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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just turned up for a meet with the F half of a verified couple at the address they gave me. A middle aged lady answered the door, no clue who I was on about!

Have reported them (they blocked me after I sent them a message asking why they sent me to a wrong address!), and I feel a bit better.

But Aaaaaaargh!!!!

...and breathe.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

aresholes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sad someone can get a kick out of that sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So childish of people. Sadly there isn't much you can do about it but report.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had you spoken to her on the phone or via webcam before the meet ?

The middle age woman at that address could be the person wasting your time !

Better luck next time x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had you spoken to her on the phone or via webcam before the meet ?

The middle age woman at that address could be the person wasting your time !

Better luck next time x"

No, I took 2 veris as gospel...

Nice to see a fellow Foxes fan on here though

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

How awful to involve a completely innocent person in their odd little games!

Unless the middle aged lady wad in on it of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get people can lie and pretend to be others to get their kicks but to use another person's address and let someone go to it is atrocious. It makes me angry that people would do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had you spoken to her on the phone or via webcam before the meet ?

The middle age woman at that address could be the person wasting your time !

Better luck next time x

No, I took 2 veris as gospel...

Nice to see a fellow Foxes fan on here though

COYB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they could have done it to harass the woman. but yeah that's shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or they could have been across the road watching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't take the proper steps to ensure your meet is genuine then what do you expect?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Similar thing happened to me a couple of years back. Is spoken to both halves on the phone, turned up at the address, rang the doorbell to find a young mother with baby at the door.

Apparently I was the fourth that day.

Don't get why people would enjoy being tossers like that.

It makes me suspicious now, last night a couple invited me round to play; he wanted to meet me in Morrisons car park and then I follow him home to where his wife was waiting. All seemed a bit strange to me, so didn't bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody idiots

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Oh nooooo!!!! That's terrible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don't take the proper steps to ensure your meet is genuine then what do you expect?"

How would you check it was their address before turning up at it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Similar thing happened to me a couple of years back. Is spoken to both halves on the phone, turned up at the address, rang the doorbell to find a young mother with baby at the door.

Apparently I was the fourth that day.

Don't get why people would enjoy being tossers like that.

Oops we do something similar to this sometimes

But in our defence it's because we've been let down so saves giving our address out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don't take the proper steps to ensure your meet is genuine then what do you expect?

How would you check it was their address before turning up at it?"

I would never turn up to a strangers house. I always meet people in a public place. Then i don't get attacked in a strangers house and i most definitely don't harrass some innocent bystander whose address i've been given. It's common sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't think that strange. They were just checking you out before giving you their address.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't think that strange. They were just checking you out before giving you their address. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don't take the proper steps to ensure your meet is genuine then what do you expect?

How would you check it was their address before turning up at it?

What if they give you the incorrect address for the second time you meet? Or if they attack you then when you're in their house? You think meeting someone once is going to make that much of a difference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't think that strange. They were just checking you out before giving you their address. "

See, if a 'couple' said that to me, I'd assume it was a single man who was going to explain why his wife couldn't meet and would I fancy a quickie in the car park instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't think that strange. They were just checking you out before giving you their address. "

I was just about to say the Same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don't take the proper steps to ensure your meet is genuine then what do you expect?

How would you check it was their address before turning up at it?

Yes. I do. If you want to take risks that's fine. I would never put myself in that situation. And now i'm out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yeah, that's really shit of the couples to do that. Goes to show how we have to be careful and spend time getting to know the person(s) we chatting to before arranging a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don't take the proper steps to ensure your meet is genuine then what do you expect?

How would you check it was their address before turning up at it?"

You could get a pic of the person stading in their front door (open of course) so you know it's correct, when you turn up (or look it up on google maps, street view) so it proves to be genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don't take the proper steps to ensure your meet is genuine then what do you expect?"

Bloody hell. If Jesus himself turned up in these forums someone would berate him for getting nailed to the cross!

I am so glad I'm not a single guy on this website or forum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't think that strange. They were just checking you out before giving you their address.

See, if a 'couple' said that to me, I'd assume it was a single man who was going to explain why his wife couldn't meet and would I fancy a quickie in the car park instead."

Fair point!

He definitely would have wasted his time if that was his idea, but then I am not a female and am straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just turned up for a meet with the F half of a verified couple at the address they gave me. A middle aged lady answered the door, no clue who I was on about!

Have reported them (they blocked me after I sent them a message asking why they sent me to a wrong address!), and I feel a bit better.

But Aaaaaaargh!!!!

...and breathe."

Most dating sites give basic advice: meet in a public place first. It does not guarantee safety and genuineness but it is a whole lot better than going directly to a stranger's house. We always insist on a meeting at our local first. If they do not turn up, fine. We can have a drink and go home. If they turn up and are not to our taste for whatever reason, we can politely decline. Why put yourself in a difficult situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I meet at someone's house for the first time without having met them before I always get them to come to the door first rather than me knock on it. Just in case. If they refuse I leave. I don't feel any less safe without meeting in public coz either way they've met me they could kill me when I'm in there house!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say that the vast majority of meets I have had, whether this site or others have been with a social first. Even if it was with a social with a view to playing.

But I have had the odd time where I have gone direct to an address, but usually after a phone call or two. I would always recommend a social first though, whether a couple or a single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sad when that happens but goes to show that the site does have its fair share of mischief makers - I have had several "no shows" at an agreed venue, nothing like yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just turned up for a meet with the F half of a verified couple at the address they gave me. A middle aged lady answered the door, no clue who I was on about!

Have reported them (they blocked me after I sent them a message asking why they sent me to a wrong address!), and I feel a bit better.

But Aaaaaaargh!!!!

...and breathe."

Always get a phone number and never ring bell. Instead phone when you are outside house to inform them you are just standing outside and if they can let you in. If they refuse, walk away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I meet at someone's house for the first time without having met them before I always get them to come to the door first rather than me knock on it. Just in case. If they refuse I leave. I don't feel any less safe without meeting in public coz either way they've met me they could kill me when I'm in there house!"

Excellent plan ! We hadn't thought of that. Doh !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just turned up for a meet with the F half of a verified couple at the address they gave me. A middle aged lady answered the door, no clue who I was on about!

Have reported them (they blocked me after I sent them a message asking why they sent me to a wrong address!), and I feel a bit better.

But Aaaaaaargh!!!!

...and breathe.

Always get a phone number and never ring bell. Instead phone when you are outside house to inform them you are just standing outside and if they can let you in. If they refuse, walk away"

great advice - phone call and even better still a social meet tends to sort out the time wasters - most of the times lol

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