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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i dont know where i am going wrong on here, i have verifications, i have pics on here, i dont pester anyone and send a decent message. so can anyone help me please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have my popcorn- awaiting results

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By *uicy_ruit3Man
over a year ago

portsmouth


"i dont know where i am going wrong on here, i have verifications, i have pics on here, i dont pester anyone and send a decent message. so can anyone help me please."

Your profile description about yourself is shorter than your legal disclaimer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get rid of that silly warning on your profile and write something about yourself instead, not going to ask why you have straight on your profile but anyone looking will get confused.

Good luck whatever you do.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I bought a packet of Swan Vesta matches earlier today.

There's more information on the packet than in your profile.

You're, presumably trying to get laid here my friend.

I hate to be the one to tell you, but being 'back' and from Chester is not going to get you up to your nusts in guts anytime soon.

And, while i'm being honest to the point of, well honestly, the verifications arent exactly a phd dissertation on your sexual prowess.

You're going to have to try a lot harder.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

You're not doing anything 'wrong' if you think your profile etc and your approach are ok then leave it be, you get out what you put in, Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single woman, I'd pass you straight by - sorry. You don't tell me anything about what you're looking for, but more importantly I can't get a feel for you and whether or not we'd get on in and out of bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep confused.

been here over a year....couple of veris, 3 friends (1 of each! and you say you are straight???)

profile text not exactly inviting either.

Can someone tell me whats with the disclaimer on these profiles?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks guys and girls your comments have been recieved and very grateful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yep confused.

been here over a year....couple of veris, 3 friends (1 of each! and you say you are straight???)

profile text not exactly inviting either.

Can someone tell me whats with the disclaimer on these profiles? "

got to agree with you cariad69 about the disclaimers on far too many profiles. it aint even worth the typeface,in fact if you look at FAQ on this site you will see that admin say exactly the same thing! think it started off as a scam email some time ago and people have latched on to it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i have changed my profile and would like peoples opinions on weather its better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big improvement

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

[Removed by poster at 10/01/11 22:31:32]

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Reads better.

But removing the meet with your tranvestite friend still may make at least bi cur.

Good luck

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Better, but keep going.

Take what you now have & tidy it up.

Your name is Steve, not steve.

Add some puncutation, split it into two or three paragraphs.

It makes a difference, it really does.

Girls have hundreds and hundreds of profile to look at.

Give them a reason to read yours, by at least making it easy to read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Better, but keep going.

Take what you now have & tidy it up.

Your name is Steve, not steve.

Add some puncutation, split it into two or three paragraphs.

It makes a difference, it really does.

Girls have hundreds and hundreds of profile to look at.

Give them a reason to read yours, by at least making it easy to read.

"

I was going to say that, but I thought it would sound picky

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

bright babe i dont think you are being picky just being honest, which i am grateful for

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Better, but keep going.

Take what you now have & tidy it up.

Your name is Steve, not steve.

Add some puncutation, split it into two or three paragraphs.

It makes a difference, it really does.

Girls have hundreds and hundreds of profile to look at.

Give them a reason to read yours, by at least making it easy to read.

I was going to say that, but I thought it would sound picky "

Yeah, but i'm a guy. He won't try and bitch slap me for being picky!!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"bright babe i dont think you are being picky just being honest, which i am grateful for"

And you wouldnt bitch slap me, would you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is too long.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Your profile is too long."

Who's? His?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Size,age and looks unimportant as it's you as a person that I am interested in"

sorry to me that sounds desperate.

Also your a singe guy that cant accomodate ? yep i know of many legitamate reasons for this however either explain it or expect some to belive that your married and playing away.

You have one friend on here. They joined 11 months ago and loged in last 11 months ago. Hide ya friends or deleat that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile is too long.

Who's? His?"

Of course his.It's his thread.Not everything is about you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

god i cant win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"god i cant win"

What does the original question mean?...doing 'wrong' in what regard?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"god i cant win"

who can

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Your profile is too long.

Who's? His?

Of course his.It's his thread.Not everything is about you! "

I think you'll find it is!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"god i cant win

What does the original question mean?...doing 'wrong' in what regard?"

Doing wrong in the regard he's been here ten minutes and inexplicably he doesnt have a bevvy of nubile beauties beating a path to his door, or husbands asking if they can drop their wife off for the weekend so he can 'take care' of them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"god i cant win

What does the original question mean?...doing 'wrong' in what regard?

Doing wrong in the regard he's been here ten minutes and inexplicably he doesnt have a bevvy of nubile beauties beating a path to his door, or husbands asking if they can drop their wife off for the weekend so he can 'take care' of them..."

Ahhh...I see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"god i cant win"

You could also use an avatar pic as well.

Many folk ignore profiles with silhouettes on threads but may click on an avatar that catches their eye! R

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Such as TracandRics.

Which always gets my attention.

As it appears to feature woman beating a man to death with her breasts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"bright babe i dont think you are being picky just being honest, which i am grateful for"

Fantastic, absolutely the best approach, shame others that ask for comments on their profiles dont behave the same as its annoying being asked a question, then getting torn to shreds by a the OP for doing what we were asked

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I think your profile is okay but only okay. I would suggest more information about you and hopefully your personality will come through in your words. I would pass your profile as it shows no personality and nothing pops out to say wow I need to meet this guy.

I would personally avoid anyone that is shy as shyness is not a great thing to have when your swinging. As you need to have the confidence to chat with a lady before a meet and ask lots of intimate questions about dos and donts,likes and dislikes....

That is just a personal opinion but I wouldnt want to meet someone and then have to spend lots of time getting them to open up and chat and flirt if we only have an evening together or maybe an hour or so to have fun in(being at a club as my example)

This is just my opinion tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your doing nothing wrong x its a lot of luck at times here ,,Its just finding the right people theres 100s out there and i am sure theres some for you ..... Maybe Jaz up your profile ... look at other peoples men who get alot of meets see if you can get some tips. JO XX

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

have a look now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well lets hope your cock isn’t as cheesy as your jokes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

fair point i was just trying to inject a bit of humour on here

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Drop the joke.

And if you're going to mention living with your parents, i'd either give a reason why, or take it out and discuss it in private with any potenatial playmate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OR...decide what YOU want on YOUR profile and be happy with it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

guys i thank you for all your comments but as im looking for ladies to play with id realy apprieaciate comments off ladies from now on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair mate every woman is different, and apart from the usual obvious put-offs such as two line profiles, no pics and the disclaimer which you have sorted nicely, they will look for different things. A certain amount of cheekiness for example will read to some women as arrogant, but to others will read fun. The joke will read to some as corny, but to others it will show that you don't take life too seriously, which is usually welcomed in swinging in my experience.

I may not be a woman myself, but from a trial and error perspective I like to think I've actually managed to learn something about the fairer sex from 14 months on this site that the vanilla world didn't educate me on, lol. Your profile doesn't make for bad reading which is necessary, but you will probably get a lot more contacts just through joining in discussions on these forums where your personality will shine through, such as the fact you have taken constructive advice a damn site better than half the men who ask for it. Good luck mate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OR...decide what YOU want on YOUR profile and be happy with it!"

Exactly!

If you don't know how to sell you, it doesn't bode well. Then again some people wouldn't get the opportunity to showcase their profile writing "skills" at every opportunity!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

cheers mr lick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is ok, I hated the joke, up to you whether you want jokes on the profile, but Id rather see witty humour in your description of yourself than a joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good God...'Obvious put offs'.That's EXACTLY what a profile should do...put some people off.It stops you wasting your own and other people's time!

Are there, seriously, people here trying to be liked by everyone?

*shivers*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good God...'Obvious put offs'.That's EXACTLY what a profile should do...put some people off.It stops you wasting your own and other people's time!

Are there, seriously, people here trying to be liked by everyone?

*shivers* "

lol never thought of that! I try and put loads off with mine but just entices the idiots in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The idiots are VERY easy to deal with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good God...'Obvious put offs'.That's EXACTLY what a profile should do...put some people off.It stops you wasting your own and other people's time!

Are there, seriously, people here trying to be liked by everyone?

*shivers* "

Sadly yes! I don't think some realise you'll never appeal to everyone: but they keep plugging!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

guys seeing there was so much negativity from both guys and gals about the joke i got rid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good God...'Obvious put offs'.That's EXACTLY what a profile should do...put some people off.It stops you wasting your own and other people's time!

Are there, seriously, people here trying to be liked by everyone?

*shivers* "

Sigh...by obvious put offs I meant a put off to all and sundry, as tbh I can't imagine anyone whatsoever who actually thinks of the disclaimer, a two line profile, etc as positive points. By all means narrow your search down, thats the main reason the interests, age brackets, etc options are there. Likewise if you only want to meet people with a modicum of attentivity, simply lengthen your profile so that they can't be bothered reading it all and the fact they haven't is clear in their opening message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile looks much better now, you could even pass as being straight now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Profile looks much better now, you could even pass as being straight now "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good God...'Obvious put offs'.That's EXACTLY what a profile should do...put some people off.It stops you wasting your own and other people's time!

Are there, seriously, people here trying to be liked by everyone?

*shivers*

Sigh...by obvious put offs I meant a put off to all and sundry, as tbh I can't imagine anyone whatsoever who actually thinks of the disclaimer, a two line profile, etc as positive points. By all means narrow your search down, thats the main reason the interests, age brackets, etc options are there. Likewise if you only want to meet people with a modicum of attentivity, simply lengthen your profile so that they can't be bothered reading it all and the fact they haven't is clear in their opening message."

Isn't that exactly the point?...YOU can't imagine it.Hopefully most people will have an Idea of the people they are going to be compatible with (and yes - there will be a number of people, men, who wouldn't turn down any woman) but those that do know will have an according profile.At the end of the day...a couple of messages with someone, will tell you more than any profile...no matter how long.

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