FabSwingers.com forum: My profile

By *Switch OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

Can I ask you very kindly to have a look at my profile and give me some constructive feedback as to the positives, negatives etc. I'll be extremely grateful, and your friend forever and ever!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely you have your answer without posting on the forums as you have been here 7 months and had 4 meets!

But to be honest its fine, just remember to read profiles before sending a message as us old dears dont all like your age group

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By *Switch OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

I've actually been on here longer, but I deleted my account for a few months a while back when I got into a relationship, and set up a new one again after that finished!

Those meets are not with people I've met on here, I've met them through the swinging club I go to, THEN added them as friends on here and we've swapped verifications. I've talked to quite a few people on here, but never actually met anyone off here directly! And most of my messages are ignored and/or deleted

And I always read profiles in full before sending a message, I know there's stiff (fnarr fnarr!) competition on here for single men, and a lot of very pushy single men too! Thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I ask you very kindly to have a look at my profile and give me some constructive feedback as to the positives, negatives etc. I'll be extremely grateful, and your friend forever and ever!

I think it's a very good profile, Billy, as it is informative and articulate.

The only question mark in my mind is whether it is really necessary to mention your autism, in your profile. Couples/ladies will be comparing your mail/profile against those from quite a few men, and your honesty MIGHT cause them to err on the side of caution and say 'no', rather than 'maybe'.

I'm not suggesting dishonesty in profiles (before anyone jumps on me!), just that it's OK to accentuate the positive in profiles, and use later 1-on-1 communication to mention any imperfections.

Good luck with making new friends on here, Billy, I'm sure you'll do well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's curious you seem to refer to autism as an imperfection

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Drop the first two lines, immediately.

Careful with the use of the word 'insatiable'. I know you're young, keen and horny etc, but insatiable?

You might want to re-work 'long fucking' for soemthing more, erm alluring.

Older ladies, who you say you are interested in, tend not to go for guys who offer an 'insatiable fuck'. They are (generally) a bit more discerning.

Nobody really needs to know about either your ex g/f or your club lady finding someone else. For the club thing it's enough to say that you have been there with a female friend previously and had a good time.

I'd leave in the 'shy/off the wall' part but take out autism. It's something you can and should mention when chatting to a potential meet & let them know about.

Get a decent avatar pic!

You're not a bad looking lad, but Jesus, if I had to do a photofit of what a sad pervert on the prowl for women on the internet looked like, it would be that pic...

Hide the naked pic, give them something to ask for. Or do a bdy shot with no cock.

It's 2011. Take a pic which doesnt consist of you looking in a mirror holding the camera, it's not hard - look at my pics, i'm hardly Gods gift (okay, I am) but they are all self shots.

Space it out into paragraphs and lose some of the exclamation marks.

Come back to use once you've done your homework.

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By *Switch OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

Thanks for the advice everyone. Not that I agree with it all, but some very good points and I'll certainly take it all on board, and make a few adjustments.

Just to stress though, I DON'T mean to refer to my autism as either a positive or a negative thing, just to say that I have it, because it does give me some idiosyncratic tendencies that I felt may be worth explaining. But the point that people don't necessarily need to know is a fair one

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By *Switch OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

And Bertie, I don't think she meant autism was a negative thing. I didn't take it that way anyway, but I see where you're coming from.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

A million per cent better than the original.

Well done young man.

Right, could some kindly Lady of Fab please take this chap 'in hand' and show him what it's all about please.

The boy deserves a shagging for effort and willingness to take advice on board alone.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

you could just say that you have decided to become prematurely eccentric

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By *Switch OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

Haha, thank you sensual, I'm not holding my breath but I'm cautiously optimistic

And I was born eccentric :D

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Haha, thank you sensual, I'm not holding my breath but I'm cautiously optimistic

And I was born eccentric :D"

Both qualities which will stand you in good stead on this site.

You may even have a good head on those young shoulders.

Here's a tip; Don't act your age.

Double it.

Act that age.

The mind of a man with the body of a young 'un.

The Laydees of Fab will like that.

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By *Switch OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

I just act the way I am all the time when I'm on here. In many ways I am more mature than most men my age, and I hope that reflects itself in the way I talk on here!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I just act the way I am all the time when I'm on here. In many ways I am more mature than most men my age, and I hope that reflects itself in the way I talk on here!"

pssst! - The exclamation mark is extraneous in what was otherwise a really good comment.

I't the kind of thing a young person would use.

The mature, intelligent poster can use words alone to say what they want to say and get the meaning across.

Without resorting to 'exclaiming' everything, or putting a dumb ass smiley at the end to denote 'funny', 'sad', 'angry, etc etc.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'll cover 'irony' with him later.

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By *Switch OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

Sarcastic? Me? As if.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Drop the first two lines, immediately.

Careful with the use of the word 'insatiable'. I know you're young, keen and horny etc, but insatiable?

You might want to re-work 'long fucking' for soemthing more, erm alluring.

Older ladies, who you say you are interested in, tend not to go for guys who offer an 'insatiable fuck'. They are (generally) a bit more discerning.

I'd leave in the 'shy/off the wall' part but take out autism. It's something you can and should mention when chatting to a potential meet & let them know about.

Get a decent avatar pic!

You're not a bad looking lad, but Jesus, if I had to do a photofit of what a sad pervert on the prowl for women on the internet looked like, it would be that pic...

Hide the naked pic, give them something to ask for. Or do a bdy shot with no cock.

It's 2011. Take a pic which doesnt consist of you looking in a mirror holding the camera, it's not hard - look at my pics, i'm hardly Gods gift (okay, I am) but they are all self shots.

Space it out into paragraphs and lose some of the exclamation marks.

Come back to use once you've done your homework.

Why not write it for him.

I would have ended with an exclamation mark and smiley...oh what the hell!!!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'll write it for him if I can fuck her for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll write it for him if I can fuck her for him."

Why do I have visions of a Little Britain sketch with David Walliams as a school teacher bedding a pupil and correcting everything she said?

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By *Switch OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

"I'll write it for him if I can fuck her for him."

Too late, already re-edited and much clearer and concise. Now, where's that fuck I was promised...

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