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By *olarfox OP   Man
over a year ago

North Cambs

Related to my earlier 'addicted to sex' thread - does anyone find, a bit like claims regarding drug addiction, that there is an ever increasing need to up the kink factor in nsa sexual encounters just to get the same kick?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find myself a lot more willing to ask for and explore my kinkier tastes these days..

The thoughts have almost all been there for a long time but the confidence to approach others with them these days is massively increased and the worry as to what others think has dwindled to next to nothing now.

I've had a lot of very open minded meets which has helped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Related to my earlier 'addicted to sex' thread - does anyone find, a bit like claims regarding drug addiction, that there is an ever increasing need to up the kink factor in nsa sexual encounters just to get the same kick?"

No if anything I've found I've been becoming more vanilla lately.

I think it's just something different if you're normally vanilla you'll probably want kink for something different then when you get used to kink you start moving back just for a change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NO! I can safety say not 2 of my meets are the same. Being single helps, as I never see the same man (men or woman) twice in a row. But even with my reg fuck buddies ( I have 3) we dont do the same type of meets. For example Mr x, last met was a one on one blow job. met before was a high end hotel anal fuck, time before was a mfmf spitroast hotel, time before was a cuckold at home. I don't plan it this way but would get rather board quite quick if my meets were not different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. The exact opposite, actually.

Before Fab I was building up a huge bucket list in my head.

After a couple of meets, and after ticking off most of them (and a few I'd never thought of), I realised it wasn't the things I was doing that turned me on, but the person I was doing these things with.

So while there's a few things I'd still like to do (and a few to repeat), my personal kink needs haven't increased, but decreased.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

Kink interests me more than nilla nsa and i have my own idea what constitutes nilla nsa.

Kink is often referred to as the "sweet shop" or "rabbit hole/bear pit" it can be addictive.

As with anything though variety is the spice of life, trust & communication are vital.

I'd give up sex but not kink

I'm much more cautious about who I would scene with than who I'd meet for nsa

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By *olarfox OP   Man
over a year ago

North Cambs


"No. The exact opposite, actually.

Before Fab I was building up a huge bucket list in my head.

After a couple of meets, and after ticking off most of them (and a few I'd never thought of), I realised it wasn't the things I was doing that turned me on, but the person I was doing these things with.

So while there's a few things I'd still like to do (and a few to repeat), my personal kink needs haven't increased, but decreased. "

Now that I fully understand and can quite see myself going that way again too at some stage...maybe I just need to explore this kinky side for a bit to kind of get it out of my system

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Overexposure leads to familiarity which leads to wanting more and needing more to get that kick. At the rate you appear to be meeting op, it's hardly surprising if this is the result.

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By *olarfox OP   Man
over a year ago

North Cambs


"Overexposure leads to familiarity which leads to wanting more and needing more to get that kick. At the rate you appear to be meeting op, it's hardly surprising if this is the result. "

Very true I fear...something I have not experienced before...thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find myself a lot more willing to ask for and explore my kinkier tastes these days..

The thoughts have almost all been there for a long time but the confidence to approach others with them these days is massively increased and the worry as to what others think has dwindled to next to nothing now.

I've had a lot of very open minded meets which has helped

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Yes you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Overexposure leads to familiarity which leads to wanting more and needing more to get that kick. At the rate you appear to be meeting op, it's hardly surprising if this is the result. "

Compared to the op , we meet 4 times as often and still get the buzz from a familiar threesome to a more kinky meets.

I grant you we do push our boundaries more now that we did 4 years ago , but the more vanilla swinging still works just as well .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find myself a lot more willing to ask for and explore my kinkier tastes these days..

The thoughts have almost all been there for a long time but the confidence to approach others with them these days is massively increased and the worry as to what others think has dwindled to next to nothing now.

I've had a lot of very open minded meets which has helped

Yes you have "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Related to my earlier 'addicted to sex' thread - does anyone find, a bit like claims regarding drug addiction, that there is an ever increasing need to up the kink factor in nsa sexual encounters just to get the same kick?"

Not with NSA, but certainly in terms of things I do with established partners - yes.

I get bored easily. I like doing new things. Trying new things. Testing out new things. And one of my partners is like that too, so we're always doing new things together.

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By *olarfox OP   Man
over a year ago

North Cambs


"Overexposure leads to familiarity which leads to wanting more and needing more to get that kick. At the rate you appear to be meeting op, it's hardly surprising if this is the result.

Compared to the op , we meet 4 times as often and still get the buzz from a familiar threesome to a more kinky meets.

I grant you we do push our boundaries more now that we did 4 years ago , but the more vanilla swinging still works just as well .

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You two meet 4 times as often as even the most prolific on here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I'm lucky with the meets I have! They've all been completely different - from vanilla vaginal only, to pure kink, mmf, mff, larger groups etc - but with very few exceptions they've all been fantastic meets! I couldn't do without kink permanently though!

I also have a rather gorgeous guy I see every few weeks who isn't on fab - so I'm avert happy bunny indeed!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can someone define kink plz?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can someone define kink plz?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm one of those much derided vanilla folk, and have no desire to change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm one of those much derided vanilla folk, and have no desire to change that. "

We are equally as derided and we are far from vanilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely, I am always seeking the next new high, that thrill, the rush of blood which is why I still have socials. I get scared beforehand and it gives me that kick x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm one of those much derided vanilla folk, and have no desire to change that.

We are equally as derided and we are far from vanilla "

Fairly sure you're not planning on changing either...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If I ever got to the point I had to get more and more extreme in my meets to get the same thrill, I would stop meeting.

Sex to me is a bloody good feeling with bloody good people, not some sort of ever receding goal to reach.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Related to my earlier 'addicted to sex' thread - does anyone find, a bit like claims regarding drug addiction, that there is an ever increasing need to up the kink factor in nsa sexual encounters just to get the same kick?"

I doubt drug addition compares anything remotely similar to any kink factor with nsa sex. What is this: meeting at you home, meeting without your partner, meeting behind their back, trying more than one man, opposite sex, roleplay, bdsm? I suspect as confidence grows people will try new things but for to you to classify it as addition is putting it in quite hard terms for people. You also need to clarify what you see as kinky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I ever got to the point I had to get more and more extreme in my meets to get the same thrill, I would stop meeting.

Sex to me is a bloody good feeling with bloody good people, not some sort of ever receding goal to reach."

Agree absolutely!

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