FabSwingers.com forum: Finding our feet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have been repeatedly asked what we are looking for are we unusual in not knowing yet? Our plan is to try everything til we find something we're not comfortable with is that a mistake?

We've discussed it and bot are comfortable with this but maybe we are being naive what do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been repeatedly asked what we are looking for are we unusual in not knowing yet? Our plan is to try everything til we find something we're not comfortable with is that a mistake?

We've discussed it and bot are comfortable with this but maybe we are being naive what do you think?"

It's a way of starting a conversation with you don't worry about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all naive .

You seem to be doing it perfectly well .

Keep enjoying your journey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been repeatedly asked what we are looking for are we unusual in not knowing yet? Our plan is to try everything til we find something we're not comfortable with is that a mistake?

We've discussed it and bot are comfortable with this but maybe we are being naive what do you think?"

It's up to you what you'd like to try, however, have you thought about perhaps starting small and pushing boundaries, doing things that make you slightly excited but nervous....maybe a safer way to go?

Good luck. Happy swinging.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

As long as you're both comfortable then no worries. If you have boundaries re-examine them from time to time and talk about it together. Most of all - enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are in the same place as you, nice to know we are not alone. Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks folks sometimes it's good just knowing your not the only ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You guys should do whatever you are comfortable with.

Personally, we started rather slow and pushed our boundaries, but that isn't necessarily right for everyone.

As someone above has said, I think people ask you mostly as a way of starting a conversation and understanding what you are looking for.

Just have fun as long as you both are happy

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no - we werent sure at all what we wanted when we set up the couples profile - started out as a soft swap only with bi fem couples - moved onto single fems and had a full swap - then met a couple we knew we would feel comfy full swapping and realised that we were ok with that - and eventually full swapped with a couple we have met a few times since - we say always leave wanting rather than do something you regret -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been repeatedly asked what we are looking for are we unusual in not knowing yet? Our plan is to try everything til we find something we're not comfortable with is that a mistake?

We've discussed it and bot are comfortable with this but maybe we are being naive what do you think?"

I don't think there is anything wrong with your approach. I thought I knew what I wanted when I first came on here. I wanted to meet a woman to explore with. But actually, having played with different people, I realise that I miss having a guy. So a soft swap couple doesn't work that well for me, I want to be able to play together, not just be their third wheel. What I'm trying to say is that even if you thought you knew what you wanted, things might change anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks again

Hopefully our wants will surprise us it'll keep things exciting that way

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