider changing their friendship circles?"

But you've posted in the past you've faced extreme prejudice and even threats when you have attended swingers clubs crossdressed.

Would that not count as such judgement?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few conversations both on here and with some people at club F tonight, it seams as though within the swinging community, that is constantly under judgment from the vanilla, there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. Is this really still a thing. If someone chooses to fuck 20 guys in one night or bend over and let anyone regardless of looks and age have their turn then that is their fantasy/kink and the should feel comfortable enough to experiment with it as long as everyone is 8n agreement.

Remember, one persons kink is another's vanilla and another's turn off

I've not experience that kind of judgement.

Perhaps some people need to consider changing their friendship circles?

But you've posted in the past you've faced extreme prejudice and even threats when you have attended swingers clubs crossdressed.

Would that not count as such judgement?"

The original post was about judgement from non-swingers about swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really judge anyone for their sexual practices on here. I judge you all for all the other stuff though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few conversations both on here and with some people at club F tonight, it seams as though within the swinging community, that is constantly under judgment from the vanilla, there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. Is this really still a thing. If someone chooses to fuck 20 guys in one night or bend over and let anyone regardless of looks and age have their turn then that is their fantasy/kink and the should feel comfortable enough to experiment with it as long as everyone is 8n agreement.

Remember, one persons kink is another's vanilla and another's turn off

I've not experience that kind of judgement.

Perhaps some people need to consider changing their friendship circles?

But you've posted in the past you've faced extreme prejudice and even threats when you have attended swingers clubs crossdressed.

Would that not count as such judgement?

The original post was about judgement from non-swingers about swingers."

No it wasn't. Try reading the second sentence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few conversations both on here and with some people at club F tonight, it seams as though within the swinging community, that is constantly under judgment from the vanilla, there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. Is this really still a thing. If someone chooses to fuck 20 guys in one night or bend over and let anyone regardless of looks and age have their turn then that is their fantasy/kink and the should feel comfortable enough to experiment with it as long as everyone is 8n agreement.

Remember, one persons kink is another's vanilla and another's turn off

I've not experience that kind of judgement.

Perhaps some people need to consider changing their friendship circles?

But you've posted in the past you've faced extreme prejudice and even threats when you have attended swingers clubs crossdressed.

Would that not count as such judgement?

The original post was about judgement from non-swingers about swingers."

My apologies, I read the post incorrectly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few conversations both on here and with some people at club F tonight, it seams as though within the swinging community, that is constantly under judgment from the vanilla, there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. Is this really still a thing. If someone chooses to fuck 20 guys in one night or bend over and let anyone regardless of looks and age have their turn then that is their fantasy/kink and the should feel comfortable enough to experiment with it as long as everyone is 8n agreement.

Remember, one persons kink is another's vanilla and another's turn off

I've not experience that kind of judgement.

Perhaps some people need to consider changing their friendship circles?

But you've posted in the past you've faced extreme prejudice and even threats when you have attended swingers clubs crossdressed.

Would that not count as such judgement?

The original post was about judgement from non-swingers about swingers.

No it wasn't. Try reading the second sentence. "

Although worth considering - gender isn't a sexual activity.

I don't consider being transgender anything like the choice of fucking twenty people a night...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, its still the first sentence

"there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. "

There point was that even though we are judged harshly outside the scene there are people within judging too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry, its still the first sentence

"there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. "

There point was that even though we are judged harshly outside the scene there are people within judging too."

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few conversations both on here and with some people at club F tonight, it seams as though within the swinging community, that is constantly under judgment from the vanilla, there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. Is this really still a thing. If someone chooses to fuck 20 guys in one night or bend over and let anyone regardless of looks and age have their turn then that is their fantasy/kink and the should feel comfortable enough to experiment with it as long as everyone is 8n agreement.

Remember, one persons kink is another's vanilla and another's turn off

I've not experience that kind of judgement.

Perhaps some people need to consider changing their friendship circles?

But you've posted in the past you've faced extreme prejudice and even threats when you have attended swingers clubs crossdressed.

Would that not count as such judgement?

The original post was about judgement from non-swingers about swingers.

No it wasn't. Try reading the second sentence.

Although worth considering - gender isn't a sexual activity.

I don't consider being transgender anything like the choice of fucking twenty people a night..."

But you never mentioned gender purely your clothes iirc.

You seem to switch between cross dressing and being transgender to asexual, to gender queer depending on the point you're trying make at the time.

Given many of them are opossed positions its getting confusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few conversations both on here and with some people at club F tonight, it seams as though within the swinging community, that is constantly under judgment from the vanilla, there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. Is this really still a thing. If someone chooses to fuck 20 guys in one night or bend over and let anyone regardless of looks and age have their turn then that is their fantasy/kink and the should feel comfortable enough to experiment with it as long as everyone is 8n agreement.

Remember, one persons kink is another's vanilla and another's turn off

I've not experience that kind of judgement.

Perhaps some people need to consider changing their friendship circles?

But you've posted in the past you've faced extreme prejudice and even threats when you have attended swingers clubs crossdressed.

Would that not count as such judgement?

The original post was about judgement from non-swingers about swingers.

No it wasn't. Try reading the second sentence.

Although worth considering - gender isn't a sexual activity.

I don't consider being transgender anything like the choice of fucking twenty people a night...

But you never mentioned gender purely your clothes iirc.

You seem to switch between cross dressing and being transgender to asexual, to gender queer depending on the point you're trying make at the time.

Given many of them are opossed positions its getting confusing.

"

I'm sorry that my sexuality confuses you.

I'm genderqueer. That is a variation of being transgender.

Sometimes I crossdress too. None of those things are mutually exclusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry, its still the first sentence

"there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. "

There point was that even though we are judged harshly outside the scene there are people within judging too.

Exactly this"

Its depressing but people will tend to try to validate thier choices by thier internal logic of "well we may X but at least we dont Y" we require somone to be beneath us to function.

Sorry for the appalling spelling btw I'm trying to get used to having auto correct off. Its much harder than i thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few conversations both on here and with some people at club F tonight, it seams as though within the swinging community, that is constantly under judgment from the vanilla, there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. Is this really still a thing. If someone chooses to fuck 20 guys in one night or bend over and let anyone regardless of looks and age have their turn then that is their fantasy/kink and the should feel comfortable enough to experiment with it as long as everyone is 8n agreement.

Remember, one persons kink is another's vanilla and another's turn off

I've not experience that kind of judgement.

Perhaps some people need to consider changing their friendship circles?

But you've posted in the past you've faced extreme prejudice and even threats when you have attended swingers clubs crossdressed.

Would that not count as such judgement?

The original post was about judgement from non-swingers about swingers.

No it wasn't. Try reading the second sentence.

Although worth considering - gender isn't a sexual activity.

I don't consider being transgender anything like the choice of fucking twenty people a night...

But you never mentioned gender purely your clothes iirc.

You seem to switch between cross dressing and being transgender to asexual, to gender queer depending on the point you're trying make at the time.

Given many of them are opossed positions its getting confusing.

I'm sorry that my sexuality confuses you.

I'm genderqueer. That is a variation of being transgender.

Sometimes I crossdress too. None of those things are mutually exclusive."

Your sexuality doesnt confuse me youre constant switching of terms does is all.

But my main point was you made a snide remark that the op should look at the people theyre friends with when you have had the exact same experence they have had.

Youve been judged by people you expected to be safe around.

Yet instead of sympathy you show them hostility, why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few conversations both on here and with some people at club F tonight, it seams as though within the swinging community, that is constantly under judgment from the vanilla, there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. Is this really still a thing. If someone chooses to fuck 20 guys in one night or bend over and let anyone regardless of looks and age have their turn then that is their fantasy/kink and the should feel comfortable enough to experiment with it as long as everyone is 8n agreement.

Remember, one persons kink is another's vanilla and another's turn off"
hey we are people and as a person I will have a different opinion to you about most things ,the fact that I may disagree with you having multiple partners in one session is beside the point its your life do as you see fit but if people disagree with it that's their right to , is the description vanilla a reference to normal everyday plain old traditional sex as opposed to orgies ? Hate that description it means nothing to me anyway happy Xmas and fuck as many people as you like just dont tell the people who may scorn you for it

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Sorry, its still the first sentence

"there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. "

There point was that even though we are judged harshly outside the scene there are people within judging too.

Exactly this

Its depressing but people will tend to try to validate thier choices by thier internal logic of "well we may X but at least we dont Y" we require somone to be beneath us to function.

Sorry for the appalling spelling btw I'm trying to get used to having auto correct off. Its much harder than i thought

"

Totally agree with this as some people feel the need to inhabit the higher moral ground in the swinging 'community' .... are, when called on their throw away comments, refuse to respond. They imply others are a type of sub-species for their choices and I hate that sort of attitude. I do think its linked to how people _iew others in real life too ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few conversations both on here and with some people at club F tonight, it seams as though within the swinging community, that is constantly under judgment from the vanilla, there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. Is this really still a thing. If someone chooses to fuck 20 guys in one night or bend over and let anyone regardless of looks and age have their turn then that is their fantasy/kink and the should feel comfortable enough to experiment with it as long as everyone is 8n agreement.

Remember, one persons kink is another's vanilla and another's turn off

I've not experience that kind of judgement.

Perhaps some people need to consider changing their friendship circles?

But you've posted in the past you've faced extreme prejudice and even threats when you have attended swingers clubs crossdressed.

Would that not count as such judgement?

The original post was about judgement from non-swingers about swingers.

No it wasn't. Try reading the second sentence.

Although worth considering - gender isn't a sexual activity.

I don't consider being transgender anything like the choice of fucking twenty people a night...

But you never mentioned gender purely your clothes iirc.

You seem to switch between cross dressing and being transgender to asexual, to gender queer depending on the point you're trying make at the time.

Given many of them are opossed positions its getting confusing.

I'm sorry that my sexuality confuses you.

I'm genderqueer. That is a variation of being transgender.

Sometimes I crossdress too. None of those things are mutually exclusive.

Your sexuality doesnt confuse me youre constant switching of terms does is all.

But my main point was you made a snide remark that the op should look at the people theyre friends with when you have had the exact same experence they have had.

Youve been judged by people you expected to be safe around.

Yet instead of sympathy you show them hostility, why?"

Why? Because I misread the opening post.

Absolutely nothing more sinister than that.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Everyone judges everyone else. Whether positively or negatively.

A nice person can keep that judgement internal. Less pleasant people feel that everyone needs to know there opinion even when it's not asked for.

Truly nasty people give an opinion without invitation and expect others to do as they are told or else.

And that is my judgement on all of you.

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

People judge on here as much as off ... Each to their own x

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I love hearing about other peoples kinks and fantasies, even if I dont share them myself. Its horny talking to horny people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I understand the op correctly, he doesn't believe that swingers should ever condemn the sexual preferences of other swingers.

To this I would say it's a question of degree. For example, If I saw a woman being taken by 20 different men then I'd think nothing of it and say 'good for you, whatever floats your boat'. On the other hand, if the sex was bareback I would think her, and the men, dangerously irresponsible.

We're all human, and we all judge daily based on our individual standards and internal moral compass. Being a swinger means I'm probably more accepting and understanding of sexual preferences than the average vanilla, but it doesn't mean I have abandoned my sense of right and wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people feel bad about their sexual practices and point fingers at others they they think are worse than them,to make themselves feel better. Some feel they have to justify what they do and look down on others who do things differently. The people who frequent expensive hotels who think their sex is any different to someone who uses Travelodge for instance.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No one is mentioning any health issues here but with that in mind. If someone wanted to take multiple guys bareback then that is for all parties involved to agree on. Everyone can make their own mind up regarding what is right for them. That girl taking 20 guys bare may well have spent months finding the right guys and going through meticulous health checks in order to fulfill her fantasy. The point is that no one knows what other people have done or think and as swingers we always have the option to not get involved if it's not to our taste

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"And someone passing judgement of me on the internet means absolutely fuck all to me, I couldn't care less.

"

Indeed!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Sorry, its still the first sentence

"there are still some people that are very judgmental of swinging/sexual preferences within the scene. "

There point was that even though we are judged harshly outside the scene there are people within judging too.

Exactly this

Its depressing but people will tend to try to validate thier choices by thier internal logic of "well we may X but at least we dont Y" we require somone to be beneath us to function.

Sorry for the appalling spelling btw I'm trying to get used to having auto correct off. Its much harder than i thought

Totally agree with this as some people feel the need to inhabit the higher moral ground in the swinging 'community' .... are, when called on their throw away comments, refuse to respond. They imply others are a type of sub-species for their choices and I hate that sort of attitude. I do think its linked to how people _iew others in real life too ...

I do think its linked to how people _iew others in real life too ..."

You need look no further than the bareback threads to see the posse saddle up an mount their moral high horses.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Some people bareback, some people dont. You don't need to judge then for that, just play with people who play the same way you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think people feel bad about their sexual practices and point fingers at others they they think are worse than them,to make themselves feel better. Some feel they have to justify what they do and look down on others who do things differently. The people who frequent expensive hotels who think their sex is any different to someone who uses Travelodge for instance. "

Classy Swingers. Bless 'em.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"The people who frequent expensive hotels who think their sex is any different to someone who uses Travelodge for instance. "

Travelodge and Etap have been very good to me over the years. As long as the bed doesn't collapse, jobs a good 'un.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Well premier inn have that good night's sleep guarantee, I wonder if they could do an orgasm guarantee?

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