FabSwingers.com forum: Question for black guys

By *awandOrder OP Couple
over a year ago

SW London

Just curious, are you more, less or equally likely to play with a woman whose male partner is black? I am asking as we have experienced some reticence from black guys, claiming they don't want to step on a brother's toes .... I don't mind who answers, just interested to see, pm us if you aren't keen in the responses you may get here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good question

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By *awandOrder OP Couple
over a year ago

SW London

Good question and one I am interested in, but I fear black guys are few and far between on the forums ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They may be afraid to answer this question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They may be afraid to answer this question"

i was told a while bk by a woman whos into black guys that very few of them will ever go down on a woman ? Is that true ? I love going down a weel looked after pussy n arse . Love putting my tongue everywhere .

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By *awandOrder OP Couple
over a year ago

SW London

"They may be afraid to answer this question

In my experience this is not true. Not only my partner, whose skills are outstanding, but other black guys I have met .... I think its an urban myth.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

"They may be afraid to answer this question

Lol

I've never met a man who didn't want to give me oral

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not biological brothers I hope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the couple surly and I'm down to dive straight in for breakfast lunch and dinner

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By *awandOrder OP Couple
over a year ago

SW London

"Depends on the couple surly and I'm down to dive straight in for breakfast lunch and dinner

How so it depends on the couple? My partner loves seeing me with other black guys, but the younger ones seem a little intimidated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never enters my head about stepping on anyones shoes..I'm there for sex, nothing else. so what should my or their colour matter?

other men are not my bro's because they are of the same colour/race as me...I have my brothers, ones white the others black and we share some paternal genes..

I cannot fucking stand this 'crew' nonsense either

to be honest I barely tolerate being labelled as anything other than just a guy.

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By *ox......Man
over a year ago

Wakefield

Not true try me and see l will fuck every women no matter what colour of the hubby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Skin colour bears no relevance to tastes or opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just curious, are you more, less or equally likely to play with a woman whose male partner is black? I am asking as we have experienced some reticence from black guys, claiming they don't want to step on a brother's toes .... I don't mind who answers, just interested to see, pm us if you aren't keen in the responses you may get here. "

No, but then again I don't play with women who have a partner.

I understand why a black guy wouldn't want to play with a woman whose partner is black.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

"never enters my head about stepping on anyones shoes..I'm there for sex, nothing else. so what should my or their colour matter?

other men are not my bro's because they are of the same colour/race as me...I have my brothers, ones white the others black and we share some paternal genes..

I cannot fucking stand this 'crew' nonsense either

to be honest I barely tolerate being labelled as anything other than just a guy."

And breath paddy x

Sex & oral though yes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"never enters my head about stepping on anyones shoes..I'm there for sex, nothing else. so what should my or their colour matter?

other men are not my bro's because they are of the same colour/race as me...I have my brothers, ones white the others black and we share some paternal genes..

I cannot fucking stand this 'crew' nonsense either

to be honest I barely tolerate being labelled as anything other than just a guy."

I couldn't agree with this more. There are too many generalisations about black guys. We all have big dicks, are big cocks, don't go down on women, are bulls and won't sleep with women with black partners. It makes black guys sound pathetic.

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By *igmatt82Man
over a year ago

birmingham

If the couples cool and I can get along with them I'd get involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but then again I don't play with women who have a partner.

I understand why a black guy wouldn't want to play with a woman whose partner is black. "

? why?- makes absolutely no sense..in fact sounds exceptionally bad if I'm hearing its about respect etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"never enters my head about stepping on anyones shoes..I'm there for sex, nothing else. so what should my or their colour matter?

other men are not my bro's because they are of the same colour/race as me...I have my brothers, ones white the others black and we share some paternal genes..

I cannot fucking stand this 'crew' nonsense either

to be honest I barely tolerate being labelled as anything other than just a guy.

And breath paddy x

Sex & oral though yes?

I can breathe while doing both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not true try me and see l will fuck every women no matter what colour of the hubby "

Oh, forgot this one, apparently we will do anyone too.

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By *eddABCMan
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

I just think that a black man treats his woman as a trophy and does not want nobody else to enjoy his pride. And I'm only speaking from my point of view. Being raised in texas sometimes a black man all he has is his woman. She's the only one supporting him through thick and thin. So he had to take pride in it. That is a very good question by the way.

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By *eddABCMan
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

That's a good one.

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By *eddABCMan
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"They may be afraid to answer this question

Very not true they just don't publicise it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the couple surly and I'm down to dive straight in for breakfast lunch and dinner

How so it depends on the couple? My partner loves seeing me with other black guys, but the younger ones seem a little intimidated. "

When I say couple has what there looking 4 the new member for the night should know there role or roles then game on if its not there thing then read another page

Age experience life another story

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

"never enters my head about stepping on anyones shoes..I'm there for sex, nothing else. so what should my or their colour matter?

other men are not my bro's because they are of the same colour/race as me...I have my brothers, ones white the others black and we share some paternal genes..

I cannot fucking stand this 'crew' nonsense either

to be honest I barely tolerate being labelled as anything other than just a guy.

And breath paddy x

Sex & oral though yes?

I can breathe while doing both

That's a relief

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just think that a black man treats his woman as a trophy and does not want nobody else to enjoy his pride. And I'm only speaking from my point of view. Being raised in texas sometimes a black man all he has is his woman. She's the only one supporting him through thick and thin. So he had to take pride in it. That is a very good question by the way."

I'm a bit astounded..my partner would be equal to me..and if we are a swinging couple I'd expect exactly the same experience from other swingers that I've met.To me all this is showing is a disrespect for other people if you think their partners are not as special as yours because they like sex with other people ie swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"never enters my head about stepping on anyones shoes..I'm there for sex, nothing else. so what should my or their colour matter?

other men are not my bro's because they are of the same colour/race as me...I have my brothers, ones white the others black and we share some paternal genes..

I cannot fucking stand this 'crew' nonsense either

to be honest I barely tolerate being labelled as anything other than just a guy.

And breath paddy x

Sex & oral though yes?

I can breathe while doing both

That's a relief

all nite long baby(deepest barry white voice added)

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By *awandOrder OP Couple
over a year ago

SW London

"never enters my head about stepping on anyones shoes..I'm there for sex, nothing else. so what should my or their colour matter?

other men are not my bro's because they are of the same colour/race as me...I have my brothers, ones white the others black and we share some paternal genes..

I cannot fucking stand this 'crew' nonsense either

to be honest I barely tolerate being labelled as anything other than just a guy.

I guess I was hoping to see that there is some difference ... who, how and why. Not sure if everyone is interested in laying bare their feelings on this one here. I hope no-one thinks I lump all black guys together as the same ... I dont

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Why is it always about d women with black guys we guys want to try out black ladies here here any other guy think d same

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By *awandOrder OP Couple
over a year ago

SW London

"Why is it always about d women with black guys we guys want to try out black ladies here here any other guy think d same "

Do you act differently if their partner is black or white, that is was the question. I have just re read my first post ... I did not specific what the woman is like? More about man's relationships and perceptions of the dynamic of the couple ...

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By *eepster69Man
over a year ago

Dumfries

Reading that it suggests these men consider their partners as posessions. If that is the case they cannot have a very healthy relationship imo.

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By *eepster69Man
over a year ago

Dumfries

Perfectly put my man!

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By *awandOrder OP Couple
over a year ago

SW London

Reading that it suggests these men consider their partners as posessions. If that is the case they cannot have a very healthy relationship imo.

Well I have to say the only time we have seen this first hand was from a white guy when trying to tout his wife to black guys .... but my question was more about the 'other guy' not the husband or partner and what their motivation is.

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By *aralewisCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

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By *aralewisCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Think it depends on guy

I want another Bbc but finding one that clicks hard to be honest loads of white guys dicks on here

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By *b coupleCouple
over a year ago

southampton

Strange. We've had loads of meets with black guys never been an issue.

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By *ickeyandmouseCouple
over a year ago

nr Alicante

They are all just lovely guys! Whatever their colour xxx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"They may be afraid to answer this question

i was told a while bk by a woman whos into black guys that very few of them will ever go down on a woman ? Is that true ?"

This has certainly been my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have an issue with this as long as everyone is up for it

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Good question and one I am interested in, but I fear black guys are few and far between on the forums .... "

There are some very nice ones though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They may be afraid to answer this question

i was told a while bk by a woman whos into black guys that very few of them will ever go down on a woman ? Is that true ?

This has certainly been my experience."

And completely not mine. I only meet black guys when I'm meeting, and I've only met one that didn't spend much time giving oral.

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By *heBlackZorroMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Personally as a single male i haven’t been with many couples where the male is black but thats just down to lack of couples i think. When i was in a couple we met more mixed couples for some reason. I didn’t stop any black guys playing with my then partner. She had fun with guys of all colours but the vast majority were black.To be honest if she was happy then so was i.

As for eating pussy

, yeah this was a thing touted and i sometimes still hear it today. Basically its bollocks. Again speaking for myself, i’ve turned down meets where the couple don't want anything intimate, i.e. kissing, going down on their partner. To me its a major element of good sex. I’d rather give than receive and day of the week.

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

I can't stand the obstinacy and intransigence attitude of some black folks when shagging the mistress.Too controlling. not for me.i don't do vanilla stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I don't actually play with couples anyway (whenever the guy is black, white, Asian etc).

I poses the more "traditional" conscience of never invading in a loved bind partnership of any kind. I rather feel more bad then good really even of the couple invites me. I would happily refuse them while giving my gratitude for their keen interest.

But this all depends really, if they are a "pretend" couple just for the purpose of swinging then I may be interested to take part in their activities. But never actual loved up couples and deffo never any one married.

But I don't mind watching any couple get it on so far as i don't join in the action.

Now to answer your question straight, if I ever was (and never will in real life) the type of guy to play with couples then I woulden't be scared of man whenever black white Asian etc. So far as anyone don't give me trouble or hassle then it's all cool.

And yes I love going down on ladies, my favourite part of good sex, but I do try to be careful exspecally when she had muitiple guys that have licked or fucked her. I would deffo prefer to be the first one to "dig in". But either way I don't tend to give ladies oral in a public scene such as clubs and spas. Prefer that to be at a private meet on an one to one basis.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

doesn't bother me at all.... but then i don't think i am really that stereotypical at all.....

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By *rMisterMan
over a year ago

Near the Wall

"They may be afraid to answer this question"

Not afraid to answer

. Never been afraid of anything. I'm superman. If afraid sees me it will run as fast as a cannon ball.

if you see afraid, tell him where I am and it will stay away. Told you

I'm Thor's less known but more powerful black cousin.

OK now to answer your question.

well I haven't come across any mixed couple and actually meet yet. I have been in touch with one and a meeting is definitely on the card when our mutual diaries allow it. When I was part of a couple we met two black guys only. One of them know my ex before we got together. You cannot generalise in this

every black man is different as you know

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By *rMisterMan
over a year ago

Near the Wall

"They may be afraid to answer this question

Again not true. Real man eat puss you. I have even done a cunninlingus contest and won at club. 38 minutes non stop.

give me clean hairless one I will spend ages in there

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By *rMisterMan
over a year ago

Near the Wall

"I can't stand the obstinacy and intransigence attitude of some black folks when shagging the mistress.Too controlling. not for me.i don't do vanilla stuff. "

What?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP

I can't believe at a club or a party anyone would refuse, however if you were talking to people on fab, the fact that your partner is bi on your profile may put some people off if he is to be in the room. The black thing sounds like an excuse to me. Merry xmas one and all.

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By *awandOrder OP Couple
over a year ago

SW London

"Hi OP

Thanks Ozzz, long time we haven't heard from you. Black men tend to back off when they see him, without knowing he is bi, at parties and clubs that is .... on here, no shortage of bi black guys who aren't so upfront on their profiles. I guess we are just interested in the dynamic between some men ... and that is not in the sexual way

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By *r jblMan
over a year ago

from parts unknown

It would not bother me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They may be afraid to answer this question

In my experience this is not true. Not only my partner, whose skills are outstanding, but other black guys I have met .... I think its an urban myth."

It's only the black gents we have met who have gone down on N, so definitely an urban, and very likely racist inspired myth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh don't think the black guys are to fussy where they go what I seen on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh don't think the black guys are to fussy where they go what I seen on here."

Not a fan of black guys I take it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh don't think the black guys are to fussy where they go what I seen on here.

Not a fan of black guys I take it? "

No not after the twats on here with 2 separate profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh don't think the black guys are to fussy where they go what I seen on here.

Not a fan of black guys I take it?

No not after the twats on here with 2 separate profiles."

Plenty of dodgy ppl on this site, sadly xx

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By *r jblMan
over a year ago

from parts unknown

"Tbh don't think the black guys are to fussy where they go what I seen on here."

I have read your profile and looked at your pics. You are not the fox, are you?

lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"They may be afraid to answer this question

In my experience this is not true. Not only my partner, whose skills are outstanding, but other black guys I have met .... I think its an urban myth."

And my experience, why I don't meet black guys, is they tend to not do oral. Beenie Man's King of the Dancehall "sex limit stops at 68" seems to be the norm for the older black guys.

As I said, in my experience.

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By *rMisterMan
over a year ago

Near the Wall

From what I understand, you know how every black man live mate. And every single black man lives in texas. Now somebody should fetch you the Nobel price of anthropology. An advice though. Don't look in the mirror as you may get a shock

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

As a relatively new swinger, I would jump at the chance to mingle with some black swingers mainly to swap notes on experiences in the lifestyle.

Haven't played with any black swingers yet by the way...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Tbh don't think the black guys are to fussy where they go what I seen on here."

wow..... me-ow

and a merry xmas to madame moodhoover

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By *rishmocha2Couple
over a year ago

Beds

"They may be afraid to answer this question

Again not true. Real man eat puss you. I have even done a cunninlingus contest and won at club. 38 minutes non stop.

give me clean hairless one I will spend ages in there

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Tbh don't think the black guys are to fussy where they go what I seen on here."

On the contrary, my dear. My block list is growing even as I type this...

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By *amesDeeMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Wow! There are some misguided comments on here! To start with labelling by skin colour is very small minded, though maybe there's a lot of people trapped in small hicksville villages as serfs :-/

Of course there are *cultural* things that come into play which are interesting to discuss. But, even then generalising IS racist and feeds the low end of society and does create divide, and harm.

Please think about what you are saying here people

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By *lkmazabukaMan
over a year ago

bristol

"Wow! There are some misguided comments on here! To start with labelling by skin colour is very small minded, though maybe there's a lot of people trapped in small hicksville villages as serfs :-/

Of course there are *cultural* things that come into play which

are interesting to discuss. But, even then generalising IS racist and feeds the low end of society and does create divide, and harm.

Please think about what you are saying here people

Very well said Mr..

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Of course there are *cultural* things that come into play which are interesting to discuss. But, even then generalising IS racist and feeds the low end of society and does create divide, and harm.

you are right..... but remember that it goes both ways.... and that starts off with those black guys who "try" to sell themselves of the whole BBC thing..... if they don't do it, others wouldn't think that it would be acceptable....

in a way they create there own issue....

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By *T ShabaMan
over a year ago

London

I am a black guy so I should know. No point in whitewashing the answer to the straightforward questions.

Yes; from my experience black couple tend not to want to play with a black single. Whether it's down to the male, female or they worry about it may turn out to be their cousin; I don't know.

As for going down or any other form of sex; it's a myth to conclude that black guys have limits.

A swinger is a swinger; brown, black or white and are on the forum for one thing; no holes barred sex.

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By *awandOrder OP Couple
over a year ago

SW London

"I am a black guy so I should know. No point in whitewashing the answer to the straightforward questions.

Yes; from my experience black couple tend not to want to play with a black single. Whether it's down to the male, female or they worry about it may turn out to be their cousin; I don't know.

As for going down or any other form of sex; it's a myth to conclude that black guys have limits.

A swinger is a swinger; brown, black or white and are on the forum for one thing; no holes barred sex."

Some interesting comments ... we are a mixed race couple though and I personally think that there are stereotypical types that attract those on the interracial scene. I agree with Fabio that black guys can play into and /or perpetuate it ... but also there exists such a monolithic misunderstanding of the black male that its hard to change it, except perhaps one person at a time. My own experience and outlook of men on the scene has changed. I have had relationships with black guys in the past (including marriage and children), and sure, not all are the same ... of course, but I am thinking about the expectations of black male swingers here. Something of interest to me because now I am with my partner, the attitudes of younger black males to me have changed ... when he is in the room, there is a noticeable difference. And those of you who know him will know he is not the typical 'black male' with a trophy wife (never have seen one of those actually) ....

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By *T ShabaMan
over a year ago

London

Precisely. As a forum member observed; some things are kinda cultural. But I don't think it applies in interracial relationships. Nonetheless;;as with everthing else it will soon fizzle out as people evolve more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"never enters my head about stepping on anyones shoes..I'm there for sex, nothing else. so what should my or their colour matter?

other men are not my bro's because they are of the same colour/race as me...I have my brothers, ones white the others black and we share some paternal genes..

I cannot fucking stand this 'crew' nonsense either

to be honest I barely tolerate being labelled as anything other than just a guy."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course there are *cultural* things that come into play which are interesting to discuss. But, even then generalising IS racist and feeds the low end of society and does create divide, and harm.

in a way they create there own issue.... "

I'm actually really pleased you wrote that.

I have a similar view to yourself and had wondered if I was basically just being some kind of colonial-influenced-racist-asshole for thinking it. It's hard to know when I'm being a dick and when my priviledge is getting in a way. Thanks for giving me something to ponder further Fabio. Have a great non-demoninational Winter holiday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course there are *cultural* things that come into play which are interesting to discuss. But, even then generalising IS racist and feeds the low end of society and does create divide, and harm.

in a way they create there own issue.... "

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By *rMisterMan
over a year ago

Near the Wall

"Wow! There are some misguided comments on here! To start with labelling by skin colour is very small minded, though maybe there's a lot of people trapped in small hicksville villages as serfs :-/

Of course there are *cultural* things that come into play which are interesting to discuss. But, even then generalising IS racist and feeds the low end of society and does create divide, and harm.

Please think about what you are saying here people

Jamesdee you are a wise man

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By *amesDeeMan
over a year ago

Bristol

but remember that it goes both ways.... and that starts off with those black guys who "try" to sell themselves of the whole BBC thing..... if they don't do it, others wouldn't think that it would be acceptable....

in a way they create there own issue.... "

So true, and people selling themselves on a label in all ways is mostly bollocks all round - from the buyers and the sellers, but then that's why people buy labels, to fulfill a fantasy.

Stick a "Diesel" label on a Primo T-shirt and people will desire it and be happy wearing it.

Human nature can suck - gimme more beer!

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By *awandOrder OP Couple
over a year ago

SW London

in a way they create there own issue....

So true, and people selling themselves on a label in all ways is mostly bollocks all round - from the buyers and the sellers, but then that's why people buy labels, to fulfill a fantasy.

Stick a "Diesel" label on a Primo T-shirt and people will desire it and be happy wearing it.

Human nature can suck - gimme more beer!

I guess the thread has shown that one cannot generalise, which I would have assumed all along.

However, it seems the general experience we have tells us something very different .... aside from the whole BBC label, which wasn't really what I was referring to (as the whole thing gets misunderstood on the forums and not really an issue for me).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am just returning to this thread and I have just read the comments on BBC.

In terms of people's behaviour in life and on fab, I look at the reward and demerits of that behaviour. Therefore in terms of a community perpetuating a negative a stereotype, I would suggest that if the stereotype (in this case the BBC stereotype)is used as a strategy to get rewards and it works, no matter how poor the strategy may appear to other people, the stereotypical behaviour will continue. Given the amount of couples and women asking for BBC, I would suggest that only when the provider of the reward changes their behaviour or there are other easier ways to be rewarded then the stereotype perpetuator will change their behaviour. Therefore I would suggest that it is forces outside the community that cause the behaviour to continue. Hence the theory of nudging in business and now in politics and social science.

I apply this approach to most criticism of the stereotyped behaviour of the single male. Possibly put simply some men within a community will do anything to get laid and if that behaviour works it will continue.

I do accept that sometimes behaviour may just be ingrained or learned but I think that is a different argument.

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over a year ago

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Hi OP.

When we started out this wasn't and predominantly isn't something that concerns us and only on the one occasion has this been an issue. Almost all of our meets have been with black guys and they didn't give an iota as to what colour I was, however, I put that down to the prior communications before the meet. Compatabilty for us is important if the experience is to be enjoyable and we like to meet likeminded people with similar attitudes to the scene, if that were to crop up prior to the meet it would probably plant a seed of doubt in our minds. When I recall the one occasion it was an issue there wasn't the communication required and the scenario was different to how we usually play, some comments made by the one guy were not to our liking and yes it centred around your point. Some subtle and not so subtle underlying issues with our set up were shown and we really shouldn't have been on that meet. Lesson learnt.

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Personally I would, not like we are related

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"I am just returning to this thread and I have just read the comments on BBC.

I do accept that sometimes behaviour may just be ingrained or learned but I think that is a different argument."

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