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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My wife doesn't know I'm on Fab but I'd like to get her interested in looking at Fabswingers as I know it will turn her on and improve our sex life. She isn't prudish but is somewhat reserved.

Any ideas on how I can broach the subject and get her to take a look would be much appreciated. Even if all we did was some online chats with her involved then I think it would open up a whole new world for her.

Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can see this going tits up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife doesn't know I'm on Fab but I'd like to get her interested in looking at Fabswingers as I know it will turn her on and improve our sex life. She isn't prudish but is somewhat reserved.

Any ideas on how I can broach the subject and get her to take a look would be much appreciated. Even if all we did was some online chats with her involved then I think it would open up a whole new world for her.

Thanks in advance "
I'd love this also xx

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By *ovable roguesCouple
over a year ago

GATESHEAD

We have been asked this question lots recently ... I would just say have a few drinks and get in that sort of mood ... talk about your fantasies and what you would both like then take it from there ... suttely drop fab into the conversation haha ( this is females opinion by the way lol ) xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have been asked this question lots recently ... I would just say have a few drinks and get in that sort of mood ... talk about your fantasies and what you would both like then take it from there ... suttely drop fab into the conversation haha ( this is females opinion by the way lol ) xx"

Thanks for that! We have talked about fantasies before but never about actually engaging in any online interaction with others.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I personally don't think you should have joined it without your wife, if your whole intention was doing it with her. So, my advice would be to delete the profile, come across the site with her and start a couple profile ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I personally don't think you should have joined it without your wife, if your whole intention was doing it with her. So, my advice would be to delete the profile, come across the site with her and start a couple profile .... "

Another good idea. Thank you

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By *ovable roguesCouple
over a year ago

GATESHEAD

I must agree with the comment above mind .. if your wanting her to join in she may be a bit offended if u seem to have dabbled without her so to speak lol xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If you're trying to improve your sex life the best thing to do would be to chat to her and suggest looking at the net for ideas, you could Google swinger websites and come across fab that way.

One thing I would say is listen to what she has to say, I get from your first post that you think you know what she would find arousing...listen to her, give her permission and space to talk and you might discover lots to your advantage .

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"I personally don't think you should have joined it without your wife, if your whole intention was doing it with her. So, my advice would be to delete the profile, come across the site with her and start a couple profile ....

Another good idea. Thank you "

When suggesting it, op, I noticed you have only been on the site a couple of weeks, so I think you are safe yet from being chastised about being a married man on fab as you at the exploratory phase. Go for it together ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you're trying to improve your sex life the best thing to do would be to chat to her and suggest looking at the net for ideas, you could Google swinger websites and come across fab that way.

One thing I would say is listen to what she has to say, I get from your first post that you think you know what she would find arousing...listen to her, give her permission and space to talk and you might discover lots to your advantage ."

Great advice, thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally don't think you should have joined it without your wife, if your whole intention was doing it with her. So, my advice would be to delete the profile, come across the site with her and start a couple profile .... "

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I personally don't think you should have joined it without your wife, if your whole intention was doing it with her. So, my advice would be to delete the profile, come across the site with her and start a couple profile ....

Another good idea. Thank you

When suggesting it, op, I noticed you have only been on the site a couple of weeks, so I think you are safe yet from being chastised about being a married man on fab as you at the exploratory phase. Go for it together ...."

Thank you

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By *offee and Cream 2Couple (MM)
over a year ago

Loughborough

Do you like to watch porn together?

if so, try choosing a film which involves swinging, and see what she thinks to the film first.

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By *orders2forUCouple
over a year ago

Hawick

Background... Both my wife and I swung as singles then after getting together discovered we had a history shall we say....lol

So. In her shoes if she happened on Fab and your profile how do you think she would feel? Or if you found her on Fab how would you react?

Delete your profile and TALK to your beloved.

Oh aye and remember if she says NO....

L2

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you like to watch porn together?

if so, try choosing a film which involves swinging, and see what she thinks to the film first."

Good idea. We used to watch porn years ago but it sort of fizzled out. She got very turned on watching a channel 4 doc about dogging so maybe could help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show her your profile here. That should start a conversation about swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Background... Both my wife and I swung as singles then after getting together discovered we had a history shall we say....lol

So. In her shoes if she happened on Fab and your profile how do you think she would feel? Or if you found her on Fab how would you react?

Delete your profile and TALK to your beloved.

Oh aye and remember if she says NO....

L2

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Neither of us has ever swung but i take your point. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

latest is looking good. Wife lately likes to fantasize about having two cocks to play with so I may suggest searching the internet for peoples fantasies about two cocks then stumble upon Fab and suggest a joint account on here, as chatting to others would get her very turned on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife doesn't know I'm on Fab but I'd like to get her interested in looking at Fabswingers as I know it will turn her on and improve our sex life. She isn't prudish but is somewhat reserved.

Any ideas on how I can broach the subject and get her to take a look would be much appreciated. Even if all we did was some online chats with her involved then I think it would open up a whole new world for her.

Thanks in advance "

Maybe showing her that you are already a member without her knowledge wouldn't be the best intro. Why not 'discover' FS together one night after a couple of drinks and then see how she reacts to it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"latest is looking good. Wife lately likes to fantasize about having two cocks to play with so I may suggest searching the internet for peoples fantasies about two cocks then stumble upon Fab and suggest a joint account on here, as chatting to others would get her very turned on."

Steady ! Steady ! Fantasising about two cocks doesn't mean your wife MUST be up for shagging a total stranger.

Many people fantasise about rape that doesn't mean that they want dragging down a back alley on a winters night and being used against their will and all the threat and fear that goes with it.

Maybe she's okay with the fantasy in the safety of your company but won't be in reality.

Think it through.

I've a feeling it's something you want and she as yet hasn't expressed any idea at all about involving 'others'.

Unless you are a good actor ....... a VERY good actor and liar.... Don't try the "Oh God look a swingers site." it'll be so contrived. Unless she's very stupid.

I'd drop the idea in very surreptitiously.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Does anyone think that AGE plays a part in sexual appetite ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"latest is looking good. Wife lately likes to fantasize about having two cocks to play with so I may suggest searching the internet for peoples fantasies about two cocks then stumble upon Fab and suggest a joint account on here, as chatting to others would get her very turned on."

See! There you go knowing what's going to get her turned on again. As I said before you need to listen to what she is actually saying not what you think she means.

You're communicating though which is great but i would say stop discussing it with us now and move forward with your wife.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As some one above has said, I suggest you delete this profile and come back here when you & your wife are ready to take the next step. If she finds your profile here, I don't think you'd have much use for your 'bits' when she's chapped them off lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks to the recent posters, all good advice and thanks for taking the time. I'm not a great actor, I tend to laugh. I would help her find some online stories about two cocks and see if she likes them then see if the idea of anon chats would appeal and excite. If not I'd never go there again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be upfront...tell her you're waving your cock on a sex site without her knowledge..i'm sure she'll be reet'...she'll probably squeal 'where do i sign up'...

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