FabSwingers.com forum: Straight?

By *6guy OP Man
over a year ago

Hammersmith

Hello, I often receive messages from straight guys wanting to meet up - my profile says I am gay. Is being openly bi a taboo amongst the straight male community?

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Yep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often receive messages from straight guys too who are looking to meet tv's one even had a verification from another straight guy stating he gave a great bj!!

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By *6guy OP Man
over a year ago

Hammersmith

Thanks for your reply. I guess it's that, that makes it exciting for them to do it?

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By *6guy OP Man
over a year ago

Hammersmith

I guess women are just more open and relaxed about their sexuality?

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

They don't want to scare away the people who are not interested in bi guys so pretend to be straight

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By *6guy OP Man
over a year ago

Hammersmith

Ah ok, and would women in general mind?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I googled rates of gay and lesbian women. When surveyed, 1.6% men admitted to being gay, 0.9% of women admitted to being lesbian.

When asked if bisexual, 0.3% men admitted to being bi, 0.5% women admitted to being bi.

Not claiming this is reliable fact, just interested me.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Ah ok, and would women in general mind?"

I personally don't. It seems ok for a woman to say she's bisexual,but not a guy,which is a shame.

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By *6guy OP Man
over a year ago

Hammersmith

Interesting, as a gay man I would not have said bi either, but a couple of mf couples have been very nice and friendly to me and I had fun exploring that side of myself and sex.

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By *6guy OP Man
over a year ago

Hammersmith

Yes, it is, but I have been really pleasantly surprised when a guy would lean over and touch me when I wasn't expecting it! Lol!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I've had more 'biphobia' off gay men than straight tbh. All that 'bi-now, gay later' shit and worse.

That said, I too have a fair few expressions of interest from straight men. I'm happy to oblige fantasies and enlighten virgins so it's all fine by me.

Call yourself whatever you want, like I give a flying fuck.

I like straight men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the general belief is that bi and gay men will be more understanding

A lot of bi guys don't like to openly admit they are bi because a lot of straight male couples will not meet them even though they are capable of being near a naked man and not touch and they like to keep their options open where as I think they think bi and gays will understand this and over look what's on their profile

I have a couples profile with a bi guy I meet that I use when just looking for bi guys to meet us together for a 3sum, I get loads of guys with straight on their profile mailing us to meet, for me its no big deal, I understand why they put straight and so long as we both like him we will meet, a profile is just a guide line for me it not the be all and end all and I certainly would no turn down a guy I liked because he had straight on his profile

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By *6guy OP Man
over a year ago

Hammersmith

I like all men, so for me it's not a big deal what their orientation says, but I understand now why they wouldn't want to put bi. Would a straight man mind if I liked a photo of him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess women are just more open and relaxed about their sexuality?"

I suspect it's because it was never illegal to be gay as a woman.

Having said that, it seems generally accepted that being homophobic is unacceptable nowadays. Being bi is like sitting on the fence and I've found even the gay community can be pretty prejudice towards us. I was accused of being 'unsure' or 'afraid to just admit I was gay'. I've been called 'greedy' too but that's probably true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of couples profiles that specifically state no bi men and then message us is crazy and some then message to tell us that he has started to explore his bi side. Which is fine by us, as long as we know before we meet its not an issue. Their profile, their choice how they define themselves.

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By *6guy OP Man
over a year ago

Hammersmith

"I guess women are just more open and relaxed about their sexuality?

I suspect it's because it was never illegal to be gay as a woman.

Sorry to hear that, I must be greedy too! Ha ha! I believe that sex is something to be enjoyed and explored by all, I am not 100% bisexual, but in the right company it's a real turn on sharing a man and a woman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you like to try a woman? You never know,you might be a closet straight man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything is taboo amongst the community, unless you can brag about it. Bragging is also frowned upon...

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By *6guy OP Man
over a year ago

Hammersmith

"Would you like to try a woman? You never know,you might be a closet straight man

Ha ha! I might be!

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

"Hello, I often receive messages from straight guys wanting to meet up - my profile says I am gay. Is being openly bi a taboo amongst the straight male community?"

If there was a message filter to block guys who are "straight" it would help. As we are both bi and not interested in straight guys yet receive numerous messages from the "I'm bi but can't put it on my profile for this or that reason" it's extremely annoying. We don't message straight guys given that we assume that is just what they are. Can you imagine the abuse we would get if we just thought "fuck it, they will clearly be bi" and message them regardless?

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Most of my male contacts identify as straight...and given a choice,like a lot of women on here,that is my preference. I wink and fab straight guys on here..

Probably encountered more homophobia from gay/bi men than straight blokes..

Like someone else said,I like straight guys and don't give a fuck if their lying..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They don't want to scare away the people who are not interested in bi guys so pretend to be straight

That is the usual response when I ask the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello, I often receive messages from straight guys wanting to meet up - my profile says I am gay. Is being openly bi a taboo amongst the straight male community?"

Bisexual men are often shunned by both the straight and gay communities, so they will not be openly bisexual. Certainly when my partner goes to gay clubs he just lets people assume he is gay, and when he's with his straight friends, he just lets them assume he is straight.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Hello, I often receive messages from straight guys wanting to meet up - my profile says I am gay. Is being openly bi a taboo amongst the straight male community?"

I get messages from straight men too. all good in da hood, as they say in New York

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By *6guy OP Man
over a year ago

Hammersmith

"Hello, I often receive messages from straight guys wanting to meet up - my profile says I am gay. Is being openly bi a taboo amongst the straight male community?

Wow, I would not have thought the gay community would be like that, as we are a minority ourselves! I was just unsure as to how genuine these straight guys are, but I guess being on this site, I can safely assume if they wink or message, they like what they see. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello, I often receive messages from straight guys wanting to meet up - my profile says I am gay. Is being openly bi a taboo amongst the straight male community?"

Unfortunately yes

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I like bi men

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

We love bi men .... and I am not keen on meeting straight men these days.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Yay!

Let's turn this in to a bisexual love-in

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Yay!

Let's turn this in to a bisexual love-in

Good idea, as long as it's just guys and no other women for me

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By *cared and curiousCouple
over a year ago

Jarrow

Watching the thread closely, so many true things being said.

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By *im himCouple (MM)
over a year ago

bedworth

"Watching the thread closely, so many true things being said. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello, I often receive messages from straight guys wanting to meet up - my profile says I am gay. Is being openly bi a taboo amongst the straight male community?

I've found that too. Same for bisexual women.

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By *6guy OP Man
over a year ago

Hammersmith

"Yay!

Let's turn this in to a bisexual love-in

Ha ha, as long as I can be in the middle, please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been called a "disease carrier" for being bi before by a gay man who I later found out had actually been married in the past before he'd come out. I get that some people are afraid of being outed but your equally in danger of being outed as a swinger, a liar and possibly also a cheat judging by some of the messages I've received on my different guises on fab from "straight" men.

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