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By *rwchcple OP   Couple
over a year ago

norwich

I don't know why it's happened but I feel I've forgotten how to be sexy and to have sex. I feel awkward being watched when I never used too. My partner says I've forgotten how to let go and just go for it but I'm so worried I'm rubbish at it. Has this happened to anyone else ? I'm the female by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have the experience to offer any really insight if I'm honest. However from what I can see you're very lovely and your partner enjoys you.

Why have you list your confidence did something happen or change?

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By *rwchcple OP   Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"I don't have the experience to offer any really insight if I'm honest. However from what I can see you're very lovely and your partner enjoys you.

Why have you list your confidence did something happen or change?"

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By *rwchcple OP   Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"I don't have the experience to offer any really insight if I'm honest. However from what I can see you're very lovely and your partner enjoys you.

Why have you list your confidence did something happen or change?"

Some personal stuff maybe but nothing else. To be honest I'm looking best I have for a long time so it's not to do with my appearence. Just feel so shy and it's not like me at all

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Sometimes I feel more confident than Others. Maybe take the pressure off yourself and don't do It being watched for a while. Just play with your partner or swap with friends you know well. Be kind to yourself.

Has someone made a comment or made you feel uneasy ?

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By *rwchcple OP   Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"Sometimes I feel more confident than Others. Maybe take the pressure off yourself and don't do It being watched for a while. Just play with your partner or swap with friends you know well. Be kind to yourself.

Has someone made a comment or made you feel uneasy ? "

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By *rwchcple OP   Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"Sometimes I feel more confident than Others. Maybe take the pressure off yourself and don't do It being watched for a while. Just play with your partner or swap with friends you know well. Be kind to yourself.

Has someone made a comment or made you feel uneasy ? "

No complete opposite. Every meet goes well and the other couple want another meet with us. I'm wondering if it's actually the pressure of having sex which sounds stupid being on here but I'm worried I won't be able to satisfy them. I feel like a bloody Virgin. I've lost mojo I think

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By *aked_ShenanigansCouple
over a year ago

nearby


"Sometimes I feel more confident than Others. Maybe take the pressure off yourself and don't do It being watched for a while. Just play with your partner or swap with friends you know well. Be kind to yourself.

Has someone made a comment or made you feel uneasy ?

No complete opposite. Every meet goes well and the other couple want another meet with us. I'm wondering if it's actually the pressure of having sex which sounds stupid being on here but I'm worried I won't be able to satisfy them. I feel like a bloody Virgin. I've lost mojo I think "

We've both had this in the past. A feeling of being inadequate can knock your confidence and make you withdrawn from it all. Obviously it's a bit more obvious in the males!

We tried a different environment and location and sought different experiences and it came back. Search for a high and get a smile back on your face xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I feel more confident than Others. Maybe take the pressure off yourself and don't do It being watched for a while. Just play with your partner or swap with friends you know well. Be kind to yourself.

Has someone made a comment or made you feel uneasy ?

No complete opposite. Every meet goes well and the other couple want another meet with us. I'm wondering if it's actually the pressure of having sex which sounds stupid being on here but I'm worried I won't be able to satisfy them. I feel like a bloody Virgin. I've lost mojo I think "

I get that. Worry I won't be able to satisfy, the thought of meeting someone once and that being my only chance to fuck them totally fills me with dread! I like to know that should the first sex not be amazing then there will be another chance to redeem myself! This feeling is getting worse as well the longer I don't have sex, been 15 months already. Need someone to practice on, see if I can still do a blow job and lick a bum hole nicely!

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By *rwchcple OP   Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"Sometimes I feel more confident than Others. Maybe take the pressure off yourself and don't do It being watched for a while. Just play with your partner or swap with friends you know well. Be kind to yourself.

Has someone made a comment or made you feel uneasy ?

No complete opposite. Every meet goes well and the other couple want another meet with us. I'm wondering if it's actually the pressure of having sex which sounds stupid being on here but I'm worried I won't be able to satisfy them. I feel like a bloody Virgin. I've lost mojo I think

We've both had this in the past. A feeling of being inadequate can knock your confidence and make you withdrawn from it all. Obviously it's a bit more obvious in the males!

We tried a different environment and location and sought different experiences and it came back. Search for a high and get a smile back on your face xx"

My partner is more confident than ever. I've always been the forward one but last couple of times he's kind of started it....hmmmm wonder if that's it. I'm a complete control freak and like to take my own sweet time but maybe he's taken lead as he can see I'm struggling. It's annoying. Thanks for advice though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can identify with your feelings OP. Male here and I've had a confidence knock through, maybe similar circumstances.. Knocked my body image. Absolutely fine with my amazing wife, never ever felt anything but absolutely comfortable with her... But others... Nerves kill me... Where before there was excitement. No answer for you. Soul searching here myself. You are not alone.

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By *rwchcple OP   Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"I can identify with your feelings OP. Male here and I've had a confidence knock through, maybe similar circumstances.. Knocked my body image. Absolutely fine with my amazing wife, never ever felt anything but absolutely comfortable with her... But others... Nerves kill me... Where before there was excitement. No answer for you. Soul searching here myself. You are not alone. "

Bless my isn't a body issue I've not had any negative comments about how I perform or how I look. Im like you , with my partner I'm a complete slut and I have behaved as such in the past but just can't pull it out of bag at mo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was with a couple on a meet and didn't cum...never happened before. I was hard....enjoying the situation...woman was sexy as anything. Just put it down to....having to perform.. At a subconscious level.....not happened since....take a break....you might need it...best of luck....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never feel I have to perform and I don't have a good looking body. When I lose my mojo it's because of stresses of life. I stop meeting because if I'm not enjoying it,the other person won't be. To feel sexy I have to have a calm mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a break. Regroup. Communicate with your partner. Spend time just enjoying your partner and your mojo will return in time. Don't force it...it'll happen.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I never feel I have to perform and I don't have a good looking body. When I lose my mojo it's because of stresses of life. I stop meeting because if I'm not enjoying it,the other person won't be. To feel sexy I have to have a calm mind. "

This for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I the male have had this. Totally lost my mojo, felt fat and old etc. No idea why but for months I never played in clubs while Mrs did. Only just starting to get it back,used to be so confident but now I'm more shy and sit back waiting to be asked for fun.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I've never been that confident in the bedroom, always worrying about things being over to quickly, the other person not enjoying it, it's been years since I was told I was sexy, never do i look at myself in that way, but want the physical side of things.

Met a lovely lady sexy gorgeous (she's a 10 I'm a 6 just on the scoring cards) on here and although still unsure she tells me I am sexy, no problem with anything working correctly and things just flow with her no aqward moments. She wants to meet with a couple and I'm not confident about being naked infront of other people especially another man (the thoughts of being compared) and play with them also, just hoping that it will be a relaxed couple and hopefully they will remember being that way to at some point in time. As I really want to make her fantasies a reality. So it's take it a little slow, be nudged at the right time and dip a toe until jumping in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you have blocked single men, I'm going to say I have no sympathy for you.

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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

I felt like that when me an ex husband split up no confidence, didnt feel sexy. Untill a few months after the split i lost weight, had my hair dyed etc bought sexy lingerie an decided to go on fabs

its about pampering yourself making yourself feel good an started excerciseing an toned up my mojo came back as cardiovascular workput made me feel like wanting to have sex again

its amazing what it takes to boost your mojo an now i still feel sexy an amazing

You will get your mojo back

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

We are only human after all...take a break and things will return when your body is ready for them again

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By *rwchcple OP   Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"I've never been that confident in the bedroom, always worrying about things being over to quickly, the other person not enjoying it, it's been years since I was told I was sexy, never do i look at myself in that way, but want the physical side of things.

Met a lovely lady sexy gorgeous (she's a 10 I'm a 6 just on the scoring cards) on here and although still unsure she tells me I am sexy, no problem with anything working correctly and things just flow with her no aqward moments. She wants to meet with a couple and I'm not confident about being naked infront of other people especially another man (the thoughts of being compared) and play with them also, just hoping that it will be a relaxed couple and hopefully they will remember being that way to at some point in time. As I really want to make her fantasies a reality. So it's take it a little slow, be nudged at the right time and dip a toe until jumping in. "

Sounds like you've met the right girl and just for the record the other bloke is not usually looking at the man....unless he's bi but we don't meet bi men. Good luck and have fun x

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By *rwchcple OP   Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"As you have blocked single men, I'm going to say I have no sympathy for you. "

That's not very nice We had too in end as lots of messages and it's not what we're looking for..yet

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By *rwchcple OP   Couple
over a year ago

norwich

Thanks everyone for your help. I think maybe a break might be right thing at this time xx

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