FabSwingers.com forum: verification limit

By *iceguymk OP Man
over a year ago

aylesbury

Do females, couples and males look at the amount of verifications that someone has and does it sway the decision they have if they where going to meet , as in someone has to many and politely refuse to meet ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope not, i've been verified 4 time this week and met more guys than that...

It doesn't bother me how many, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only answer for me.....no.

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By *ickyandMallory1984Couple
over a year ago

lincoln

Although I know you everyone has to start somewhere we wouldn't meet anyone unverified! Verifications is what sways a meet with us the amount of verifications is irrelevant X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah we look for verifications too

We won't share face pics unless you have them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met unverified men,men with one verification from over a year ago,men with a couple of verifications and men with loads of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if you start swinging and get meets,enjoy the scene and have fun.

you have to give up ? for meeting too much or too many.

hmmmm did you stop drinking after the 50thy pint?or did you carry on drinking and enjoying the occasional night out getting d*unk. same applies doesn't it?

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

Only if the last 10 are from the same woman. The 'great guy, wanna keep him all to myself' kind of veris.

They are very off putting.

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By *iscfun2012Couple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We inhabit a special sort of limbo...we have had three meets via the site, all with non-verified members...so we all continue to travel through our Fab life unverified, as unverifieds cannot verify unverifieds! Our only hope is that one day a verified will take pity on us, meet...and then verify us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many they have is irrelevant, but like them to have them to prove they're not a fake.

My argument, for those that say how can they get verified if you won't meet them is.. There are plenty of organised socials, so pop along to one; go to a club; or get in chat be polite and converse and someone may leave a veri.

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By *aked_ShenanigansCouple
over a year ago

nearby

"We inhabit a special sort of limbo...we have had three meets via the site, all with non-verified members...so we all continue to travel through our Fab life unverified, as unverifieds cannot verify unverifieds! Our only hope is that one day a verified will take pity on us, meet...and then verify us!"

Easiest way is get both of you on cam in the chatrooms and someone can verify you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their verifications only let you know (vaugely) how many people they've met on fab and has zero relation to how many people they've met or who they've slept with so no.

I wouldn't be interested in or influenced by in a written list of anyone's sexual history anywhere else in life, so why on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only if the last 10 are from the same woman. The 'great guy, wanna keep him all to myself' kind of veris.

They are very off putting."

Yes! I've seen a few of them. I've had some leave me more than one veri, no more than 3, but they are spread out over time, not in a month. I also normally just display 1 or 2 from the same person, depending on how they differ.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only if the last 10 are from the same woman. The 'great guy, wanna keep him all to myself' kind of veris.

They are very off putting."

Yeah I always mentally translate it as I will hunt you down like a dog if you meet him

Tomcat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for how to get your first we went to a club and got four in one night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do females, couples and males look at the amount of verifications that someone has and does it sway the decision they have if they where going to meet , as in someone has to many and politely refuse to meet ?"
More importantly for us...who they have played with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Their verifications only let you know (vaugely) how many people they've met on fab and has zero relation to how many people they've met or who they've slept with so no.

I wouldn't be interested in or influenced by in a written list of anyone's sexual history anywhere else in life, so why on here? "

I've only ever met one guy

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By *ensualcouple99Couple
over a year ago

Colchester

We wouldn't tend to meet anyone who has lots of play meets every week. But the amount of verifications isn't always an indication of this as they can have lots from social meets.

We have taken the decision to hide ours as we like the privacy. It doesn't seem to put people off, or hasn't done so far.

We may show our summary or a couple of our verifications if it starts putting people off. But so far it works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Their verifications only let you know (vaugely) how many people they've met on fab and has zero relation to how many people they've met or who they've slept with so no.

I wouldn't be interested in or influenced by in a written list of anyone's sexual history anywhere else in life, so why on here?

I've only ever met one guy

According to your verification you've been a virgin until last month!

Congratulations lass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do females, couples and males look at the amount of verifications that someone has and does it sway the decision they have if they where going to meet , as in someone has to many and politely refuse to meet ?More importantly for us...who they have played with"

It only tells you who's verified them...not who they've played with though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Their verifications only let you know (vaugely) how many people they've met on fab and has zero relation to how many people they've met or who they've slept with so no.

I wouldn't be interested in or influenced by in a written list of anyone's sexual history anywhere else in life, so why on here?

I've only ever met one guy

According to your verification you've been a virgin until last month!

Congratulations lass

I still am.....we only met for tea and cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do females, couples and males look at the amount of verifications that someone has and does it sway the decision they have if they where going to meet , as in someone has to many and politely refuse to meet ?More importantly for us...who they have played with

It only tells you who's verified them...not who they've played with though "
You can go through them , read back see what you need to find, for us its clean play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do females, couples and males look at the amount of verifications that someone has and does it sway the decision they have if they where going to meet , as in someone has to many and politely refuse to meet ?More importantly for us...who they have played with

It only tells you who's verified them...not who they've played with though You can go through them , read back see what you need to find, for us its clean play"

I see what you mean, and yeah you can trace back what is traceable, but folk don't always verify, folk meet via other routes etc.

I could go and hide certain veri's and make my history look whiter than white when it isn't

My verifications are so far removed from my actual sex life as I meet lots through my g.f's profile too that yeah, they don't give a true or full imppression whatsoever...I imagine I'm not the only one...

I guess some checks are better than none though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Their verifications only let you know (vaugely) how many people they've met on fab and has zero relation to how many people they've met or who they've slept with so no.

I wouldn't be interested in or influenced by in a written list of anyone's sexual history anywhere else in life, so why on here?

I've only ever met one guy

According to your verification you've been a virgin until last month!

Congratulations lass

I still am.....we only met for tea and cake

How you getting on with that nunnery application?

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

We take into account how recent they are, for example if its a couple and they have 20 verifications, but the last one was 3 years ago, then we do start to wonder if they are still together.

But no the amount of veris dont bother us, I think thats a form of slut shaming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how many - when and where all form a picture of the people behind the profile - doesnt bother us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't go anywhere near anyone with loads of play veri's

Who knows where they've been

We have been on here for exactly a year now and wouldn't touch anyone with any more veri's than we have .

Quality not quantity for us .

We aren't looking for notches on the bed post .

We aren't out to shag our way through the site .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We wouldn't go anywhere near anyone with loads of play veri's

Who knows where they've been

We have been on here for exactly a year now and wouldn't touch anyone with any more veri's than we have .

Quality not quantity for us .

We aren't looking for notches on the bed post .

We aren't out to shag our way through the site .

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By *iceguymk OP Man
over a year ago

aylesbury

"We wouldn't go anywhere near anyone with loads of play veri's

Who knows where they've been

We have been on here for exactly a year now and wouldn't touch anyone with any more veri's than we have .

Quality not quantity for us .

We aren't looking for notches on the bed post .

We aren't out to shag our way through the site .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meant to add that all our veri's are from play meets - and the 2 cam meets were mistakes by the sender who pressed the wrong button !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure where you got that notion from?

I thought the only stipulation, was that you both had to exchange messages (as with a similar site) before the veri's can show.

My first meet here was with another unverified - no problems leaving one, in either direction, though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meant to add that all our veri's are from play meets - and the 2 cam meets were mistakes by the sender who pressed the wrong button !

careless of them huh

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Meant to add that all our veri's are from play meets - and the 2 cam meets were mistakes by the sender who pressed the wrong button !

If you look up sofa swingers in the dictionary you will see glosswingers profile pic! They never meet anyone, total timewasters. In fact I think they are both virgins, I dont think they have even kissed each other to be honest

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Couldn't care less. If they don't want to meet me - they don't want to meet me. I don't worry about possible reasons. I can't unmeet the people I've met. No point in having a verification system if one hides them or the summary. Although it's an added layer of privacy. So maybe I do see the point after all. See? Easily changeable mindable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do females, couples and males look at the amount of verifications that someone has and does it sway the decision they have if they where going to meet , as in someone has to many and politely refuse to meet ?"
oh yes if they've got loads that says something to me don't know about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do females, couples and males look at the amount of verifications that someone has and does it sway the decision they have if they where going to meet , as in someone has to many and politely refuse to meet ? oh yes if they've got loads that says something to me don't know about you

Yep , couldn't agree more .....

Far rather meet with someone who has just one veri from a social meet

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By *elaxedsexyfunMan
over a year ago

Northants

I've been blown out several times by people who say that I have too many verifications.

They are entitled to their opinion but I just think it shows that I am genuine, turn up when a meeting is arranged and enjoy having a good time.

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over a year ago

"I've been blown out several times by people who say that I have too many verifications.

They are entitled to their opinion but I just think it shows that I am genuine, turn up when a meeting is arranged and enjoy having a good time."

You've barely scratched the surface !

Unless you are hiding your summary .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do females, couples and males look at the amount of verifications that someone has and does it sway the decision they have if they where going to meet , as in someone has to many and politely refuse to meet ? oh yes if they've got loads that says something to me don't know about you

Yep , couldn't agree more .....

Far rather meet with someone who has just one veri from a social meet

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hehe now I know in your case that was a wee bit of a lie x I don't like veris but I did have 6 at one point they've all left

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By *elaxedsexyfunMan
over a year ago

Northants

"I've been blown out several times by people who say that I have too many verifications.

They are entitled to their opinion but I just think it shows that I am genuine, turn up when a meeting is arranged and enjoy having a good time.

You've barely scratched the surface !

Unless you are hiding your summary .....

Yeah I know, I'm just a beginner on here but always open to offers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy has quite a few recent verified meets or/and has a stack of verifications then yes it does influence whether we want to meet them.

Our reasoning is this: If a guy has quite a few recent verification's there is more chance of contracting something nasty (regardless of whether he plays safe) than someone that has only got a few over a long period of time.

Yes we know that it is a flawed system (and a guy could hide his verifications, could of set up a new profile or have shagged loads of people outside of fab) but this is the only way we can assess the risk to our sexual health.

Also, if they have met couples that specify bareback or have met couples with bareback pictures on their profile we will decline a meet with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy has quite a few recent verified meets or/and has a stack of verifications then yes it does influence whether we want to meet them.

Also, if they have met couples that specify bareback or have met couples with bareback pictures on their profile we will decline a meet with them. "

We must be either very lucky or your system must flawed then .... 4 years of very active swinging and no sti .

Checked every 6 weeks too

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

South

Not at all.

Why should people limit themselves on who they meet in the fear they will receive too many verifications?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been blown out several times by people who say that I have too many verifications.

They are entitled to their opinion but I just think it shows that I am genuine, turn up when a meeting is arranged and enjoy having a good time.

You've barely scratched the surface !

Unless you are hiding your summary .....

Yeah I know, I'm just a beginner on here but always open to offers!

Sure your ready?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy has quite a few recent verified meets or/and has a stack of verifications then yes it does influence whether we want to meet them.

Also, if they have met couples that specify bareback or have met couples with bareback pictures on their profile we will decline a meet with them.

We must be either very lucky or your system must flawed then .... 4 years of very active swinging and no sti .

Checked every 6 weeks too

Yes our system is flawed but the STI risk percentage increases when you do something sexual with people that put it about a lot.

At the end of the day I suppose it depends on how much you value you sexual health compared to the fun you're getting out of it.

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By *elaxedsexyfunMan
over a year ago

Northants

"I've been blown out several times by people who say that I have too many verifications.

They are entitled to their opinion but I just think it shows that I am genuine, turn up when a meeting is arranged and enjoy having a good time.

You've barely scratched the surface !

Unless you are hiding your summary .....

Yeah I know, I'm just a beginner on here but always open to offers!

Sure your ready?

I was born ready!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

A friend of mine made the suggestion that the summary should state how many social and how many play.

Most of mine are social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend of mine made the suggestion that the summary should state how many social and how many play.

Most of mine are social."

Great idea

All of ours are play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been blown out several times by people who say that I have too many verifications.

They are entitled to their opinion but I just think it shows that I am genuine, turn up when a meeting is arranged and enjoy having a good time.

You've barely scratched the surface !

Unless you are hiding your summary .....

Yeah I know, I'm just a beginner on here but always open to offers!

Sure your ready?

I was born ready!

Reminded me of blade "i was born ready motherfucker"

Good man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been blown out several times by people who say that I have too many verifications.

They are entitled to their opinion but I just think it shows that I am genuine, turn up when a meeting is arranged and enjoy having a good time.

You've barely scratched the surface !

Unless you are hiding your summary .....

Yeah I know, I'm just a beginner on here but always open to offers!

Sure your ready?

I was born ready!

Reminded me of blade "i was born ready motherfucker"

Good man

Love it

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

No I decide based on the person themselves not other people's opinion of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear quality of veris.. If you have fuck loads some have..

Freedom of choice but... I dont go on veris.

Yes ones that say he is all mine are well suspect.

How many you shag OP?

Some veris are out of date.. 2009 wtf

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By *elaxedsexyfunMan
over a year ago

Northants

"I've been blown out several times by people who say that I have too many verifications.

They are entitled to their opinion but I just think it shows that I am genuine, turn up when a meeting is arranged and enjoy having a good time.

You've barely scratched the surface !

Unless you are hiding your summary .....

Yeah I know, I'm just a beginner on here but always open to offers!

Sure your ready?

I was born ready!

Reminded me of blade "i was born ready motherfucker"

Good man

I am actually rather embarrassed to admit that it came from an eighties Bonnie Tyler video!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does anyone have a stupidly high amount of verifications?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been blown out several times by people who say that I have too many verifications.

They are entitled to their opinion but I just think it shows that I am genuine, turn up when a meeting is arranged and enjoy having a good time.

You've barely scratched the surface !

Unless you are hiding your summary .....

Yeah I know, I'm just a beginner on here but always open to offers!

Sure your ready?

I was born ready!

Reminded me of blade "i was born ready motherfucker"

Good man

I am actually rather embarrassed to admit that it came from an eighties Bonnie Tyler video!"

It's fine, nobody knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone have a stupidly high amount of verifications? "

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