FabSwingers.com forum: Can't perform in public

By *ust1fb OP Man
over a year ago

leeds

Male here ...Am I the only one that has this problem or do others have it too. Sometimes I am ok and sometimes it gets really embarasing and limp

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By *ust1fb OP Man
over a year ago

leeds

No problem behind closed doors or in 3/4sums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep had this a cpl of times, frustrating isn't the word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not the only one. Plenty of guys on here have said they have this problem. There have been helpful threads about it, too. It is natural to get nervous.

Try working your way up so that you are more comfortable with the idea?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't actually been in the situation myself to have to perform in a slightly more public setting, although I can see why it might happen. I would just put it down to nerves, or possibly over-thinking the situation? Good piece of advice already given about building yourself up to the situation a little.

Not saying this is the case for you personally, but I think a lot of guys think it's easy to have sex in front of an audience so to speak, but in reality it can be very different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find it off putting when playing and a single guy stands behind me while my rear is pumping up and down while shagging real erection dampener

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

This has happened to me.

Nobody minded (I was going to say that nobody noticed it apart from me, but obviously there was one very particular witness!), we just carried on.

The same was true when the other m in an mmf was "shy" - I carried on and there was lots of other touching between the other two.

In short, you're among friends, get stuck in with some other anatomy part. The less you worry the sooner the problem disappears

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

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Try a blue tablet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Male here ...Am I the only one that has this problem or do others have it too. Sometimes I am ok and sometimes it gets really embarasing and limp "

We generally don't do parties. It is not an environment that works for us. Just go for what you are comfortable with.

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By *ust1fb OP Man
over a year ago

leeds

U all are really help full really appreciate your advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it happens quite often I would say. We tend to go to clubs and parties and I've seen it happen to guys. Most people won't be bothered by it and understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

happens all the time.....nerves normally fine on second meets. As long as you make an effort to entertain the lady in other ways, I'd be happy with that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a problem performing behind closed doors but it happened to me with another couple in the bedroom.

It was when we swapped and the realisation of touching/playing with another woman hit me. I just went back to the girlfriend and he stood to attention again

I'm going to mess around with a cock ring and see if it will help if the nerves hit again in the future.

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By *ust1fb OP Man
over a year ago

leeds

So most guys have this problem

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