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By *i_guy4u OP   Man
over a year ago

Newbridge

Before I go any further...

Yes, I know ladies and couples hold all the cards on this site.

Yes, I know single male profiles are outnumbered by a gazillion to one.

Yes, I know we should be expected to be treated like meat and be thankful that someone even bothers to glance at our profiles let alone take the time to message us

Now that that's out of the way. I have a very simple golden rule, if I initiate contact with any type of profile on here I always include a face pic with my first message. In return, I would like the same.

However, I do receive messages from (mostly) M/F couples just asking for a face pic. Nothing else, no other details or info about themselves or what they're looking for.

So, as you do, I click on their profile only to find minimal photos, certainly no face pics, and in their profile text is the usual (normally in capitals) no face pic with your message you are instantly deleted and blocked blah blah blah.

I have tried to reply saying I'm happy to share face pics if they send theirs first as they were the ones that made initial contact. Let's just say the replies haven't been glowing.

Just wondering what the good people of the forums think about this and if they have any other ideas how I should respond to these messages in future?

PS. I don't think I'm Gods gift or above anyone else but I'm certainly not desperate and would just like a little mutual respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree if they initiate contact they should be happy to send a face pic. We do if we approach a guy. Most guys however message us with nothing more than a cock pic attached so I think its only fair to say this behaviour is due to the majority spoiling it for the minority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They like your profile, and are wondering what you look like to see if you are worth chatting with. Personally it's not an approach I'd neccesarily welcome nor use myself but can see why others do.

But ultimately it's pretty simple, if the way they initially contact people isn't for you then would you really want to meet them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send a face pic with my first message I send but I get messages off people who send a message saying "do you have a face pic" none from them at all. So I send one then either hear back from them or its deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion, whoever sends the first message should attach a clear face pic unless they have them on their profile.

Asking for one when they don't have any themselves is rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd expect one in return or in their initial message as I do

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By *i_guy4u OP   Man
over a year ago

Newbridge


"They like your profile, and are wondering what you look like to see if you are worth chatting with."

I can totally understand that, they probably get a lot of messages and want a face pic before spending more time on messaging before they move on to the next profile that catches their eye.

I just think the demand for face pic from any profile, be it single male,female, couple etc with first message is a bit stale when they seem reluctant to sent out their own in the way they demand.

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By *i_guy4u OP   Man
over a year ago

Newbridge


"In my opinion, whoever sends the first message should attach a clear face pic unless they have them on their profile.

Asking for one when they don't have any themselves is rude."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't doubt it's more prevalent for single guys but it's nothing exclusive. We've had exactly this. Couples with really scant profiles asking for more from us before they commit themselves or waste valuable typing time.

Our profile has lots of information and plenty of pics to get a good idea of what anyone's is getting. Anyone not willing to match the effort just gets filtered out as not for us.

And yes, we've also tried to explain our position and petition for fairness and it seldom goes well!!

It's the Internet. People are rude. Add that to death and taxes and you've got three certainties in life.

Bx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel there is no rule, I send face pics when asked, never cock pics but doesn't seem to make a difference there's a lot of polite people who always reply but a lot who just delete or block. Absolutely no help and I think no real solution.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they haven't got a face pic on their profile then why? The same reason as i don't want to send one right away. Cos you don't know them from adam. You want to remain anonymous for personal reasons, they might be fakes etc etc

I have sent face pics to one or two who promise 'mine in return' but then nothing! Leaving you wondering whats happened to the face pic you sent!

I know I'm not God's gift but I have a pride in my appearance and keep slim and fit. Not a lard tub like so many on this site! So I'm not that desperate! For myself I'm not too worried about a woman's facial looks. We are born with what we have, but as they say, you are what you eat and anyone who got fat is not attractive. That's something you can control.

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By *i_guy4u OP   Man
over a year ago

Newbridge


"

It's the Internet. People are rude. Add that to death and taxes and you've got three certainties in life.

Bx "

And here endeth the lesson unfortunately, sad but true

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By *aa-tongueMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Yeah it always makes me laugh, when you read someones profile and it says "only messages with a face picture", yet they have none themselves, and even better like has been said before, when they message you asking for one, yet don't offer one in return first or have any public ones.

Like you said though mate, there are to many of us single guys on here, so we have no say!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens to us too. We have pictures of both of us that show us from every angle and someone can know exactly what we look like, apart from our faces. But we get messages a lot, mostly from couples and single women, asking for a face pic prior to any other communication. Usually from profiles with very little public pics.

When it happens, we just tell them that they aren't for us. We never ask for a face pic on initial contact, and we state on our profile that we don't share face pics on here. So when we are asked in a first message, not only is it unfair, but it shows they haven't read our profile, either.

We just say thank but no thanks and move on.

-Courtney

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