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By *ax the gentle Giant OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

I have been a member for the last 6 months and i am finding it almost imposible to get a meet i have taken advice and revamped my profile added some pics what am i doing wrong? adice anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

relax and dont stress chances are you will find a meet eventually just got to be patient

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"I have been a member for the last 6 months and i am finding it almost imposible to get a meet i have taken advice and revamped my profile added some pics what am i doing wrong? adice anyone?"

Those are all passive changes, if you see what I mean.

What have you done pro-actively, not necessarily on the internet?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Your profile looks fine, a few more pictures might help.

I would suggest using the forums more and getting yourself known, it does pay off as a lot of ladies and couples use the forums to look for blokes.

Otherwise social meetings and clubs are the best way forward.

Good luck.

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

just a suggestion from our point of view if we were looking at you as a possible meet, your one and only pic in public view makes you look like a slob, try adding better pics, otherwise your profile looks fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just a suggestion from our point of view if we were looking at you as a possible meet, your one and only pic in public view makes you look like a slob, try adding better pics, otherwise your profile looks fine"

Sorry, but I'd have to agree. It's the only picture on view of yourself. Considering the amount of single men on site, do you really think that picture shouts - "hey, I've gotta have him?"

Otherwise, good profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

meeting people here is really no different to meeting someone in a pub or similar.

You need to make your personality come through. If you can't pull in the "real" world, chances are you will struggle here too.

Best of luck, but you have to make it happen yourself

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By *ertnbeckyCouple
over a year ago

oldham

maybe its the bold head sorry couldnt resist.

becky says you need some better pics cos the one you got on makes you look scruffy sorry if its a bit personal but just being honest no insult intended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe its the bold head sorry couldnt resist.

becky says you need some better pics cos the one you got on makes you look scruffy sorry if its a bit personal but just being honest no insult intended"

We see nothing wrong with your photo - at least you look less like all the indentikit people on here.

Which just goes to show, all tastes are here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You asked the question, so here's an answer!

I don't know about a woman but you definitely need someone to come in and tidy that table!!

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By *owshowingMan
over a year ago

nottingham, bingham

i have been on here for 2 years and most guys need to take time to build up a following, also most meets never happen about 50/50 most guys talk a good game but never show mainly down to nervous and shy.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The photo puts me off aswell... to me it says "I can't be arsed"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have been on here for 2 years and most guys need to take time to build up a following. "

How many follow you then?

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By *ax the gentle Giant OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

thaks for the fed back it was getting me down there are loads of positives to take from what has been written

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"i have been on here for 2 years and most guys need to take time to build up a following.

How many follow you then? "

I followed him for a while but he never went anywhere interesting so I started following someone else.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Personally its the socks that put me off. Atleast you can see your face, makes a change from a cock!!!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

This is what I mean about backgrounds... although I'm betting you live in quite a cool house but you're not applying for location location location... you're trying to sell yourself on a swinging site which ultimately means that you're hoping that someone is going to have sex with you at some point. Your pic says nothing to me about you making any effort. We've all got random pics that our mates have taken of us doing every day stuff. Not many people use those sort of pics on a site like this.

Zero effort to make the most of what you have. If you make that sort of effort then I'm sure you'll do better.

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Sorry - I have to agree that the photo is offputting - the 'stuff' all over the table, swigging from the carton, the pose (or, rather, lack of) and the socks would all put me off

If you must use this pic perhaps crop it so the table is mainly out of it..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry - I have to agree that the photo is offputting - the 'stuff' all over the table, swigging from the carton, the pose (or, rather, lack of) and the socks would all put me off

If you must use this pic perhaps crop it so the table is mainly out of it..?"

like your pic though pinky xx

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"thaks for the fed back it was getting me down there are loads of positives to take from what has been written"

You've got a lot of good advise I reckon. A lot who ask this kind of question get the mick taken mercilessly.

Take it as a compliment that you were able to write such a decent forum post and have a well enough written profile that you got so many positives back.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with those who have said that your photo is not appealing, suggesting scruffiness in both you and your house. Also, I would delete the first line of your profile - maybe it's a quote, but I think a married man might be offended at YOU inviting HIM to 'join in if you dare', when it's HIS wife you're planning to have sex with.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I have been a member for the last 6 months and i am finding it almost imposible to get a meet i have taken advice and revamped my profile added some pics what am i doing wrong? adice anyone?

Those are all passive changes, if you see what I mean.

What have you done pro-actively, not necessarily on the internet?"

this is a good point... so other than your profile what else have you done to pro-actively help your chances??

you may see your profile as being the "be all and end all" to getting a meet...

nope!!!sorry.....

your profile is a bit of an even larger jigsaw, and that is the key....

Am i going to tell you how/what to do ... nope!!! that you have to figure out for yourself, and figure out in a way that is best for you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with those who have said that your photo is not appealing, suggesting scruffiness in both you and your house. Also, I would delete the first line of your profile - maybe it's a quote, but I think a married man might be offended at YOU inviting HIM to 'join in if you dare', when it's HIS wife you're planning to have sex with."

Agree,that would put us off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi,

just read ur profile as if i was thinking of meeting u. And i agree with both these quotes. Please, please change ur pic. Just one of you chest upwards, smiling would do!

best of luck xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been a member for the last 6 months and i am finding it almost imposible to get a meet i have taken advice and revamped my profile added some pics what am i doing wrong? adice anyone?"

1. You begin your profile by talking to MEN. YOu address them and try to put them at ease regarding their property ... a woman.

That's enough for me. I wouldn't read any more.

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


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like your pic though pinky xx"

aww, thanks - i like yours too

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Just peeked at your profile and also think that the pictures is terrible!

Sorry hunny, but table,milk,clothes,pose.... maybe a torso pic or one of you upright so your not slouched. Your face with a smiole or your bottom in nice boxers or jeans. Just a nice pic.

I hate just cock pics on profiles but would rather look at a cock pic than your only pic on your profile.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

ignore all above just sell self but you need some good pics and few good verifications just look at my profile it works be a nice guy and not pushy take the knock backs and move

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"ignore all above ....."

I agree. If you want to meet women there's no point listening to their feedback... ask a man.

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By *oco2Woman
over a year ago

Middlesex

Yes i defo agree you look like a slob ie couch potato & the pic doesn't do anything for you or highlight any of your best features! for me personally i like sporty pic's but that's because i'm into fitness! why don't you at least take a pic standing up which a closer view coz trust me women will not ask you for another pic they'll just hit delete & move on to the next.

Good luck

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow


"maybe its the bold head sorry couldnt resist.

becky says you need some better pics cos the one you got on makes you look scruffy sorry if its a bit personal but just being honest no insult intended"

An understatement. The photo is terrible.

(makes note to take objective look at his own profile)

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By *ax the gentle Giant OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"maybe its the bold head sorry couldnt resist.

becky says you need some better pics cos the one you got on makes you look scruffy sorry if its a bit personal but just being honest no insult intended"

I have other pics on here there in my private galery and there a lot more clear than the one that i have i think i shall take your advice and add more

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By *ax the gentle Giant OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"I agree with those who have said that your photo is not appealing, suggesting scruffiness in both you and your house. Also, I would delete the first line of your profile - maybe it's a quote, but I think a married man might be offended at YOU inviting HIM to 'join in if you dare', when it's HIS wife you're planning to have sex with."

The phot was taken on holiday and my house is kept neat and tidy but thanks for the tip

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"ignore all above .....

I agree. If you want to meet women there's no point listening to their feedback... ask a man."

???? sorry am I thick?

If he is wanting to meet a woman surely asking what pics are best to appeal it is best to ask a woman what she would like to see. If he is wanting to meet men then yes ask men what they would like to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"ignore all above .....

I agree. If you want to meet women there's no point listening to their feedback... ask a man.

???? sorry am I thick?

If he is wanting to meet a woman surely asking what pics are best to appeal it is best to ask a woman what she would like to see. If he is wanting to meet men then yes ask men what they would like to see."

Pssst Fruit......its sarcasm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ignore all above .....

I agree. If you want to meet women there's no point listening to their feedback... ask a man.

???? sorry am I thick?

If he is wanting to meet a woman surely asking what pics are best to appeal it is best to ask a woman what she would like to see. If he is wanting to meet men then yes ask men what they would like to see.

Pssst Fruit......its sarcasm "

Lol...oooooooh without a shadow of a doubt!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"ignore all above .....

I agree. If you want to meet women there's no point listening to their feedback... ask a man.

???? sorry am I thick?

If he is wanting to meet a woman surely asking what pics are best to appeal it is best to ask a woman what she would like to see. If he is wanting to meet men then yes ask men what they would like to see.

Pssst Fruit......its sarcasm

Lol...oooooooh without a shadow of a doubt! "

Polo? Sarcastic?? nahhh....

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By *ax the gentle Giant OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

sacrcasm is the higest form of wit and the lowest form of humour so if its all good polo lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes i defo agree you look like a slob ie couch potato & the pic doesn't do anything for you or highlight any of your best features! for me personally i like sporty pic's but that's because i'm into fitness! why don't you at least take a pic standing up which a closer view coz trust me women will not ask you for another pic they'll just hit delete & move on to the next.

Good luck "

Some women do ask for other pics however, I get it all the time, probably because my face pics are in my private gallery to be fair though.

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By *ax the gentle Giant OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

women tend to have loads of pics in private i wounder wh it should be so different for men

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