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Introducing swinging to my wife

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey every one, I've been on swinging sites and participating in swinging for over ten years.

Problem is I want to get my wife of a year involved but don't know how to bring the conversation up x

P.s I haven't had any meets whilst I've been with her I'm not a cheater

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely - in all honesty, that's a discussion that you really should have had before you got married...?

"I love you deeply, Darling, but perhaps I should let you know that I've shagged my way around the town..."

I know that it's an honesty conversation that I've had...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bring it up by text from the divorce lawyers office?

In all seriousness, does she know about your past?

Did you think when you married your past wasn't something you wanted to revisit? Or did you marry and hope to convince her? If the latter then I think my initial joke stands.....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this will be tricky , maybe start with some swinger type movies are there any ???? see if you can tell what her underlying thoughts are on swinging , try and see how far swinging is from her world , is it something she fantasises about , is it something she ever thought about or would even comprehend ??

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Bring it up by text from the divorce lawyers office?

In all seriousness, does she know about your past?

Did you think when you married your past wasn't something you wanted to revisit? Or did you marry and hope to convince her? If the latter then I think my initial joke stands.....!"

That was helpful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you're not a cheat, applause, you've been less than honest with her, I'm sure it'll go really well.

Seriously, I reckon you haven't told her because you know what reaction you'll get and you probably thought you could be monogamous, only it appears you can't, I'd be very careful if I were you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Darling, I have something to tell you. For the last ten years I've enjoyed indulging in recreational sex with strangers and going to swingers clubs. I'd love to start going with you, I think we could have great fun. How do you feel about that, what concerns do you have?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey every one, I've been on swinging sites and participating in swinging for over ten years.

Problem is I want to get my wife of a year involved but don't know how to bring the conversation up x

P.s I haven't had any meets whilst I've been with her I'm not a cheater "

Ok, a few questions first; you've been married a year and your profile was started 11 months ago? What was the purpose of opening your profile?

Marriage needs to be based on trust and respect, I'm sure at some point you had a conversation when dating about your sexual histories, that was the time to say about your past, everything from that point has been a deception.

If you'd been honest you could have lost her but now you cant come clean about it. You could try and introduce her but what happens when you run into someone you know with your wife?

My advice is to cancel your profile and have the hard conversation that you didn't have before, if you love your wife you may have to give it all up for her

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

It is easy just invite about 5 to 10 people round for a swingers party and when you introduce them to your wife tell her they are swingers and are looking forward to playing with her.

Works every time.

If she divorces you you will know she was not your type

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hey every one, I've been on swinging sites and participating in swinging for over ten years.

Problem is I want to get my wife of a year involved but don't know how to bring the conversation up x

P.s I haven't had any meets whilst I've been with her I'm not a cheater "

Honest talking. Tell her your fantasies and that you would like her to be involved.

To be honest with other people first you must be honest with yourself.

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By *umforme2Man
over a year ago

limerick ?

If u find the anser let me know please

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

explore fantasies and see if she would consider a 3rd person in the bedroom.

if not, leave it be and be happy with her.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, I'd find some porn that is high quality and with some element of script (e.g. fake agent) and ask her permission to show it to her and then describe, in detail, what turns you on about the way the girl is behaving:

- I love how she's taking control of the situation

- I like how the woman is being seduced

- I like her facial expression when

The implication, that you'd like her to behave that way, is obvious but still deniable. You should get enough reaction from your wife to judge the probability that she'd ever engage in an activity where she has sex with a stranger. If she says "how can they have sex, they aren't married yet" then it's a long shot.

Lots of pot shots being taken at you but few couples just naturally stumbled on here without someone initiating things, so good luck.

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
over a year ago

Oxford


""Darling, I have something to tell you. For the last ten years I've enjoyed indulging in recreational sex with strangers and going to swingers clubs. I'd love to start going with you, I think we could have great fun. How do you feel about that, what concerns do you have?""

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
over a year ago

Oxford


"Honestly, I'd find some porn that is high quality and with some element of script (e.g. fake agent) and ask her permission to show it to her and then describe, in detail, what turns you on about the way the girl is behaving:

- I love how she's taking control of the situation

- I like how the woman is being seduced

- I like her facial expression when

The implication, that you'd like her to behave that way, is obvious but still deniable. You should get enough reaction from your wife to judge the probability that she'd ever engage in an activity where she has sex with a stranger. If she says "how can they have sex, they aren't married yet" then it's a long shot.

Lots of pot shots being taken at you but few couples just naturally stumbled on here without someone initiating things, so good luck. "

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire


"explore fantasies and see if she would consider a 3rd person in the bedroom.

if not, leave it be and be happy with her.

good luck"

Top advice / hope it goes well x

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester

OP UNLOS, guess it didn't go too well for him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recon his wife said no there lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP UNLOS, guess it didn't go too well for him!"

Another proud moment for Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP UNLOS, guess it didn't go too well for him!"

Ah well, divorce is good for the economy

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

A mate of mine was fucking his wife really turned her he then said,what do you think about having some one watching us fuck,it put the seed in Her head and I ended fucking her later on very good it was too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A mate of mine was fucking his wife really turned her he then said,what do you think about having some one watching us fuck,it put the seed in Her head and I ended fucking her later on very good it was too "

Oh there's such a good joke somewhere in there, if only I was more witty and quick minded

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By *aith boyMan
over a year ago

Worthing


"Hey every one, I've been on swinging sites and participating in swinging for over ten years.

Problem is I want to get my wife of a year involved but don't know how to bring the conversation up x

P.s I haven't had any meets whilst I've been with her I'm not a cheater "

see my thread on my wifes first visit to Abfabs in story section..

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