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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm fairly new round here so maybe this has been endlessly discussed but hay ho. I guess I'm wanting to talk about etiquette. There seem to be a lot of people who are not happy to just get a wink. Thing is I think this is about excitement and personally I view the wink as, well, like getting the eye from someone. If you like the look, its a way to break the ice. If I wink back it's my way of saying yeah you look interesting/cute too. Then we start a chat afterwards and see where it leads. Anyone that gets the hump (no pun) its your problem, but I think a bit of a chase is part of the fun even if ultimately we're just here for the sex. We're not all seasoned at this and some can be shy to kick off with in any case. What do you reckon?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's exactly the way I see winks - whether someone is 'shy' or not. It's like getting one in public from someone - a sign that they like you.

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By *irtyduoCouple
over a year ago

nr stirling

personally i dont mind a wink, like you say it shows people have looked at your profile which is nice!!!

sometimes i dont reply to winks, but if followed later by a message then i will always reply even to say "thanks but no thanks" xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well thank goodness for that. I like giving someone the eye. Hehe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get that many messages that if i replied 2 every wink id be here forever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't mind winks...but looking at the winks we have received around 80% of them obviously havn't read our profile to see what we are looking for. We sometimes do wink back or message back to winks...but we always message back to a message if it is a "no thanks"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

LOL, well hark at you two! I'm just saying I think it's quite a nice part of the process. I wouldn't expect a reply from everyone, but I think some people a are a bit uppity about it from reading the profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We don't mind winks...but looking at the winks we have received around 80% of them obviously havn't read our profile to see what we are looking for. We sometimes do wink back or message back to winks...but we always message back to a message if it is a "no thanks"

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Well I can understant that a bit more. I think I'd at least check out a profile to see if someone is relevant first.

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By *irtyduoCouple
over a year ago

nr stirling

yeah, just a nice way of saying u look nice or nice profile, doesnt mean you want to take things any further, in my opinion anyway xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a smile and hello is just as quick in the real world..if someone winked at me id think he had something in his eye

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"a smile and hello is just as quick in the real world..if someone winked at me id think he had something in his eye "

LOL, now you've got me laughing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a smile and hello is just as quick in the real world..if someone winked at me id think he had something in his eye

LOL, now you've got me laughing."

wayhey jobs a good un then and uve not even winked or messaged me

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By *irtyduoCouple
over a year ago

nr stirling


"a smile and hello is just as quick in the real world..if someone winked at me id think he had something in his eye "
lol!!! true xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'll resist the urge a little longer just to prove a point now! I bet everyone is expecting me to wink at them haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are you bit of a winker then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Groan!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll resist the urge a little longer just to prove a point now! I bet everyone is expecting me to wink at them haha."

i wasnt hinting by the way lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

jff68 have people been winking at you now? lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"jff68 have people been winking at you now? lol"

Hmm, no. Maybe they think I've got a squint.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'll resist the urge a little longer just to prove a point now! I bet everyone is expecting me to wink at them haha.

i wasnt hinting by the way lol "

No? lol, well I shall make a point of winking at you just to be awkward now. Twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"jff68 have people been winking at you now? lol

Hmm, no. Maybe they think I've got a squint."

or maybe a nervous tick...lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"jff68 have people been winking at you now? lol

Hmm, no. Maybe they think I've got a squint.

or maybe a nervous tick...lol"
You noticed?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"jff68 have people been winking at you now? lol

Hmm, no. Maybe they think I've got a squint.

or maybe a nervous tick...lol You noticed?!"
Check your wink list lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink sometimes and I've got bifocals - just hope the wink is noticed lol!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wink sometimes and I've got bifocals - just hope the wink is noticed lol!!!"
Be careful they don't fall off!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"jff68 have people been winking at you now? lol

Hmm, no. Maybe they think I've got a squint.

or maybe a nervous tick...lol You noticed?!Check your wink list lol "

And the grand total today is...wait for it....give or take...1. Back to the old drawing board.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"jff68 have people been winking at you now? lol

Hmm, no. Maybe they think I've got a squint.

or maybe a nervous tick...lol You noticed?!Check your wink list lol

And the grand total today is...wait for it....give or take...1. Back to the old drawing board."

Having said that, it's a very nice one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"jff68 have people been winking at you now? lol

Hmm, no. Maybe they think I've got a squint.

or maybe a nervous tick...lol You noticed?!Check your wink list lol

And the grand total today is...wait for it....give or take...1. Back to the old drawing board.

Having said that, it's a very nice one."

No see now it's all gone horribly wrong. As said higher above, you have to read the profile - I'm not collecting winks from just anyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"jff68 have people been winking at you now? lol

Hmm, no. Maybe they think I've got a squint.

or maybe a nervous tick...lol You noticed?!Check your wink list lol

And the grand total today is...wait for it....give or take...1. Back to the old drawing board.

Having said that, it's a very nice one.

No see now it's all gone horribly wrong. As said higher above, you have to read the profile - I'm not collecting winks from just anyone!"
Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"jff68 have people been winking at you now? lol

Hmm, no. Maybe they think I've got a squint.

or maybe a nervous tick...lol You noticed?!Check your wink list lol

And the grand total today is...wait for it....give or take...1. Back to the old drawing board.

Having said that, it's a very nice one.

No see now it's all gone horribly wrong. As said higher above, you have to read the profile - I'm not collecting winks from just anyone!Lol "

It's all very well you laughing Mrs. I have a reputation to protect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I winked, a first for me as I'm straight - never winked at a bloke before lol!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I winked, a first for me as I'm straight - never winked at a bloke before lol!"
No offense pal, but keep it to yourself! LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we tend to wink at people sometimes but do u never wish u can remember who u have winked at lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a personal note from a fellow 'newbie', I prefer to take the bull by the horns (so to speak!) and message without winks. I get the feeling that the majority of ppl think winkers are not going to take things further? I may be wrong, so I've just put my tin-hat on ready for the flack..!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we tend to wink at people sometimes but do u never wish u can remember who u have winked at lol

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Probably if u stick around long enough, but not a problem I've got just yet!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just a personal note from a fellow 'newbie', I prefer to take the bull by the horns (so to speak!) and message without winks. I get the feeling that the majority of ppl think winkers are not going to take things further? I may be wrong, so I've just put my tin-hat on ready for the flack..! "
Can't see your hat in the pic! Seriously though I can see your point, but like I said earlier I think its part of the fun. I would generally follow up with a message once I'd read the profile properly and thought what to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont mind them, would prefer a message tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a wink or a wank !!!

there both nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"a wink or a wank !!!

there both nice"

Sorry, it's just too tempting, but with you having such a lovely pair I just couldn't help myself. LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol u still on about this lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"lol u still on about this lol"

I didn't think it would generate so much discussion.

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