FabSwingers.com forum: Does it turn you off when...

By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Guys, is it a turn off if a woman can't cum with you?

I can never cum through the ministrations of other people, I'm the only one who can do it, myself. But that isn't a negative thing for me. When I cum I'm done. So the fact that I don't cum means I can enjoy sex (which feels fucking amazing obvs) for literally hours.

But what about from the guy's pov? Would it frustrate you that there's not that distinct ending for the woman?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

well I wouldn't give up trying

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

I think it is always nice if you can help a lady cum, and cum more than once...but it's more important that both parties enjoy the experience....if you can make yourself cum I'd like to see that as part of the play....if that makes sense.

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Ah, yes. I mean, yeah, I can do that, and like doing it....

Yeah, that makes sense...

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

plus that could also give the guy an indication of what takes you over the edge...

Would you like someone else to make you cum, or it doesn't bother you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me if a woman doesn't come when I'm in bed with her. And if a guy is relentless in trying to make me come, I'm likely to just kick him out of bed through boredom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just waiting for the stallions to join the thread and tell you you've not met a man who's doing it properly yet and how they'd make you cum given half a chance ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys, is it a turn off if a woman can't cum with you?

But what about from the guy's pov? Would it frustrate you that there's not that distinct ending for the woman?"

Nah if it's like you describe then it's not an issue and if you like it's always fun to hold a woman while she gets her self off.

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"well I wouldn't give up trying

And that's what's fun!

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

"It doesn't bother me if a woman doesn't come when I'm in bed with her. And if a guy is relentless in trying to make me come, I'm likely to just kick him out of bed through boredom."

Not sure anyone likes the clitty bangers as I call them lol...you seem them at clubs....god knows what they are trying to do lol

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"plus that could also give the guy an indication of what takes you over the edge...

Would you like someone else to make you cum, or it doesn't bother you?"

Nah, it doesn't bother me. I mean, I can do it whenever, and all the things that happens during sex I can't do myself, so that's what I'm there for. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just waiting for the stallions to join the thread and tell you you've not met a man who's doing it properly yet and how they'd make you cum given half a chance ..

Neeeayyyah and clip-clop (divers alarums) - enters stage left. "I have arrived but am yet to come"(que badum-tish)

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Just waiting for the stallions to join the thread and tell you you've not met a man who's doing it properly yet and how they'd make you cum given half a chance ..

tbh - a lot of the time it does come down to a guy that cannot fuck well. Yeah, a lot of guys say they can fuck for england but when a guy can actually fuck well, the woman knows what is what.

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"It doesn't bother me if a woman doesn't come when I'm in bed with her. And if a guy is relentless in trying to make me come, I'm likely to just kick him out of bed through boredom."

Ha ha ha! Fair!

Yeah, I don't get bored during sex, but I do worry if the guy's having a good time. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother us at all .

As long as it's fun it's all good

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Just waiting for the stallions to join the thread and tell you you've not met a man who's doing it properly yet and how they'd make you cum given half a chance ..

Ha ha ha ha. I've heard this too many times, with no fruition, that I stopped feeling optimistic and hopeful years ago. Lol.

But I still enjoy all the vigorous trying that occurs. :D

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Guys, is it a turn off if a woman can't cum with you?

But what about from the guy's pov? Would it frustrate you that there's not that distinct ending for the woman?

Nah if it's like you describe then it's not an issue and if you like it's always fun to hold a woman while she gets her self off.

Zackly! This is what I like!

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Just waiting for the stallions to join the thread and tell you you've not met a man who's doing it properly yet and how they'd make you cum given half a chance ..

Neeeayyyah and clip-clop (divers alarums) - enters stage left. "I have arrived but am yet to come"(que badum-tish)"

Like..... I don't *want* to laugh at that, but.

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

I've tried to discover what makes a woman orgasm...and it's different for different women..BUT..I've also met women, like you, who have never been able to cum when someone else does things to them...and that's cool....I often wonder if that is as much in the mind as in the physical.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op.. I'd doubt most guys would know. I do not orgasm much on meets through physical play. ( I may do while watching Mr with another lady while I'm being played with for instance ) but as a general rule I rarely orgasm on a meet.

I haven't really felt the need to mention it and if a guy asked I'd say I've had a great time .. so not quite a lie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(Mh) my aim is to please not to self satisfy my ego by making a woman cum, so aslong as the woman is happy I am happy. I can see where some men think its a challenge to make a woman cum, but if its not going to happen, it wont x If a woman wanted to but hasn't yet I give it my best shot

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Just waiting for the stallions to join the thread and tell you you've not met a man who's doing it properly yet and how they'd make you cum given half a chance ..

tbh - a lot of the time it does come down to a guy that cannot fuck well. Yeah, a lot of guys say they can fuck for england but when a guy can actually fuck well, the woman knows what is what."

Lol. ^This. :D

So many times I've been told I'll be "ruined", and afterwards I'm like "The only thing that has been ruined here is my hairstyle." lol

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Doesn't bother us at all .

As long as it's fun it's all good

You guys are perfect.;-)

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Just waiting for the stallions to join the thread and tell you you've not met a man who's doing it properly yet and how they'd make you cum given half a chance ..

tbh - a lot of the time it does come down to a guy that cannot fuck well. Yeah, a lot of guys say they can fuck for england but when a guy can actually fuck well, the woman knows what is what.

Lol. ^This. :D

So many times I've been told I'll be "ruined", and afterwards I'm like "The only thing that has been ruined here is my hairstyle." lol"

I can imagine lol

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I've tried to discover what makes a woman orgasm...and it's different for different women..BUT..I've also met women, like you, who have never been able to cum when someone else does things to them...and that's cool....I often wonder if that is as much in the mind as in the physical....."

Yeah, I 100% would accept that it is.

And yeah! Every woman is so different, it takes a lot of new learning for each woman. I feel men are much easier to get off...

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

Yeah, I 100% would accept that it is.

And yeah! Every woman is so different, it takes a lot of new learning for each woman. I feel men are much easier to get off... "

totally....we are simple in almost every way lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't very often I cum when having sex with a man.

It's great when I do, but even when I don't, I still enjoy it.

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

People don't seem to understand that sometimes the journey can be more fun than the destination.

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Op.. I'd doubt most guys would know. I do not orgasm much on meets through physical play. ( I may do while watching Mr with another lady while I'm being played with for instance ) but as a general rule I rarely orgasm on a meet.

I haven't really felt the need to mention it and if a guy asked I'd say I've had a great time .. so not quite a lie x "

Heh.

It's just that many men have a habit of straight up asking....

Or you can tell they're aiming for that and won't stop until it happens. Lol.

Or they're talking about it happening, pre-meet, and I've always just been like, "look, I just need you to know..." lol

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

"People don't seem to understand that sometimes the journey can be more fun than the destination.

Depends on how comfortable the ride is lol..sorry couldn't resist

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"It isn't very often I cum when having sex with a man.

It's great when I do, but even when I don't, I still enjoy it."

Yeah, this is me too, definitely.

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"People don't seem to understand that sometimes the journey can be more fun than the destination.

YES. ^THIS.

CAN SOMEONE MAKE THIS PART OF SEX ED PLEASE. lol

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"People don't seem to understand that sometimes the journey can be more fun than the destination.

Depends on how comfortable the ride is lol..sorry couldn't resist"

Lol

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

I think if you are meeting a decent enough person(s), and you all know the score it's all fine....I think a lot of guys assume that is the only way to know you've "satisfied someone...sadly."

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"People don't seem to understand that sometimes the journey can be more fun than the destination.

Agreed; just arriving in Peterborough is a bit different to arriving in St Petersburg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People don't seem to understand that sometimes the journey can be more fun than the destination.

Agreed; just arriving in Peterborough is a bit different to arriving in St Petersburg "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying that, I'd be disappointed if a guy didn't cum when he was with me.

I'd feel I was doing something wrong

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Saying that, I'd be disappointed if a guy didn't cum when he was with me.

I'd feel I was doing something wrong

Why? I've met many times and focused just on doing things for the lady....time meaning I've left and not cum.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"Guys, is it a turn off if a woman can't cum with you?

But what about from the guy's pov? Would it frustrate you that there's not that distinct ending for the woman?"

No it wouldn't put me off or make the experience any less enjoyable ; I love to see a woman pleasuring themselves - I also love it when a woman finishes themselves off by fingering their clitoris whilst I'm inside them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saying that, I'd be disappointed if a guy didn't cum when he was with me.

I'd feel I was doing something wrong

Why? I've met many times and focused just on doing things for the lady....time meaning I've left and not cum."

I like seeing the man cum, it gives me pleasure seeing his cum on my breasts.

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By *r H and Good Pet OP Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Saying that, I'd be disappointed if a guy didn't cum when he was with me.

I'd feel I was doing something wrong

Why? I've met many times and focused just on doing things for the lady....time meaning I've left and not cum.

I like seeing the man cum, it gives me pleasure seeing his cum on my breasts.

Yeah, I get this same anxiety...

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

That said I do love to cum after a lot of play....and cumming on a ladies breasts is always a good thing in my book lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would much rather the lady was enjoying herself, whether that includes cumming or not. I don't always cum, it doesn't bother me, but it hasn't meant I haven't enjoyed myself any less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it isnt a turn off. I'm not responsible for someone elses orgasm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never give up!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

doesn't bother me at all

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