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By *ivinefox OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

Take the time to ask what the woman they are with, likes in bed? It's such a simple thing to do but most men don't do it and yet worry about what they are like as a lover. Every woman is different so you can't assume that what you have done in the past will work for the next woman you are with.

So, some women have v sensitive nipples, some don't. Some will come through penetration, many others won't etc.

Years ago I had a Dom/sub relationship with a very experienced Dom and before we ever played, he gave me a questionnaire to fill in about things I'd experienced, things I did/didn't like and what my fantasies were. It was amazing as when we played, I knew that he was aware of what my desires were and what would ( and wouldn't ) work for me.

You may think this is a bit extreme and only relevant in a BDSM relationship but the principle is still the same. I could tell you exactly how to give me the best sex of my life but no one ever asks!

And you could say, well you have a responsibility to tell the guy, which I agree with, but how many of you would be open to that and not find it controlling?

Genuinely interested in what people think about this...?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Men are not responsible for what you like and dislike.... You are

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Take the time to ask what the woman they are with, likes in bed? It's such a simple thing to do but most men don't do it and yet worry about what they are like as a lover. Every woman is different so you can't assume that what you have done in the past will work for the next woman you are with.

So, some women have v sensitive nipples, some don't. Some will come through penetration, many others won't etc.

Years ago I had a Dom/sub relationship with a very experienced Dom and before we ever played, he gave me a questionnaire to fill in about things I'd experienced, things I did/didn't like and what my fantasies were. It was amazing as when we played, I knew that he was aware of what my desires were and what would ( and wouldn't ) work for me.

You may think this is a bit extreme and only relevant in a BDSM relationship but the principle is still the same. I could tell you exactly how to give me the best sex of my life but no one ever asks!

And you could say, well you have a responsibility to tell the guy, which I agree with, but how many of you would be open to that and not find it controlling?

Genuinely interested in what people think about this...?"

I think tat this proves my theory that BDSM is the OCD of sex. You get to know what a partner likes by communication (verbal and non) at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess we must have been fairly lucky as the few men we have met have taken the time to find out just what J likes and dislikes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because women are always complaining when someone asks: "So what are you into?".

So men probably just stop asking.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Because women are always complaining when someone asks: "So what are you into?".

So men probably just stop asking. "

My thoughts exactly ... bet to go with the flow and appreciate a man who listens to you and your body in the moment ... and the same goes the other way as it should be mutual. Women should not assume either ...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Those things are all part of the fun at the time and getting to know about each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because women are always complaining when someone asks: "So what are you into?".

So men probably just stop asking. "

So much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take the time to ask what the woman they are with, likes in bed? It's such a simple thing to do but most men don't do it and yet worry about what they are like as a lover. Every woman is different so you can't assume that what you have done in the past will work for the next woman you are with.

So, some women have v sensitive nipples, some don't. Some will come through penetration, many others won't etc.

Years ago I had a Dom/sub relationship with a very experienced Dom and before we ever played, he gave me a questionnaire to fill in about things I'd experienced, things I did/didn't like and what my fantasies were. It was amazing as when we played, I knew that he was aware of what my desires were and what would ( and wouldn't ) work for me.

You may think this is a bit extreme and only relevant in a BDSM relationship but the principle is still the same. I could tell you exactly how to give me the best sex of my life but no one ever asks!

And you could say, well you have a responsibility to tell the guy, which I agree with, but how many of you would be open to that and not find it controlling?

Genuinely interested in what people think about this...?"
it would be because most guys don't care they don't even care who's beneath them any holes a goal

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Take the time to ask what the woman they are with, likes in bed? It's such a simple thing to do but most men don't do it and yet worry about what they are like as a lover. Every woman is different so you can't assume that what you have done in the past will work for the next woman you are with.

So, some women have v sensitive nipples, some don't. Some will come through penetration, many others won't etc.

Years ago I had a Dom/sub relationship with a very experienced Dom and before we ever played, he gave me a questionnaire to fill in about things I'd experienced, things I did/didn't like and what my fantasies were. It was amazing as when we played, I knew that he was aware of what my desires were and what would ( and wouldn't ) work for me.

You may think this is a bit extreme and only relevant in a BDSM relationship but the principle is still the same. I could tell you exactly how to give me the best sex of my life but no one ever asks!

And you could say, well you have a responsibility to tell the guy, which I agree with, but how many of you would be open to that and not find it controlling?

Genuinely interested in what people think about this...? it would be because most guys don't care they don't even care who's beneath them any holes a goal "

I believe this is the answer you were looking for OP. Can we close this thread now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think i may have answered this on another thread about last time feeling sexually satisfied . I always make sure im doing things the way a women wants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take the time to ask what the woman they are with, likes in bed? It's such a simple thing to do but most men don't do it and yet worry about what they are like as a lover. Every woman is different so you can't assume that what you have done in the past will work for the next woman you are with.

So, some women have v sensitive nipples, some don't. Some will come through penetration, many others won't etc.

Years ago I had a Dom/sub relationship with a very experienced Dom and before we ever played, he gave me a questionnaire to fill in about things I'd experienced, things I did/didn't like and what my fantasies were. It was amazing as when we played, I knew that he was aware of what my desires were and what would ( and wouldn't ) work for me.

You may think this is a bit extreme and only relevant in a BDSM relationship but the principle is still the same. I could tell you exactly how to give me the best sex of my life but no one ever asks!

And you could say, well you have a responsibility to tell the guy, which I agree with, but how many of you would be open to that and not find it controlling?

Genuinely interested in what people think about this...?"

Why don't women ask what men like? Surely it cuts both ways?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll ask the guy if he is ok with the things I like to do, if I can do all my little bits and bobs before having sex I'm pretty easy to fuck and satisfy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll ask the guy if he is ok with the things I like to do, if I can do all my little bits and bobs before having sex I'm pretty easy to fuck and satisfy. "

you can do anything your heart desires sweet heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Why don't women ask what men like? Surely it cuts both ways? "

Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear... Men are expected to take what they're given and be thankful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take the time to ask what the woman they are with, likes in bed? It's such a simple thing to do but most men don't do it and yet worry about what they are like as a lover. Every woman is different so you can't assume that what you have done in the past will work for the next woman you are with.

So, some women have v sensitive nipples, some don't. Some will come through penetration, many others won't etc.

Years ago I had a Dom/sub relationship with a very experienced Dom and before we ever played, he gave me a questionnaire to fill in about things I'd experienced, things I did/didn't like and what my fantasies were. It was amazing as when we played, I knew that he was aware of what my desires were and what would ( and wouldn't ) work for me.

You may think this is a bit extreme and only relevant in a BDSM relationship but the principle is still the same. I could tell you exactly how to give me the best sex of my life but no one ever asks!

And you could say, well you have a responsibility to tell the guy, which I agree with, but how many of you would be open to that and not find it controlling?

Genuinely interested in what people think about this...?

Why don't women ask what men like? Surely it cuts both ways? "

Some do.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

both the man and the woman should take the time to find out what each other like good sex is about communication both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

And you could say, well you have a responsibility to tell the guy, which I agree with, but how many of you would be open to that and not find it controlling?

Genuinely interested in what people think about this...?"

I like to chat about likes and dislikes. But I think there's a fine line between discussing interests and having wank chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt be blaming men for this in particular..

while I dont think I've had 'bad' experiences..theres some that just dont do it right(for me)..

my worst example is getting a bj/wank..and she suddenly figures 'I'll put my finger up his arse to make him cum'

WRONG!...I dont care what other people think..it just does not work for me..and I feel the instant discomfort and instant turn off...and eventual flop.

as for discussing sex before sex?..cant think of anything more boring/irritating..which is why its always been a very rare occurrence that I'd give anything more than a basic "I like that/I dont like that"...for me sex is exploring in person..not faffing around on the internet/whatsapp/kik blahhblahh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

And you could say, well you have a responsibility to tell the guy, which I agree with, but how many of you would be open to that and not find it controlling?

Genuinely interested in what people think about this...?

I like to chat about likes and dislikes. But I think there's a fine line between discussing interests and having wank chat. "

its a partial reason why , when I have an interested party, I want to get the meet done..

I think theres quite a duality some women dont seem to get..they want lots of communication but dont want too much..they want turned on by mind stimulation but dont want extended mills n boone stories..they want to feel special with that one guy at the time,but they dont want him acting too needy/possessive etc etc..

I could go on..

for myself..its about the meet itself...granted those who I've still to meet..I extend my communication with from time to time..and in that meantime if i cant meet them(distance,free time etc),I will meet those who are able to meet within that time.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

I never get a word in edgeways

never mind a willy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a BDSM situation it is important to know in advance what will happen in a play situation because: a, you can be literally putting your life in someone's hands or having someone's life in your hands; b, as part of the play the submissive may not be in a position to communicate their wishes or desires during the play; c, in law some practices may be illegal so both parties should be clear they are in agreement as to what happens; d, fetish play covers a wider spectrum than vanilla play for example sex and orgasm may not be on the agenda and it would be wrong to assume so. Whereas in a bed room situation it is on the agenda and therefore there is a lot less to discuss. Furthermore and nothing stops one party saying this is how l like to play.

As for the comments that for men any hole is a goal , having attended a number of clubs and parties it is clear that there are sufficient woman for whom any standing cock counts.

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