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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree bit too much and too forward, but if he had said he would like to meet you with male friend (his or yours) would you take the offer or would it be a turn off too? Honest answer please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hes thinking with his ballsack , your just a hole to fuck . Block the dick . lots of nice decent men on here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree bit too much and too forward, but if he had said he would like to meet you with male friend (his or yours) would you take the offer or would it be a turn off too? Honest answer please"

I'd run for the hills either way. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah I had the same with a guy I'd been chatting to for months, allegedly desperate to meet me - and then when I was staying in his area and invited him to my hotel he threw in 'any chance you could get another female to join in?'. Instant turn off and the invitation was revoked!

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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago

NeverWhere


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx"

How rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you organise an FFM with one of your friends is my standard opening gambit. I applaud this gentlemans restraint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And i've got a guy arranging 3sums with his mates for me, but asking do i wanna meet up with only him first.

I so wanna fuck him i don't really care either way who turns up, so long as he does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not bragging (much lol), just saying the way to inside of my knickers* is that way.

*I dont wear knickers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx"

Don't take this as rude.

But maybe he is asking if you have a more attractive friend. It's nothing against you but guys are greedy.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Had two of those scoundrels today. All nice cheeky chat, moving towards meeting then boom....

I'd blame porn and horny boys thinking with their plonkers but I love a bi MMF myself so same in reverse

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think there's a big problem with some mens attitude to swinging in general.

Some of the messages I've had in the past are instant turn offs I think they assume that because this is a sex site we must be desperate that we'll do anything to get with them.

In saying that though some really nice single guys the bad ones ruin it for.

Xxxxx

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

I tend to crawl before I can walk. If I can't crawl then lay out flat and roll across the floor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx"

What utter tripe! In your profile there are pictures of you with men and women, in the list of things you are interested in the SECOND one mentioned is threesomes. Did you ever consider that perhaps he thought you might prefer this arrangement, at the same time so might he? Having sex with multiple partners at the same time should be mutually rewarding for all concerned, however if you or subsequent posters feel "us men" have to jump through your hoops in order to earn it, then perhaps you should buy a dog which you can reward with little treats instead.

No offence intended, I'm sure you're lovely, we just have differing opinions on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx"

Pfft! Greedy guy! You're plenty enough to excite every fibre within my body x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah I had the same with a guy I'd been chatting to for months, allegedly desperate to meet me - and then when I was staying in his area and invited him to my hotel he threw in 'any chance you could get another female to join in?'. Instant turn off and the invitation was revoked! "

His loss for sure. Wouldn't be surprised if he's kicking him self to this day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow! The attitude of some of the guys in this thread do them no favours at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx

What utter tripe! In your profile there are pictures of you with men and women, in the list of things you are interested in the SECOND one mentioned is threesomes. Did you ever consider that perhaps he thought you might prefer this arrangement, at the same time so might he? Having sex with multiple partners at the same time should be mutually rewarding for all concerned, however if you or subsequent posters feel "us men" have to jump through your hoops in order to earn it, then perhaps you should buy a dog which you can reward with little treats instead.

No offence intended, I'm sure you're lovely, we just have differing opinions on this."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx"

Personally I think that is a ridiculous request (his not yours)

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By *moSexGeeksCouple
over a year ago

Warwick


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx

What utter tripe! In your profile there are pictures of you with men and women, in the list of things you are interested in the SECOND one mentioned is threesomes. Did you ever consider that perhaps he thought you might prefer this arrangement, at the same time so might he? Having sex with multiple partners at the same time should be mutually rewarding for all concerned, however if you or subsequent posters feel "us men" have to jump through your hoops in order to earn it, then perhaps you should buy a dog which you can reward with little treats instead.

No offence intended, I'm sure you're lovely, we just have differing opinions on this.

This "

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By *a petite madameWoman
over a year ago

London / Essex


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't defend or condem this guy as we aren't party to the conversation you were having. He may well have been getting the impression that you were up for something more adventurous than a one on one meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx

What utter tripe! In your profile there are pictures of you with men and women, in the list of things you are interested in the SECOND one mentioned is threesomes. Did you ever consider that perhaps he thought you might prefer this arrangement, at the same time so might he? Having sex with multiple partners at the same time should be mutually rewarding for all concerned, however if you or subsequent posters feel "us men" have to jump through your hoops in order to earn it, then perhaps you should buy a dog which you can reward with little treats instead.

No offence intended, I'm sure you're lovely, we just have differing opinions on this."

I like threesomes mfm and fmf because the dynamics can be amazingly different from a mf experience - BUT- i expect to meet the fella first at least once before he asks for others to join us because I think during the exchange of messages and during the first part of a meet it is polite to establish a connection between two of the participants then they can both invite the third person to join them - otherwise I think the same as the OP - asking one lady you haven't met with yet if she can bring a female friend to the first meet somehow devalues the experience of meeting the first lady for that very special first time. Seems like the bloke is just too lazy to organise the fulfilment of his fantasy.

Now if three sexy people all happen to be in a swingers club at the same time and they feel a threeway attraction that is a different scenario altogether - I have had some very sexy, spontaneous encounters like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see both sides of this argument. On one hand the OP does portray herself in a certain way via her pics and preferences so its easy to see how a guy with blue balls might try and chance a request.

On the flip side a lot of guys should get rid of some tension before messaging.

Maybe a little understanding that the OP had contributed to those blue balls and an explanation that maybe look at the mff situation if the 1 on 1 meet goes well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops. One of mine just switched to wanking mode; one message he said he'd worship me, the next destroy me! Lol.

Bless them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this all the time too. They know how hard it is to get A fem, let alone 2 to play with.

Like the ones who tell me what to wear to a meet. I don't have a man in life, so not gonna let a fuck partner tell me what to wear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx"

Of course I agree 100% OP. But .. could you? I mean the MFF thing?

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx

What utter tripe! In your profile there are pictures of you with men and women, in the list of things you are interested in the SECOND one mentioned is threesomes. Did you ever consider that perhaps he thought you might prefer this arrangement, at the same time so might he? Having sex with multiple partners at the same time should be mutually rewarding for all concerned, however if you or subsequent posters feel "us men" have to jump through your hoops in order to earn it, then perhaps you should buy a dog which you can reward with little treats instead.

No offence intended, I'm sure you're lovely, we just have differing opinions on this."

Seriously? Did you actually read her profile? The only mention of threesomes is in her interests, there are no threesome pics and she only mentions she would like some girly time.

Even if there was it still seems an arsey reply. There's plenty of single guys on here to choose from so a little advice offered as to why guys may not get the meet they are hoping for should be welcomed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're like the guys who say 'by the way, do you have any female friends who's details I could have?'.

It's a bit gross.

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

And she hasn't changed her profile since your comment 5 hours ago as she's not been on for 9 hours.

No public pic and no veris says a lot.

Carry on though it makes some of us look even better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They're like the guys who say 'by the way, do you have any female friends who's details I could have?'.

It's a bit gross."

I get all that..... But do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx"

Simply boils down to greed , people not really building that report but actually manipulating there own underlying motive , I'd say the people that do that have no regard for the others persons pleasure and are solely interested in there own gratification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They should be clear on there intention from the outset , they may have more luck on finding a mutual need , it sounds as smooth as corse sand paper to me , bit like saying you look nice and I've enjoyed our chat but can I fuck your mate ??

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By *heorgasmaddictMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes all men are terrible. What a bunch of terrible human beings we all are. All of us.

Hey, I've just remembered - some women say and do stupid things as well!

Women - boooooo!!!

Men - booooo!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx

What utter tripe! In your profile there are pictures of you with men and women, in the list of things you are interested in the SECOND one mentioned is threesomes. Did you ever consider that perhaps he thought you might prefer this arrangement, at the same time so might he? Having sex with multiple partners at the same time should be mutually rewarding for all concerned, however if you or subsequent posters feel "us men" have to jump through your hoops in order to earn it, then perhaps you should buy a dog which you can reward with little treats instead.

No offence intended, I'm sure you're lovely, we just have differing opinions on this."

Yes, you do, that seems clear. How do write when you are trying to be offensive?

I don't think expecting a level of respect when planning a sexual encounter really amounts to 'jumping through hoops'. Why can't some people grasp that for many on here they want petty much what would be acceptable anywhere else. I'm not sure ' bring a mate and I'll shag her too' would work on a first date but a swinger should expect it?

Bx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chivalry can still be a handsome quality

In my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies Only posted because it happens more than you think and don't get me wrong, I'm an adventurous girl, not at all offended by threesomes or group play I don't expect people to jump through hoops for me like somebody suggested and no, I wouldnt suggest a mmf threesome with somebody I hadn't met before Just pointing out that these guys might not realise that they're sabotaging themselves when they ask this before you've even met them. Lets see if you can satisfy me first mister! :p

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury


"Thanks for the replies Only posted because it happens more than you think and don't get me wrong, I'm an adventurous girl, not at all offended by threesomes or group play I don't expect people to jump through hoops for me like somebody suggested and no, I wouldnt suggest a mmf threesome with somebody I hadn't met before Just pointing out that these guys might not realise that they're sabotaging themselves when they ask this before you've even met them. Lets see if you can satisfy me first mister! :p"

That last bit sounds like a challenge

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And also, so what if threesomes are listed on my interests. I've listed blindfolds too. Am i dutybound to wear one of those on every meet now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I had similar experience with a man chatting to me for a few days .He asked me if I would join him and his female friend for 3 sum .I declined the offer as not my thing .Then messaged oh I'd rather meet me as nicer .so I blocked him ,can't be done with some men on here .Think id rather chat and do without sex at times .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you consider how many posts there are by single men that request advice on how to meet ladies, construct their first message, continue a conversation through to a meet - and then a lady gives a little advice - some door handles come out the wood work to shoot her down

Makes you laugh really

So this 3some .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And also, so what if threesomes are listed on my interests. I've listed blindfolds too. Am i dutybound to wear one of those on every meet now? "

Yes (please)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what's on your profile dictates what type me men you attract.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile says you like 3sums?

So stop whinging or change your profile

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury


"Your profile says you like 3sums?

So stop whinging or change your profile "

big lol. Did you actually read any of the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the whiteknights arrive on there horses trying to curry favour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what's on your profile dictates what type me men you attract. "

I think marking yourself down as 'F' dictates the kind of men you will attract, since most men on that contact me haven't bothered to read my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've arranged 3 somes and had them arranged for me,with people I hadn't met yet. If you don't want them with anyone in particular you can say no thank you and give your explanation as to why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've arranged 3 somes and had them arranged for me,with people I hadn't met yet. If you don't want them with anyone in particular you can say no thank you and give your explanation as to why. "

I think you have missed the point of the OP's post.

It's not that she doesn't enjoy threesomes, or that she doesn't want a threesome with that person *in the future*, it's just that if you talk to someone as a single, and it's all going really well, and then a guy is like 'can you bring a mate too?' it's just unlikely to have the right kind of happy ending for the guy.

The OP's post was more like 'guys, this isn't the way to do it' than 'I don't want threesomes'.

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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago

NeverWhere


"Your profile says you like 3sums?

So stop whinging or change your profile "

Time to duck and cover, why come out with something so negative. This might be as swinging site but if you are not respectful and prepared to meet, chat. Then if your both happy, then progress.

If you just want to fuck on only your terms then go and pay for it.

Here end the rant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've arranged 3 somes and had them arranged for me,with people I hadn't met yet. If you don't want them with anyone in particular you can say no thank you and give your explanation as to why.

I think you have missed the point of the OP's post.

It's not that she doesn't enjoy threesomes, or that she doesn't want a threesome with that person *in the future*, it's just that if you talk to someone as a single, and it's all going really well, and then a guy is like 'can you bring a mate too?' it's just unlikely to have the right kind of happy ending for the guy.

The OP's post was more like 'guys, this isn't the way to do it' than 'I don't want threesomes'."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've arranged 3 somes and had them arranged for me,with people I hadn't met yet. If you don't want them with anyone in particular you can say no thank you and give your explanation as to why.

I think you have missed the point of the OP's post.

It's not that she doesn't enjoy threesomes, or that she doesn't want a threesome with that person *in the future*, it's just that if you talk to someone as a single, and it's all going really well, and then a guy is like 'can you bring a mate too?' it's just unlikely to have the right kind of happy ending for the guy.

The OP's post was more like 'guys, this isn't the way to do it' than 'I don't want threesomes'."
Thank you. Exactly x

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury


"And the whiteknights arrive on there horses trying to curry favour "

And the trolls come out to wind up the people who read the thread properly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've arranged 3 somes and had them arranged for me,with people I hadn't met yet. If you don't want them with anyone in particular you can say no thank you and give your explanation as to why.

I think you have missed the point of the OP's post.

It's not that she doesn't enjoy threesomes, or that she doesn't want a threesome with that person *in the future*, it's just that if you talk to someone as a single, and it's all going really well, and then a guy is like 'can you bring a mate too?' it's just unlikely to have the right kind of happy ending for the guy.

The OP's post was more like 'guys, this isn't the way to do it' than 'I don't want threesomes'."

Exactly so. I've lost count of the conversations I've had in the same vein as the OP. Massive turn off if you've not even met 1-2-1 with them. It goes from being what you want to happen together to being what he wants regardless of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for the advice.

The problem is very easily sorted in the conversations that take place before the meet is arranged, particularly in a conversation spread over several days.

If the guy's still dumb enough to push his luck after that then decline, block if you wish, and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And the whiteknights arrive on there horses trying to curry favour

And the trolls come out to wind up the people who read the thread properly "

Always two sides to most stories...we neither know the context of there chat or how things were said...i just find it funny that other males are so quick to jump on the bandwagon condemning other males without knowing the true facts...im betting if it was a male who posted he would get the kind of sympathy from other males...and for your info..im not trolling just being realistic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And the whiteknights arrive on there horses trying to curry favour

And the trolls come out to wind up the people who read the thread properly

Always two sides to most stories...we neither know the context of there chat or how things were said...i just find it funny that other males are so quick to jump on the bandwagon condemning other males without knowing the true facts...im betting if it was a male who posted he would get the kind of sympathy from other males...and for your info..im not trolling just being realistic "

Wouldnt*

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury


"And the whiteknights arrive on there horses trying to curry favour

And the trolls come out to wind up the people who read the thread properly

Always two sides to most stories...we neither know the context of there chat or how things were said...i just find it funny that other males are so quick to jump on the bandwagon condemning other males without knowing the true facts...im betting if it was a male who posted he would get the kind of sympathy from other males...and for your info..im not trolling just being realistic

Wouldnt*"

And if you read all the previous posts it was meant as advice to guys in general, which many are often asking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And the whiteknights arrive on there horses trying to curry favour

And the trolls come out to wind up the people who read the thread properly

Always two sides to most stories...we neither know the context of there chat or how things were said...i just find it funny that other males are so quick to jump on the bandwagon condemning other males without knowing the true facts...im betting if it was a male who posted he would get the kind of sympathy from other males...and for your info..im not trolling just being realistic

Wouldnt*

And if you read all the previous posts it was meant as advice to guys in general, which many are often asking for. "

The post dosent look like advice to me tbh...looks more like a moan about some guy...and i have read the posts...along with numerous single guys condemning the guy in question without know the context of there chat over the few days before the said comment was supposed to had been made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What an arse he was

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury


"And the whiteknights arrive on there horses trying to curry favour

And the trolls come out to wind up the people who read the thread properly

Always two sides to most stories...we neither know the context of there chat or how things were said...i just find it funny that other males are so quick to jump on the bandwagon condemning other males without knowing the true facts...im betting if it was a male who posted he would get the kind of sympathy from other males...and for your info..im not trolling just being realistic

Wouldnt*

And if you read all the previous posts it was meant as advice to guys in general, which many are often asking for.

The post dosent look like advice to me tbh...looks more like a moan about some guy...and i have read the posts...along with numerous single guys condemning the guy in question without know the context of there chat over the few days before the said comment was supposed to had been made "

You are obviously entitled to your opinion as am I but the white knight comment seemed aimed at me as I'd just posted and added nothing except inciting an argument

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And the whiteknights arrive on there horses trying to curry favour

And the trolls come out to wind up the people who read the thread properly

Always two sides to most stories...we neither know the context of there chat or how things were said...i just find it funny that other males are so quick to jump on the bandwagon condemning other males without knowing the true facts...im betting if it was a male who posted he would get the kind of sympathy from other males...and for your info..im not trolling just being realistic

Wouldnt*

And if you read all the previous posts it was meant as advice to guys in general, which many are often asking for.

The post dosent look like advice to me tbh...looks more like a moan about some guy...and i have read the posts...along with numerous single guys condemning the guy in question without know the context of there chat over the few days before the said comment was supposed to had been made

You are obviously entitled to your opinion as am I but the white knight comment seemed aimed at me as I'd just posted and added nothing except inciting an argument "

No it wasnt aimed at you tbh..it was aimed at everyone jumping to conclusions...and single man bashing again...sorry if it came over that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes all men are terrible. What a bunch of terrible human beings we all are. All of us.

Hey, I've just remembered - some women say and do stupid things as well!

Women - boooooo!!!

Men - booooo!!!

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn't trolling, i was pleasantly surprised to get the offer i got.

But what happened to OP is like a scam, a guy approaches you with the intention of meeting for one thing, then once he feels comfortable enough to change the goal posts he does it. I think that's devious and manipulative - although it might not be intentionally so.

I've had guys i've met also offer me friends to play with, more as a favour to their friend than to me. People should be making offers that make the person being offered feel like they are getting something, not selfish offers that benefit someone else really. It can leave you feeling used or invalid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it this morning, telling me what he does with his wife, who by the way doesn't play and surprisingly doesn't know he's here. 'So why do I need to know about you do with your Mrs' I asked? Well thought it would turn you on and we can look for a female for mff.. We haven't even met yet!!!!

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By *ayman2002Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

The OP should ask him if he had any fit mates for her

Seriously though, some guys just aren't ready for what fab can offer. It's part & parcel of the lifestyle though. Make a note, laugh it off and move on is all you can do.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

This does happen a lot! Had a guy from London message. I told him it was too far for him to come and not to bother messaging. He insisted distance wasn't a problem and we started chatting. As soon as we start arrangements to meet he says 'The least you can do if I'm coming all that way is find me some other girls to play with'!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile says you like 3sums?

So stop whinging or change your profile "

Our list of interests includes anal doesn't mean I'm going to let everyone fuck me up the arse...The list of interests is exactly that, not an a la carte menu for all and sundry...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And she hasn't changed her profile since your comment 5 hours ago as she's not been on for 9 hours.

No public pic and no veris says a lot.

Carry on though it makes some of us look even better "

And there you go making assumptions and judging on NO information whatsoever.

I'm glad I make you look good though, it's a shame you need others to help you do that.

Now, as for the op's point, yes it was a bit of a moan and a bit of advice for what works for HER. As is abundantly clear, we're all different and like different things. Some welcome the suggestion of a 3sum as a first, and possibly only date, if you wish to call it that. Only the OP here knows the full facts, I merely offered an alternative explanation in my role as devil's advocate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile says you like 3sums?

So stop whinging or change your profile

Our list of interests includes anal doesn't mean I'm going to let everyone fuck me up the arse...The list of interests is exactly that, not an a la carte menu for all and sundry..."

That's very true, however you can't really blame someone for bringing it up in the course of a conversation, since it is of interest to you. A polite no should never offend. Bringing it up when you've stated it's NOT of interest would be more grounds for a spat surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile says you like 3sums?

So stop whinging or change your profile

Our list of interests includes anal doesn't mean I'm going to let everyone fuck me up the arse...The list of interests is exactly that, not an a la carte menu for all and sundry...

That's very true, however you can't really blame someone for bringing it up in the course of a conversation, since it is of interest to you. A polite no should never offend. Bringing it up when you've stated it's NOT of interest would be more grounds for a spat surely?"

It's more like... you've spent time getting to know someone and arranging a meet... and then suddenly fucking YOU isn't enough. They also want you to bring friends, when you've not even bothered to spend the time fucking you first.

It's not like 'can we try this extra thing'. Instead it's 'you on your own isn't good enough. Bring mates.'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hes thinking with his ballsack , your just a hole to fuck . Block the dick . lots of nice decent men on here ."

But isn't that the point.. Sex??

Don't get me wrong.. I totally agree with OP n I just ignore the men after it is said.. But do men think that cause women are on here that instantly your up for anything.. Just another hole..

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury


"And she hasn't changed her profile since your comment 5 hours ago as she's not been on for 9 hours.

No public pic and no veris says a lot.

Carry on though it makes some of us look even better

And there you go making assumptions and judging on NO information whatsoever.

I'm glad I make you look good though, it's a shame you need others to help you do that.

Now, as for the op's point, yes it was a bit of a moan and a bit of advice for what works for HER. As is abundantly clear, we're all different and like different things. Some welcome the suggestion of a 3sum as a first, and possibly only date, if you wish to call it that. Only the OP here knows the full facts, I merely offered an alternative explanation in my role as devil's advocate. "

As the opening words you merely offered were "what utter tripe " I can't agree.

You also misquoted her profile, maybe you looked at the wrong one?

And the assumptions made were after a look at your profile, no pics no veris. Which anyone else can do too.

I don't need you to make me look even better, the fact your attitude does is just a bonus. Please do carry on ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hes thinking with his ballsack , your just a hole to fuck . Block the dick . lots of nice decent men on here .

But isn't that the point.. Sex??

Don't get me wrong.. I totally agree with OP n I just ignore the men after it is said.. But do men think that cause women are on here that instantly your up for anything.. Just another hole.. "

In all honesty some men, and women, probably do think like that. Wrongly I hasten to add. But I stand by my original point that if you state you have an interest in something then you can't get bent if someone brings it up.

People are here for a broad spectrum of reasons. Some wish to complete their bucket list with no strings encounters, meet, fuck, move on. Male and female. Others require more. That's what the chatting bit at the start is to sort out surely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And the whiteknights arrive on there horses trying to curry favour "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a total and instant turn off for me too

No going back after that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hes thinking with his ballsack , your just a hole to fuck . Block the dick . lots of nice decent men on here .

But isn't that the point.. Sex??

Don't get me wrong.. I totally agree with OP n I just ignore the men after it is said.. But do men think that cause women are on here that instantly your up for anything.. Just another hole.. "

Plenty of guys think that yeah. But don't be obvious about it and always be honest from the start works best.

I think most of us don't wanna feel used or that we don't matter and the guys who fuck us aren't fussy. Might not be realistic but at least give us that illusion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hes thinking with his ballsack , your just a hole to fuck . Block the dick . lots of nice decent men on here .

But isn't that the point.. Sex??

Don't get me wrong.. I totally agree with OP n I just ignore the men after it is said.. But do men think that cause women are on here that instantly your up for anything.. Just another hole..

Plenty of guys think that yeah. But don't be obvious about it and always be honest from the start works best.

I think most of us don't wanna feel used or that we don't matter and the guys who fuck us aren't fussy. Might not be realistic but at least give us that illusion."

Either play the game or fuck off. My motto.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could agree more; constantly get...wanna meet! Let's fuck! I'd destroy you etc

Had one cheeky sod messaging asking Nat if she would meet him and bring one of her friends so they could have an MFF lol

Our profile says we love the social side as much as the sex and we are not a jump straight into bed couple. So couldn't make it clear for how people should approach messaging us lol

Guys...so many bad ones. So few good ones. But the good ones make it worth it.

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By *neeyedpirateMan
over a year ago

ask!

There are a few of us on here we are not all mental and greedy lol X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've arranged 3 somes and had them arranged for me,with people I hadn't met yet. If you don't want them with anyone in particular you can say no thank you and give your explanation as to why.

I think you have missed the point of the OP's post.

It's not that she doesn't enjoy threesomes, or that she doesn't want a threesome with that person *in the future*, it's just that if you talk to someone as a single, and it's all going really well, and then a guy is like 'can you bring a mate too?' it's just unlikely to have the right kind of happy ending for the guy.

The OP's post was more like 'guys, this isn't the way to do it' than 'I don't want threesomes'."

We all do it differently. I'm happy to be asked if I want a 3 some by a stranger or let them know I don't have a friend to join us. It's not a big deal for me,I'm used to how people's minds work. Sometimes I go with it,sometimes I don't. This is a site for people to find what they want,they won't know if I can provide it if they don't ask.

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By *outhernchappieMan
over a year ago

brighton

Concentrating and enjoying quality time one on one is enough for me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're just getting into this as a couple. T has had some experience as a single guy. We're totally about being respectful and sociable. Of course we all want to have fun, but normal rules of politeness should still apply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've arranged 3 somes and had them arranged for me,with people I hadn't met yet. If you don't want them with anyone in particular you can say no thank you and give your explanation as to why.

I think you have missed the point of the OP's post.

It's not that she doesn't enjoy threesomes, or that she doesn't want a threesome with that person *in the future*, it's just that if you talk to someone as a single, and it's all going really well, and then a guy is like 'can you bring a mate too?' it's just unlikely to have the right kind of happy ending for the guy.

The OP's post was more like 'guys, this isn't the way to do it' than 'I don't want threesomes'.

We all do it differently. I'm happy to be asked if I want a 3 some by a stranger or let them know I don't have a friend to join us. It's not a big deal for me,I'm used to how people's minds work. Sometimes I go with it,sometimes I don't. This is a site for people to find what they want,they won't know if I can provide it if they don't ask. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hes thinking with his ballsack , your just a hole to fuck . Block the dick . lots of nice decent men on here .

But isn't that the point.. Sex??

Don't get me wrong.. I totally agree with OP n I just ignore the men after it is said.. But do men think that cause women are on here that instantly your up for anything.. Just another hole..

Plenty of guys think that yeah. But don't be obvious about it and always be honest from the start works best.

I think most of us don't wanna feel used or that we don't matter and the guys who fuck us aren't fussy. Might not be realistic but at least give us that illusion.

Either play the game or fuck off. My motto. "

It's weird. I appreciate honesty, but want a whole load of fantasy sometimes.

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

Asking someone to bring a friend along on a first meet is a complete no-no. But I can top that!

A guy I'd never met asked me if I'd like to meet him and Miss[Named Person]. I politely said no.

I later found out that he'd said the identical thing to Miss[NamedPerson] - who he had also never met - except that he asked her if she would like to meet him and MissFlirty. Fortunately she also said no, and contacted me to apologise if I thought she was rude.

He was trying to pretend to each of us that he was already FWB with the other, when really he had never met either of us. So what he was planning for was a MFF when none of the three had met either of the others before. Now I can imagine that this kind of MFF might happen in a club, but how on earth did he think he could get away with this on a private meet???

When we challenged him on this he just said "if you don't ask you don't get".

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By *henomenonMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx"

I find its the same with women who lack discretion and feel the need to blurt out private conversations it shouts "no class".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what's on your profile dictates what type me men you attract.

I think marking yourself down as 'F' dictates the kind of men you will attract, since most men on that contact me haven't bothered to read my profile."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hes thinking with his ballsack , your just a hole to fuck . Block the dick . lots of nice decent men on here ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't see the issue to be honest .

So many guys have the fantasy of an ffm , and we are happy to try and help if we can .

We have fulfilled it many times

However , it would be different if it was a single woman I imagine . Perhaps a bit of a dent to her ego ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't see the issue to be honest .

So many guys have the fantasy of an ffm , and we are happy to try and help if we can .

We have fulfilled it many times

However , it would be different if it was a single woman I imagine . Perhaps a bit of a dent to her ego ?

"

No I just see it a a cheek that's all

If I wanted an mmf or an mff I can sort it myself,I wouldn't expect some one I'd never met to sort it for me

Sod all to do with ego

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Ok so you chat to a guy, you want to meet but he then throws in the 'bring a friend' before you've even met. He gets blocked.

Let's try an alternative way. You chat, meet for a coffee, arrange to meet for fun, build up a rapport then perhaps discuss the option of a 3rd person!

Wonder which one might work best. None of the previous posts even mentions the safety of a single girl. Hard enough meeting one person let alone two strangers.

I'm with the OP instant block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so you chat to a guy, you want to meet but he then throws in the 'bring a friend' before you've even met. He gets blocked.

Let's try an alternative way. You chat, meet for a coffee, arrange to meet for fun, build up a rapport then perhaps discuss the option of a 3rd person!

Wonder which one might work best. None of the previous posts even mentions the safety of a single girl. Hard enough meeting one person let alone two strangers.

I'm with the OP instant block. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't see the issue to be honest .

So many guys have the fantasy of an ffm , and we are happy to try and help if we can .

We have fulfilled it many times

However , it would be different if it was a single woman I imagine . Perhaps a bit of a dent to her ego ?

No I just see it a a cheek that's all

If I wanted an mmf or an mff I can sort it myself,I wouldn't expect some one I'd never met to sort it for me

Sod all to do with ego "

Similar here too.

I love being a part of someone elses fantasy, feel honoured to become someone elses memory of something they've fnatasized about or wanted for some time.

But to offer me one thing then change it to something else, something more selfish and then ask me to arrange that, erm no, fuck off. It's the main reason i won't team up with anyone on here either, nobody is using me to get what they want. I can get what i want without them anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And also, so what if threesomes are listed on my interests. I've listed blindfolds too. Am i dutybound to wear one of those on every meet now? "

Sorry Boo Boo Kitty, but listed ‘Interests’ on fab are a contractual commitment.

Having just read through yours, it’s pretty obvious that you’re gagging for a safe sex adult party where you will expect to receive anal while blindfolded, followed quickly by a threesome DP and then a gangbang. After a quick visit to the loo, you’ll want group sex involving rimming and toys, before moving on to some role play, first swapping in the same room, then in separate rooms (short tea break around this time is advisable). You'll want your evening to finish with a combination of SM, soft swing and spanking. Oh, and all of the above must be photographed.

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury


"And also, so what if threesomes are listed on my interests. I've listed blindfolds too. Am i dutybound to wear one of those on every meet now?

Sorry Boo Boo Kitty, but listed ‘Interests’ on fab are a contractual commitment.

Having just read through yours, it’s pretty obvious that you’re gagging for a safe sex adult party where you will expect to receive anal while blindfolded, followed quickly by a threesome DP and then a gangbang. After a quick visit to the loo, you’ll want group sex involving rimming and toys, before moving on to some role play, first swapping in the same room, then in separate rooms (short tea break around this time is advisable). You'll want your evening to finish with a combination of SM, soft swing and spanking. Oh, and all of the above must be photographed. "

Sounds a good night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And also, so what if threesomes are listed on my interests. I've listed blindfolds too. Am i dutybound to wear one of those on every meet now?

Sorry Boo Boo Kitty, but listed ‘Interests’ on fab are a contractual commitment.

Having just read through yours, it’s pretty obvious that you’re gagging for a safe sex adult party where you will expect to receive anal while blindfolded, followed quickly by a threesome DP and then a gangbang. After a quick visit to the loo, you’ll want group sex involving rimming and toys, before moving on to some role play, first swapping in the same room, then in separate rooms (short tea break around this time is advisable). You'll want your evening to finish with a combination of SM, soft swing and spanking. Oh, and all of the above must be photographed. "

Finally.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx"
he's just an idiot he's the reason the put warning signs above obvious hazards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They're like the guys who say 'by the way, do you have any female friends who's details I could have?'.

It's a bit gross."

Yeah I know that one!

I get ' I want you to share me with your friends, why not message them for me?

Fantastic way of making sure they never get to meet me again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They're like the guys who say 'by the way, do you have any female friends who's details I could have?'.

It's a bit gross.

Yeah I know that one!

I get ' I want you to share me with your friends, why not message them for me?

Fantastic way of making sure they never get to meet me again! "

*quietly deletes the draft group message to felicity, booboo andpeach and walks away iinoccently whistling*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No lesson to be learned as you can't teach old dicks new tricks.

Guys like myself who are genuine and there are many of us out there, will be courteous and respectful enough to treat a sexy lady right rather than being overzealous with ones fantasies.

We might all have a dick but we don't always necessarily think with them

Peter xx

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By *muffin manMan
over a year ago

london/barnet


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx"

agree at least meet first and then ask if ur up for something like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the only mistake the guy made was not asking for a 3some in his first msg? And maybe thats the advice he should be given. Other than that, guys know what they are doing and what they want. Maybe he never intended or wanted to meet the Op 1 on 1 so maybe he hasn't lost out on anything? So you will never meet him now Op? Do you think he cares? Sorry if that sounds a bit harsh

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I think the whole point is that you chat for a while, get to know a person and just as you are about to agree to meet, the mff is dropped in like a bomb.

Just happened to me and now I'm completely turned off meeting as it seems like he was using me to get a mff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx"

wow how silly and disrespectful of him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agree, atleast meet first to make sure the chemistry is right and you's click before bring others in x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Anyone who gets saucy or graphic straight away doesn't get my attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the only mistake the guy made was not asking for a 3some in his first msg? And maybe thats the advice he should be given. Other than that, guys know what they are doing and what they want. Maybe he never intended or wanted to meet the Op 1 on 1 so maybe he hasn't lost out on anything? So you will never meet him now Op? Do you think he cares? Sorry if that sounds a bit harsh"

Of course he cares, he's lost out on a fuck by chancing his arm.

serves him right too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the whole point is that you chat for a while, get to know a person and just as you are about to agree to meet, the mff is dropped in like a bomb.

Just happened to me and now I'm completely turned off meeting as it seems like he was using me to get a mff.

"

Ok, how about this analogy.... You have hill walking or horse riding down as one of your interests on a dating site and a potential suiter suggests you go out for a hike or a hack on your date. Is that disrespectful too? I'm aware it's not quite the same but you see where I'm coming from. The guy MAY have thought he was suggesting something both he AND the op would enjoy. We don't know what went on for sure yet a lot of people were quick to jump all over him. Would it not have been worse if he'd said nothing, met up and fucked the op purely to "earn" his 3sum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the whole point is that you chat for a while, get to know a person and just as you are about to agree to meet, the mff is dropped in like a bomb.

Just happened to me and now I'm completely turned off meeting as it seems like he was using me to get a mff.

Ok, how about this analogy.... You have hill walking or horse riding down as one of your interests on a dating site and a potential suiter suggests you go out for a hike or a hack on your date. Is that disrespectful too? I'm aware it's not quite the same but you see where I'm coming from. The guy MAY have thought he was suggesting something both he AND the op would enjoy. We don't know what went on for sure yet a lot of people were quick to jump all over him. Would it not have been worse if he'd said nothing, met up and fucked the op purely to "earn" his 3sum?"

Why not ask for the 3sum in the first place then?

Why pretend you wanna meet someone on their own, and then change that once you think 'you're in'.

It's manipulation, pure and simple. He thought he had no chance of a 3sum off the bat, decided he was in with a chance eventually and fucked up.

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over a year ago


"I think the whole point is that you chat for a while, get to know a person and just as you are about to agree to meet, the mff is dropped in like a bomb.

Just happened to me and now I'm completely turned off meeting as it seems like he was using me to get a mff.

Ok, how about this analogy.... You have hill walking or horse riding down as one of your interests on a dating site and a potential suiter suggests you go out for a hike or a hack on your date. Is that disrespectful too? I'm aware it's not quite the same but you see where I'm coming from. The guy MAY have thought he was suggesting something both he AND the op would enjoy. We don't know what went on for sure yet a lot of people were quick to jump all over him. Would it not have been worse if he'd said nothing, met up and fucked the op purely to "earn" his 3sum?

Why not ask for the 3sum in the first place then?

Why pretend you wanna meet someone on their own, and then change that once you think 'you're in'.

It's manipulation, pure and simple. He thought he had no chance of a 3sum off the bat, decided he was in with a chance eventually and fucked up."

And you know this because? Nice one Judge Judy.

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over a year ago

Much as I am tempted to comnent I will refrain. My policy on 'I said,he said what do you think? ' posts is to to always remember I am hearing one side of the story.

A considered opinion requires both.

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over a year ago


"Much as I am tempted to comnent I will refrain. My policy on 'I said,he said what do you think? ' posts is to to always remember I am hearing one side of the story.

A considered opinion requires both."

This.

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over a year ago

So what is the advice being offered to guys here? Don't tell the lady what you would really like or suggest something that you would like until after you've fucked them? Would that make the ladies feel better because hey, at least they got a shag off him?

If it was the other way around and the guy was complaining people would be saying its good that a woman lets a guy know what she wants, its good that a woman can express her sexuality etc etc, blah blah blah

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over a year ago


"I think the whole point is that you chat for a while, get to know a person and just as you are about to agree to meet, the mff is dropped in like a bomb.

Just happened to me and now I'm completely turned off meeting as it seems like he was using me to get a mff.

Ok, how about this analogy.... You have hill walking or horse riding down as one of your interests on a dating site and a potential suiter suggests you go out for a hike or a hack on your date. Is that disrespectful too? I'm aware it's not quite the same but you see where I'm coming from. The guy MAY have thought he was suggesting something both he AND the op would enjoy. We don't know what went on for sure yet a lot of people were quick to jump all over him. Would it not have been worse if he'd said nothing, met up and fucked the op purely to "earn" his 3sum?

Why not ask for the 3sum in the first place then?

Why pretend you wanna meet someone on their own, and then change that once you think 'you're in'.

It's manipulation, pure and simple. He thought he had no chance of a 3sum off the bat, decided he was in with a chance eventually and fucked up.

And you know this because? Nice one Judge Judy. "

Answer my question first, mr roundabout.

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over a year ago


"I think the whole point is that you chat for a while, get to know a person and just as you are about to agree to meet, the mff is dropped in like a bomb.

Just happened to me and now I'm completely turned off meeting as it seems like he was using me to get a mff.

Ok, how about this analogy.... You have hill walking or horse riding down as one of your interests on a dating site and a potential suiter suggests you go out for a hike or a hack on your date. Is that disrespectful too? I'm aware it's not quite the same but you see where I'm coming from. The guy MAY have thought he was suggesting something both he AND the op would enjoy. We don't know what went on for sure yet a lot of people were quick to jump all over him. Would it not have been worse if he'd said nothing, met up and fucked the op purely to "earn" his 3sum?

Why not ask for the 3sum in the first place then?

Why pretend you wanna meet someone on their own, and then change that once you think 'you're in'.

It's manipulation, pure and simple. He thought he had no chance of a 3sum off the bat, decided he was in with a chance eventually and fucked up."

Or maybe he saw the Op pics on Facebook and thought wow she has some hot friends. Maybe they would be up for a threesome.

You never really know because we have one side of the story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what is the advice being offered to guys here? Don't tell the lady what you would really like or suggest something that you would like until after you've fucked them? Would that make the ladies feel better because hey, at least they got a shag off him?

If it was the other way around and the guy was complaining people would be saying its good that a woman lets a guy know what she wants, its good that a woman can express her sexuality etc etc, blah blah blah"

The white knights have conquered Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what is the advice being offered to guys here? Don't tell the lady what you would really like or suggest something that you would like until after you've fucked them? Would that make the ladies feel better because hey, at least they got a shag off him?

If it was the other way around and the guy was complaining people would be saying its good that a woman lets a guy know what she wants, its good that a woman can express her sexuality etc etc, blah blah blah"

Mine was ask for what you want in the first place. Most people appreciate that kind of honesty.

I enjoy the fantasy of not being used, i don't enjoy being messed about and asked for one thing if that's not what's being wanted, it's wasting my time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the whole point is that you chat for a while, get to know a person and just as you are about to agree to meet, the mff is dropped in like a bomb.

Just happened to me and now I'm completely turned off meeting as it seems like he was using me to get a mff.

Ok, how about this analogy.... You have hill walking or horse riding down as one of your interests on a dating site and a potential suiter suggests you go out for a hike or a hack on your date. Is that disrespectful too? I'm aware it's not quite the same but you see where I'm coming from. The guy MAY have thought he was suggesting something both he AND the op would enjoy. We don't know what went on for sure yet a lot of people were quick to jump all over him. Would it not have been worse if he'd said nothing, met up and fucked the op purely to "earn" his 3sum?

Why not ask for the 3sum in the first place then?

Why pretend you wanna meet someone on their own, and then change that once you think 'you're in'.

It's manipulation, pure and simple. He thought he had no chance of a 3sum off the bat, decided he was in with a chance eventually and fucked up.

Or maybe he saw the Op pics on Facebook and thought wow she has some hot friends. Maybe they would be up for a threesome.

You never really know because we have one side of the story."

Actually just remembered she hadn't even said she'd meet at all. Well fuck it, think that says my bedtime should be happening right about now.

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury


"So what is the advice being offered to guys here? Don't tell the lady what you would really like or suggest something that you would like until after you've fucked them? Would that make the ladies feel better because hey, at least they got a shag off him?

If it was the other way around and the guy was complaining people would be saying its good that a woman lets a guy know what she wants, its good that a woman can express her sexuality etc etc, blah blah blah"

I think it is that if you want a 3some don't get chatting for days then throw it in as if she's not good enough on her own. Be honest and say. Or wait til you've at least met for a coffee and see if you get on and mention you'd like a 3some at some point as its a fantasy of yours.

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over a year ago

The amount of women asking for mmf on a first meet though is totally fine lol

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury


"The amount of women asking for mmf on a first meet though is totally fine lol"

I wouldn't be fine on a first meet if it was someone I was getting on with. Bit of a slap in the face I'd think

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over a year ago


"I think the whole point is that you chat for a while, get to know a person and just as you are about to agree to meet, the mff is dropped in like a bomb.

Just happened to me and now I'm completely turned off meeting as it seems like he was using me to get a mff.

Ok, how about this analogy.... You have hill walking or horse riding down as one of your interests on a dating site and a potential suiter suggests you go out for a hike or a hack on your date. Is that disrespectful too? I'm aware it's not quite the same but you see where I'm coming from. The guy MAY have thought he was suggesting something both he AND the op would enjoy. We don't know what went on for sure yet a lot of people were quick to jump all over him. Would it not have been worse if he'd said nothing, met up and fucked the op purely to "earn" his 3sum?

Why not ask for the 3sum in the first place then?

Why pretend you wanna meet someone on their own, and then change that once you think 'you're in'.

It's manipulation, pure and simple. He thought he had no chance of a 3sum off the bat, decided he was in with a chance eventually and fucked up.

And you know this because? Nice one Judge Judy.

Answer my question first, mr roundabout."

In answer to your question, most people chat to see if they get along first before the conversation turns to sexual preferences or wishlists. Perhaps he didn't feel comfortable suggesting it before. Perhaps he thought it would be her preference to have something a touch more exotic. We'll never know cos we only heard one side of it, with scant enough facts. But that didn't seem to stop a lot of people jumping to a lot of conclusions and giving someone a battering.

The real answer to your heavily loaded question by the way is you wouldn't, unless you were a cunt. But we don't KNOW he did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the whole point is that you chat for a while, get to know a person and just as you are about to agree to meet, the mff is dropped in like a bomb.

Just happened to me and now I'm completely turned off meeting as it seems like he was using me to get a mff.

Ok, how about this analogy.... You have hill walking or horse riding down as one of your interests on a dating site and a potential suiter suggests you go out for a hike or a hack on your date. Is that disrespectful too? I'm aware it's not quite the same but you see where I'm coming from. The guy MAY have thought he was suggesting something both he AND the op would enjoy. We don't know what went on for sure yet a lot of people were quick to jump all over him. Would it not have been worse if he'd said nothing, met up and fucked the op purely to "earn" his 3sum?

Why not ask for the 3sum in the first place then?

Why pretend you wanna meet someone on their own, and then change that once you think 'you're in'.

It's manipulation, pure and simple. He thought he had no chance of a 3sum off the bat, decided he was in with a chance eventually and fucked up.

And you know this because? Nice one Judge Judy.

Answer my question first, mr roundabout.

In answer to your question, most people chat to see if they get along first before the conversation turns to sexual preferences or wishlists. Perhaps he didn't feel comfortable suggesting it before. Perhaps he thought it would be her preference to have something a touch more exotic. We'll never know cos we only heard one side of it, with scant enough facts. But that didn't seem to stop a lot of people jumping to a lot of conclusions and giving someone a battering.

The real answer to your heavily loaded question by the way is you wouldn't, unless you were a cunt. But we don't KNOW he did."

Thanks for answering my question, makes sense.

Am done discussing with you now, you seem to have to throw digs into discussions for some reason and i don't care to listen to that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the whole point is that you chat for a while, get to know a person and just as you are about to agree to meet, the mff is dropped in like a bomb.

Just happened to me and now I'm completely turned off meeting as it seems like he was using me to get a mff.

Ok, how about this analogy.... You have hill walking or horse riding down as one of your interests on a dating site and a potential suiter suggests you go out for a hike or a hack on your date. Is that disrespectful too? I'm aware it's not quite the same but you see where I'm coming from. The guy MAY have thought he was suggesting something both he AND the op would enjoy. We don't know what went on for sure yet a lot of people were quick to jump all over him. Would it not have been worse if he'd said nothing, met up and fucked the op purely to "earn" his 3sum?

Why not ask for the 3sum in the first place then?

Why pretend you wanna meet someone on their own, and then change that once you think 'you're in'.

It's manipulation, pure and simple. He thought he had no chance of a 3sum off the bat, decided he was in with a chance eventually and fucked up.

And you know this because? Nice one Judge Judy.

Answer my question first, mr roundabout.

In answer to your question, most people chat to see if they get along first before the conversation turns to sexual preferences or wishlists. Perhaps he didn't feel comfortable suggesting it before. Perhaps he thought it would be her preference to have something a touch more exotic. We'll never know cos we only heard one side of it, with scant enough facts. But that didn't seem to stop a lot of people jumping to a lot of conclusions and giving someone a battering.

The real answer to your heavily loaded question by the way is you wouldn't, unless you were a cunt. But we don't KNOW he did."

Don't you just 'love' that word. If only we all could be so eloquent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the whole point is that you chat for a while, get to know a person and just as you are about to agree to meet, the mff is dropped in like a bomb.

Just happened to me and now I'm completely turned off meeting as it seems like he was using me to get a mff.

Ok, how about this analogy.... You have hill walking or horse riding down as one of your interests on a dating site and a potential suiter suggests you go out for a hike or a hack on your date. Is that disrespectful too? I'm aware it's not quite the same but you see where I'm coming from. The guy MAY have thought he was suggesting something both he AND the op would enjoy. We don't know what went on for sure yet a lot of people were quick to jump all over him. Would it not have been worse if he'd said nothing, met up and fucked the op purely to "earn" his 3sum?

Why not ask for the 3sum in the first place then?

Why pretend you wanna meet someone on their own, and then change that once you think 'you're in'.

It's manipulation, pure and simple. He thought he had no chance of a 3sum off the bat, decided he was in with a chance eventually and fucked up.

And you know this because? Nice one Judge Judy.

Answer my question first, mr roundabout.

In answer to your question, most people chat to see if they get along first before the conversation turns to sexual preferences or wishlists. Perhaps he didn't feel comfortable suggesting it before. Perhaps he thought it would be her preference to have something a touch more exotic. We'll never know cos we only heard one side of it, with scant enough facts. But that didn't seem to stop a lot of people jumping to a lot of conclusions and giving someone a battering.

The real answer to your heavily loaded question by the way is you wouldn't, unless you were a cunt. But we don't KNOW he did.

Don't you just 'love' that word. If only we all could be so eloquent "

Some do, some don't. My apologies if that word offends you Rachel. Horses for courses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmmm not read all just the opening is it just men ?? dont thinks so.. couples and single can all be guilty of this...getting fed up with the man bashing on these forums ...nobody is pefect no matter who you are..we made many mistakes in all the years we've been swinging...live and let live

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just for the record I wasn't "man bashing" at all. I love men! Nor was it aimed particularly at the most recent of those "fancy bringing a friend" messages, so nothing personal to that particular guy. More of an observation about how often this happens and a general heads up that some women might not respond well to such a suggestion No need for arguments lovely people xx

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Just for the record I wasn't "man bashing" at all. I love men! Nor was it aimed particularly at the most recent of those "fancy bringing a friend" messages, so nothing personal to that particular guy. More of an observation about how often this happens and a general heads up that some women might not respond well to such a suggestion No need for arguments lovely people xx"

So the crux of the matter is this Fancy a fuck and will you bring a friend....pretty please

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just for the record I wasn't "man bashing" at all. I love men! Nor was it aimed particularly at the most recent of those "fancy bringing a friend" messages, so nothing personal to that particular guy. More of an observation about how often this happens and a general heads up that some women might not respond well to such a suggestion No need for arguments lovely people xx

So the crux of the matter is this Fancy a fuck and will you bring a friend....pretty please "
And thats the other thing, lets see if you can satisfy one lady first shall we?? haha x

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Just for the record I wasn't "man bashing" at all. I love men! Nor was it aimed particularly at the most recent of those "fancy bringing a friend" messages, so nothing personal to that particular guy. More of an observation about how often this happens and a general heads up that some women might not respond well to such a suggestion No need for arguments lovely people xx

So the crux of the matter is this Fancy a fuck and will you bring a friend....pretty please And thats the other thing, lets see if you can satisfy one lady first shall we?? haha x"

Satisfy? (looks up word in dictionary hmmm hmmm hmmm) OK then how about you come alone then might be best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just for the record I wasn't "man bashing" at all. I love men! Nor was it aimed particularly at the most recent of those "fancy bringing a friend" messages, so nothing personal to that particular guy. More of an observation about how often this happens and a general heads up that some women might not respond well to such a suggestion No need for arguments lovely people xx

So the crux of the matter is this Fancy a fuck and will you bring a friend....pretty please And thats the other thing, lets see if you can satisfy one lady first shall we?? haha x"

But that's why you have 2 ladies they can satisfy each other while the guy has a little sleep.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Just for the record I wasn't "man bashing" at all. I love men! Nor was it aimed particularly at the most recent of those "fancy bringing a friend" messages, so nothing personal to that particular guy. More of an observation about how often this happens and a general heads up that some women might not respond well to such a suggestion No need for arguments lovely people xx

So the crux of the matter is this Fancy a fuck and will you bring a friend....pretty please And thats the other thing, lets see if you can satisfy one lady first shall we?? haha x

But that's why you have 2 ladies they can satisfy each other while the guy has a little sleep."

I like your thinking

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By *eeDee25Woman
over a year ago

crook

I had that before instant off putting remark . I have met guys who have met me then said "have you any mates who would meet me" and this was after the meet needless to say they wont get another meet with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The amount of women asking for mmf on a first meet though is totally fine lol"

It's fine for guys to express an interest in the first meet. Asking for a threesome down the line when you've been chatting about one on one meets just makes you feel used though.

But then, I'd personally never message a guy and say "have you got any fit friends? I'd like a threesome" because it seems pretty rude. If they're not on here as a couple OR I didn't have someone else specific in mind I wouldn't ask.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness


"So men. This is a bit of a moan and a bit of advice all rolled into one! :p Yet again I've been having a lovely conversation with a guy, really clicking over the last few days, really thinking "ooh i might meet this one" and then you get this... "oh, do you think you could arrange a mff with one of your friends?" I mean really? Really?? You havent even met me yet?! Instant turn off, won't ever meet him now. Don't do this guys... definitely not before youve even met her! :p xx"

He was only asking for what he wanted?

Are we not all here for fantasy.

Maybe a 1 on 1 meet does not float his boat?

At least he asked before you met and you could decide that it was not something you would want!

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By *egularbloke_londonMan
over a year ago

london

Girls, just get over it - life is short.

If you're not into it, just say no thanks - no need to get into a strop.

A dude invites me over and get a 3some arranged? Fuck yea I'd say.

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over a year ago


"Girls, just get over it - life is short.

If you're not into it, just say no thanks - no need to get into a strop.

A dude invites me over and get a 3some arranged? Fuck yea I'd say."

It's more that you put time and effort into chatting with someone, only for down the line when you've potentially set a date for them to go 'btw, bring a friend?' And that's not what you wanted or signed up for. So you've wasted your time chatting to them, you've set aside time to meet them potentially, and then you discover that they didn't tell you what they *really* wanted until they thought it was too late for you to say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, i know men don't get as much messages generally, but if a guy is asking you to sort out a fuck for him it's kind of off putting. Almost like having to look after his needs for him, which would be nice of us to do but most people are here for NSA.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Girls, just get over it - life is short.

If you're not into it, just say no thanks - no need to get into a strop.

A dude invites me over and get a 3some arranged? Fuck yea I'd say."

A bloke wants me to bring a friend, I'm not offended as such but frankly just assume he's too inept, idle or unsuccessful with women on here to arrange one himself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Girls, just get over it - life is short.

If you're not into it, just say no thanks - no need to get into a strop.

A dude invites me over and get a 3some arranged? Fuck yea I'd say.

A bloke wants me to bring a friend, I'm not offended as such but frankly just assume he's too inept, idle or unsuccessful with women on here to arrange one himself..."

But isn't that what he's trying to do? How else would he do it? What would be the chances of getting 3 people together at the same time if none of them knew eachother?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Girls, just get over it - life is short.

If you're not into it, just say no thanks - no need to get into a strop.

A dude invites me over and get a 3some arranged? Fuck yea I'd say.

A bloke wants me to bring a friend, I'm not offended as such but frankly just assume he's too inept, idle or unsuccessful with women on here to arrange one himself...

But isn't that what he's trying to do? How else would he do it? What would be the chances of getting 3 people together at the same time if none of them knew eachother?"

I know this is a crazy concept... but he could start by meeting a woman, and then after they've hit it off, suggesting that they find someone together. Instead of expecting her to do all the work, find a friend, without knowing if he's any good in bed or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Girls, just get over it - life is short.

If you're not into it, just say no thanks - no need to get into a strop.

A dude invites me over and get a 3some arranged? Fuck yea I'd say.

A bloke wants me to bring a friend, I'm not offended as such but frankly just assume he's too inept, idle or unsuccessful with women on here to arrange one himself...

But isn't that what he's trying to do? How else would he do it? What would be the chances of getting 3 people together at the same time if none of them knew eachother?

I know this is a crazy concept... but he could start by meeting a woman, and then after they've hit it off, suggesting that they find someone together. Instead of expecting her to do all the work, find a friend, without knowing if he's any good in bed or not."

He is trying to find a friend by talking to the first lady but is not the least bit interested in 1 on 1 sex, so what does he do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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He is trying to find a friend by talking to the first lady but is not the least bit interested in 1 on 1 sex, so what does he do?"

Be up front, and say it in the first message.

I wouldn't talk to someone for a dozen messages and then go 'by the way, I'm not interested in vanilla sex. How do you feel about me whipping you until you cry?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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He is trying to find a friend by talking to the first lady but is not the least bit interested in 1 on 1 sex, so what does he do?

Be up front, and say it in the first message.

I wouldn't talk to someone for a dozen messages and then go 'by the way, I'm not interested in vanilla sex. How do you feel about me whipping you until you cry?'"

I was replying to Boobs's post and theoretically he might have said that in his first message.

And thats what you put in a first message? crikey

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