FabSwingers.com forum: Nasty Comments

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After speaking to a few people on here some have commented on the abusive messages they receive I personally have not had any but how do you deal with the 'trolls' that plainly want to spoil things for others?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Messages I we laugh then block. On the forum we reapond or ignore, laugh then block

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

*Respond*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never received nasty comments myself,

But I would say most would be from non forum users

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I just laugh delete the message and block the user says more about them than it does me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhhh DONT get me started..

I get torrents of abuse, well have in the past.. About my size, why is a fat ugly bird on here...you do know fat girls are easy...

I could go on and on about abusive messages or insults, just because im polite enough to decline offers gracefully.

Ive started to laugh at them now, but sometimes once things are said, its hard to forget it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Messages I we laugh then block. On the forum we reapond or ignore, laugh then block

blocked for spelling error..you idiots

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I am the master at receiving them! But then that is the gem pool where I live...I'm a fooking army brat, so try and get one over on me? Bring it on lol so many try and fail! I treat it as a sport if it get too bad? Block button!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Messages I we laugh then block. On the forum we reapond or ignore, laugh then block

blocked for spelling error..you idiots

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I for one think you look great as I am sure many others do too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am the master at receiving them! But then that is the gem pool where I live...I'm a fooking army brat, so try and get one over on me? Bring it on lol so many try and fail! I treat it as a sport if it get too bad? Block button! "

That surprises me Hun! I've only ever had one nasty message in nearly 2 years - and I put it down to my profile always being so friendly and happy! Often when people complain about getting lots of nasty messages I look at their profile and find its often unfriendly and demanding. Yours isn't at all - so I'm baffled as to why you'd get unkind messages but I don't!!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Honestly I get them all time! But then I do wind the locals up, but I am really trying to educate them ie, you need more than a 1 line profile and a cock pic! So in my area on here? I am the worlds most hated woman!

(I use my status to do this btw) But I am clever with it, and find it funny they all think it is aimed at them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore them, block them. They're from idiots.

I've had hardly any nasty messages, but one that stands out was off a guy who pestered me, i blocked him coz i wasn't interested and he came off the blocklist somehow so messaged me again, i ignored him thinking ffs waste of time having a blocklist, his next message to me was going on about how he didn't wanna fuck me anyway and then went on to accuse me of probably having STDs.

And that is the logic of an abuser, if they can't get what they want then it's not their fault and there's something wrong with the person not giving it to them. *shrugs*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only time i got nasty messages was when i moved to London for a week. They seemed to have a problem with me not meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had some but to be honest, you can't take offence from people you don't respect so it doesn't bother me. Few things are sadder that people that need to abuse strangers to make themselves happy so it just falls into one of those categories of things you can't be bothered to care about like a child calling you a poo poo head.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

They tend to come after you say no thanks to someone.

You can go from being the sexiest woman on here to the fattest and ugliest in the blink of an eye if you dare to say no to some people.

I report if really bad, like the death threat, and then block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lost count of the amount of times 'I've been up my own arse' on here.

If I'm bored I'll message back a cheeky reply but usually I just delete.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"We had some but to be honest, you can't take offence from people you don't respect so it doesn't bother me. Few things are sadder that people that need to abuse strangers to make themselves happy so it just falls into one of those categories of things you can't be bothered to care about like a child calling you a poo poo head. "

That made me laugh! Where the poo emoji? (that's my favourite) x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Very well put

Thankfully I have been spared being called a poo poo head. But I'm going to use on someone soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete and Block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I addressed mine on my profile to hopefully save them the bother of insulting me

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Best not reply in kind, else it might be you getting reported. Just report, block, and delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laugh, block and report if necessary. A few guys who would crawl over broken glass to meet me have turned nasty when politely turned down...really couldn't give a toss about the occasional bitter comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Off topic to the thread I started but I just popped into chat and got a pm from a women saying 'stop stalking me or i'm reporting you' and I have done no such thing? Now its me needing advice? lol

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By *romiscuous PrincessWoman
over a year ago

Valleys

Can relate to this... Had a few in the past, some quite threatening, after blocking and reporting had fake profiles then sending me the same thing... Ended up deleting old profile and starting again just because it was unwanted drama and hassle, touch wood nothing while I've been using this one but have been very wary what I tell people nowadays xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Off topic to the thread I started but I just popped into chat and got a pm from a women saying 'stop stalking me or i'm reporting you' and I have done no such thing? Now its me needing advice? lol"

Block her. End of problem

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Off topic to the thread I started but I just popped into chat and got a pm from a women saying 'stop stalking me or i'm reporting you' and I have done no such thing? Now its me needing advice? lol"

Did you look at her profile twice?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Off topic to the thread I started but I just popped into chat and got a pm from a women saying 'stop stalking me or i'm reporting you' and I have done no such thing? Now its me needing advice? lol

Block her. End of problem"

I would do but i'm blocked by her? weird?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Off topic to the thread I started but I just popped into chat and got a pm from a women saying 'stop stalking me or i'm reporting you' and I have done no such thing? Now its me needing advice? lol

Did you look at her profile twice?"

No she's honestly not my type at all lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Off topic to the thread I started but I just popped into chat and got a pm from a women saying 'stop stalking me or i'm reporting you' and I have done no such thing? Now its me needing advice? lol"

I had a guy do this & it turned out to be his opening chat up line

Needless to say he was blocked!

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By *ymeCouple
over a year ago

winchester

spelling is not always a reason to block

I'm dyslexic so can't spell very well

but i have a degree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Off topic to the thread I started but I just popped into chat and got a pm from a women saying 'stop stalking me or i'm reporting you' and I have done no such thing? Now its me needing advice? lol

Did you look at her profile twice?

No she's honestly not my type at all lol"

So why on earth are you bothered then??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some seriously effed up people around..

I wonder if they have the balls or ta tas to go up to a person in a bar and insult them!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Off topic to the thread I started but I just popped into chat and got a pm from a women saying 'stop stalking me or i'm reporting you' and I have done no such thing? Now its me needing advice? lol

Did you look at her profile twice?

No she's honestly not my type at all lol

So why on earth are you bothered then??

I'm only bothered should I get reported for something I have not done I couldn't give a toss otherwise

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't tend to get nasty messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't get nasty messages, usually. However, I have had a couple from things I've written in the forums, but only from people I've never seen actually post in here. One guy called me a pretty girl on an ego trip and had some really nasty things to say to me.

Odd as I try not to be rude or insulting on here. Maybe I come across that way to some, though.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's better when people have tried to belittle you or given you shit, then you bump into them at a club/social.

Only time I'll get shit is after saying no thanks in a message, but it's rare I get them.

Get more abuse in chat than messages, as some men seem to think because we're in chat we should be performing for them! If I want to sit in my onesie with a coffee then I bloody well will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely get nasty messages even when saying I'm not interested, they're usually really lovely in response.

The only annoying replies I get are those who ask why, but they're not rude.

I find being polite in the first place helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"spelling is not always a reason to block

I'm dyslexic so can't spell very well

but i have a degree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once got chatting to a guy on here about a very short notice meet , we asked for pics etc but he wouldnt send a face pic we politely declined , he then went off on one calling us timewasters and said he was coming to our hotel and was going to put pics of my lady all over reception

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not had any i dont think - we have had them on pms in the chatroom - have to say only from single guys who wont take no as no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've lost count of the amount of times 'I've been up my own arse' on here.

If I'm bored I'll message back a cheeky reply but usually I just delete."

Is that because you message back to say you're not interested? I don't do that! I just don't reply! Some may say I'm rude - but by the sound of it it prevents a lot of potential unpleasantness!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've lost count of the amount of times 'I've been up my own arse' on here.

If I'm bored I'll message back a cheeky reply but usually I just delete.

Is that because you message back to say you're not interested? I don't do that! I just don't reply! Some may say I'm rude - but by the sound of it it prevents a lot of potential unpleasantness!

No, it's just random messages out of the blue!

I can see it in the 1st line of the text so usually I leave it festering unread.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had 3 men send abuse in the 3 years I've been on here. Two blocked me after sending it so I didn't have anything to deal with. The one who didn't I sent back a little joke comment and we ended up chatting a bit. I still didn't meet him and I had hurt his feelings,which is why he sent the silly message in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes people are nasty or very serious. I can't be bothered with people who are, so I tend to block them .Life is for having fun and after all its a sex site .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine were from declining to meet,not out of the blue messages. I don't let anything get to me on here.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laugh and ignore it and block x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I rarely get nasty messages even when saying I'm not interested, they're usually really lovely in response.

The only annoying replies I get are those who ask why, but they're not rude.

I find being polite in the first place helps.

This for me too.

Also they tend to be relieved that I don't want to meet them.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I rarely get any shitty messages, but I always report them. Depending on my mood at the time I either just delete and block or if they are unlucky enough to get me on a bitch day I give them a lovely snarky message in return, cheap but it makes me feel better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never get nasty messages or send them and never block ,sometimes its the confrontational people that draw the comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cut and paste message full pics and user details on some of my Parady social media accounts. I have a reach of about 600k people

Comedy gold tbh .

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"Cut and paste message full pics and user details on some of my Parady social media accounts. I have a reach of about 600k people

Comedy gold tbh . "

600k? ah come on ickle you need tp up your game girl

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"We don't get nasty messages, usually. However, I have had a couple from things I've written in the forums, but only from people I've never seen actually post in here. One guy called me a pretty girl on an ego trip and had some really nasty things to say to me.

Odd as I try not to be rude or insulting on here. Maybe I come across that way to some, though.

-Courtney"

I have had nasty messages as a result of forum posts, so I tend to pre-empt and block anyone who I think won't agree. Worse when you feel someone is hounding you on the forums, always responds to anything you post in a negative way or insinuates various things. You can block, but not from forum posts. I guess some people get a kick out of that sort of thing .... only just back on the forums trying to enjoy them after feeling this for the last few weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cut and paste message full pics and user details on some of my Parady social media accounts. I have a reach of about 600k people

Comedy gold tbh . "

I'm an old fart and all that went completely over my head! I do like your pics though Hun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happily, I haven't had that many and long may it last. The last one I had was recently, out of the blue, he didnt like the discrepancies between my profile text and the ages of the chaps I've met. He told me to block him so I wouldn't appear in his feed. I told him I couldn't be bothered. So he blocked me. I was confused but laughing at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

loving your new name

x x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"loving your new name

x x"

Thank you, I can't take credit for it though I wish I was that clever!! Lol

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Oh yeah, it's good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"spelling is not always a reason to block

I'm dyslexic so can't spell very well

but i have a degree

Me too.the occasional misspelled word does not equate with lack of intelligence.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"I just laugh delete the message and block the user says more about them than it does me "

So agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hit the block button and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont get many abusive messages, in our time on fab we've had about 5 or so.

I don't think I've read every one. The first couple of words are visible without opening the message, and if I can see it's nasty I don't open it.

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