FabSwingers.com forum: Whore/Virgin Dilemma...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I wonder if any other women on here have the same problem as me: guys adore chatting, compliment me about how sexy I am blah blah, but then get a bit funny when you tell them you have actually met other guys on here!

I had one guy tell me how unnattractive it was that some women have 10 or more verifications - I pointed out he was probably looking in the wrong place for a virgin....

So the dilemma is: men seem to want a highly sexed, skilled lover, who embraces her sexuality and wants to share it with them, but somehow also seem to want us to magic such skills from thin air and not from any actual real experience....

Is it just me? Come on guys - do you all think this way?

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"I wonder if any other women on here have the same problem as me: guys adore chatting, compliment me about how sexy I am blah blah, but then get a bit funny when you tell them you have actually met other guys on here!

I had one guy tell me how unnattractive it was that some women have 10 or more verifications - I pointed out he was probably looking in the wrong place for a virgin....

Is it just me? Come on guys - do you all think this way?

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The past is the past. It's the here and now I'm interested in. The future? Well, hopefully a repeat of the here and now...

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

As for verifications, one is all that is needed...

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By *ingleguy1973Man
over a year ago

peterborough

another example of society's double standards... a bloke puts it about and he is some sort of stud, a woman puts it about and she is a slag.

personally, it doesnt bother me. if i meet someone on here then her private life is her private life. and let be realistic, if you want the virginal type, this is probably not the best place to be looking

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Guys want their mother in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom.

Guys are idiots.

Always.

Women are way smarter than guys in almost every respect, but especially in matters of sex and emotions. Women know this. Women also know that guys are basically idiots who, if getting fed and fucked are contented.

So why, please please please tell me why, are women surprised when guys turn out to be idiots.

Why?

Which part of this comes as a surprise to women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't go on verifications but to be brutely honest if I saw a profile with a diff verification from a diff man several times a week I would steer clear from it as it would put me up

I am after a highly sexed women not some slag who will give it to anyone whoever they look like

Just cause your a swinger doesn't make you cheap but there are a few on here that are. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't go on verifications but to be brutely honest if I saw a profile with a diff verification from a diff man several times a week I would steer clear from it as it would put me up

I am after a highly sexed women not some slag who will give it to anyone whoever they look like

Just cause your a swinger doesn't make you cheap but there are a few on here that are. Sorry "

Oh?!! So what is cheap in your exalted opinion?!! We're ALL here for the same thing: casual sex with strangers so please, do share!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all of us want a diff man/woman every night and to show it on our verifications

I know it's a swinging site but those I've met I've met several times not for one offs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember is a forum and that's my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally i`d love the opportunity to have a few more veifications and find it all the more thrilling, at least you know the lady is genuine....just my two penneth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So your saying someone without verifications is not real?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't show verifications, simples!

It has never done me any harm not to show my friends list or verifications!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me neither lot of show off saying come and look at me and my pics of my 20 cock shots so droll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not all of us want a diff man/woman every night and to show it on our verifications

I know it's a swinging site but those I've met I've met several times not for one offs"

I have some regular verifications and some not I tend to play at clubs with multiple guys does that make me a slag. Im my own person and dont have to answer to nobody. Im not a player full of bullshit and I never cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds to me like someone may be a tad insecure/ controlling/judgmental, all of which are a lot more unattractive than a list of verifications.

as a confident young man, i think it's great to see women empowered and doing exactly what pleases them. i certainly wouldn't dream of judging someone on past experiences, especially when it comes to sex and relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me just not on here to fuck anything that walks like most of the male population on here why shag anything with a pulse man or woman

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

That's a bit of a sweeping statement, no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mine wasn't in response to you necessarily, but regarding the man in question which was raised by the op.

however, there is no correlation between the amount of verifications and ones standards.

yours seems a rather narrowinded _iew, and and as a representative of the male population i find it objectionable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know that and all I'm saying is they tar most men with the same brush on here when really there are some decent ones out there who arnt here for a quickie

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The cream always rises to the top.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not me just not on here to fuck anything that walks like most of the male population on here why shag anything with a pulse man or woman

I have seen your interests among them gang bangs group sex and swing clubs amongst them so the girls that attend these are all slags are they with no self worth and no standards I f a girl or guy chooses and has the time to have regular meets on a weekly basis lucky them each to there own as long as safe sex is involved. We are not here to be judged by you or anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one guy tell me how unnattractive it was that some women have 10 or more verifications - I pointed out he was probably looking in the wrong place for a virgin....

Is it just me? Come on guys - do you all think this way?

On a swimgers site someone with lots of verifications is a good thing imo lol means that you can trust them and they arent a timewaster

and if a women has sex with a lot of guys shes seen as a slut whore etc etc if a man has sex with a lot of women hes seen as a stud a hero etc etc

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

[Removed by poster at 08/01/11 22:21:59]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

anyway......how about the op's legs and bum?

awesome

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"n a swimgers site someone with lots of verifications is a good thing imo lol means that you can trust them and they arent a timewaster

and if a women has sex with a lot of guys shes seen as a slut whore etc etc if a man has sex with a lot of women hes seen as a stud a hero etc etc

In the eyes of SOME people.

Us right-minded people don't see it like that atall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't go on verifications but to be brutely honest if I saw a profile with a diff verification from a diff man several times a week I would steer clear from it as it would put me up

I am after a highly sexed women not some slag who will give it to anyone whoever they look like

Just cause your a swinger doesn't make you cheap but there are a few on here that are. Sorry "

We are all on here for the same reason. No strings attached sex.

If your opinion is that some of us are cheap in your eyes then you are also.

You have just joined as a fully paid up member of the cheap club.

So therefore if all of us are cheap then we are all on the same level, so then none of us are cheaper than you making none of us cheap at all!!!!!!

That just makes us people wanting fun and nsa sex!

If people want to show verifications then that is their choice. If you choose not to show yours that is your choice. How do you know that the verifications showing are telling the whole story. There may only be a few but the person many have many more, there many be but they from the same people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not all of us want a diff man/woman every night and to show it on our verifications

I know it's a swinging site but those I've met I've met several times not for one offs"

Im a swinger because its a fantasy, a journey, almost a taboo but exhilerating experience. I love meeting new people, I love the clubs, I love socials, I love partys. But I dont tend to stick to one guy. This is because I have one guy and its great, but I dont want any more familiarity, at all. We are not a couple that just swings with another couple, meeting up once a month, going on holiday etc, that is just not us.

I want adventure and fun, if I see the same guy too often I will get to know his moves, I dont want that.

I am not cheap and I am no slag. Please dont judge me because I prefer to meet new people. Its my first year of swinging and you know how it is, you want to do it all every night cos its exciting and wild, thats how it is for us and long may that continue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that should read

there may be many but from the same people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not all of us want a diff man/woman every night and to show it on our verifications

I know it's a swinging site but those I've met I've met several times not for one offs

Im the same Shaz agree with what you say

plus Ive been on this site about 4 years now so Ive collected all my verifications over that time

, also Im fussy who I have sex with. swinging is about having fun imo, not just closing your eyes and thinking what to do for dinner lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To answer the op...no we don't.To answer some of the posts...its not of the least importance,to me,if a woman has met noone or a thousand people...thank God I'm able to make my own mind up if I like someone or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The cream always rises to the top."

does it? i always try to keep it down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one guy tell me how unnattractive it was that some women have 10 or more verifications - I pointed out he was probably looking in the wrong place for a virgin....

Is it just me? Come on guys - do you all think this way?

ive never had anyone on here i have never met before get funny cause i have met other before, i have never had anyone comment on the amount of verifications i or anyone else has

i have had it a few times where guys i have met before get arsey because i have met other men and not asked them for a re meet first

thats about all tho lol

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By *odkaboy2Man
over a year ago

bristol

Absolutely not - i'm on Fab to have fun with people, and so it would hypocritical to have hissy fit about others doing the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't go on verifications but to be brutely honest if I saw a profile with a diff verification from a diff man several times a week I would steer clear from it as it would put me up

I am after a highly sexed women not some slag who will give it to anyone whoever they look like

Just cause your a swinger doesn't make you cheap but there are a few on here that are. Sorry

We are all on here for the same reason. No strings attached sex.

If your opinion is that some of us are cheap in your eyes then you are also.

You have just joined as a fully paid up member of the cheap club.

So therefore if all of us are cheap then we are all on the same level, so then none of us are cheaper than you making none of us cheap at all!!!!!!

That just makes us people wanting fun and nsa sex!

Or they have met people at socials or clubs as i have done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not me just not on here to fuck anything that walks like most of the male population on here why shag anything with a pulse man or woman

smacks of double standards then if you ask me, doesnt want to meet someone with hundreds of verifications but happy to meet someone that stands in a field (or wherever) and has sex with how ever many guys and girls that are there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not me just not on here to fuck anything that walks like most of the male population on here why shag anything with a pulse man or woman

Don't you just love it!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't really use the term 'each to their own' and then give the guy a hard time about his 'own' _iews.

He doesn't like women with loads of verifications - I've heard women say the exact same thing and its come and gone without a single person mentioning it - its fair enough - different strokes for different folks.

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By *appyfuckerMan
over a year ago

in a happy place north wales coast

well as far as ive found more experinced the better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your not allowed to have diff _iews on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t think there are any double standards going on, it’s simply his _iews and saying we are all here for the same thing won’t change them sadly, it’s like saying someone who goes to the pub for a social drink is on par with an alcoholic because they both enjoy a drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't think anyone has had a problem with differing _iews in this thread, more the ignorant, judgemental way in which certain _iews were delivered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can't really use the term 'each to their own' and then give the guy a hard time about his 'own' _iews.

I think you've missed the point slightly.

I'm in 100% agreement with "to each his own". I like to get to know my playmates very well before having sex with them. I wouldn't have that on my profile then put up a "meet today" for any passing trade - that's hypocritical.

Just like saying saying women who sleep with anything are slappers, but have gang bang and clubs as a preference.

Do you see the difference?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a swingers site people meet for sex .......... and if he is looking for vigin a lover to have and to hold ...This is not the place ... its fast lane sex alot of the time here with out the crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one guy tell me how unnattractive it was that some women have 10 or more verifications - I pointed out he was probably looking in the wrong place for a virgin....

Is it just me? Come on guys - do you all think this way?

which just goes to show the vast majority should be on dating sites and not bothering genuine swinging couples or genuine lasses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn’t surprise me on here sassy, we’re all hypocrites at some point, seen many a thread on here with derogatory remarks aimed towards other women, even from couples and females, although it’s normally aimed towards vanilla females because they choose to do it on a Saturday night in a night club rather than join a swingers site/club or because they were promiscuous when younger. Personally speaking, casual sex is casual sex whatever way you look at it.

But i'm sure as a regular forumite you've probably cringed when reading these same threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn’t surprise me on here sassy, we’re all hypocrites at some point, seen many a thread on here with derogatory remarks aimed towards other women, even from couples and females, although it’s normally aimed towards vanilla females because they choose to do it on a Saturday night in a night club rather than join a swingers site/club or because they were promiscuous when younger. Personally speaking, casual sex is casual sex whatever way you look at it.

But i'm sure as a regular forumite you've probably cringed when reading these same threads. "

Oh...yeah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I am not gonna find a virgin on here thats not what I am after but I would like to find someone I guess as not shagged 1/2 of fab. Now I am not saying lots of profiles are like that on here but there are the odd few and it gets me thinking, how do they find the time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I am not gonna find a virgin on here thats not what I am after but I would like to find someone I guess as not shagged 1/2 of fab. Now I am not saying lots of profiles are like that on here but there are the odd few and it gets me thinking, how do they find the time?"

I know you are free to look for whatever you wish and quite right too but I'm intereseted in why you feel it makes any difference...I don't get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know you are free to look for whatever you wish and quite right too but I'm intereseted in why you feel it makes any difference...I don't get it."

because to me it does there are a fair few on here that have no standards at all and will sleep with anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever number of meets someone has, surely, is no indication of what their 'standards' are?...or is there a 'right' amount?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know you are free to look for whatever you wish and quite right too but I'm intereseted in why you feel it makes any difference...I don't get it.

because to me it does there are a fair few on here that have no standards at all and will sleep with anyone"
How do you know the ones who have just 1 or 2 feed back not hiding loads and shag around in clubs having loads? But like you i dont shag loads i have to like I am very picky x jo

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

I couldnt care less about how many verifications a woman has - in fact a few really good ones tends to raise my interest level.

I have noticed though that a lot of single guys do seem to be the most conflicted by this swinging malarkey - a lot of the women I have met have complained that the majority of men they meet read far more into things than is being offered, and seem to bring up the "I want more than just sex" subject with alarming frequency - in one case after just meeting for a coffee!!

So perhaps that explains the OP's problem - there are quite possibly a lot of men on here who arent really here to swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each verification is different not all mine are sexual verifications some are from social meets and friends who I have met in a club and all the guys on my list I have met more than one time. And also depending on how long you have been on the site a girl who has been on here for over 4 years will have a lot more than someone on it a year they are all sexually aware and all use protection and all have regular checks at the clinic. And you will find girls have a lot more standards on here than a girl d*unk in a pub who will go with anyone for a one night stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each verification is different not all mine are sexual verifications some are from social meets and friends who I have met in a club and all the guys on my list I have met more than one time. And also depending on how long you have been on the site a girl who has been on here for over 4 years will have a lot more than someone on it a year they are all sexually aware and all use protection and all have regular checks at the clinic. And you will find girls have a lot more standards on here than a girl d*unk in a pub who will go with anyone for a one night stand."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know you are free to look for whatever you wish and quite right too but I'm intereseted in why you feel it makes any difference...I don't get it.

because to me it does there are a fair few on here that have no standards at all and will sleep with anyoneHow do you know the ones who have just 1 or 2 feed back not hiding loads and shag around in clubs having loads? But like you i dont shag loads i have to like I am very picky x jo"

That's what I was going to put Jo...someone could be attending bareback gang bangs every morning, couple hours dogging in the afternoon and rounding off the day with a session in the clubs, but have two verifications saying "met this lovely lady for a coffee today and she was very shy, looking forward to seeing her again soon!!!"

You really can't tell!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I know you are free to look for whatever you wish and quite right too but I'm intereseted in why you feel it makes any difference...I don't get it.

because to me it does there are a fair few on here that have no standards at all and will sleep with anyone"

do you know there should be a little button in your head that should scream "stop digging"....

can I give you a tip.....

"Stop Digging"......

how you do your swinging is of no concern to others... and how other go about there swinging should be of no concern to you.....

if someone like the Greedy girl thing, and you don't.... move on by

Quick, simple, and really radical...

if someone likes doing the social thing and you don't... then guess what... move on by!

Quick, Simple, and effective!!!

in the end, and i am beginning to feel like a broken record here, we are all here to have "fun"...remember that word.. FUN!!!

how people want to define that word is up the the people involved.... and if it doesn't match up with the way you define it... then guess what.... MOVE ON BY!!!

quick, simple, radical, effective.......

right.... off to the pub to watch the footie... and my idea of "fun" for the next 90 minutes is to watch them kick lumps out of each other while watching other footie supporter go thru agony!!!

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By *lscmnmytngMan
over a year ago

J13 of the M5

I generally keep myself to clubs and select parties.

I tend to soft swing mostly but will go all the way (always protected) for people whom I respect or that really show me a great compliment.

We should be free to do as we want and to try to control anyone else is definitely wrong. Like everyone says in life "everything is good in moderation" and if you like it keep doing it.

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By *y_funcoupleCouple
over a year ago

SHEFFIELD

Theres some weird people out there, Isnt this a swingers site? Not too many virgins on here

Some people want the imposible

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

"another example of society's double standards... a bloke puts it about and he is some sort of stud, a woman puts it about and she is a slag.

There is nothing wrong with being a slug,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres some weird people out there, Isnt this a swingers site? Not too many virgins on here

Some people want the imposible

it's a swinging site I agree but please have some standards

so it's ok for us to shag a minger cause we are on here, I thought not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read this thread with interest...

I actually to past b/fs lied about how many men I had.. as for them for me to have had more men than they had women would have disgusted them..

I like sex, I like trying new things, I like meeting new people for fun times..

Am I picky.. well yes.. Very, I must say thanks, but no thanks 50 times to every one possible meet...

I am lucky as my Husband now doesnt mind my appetite, in fact, actively encourages it.

Am dont think the word slag/slut or whore quite describes it.. I am just a woman that knows what I want, and has a supportive partner that enjoys it as much as I do. I guess sexual addict.. As the more I get the more I want.

Does it bother me if someone isnt going to play because I have a few too many verifications for a guy...and like groups of guys.. Nope.. plenty that like to see if my verifications are true. :D

Each to their own. :D

katie. x

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By *y_funcoupleCouple
over a year ago

SHEFFIELD

"Theres some weird people out there, Isnt this a swingers site? Not too many virgins on here

Some people want the imposible

it's a swinging site I agree but please have some standards

so it's ok for us to shag a minger cause we are on here, I thought not"

We all have standards, we can shag who we want, whos to stop us? We can also say NO too.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am just not getting why referring to people on this site as slags and mingers is really needed.

I vowed this morning I was going to ignore some posters and I will continue to do so.

but there is just no need to do use these terms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am just not getting why referring to people on this site as slags and mingers is really needed.

I vowed this morning I was going to ignore some posters and I will continue to do so.

but there is just no need to do use these terms."

Totally agree with you there.. not sure how the word slag can be used at all on a swingers site.. unless it was used for all of course. :D ( tongue in cheek obviously)

we like sex.. thats why we are on here.. I think everyone, even the ones with loads of verfications are picky.. and as for the post about having slept with half of fab.. not sure even I could manage that.. :D

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Katie. x"

Maybe not but would have so much fun trying to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can't really use the term 'each to their own' and then give the guy a hard time about his 'own' _iews.

I think you've missed the point slightly.

Just like saying saying women who sleep with anything are slappers, but have gang bang and clubs as a preference.

Do you see the difference?!!

But you can have a gangbang and still be picky about who takes part can you not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe not but would have so much fun trying to

That is so true.. although 20 and me would do for now. :D

(Master there obviously)

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe not but would have so much fun trying to

That is so true.. although 20 and me would do for now. :D

(Master there obviously)

Katie.x"

Should hope he will be there. want to make it 21 and you both?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres some weird people out there, Isnt this a swingers site? Not too many virgins on here

Some people want the imposible

it's a swinging site I agree but please have some standards

so it's ok for us to shag a minger cause we are on here, I thought not"

Seriously...to call anyone a 'minger' on here would seem to suggest a lack of respect.If there are people you aren't attracted to...leave them be and find the ones, to whom, you are.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I am just not getting why referring to people on this site as slags and mingers is really needed.

I vowed this morning I was going to ignore some posters and I will continue to do so.

but there is just no need to do use these terms."

can we have a list of those posters

go on... name and shame... i know ya want to!!!

am i on the list... I'll know if you ignore this!!!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I am just not getting why referring to people on this site as slags and mingers is really needed.

I vowed this morning I was going to ignore some posters and I will continue to do so.

but there is just no need to do use these terms.

can we have a list of those posters

go on... name and shame... i know ya want to!!!

am i on the list... I'll know if you ignore this!!!!

bad lad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I couldnt care less about how many verifications a woman has - in fact a few really good ones tends to raise my interest level.

So perhaps that explains the OP's problem - there are quite possibly a lot of men on here who arent really here to swing"

Here here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres some weird people out there, Isnt this a swingers site? Not too many virgins on here

Some people want the imposible

it's a swinging site I agree but please have some standards

so it's ok for us to shag a minger cause we are on here, I thought not"

Like Fabio says (and its what i thought of whilst i was in shower getting ready for work) you need stop digging yourself a hole. You have said that you dont want to meet someone thats got loads of verifications because that to you implies they are a slapper, slag or whatever you want to call them, yet on your interest list you have DOGGING! If you read my verifications list, its a long list but you will notice that some are from guys i have met but not played with, i like others on here have something called CHOICE, i do not sleep with everyone i meet, i CHOOSE to sleep with whoever that takes my fancy and vice versa, it does not make me a minger either. To me your choice of dogging means you are happy to meet someone that may have met half a dozen blokes in a field and shagged them etc, whether with or without protection. You cannot say one thing but do another, as i have said already, thats a double standard, and quite frankly i think you would be much better off on a dating site than here if you are looking for someone that doesnt have a long list of meets especially if you are not going to read whats said on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be honest i would never meet anyone who commented on how many other people meet, or who say they are just after meeting a 'select few', because they are the ones who get clingy and moan if you meet someone else, they think because they only want 1 or 2 regular meets who they meet should be the same and just call them up when they horny

i sooner meet a guy with lots of verificatins because they shows to me he meets other people so arnt going to message me whining if i do the same

and believe me ive met a few guys who have got huffy because i have met someone insted of calling them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres some weird people out there, Isnt this a swingers site? Not too many virgins on here

Some people want the imposible

it's a swinging site I agree but please have some standards

so it's ok for us to shag a minger cause we are on here, I thought not"

Oh come on thats incredibly unfair. Who's to decide if someone's a 'minger'? Every one has different tastes and someone you may find attractive may not be to the next man. I have a few verifications on my profile and no I don't show them all. I tend to show the recent ones and take the older ones off or hide them if they mention my name or anything too personnal or detailed. But thats not to say I'm a slapper or a minger. However if you think I am then you click the back button and continue to browse. As my profile states, I'm here for my amusement, not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres some weird people out there, Isnt this a swingers site? Not too many virgins on here

Some people want the imposible

it's a swinging site I agree but please have some standards

so it's ok for us to shag a minger cause we are on here, I thought not

I agree with 41niteonly. Whether you think someone is attractive is in the eye of the beholder. No one person on this site it the arbitrator of who is or is not a minger (i find this expression very juvenile).

However, I find it very odd that someone who comments about the amount of verifications someone has making them a slut or a slag would have chosen to hide theirs. Thus not giving the rest of us on the site the chance to decide if this person is a low down dirty dawg ( sorry couldn't think of the male equivilent of slag/slapper.

Tad bit hypocritical dont you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love winding you lot up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you sometimes wonder why someone posts on here well it's to wind you lot up and get you under the collar

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

"I couldnt care less about how many verifications a woman has - in fact a few really good ones tends to raise my interest level.

So perhaps that explains the OP's problem - there are quite possibly a lot of men on here who arent really here to swing"

I agree with _obleton. Its obvious that many single men are looking for more than the swinging community has to offer. I'm mystified as to why. If its about finding sex, there are many easier and quicker ways to get laid. If you are looking for some sort of relationship, why start in here?

I suspect a lot of guys eyes glaze over when they look in the shop window. They think 'I want one of those'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not under my collar at all, really not sure why you would think that. I post on here for the same reason anyone does, because I have something to say in response to whats been posted. If you're on here to wind us all up then perhaps you need to find another pass time. The words 'attention junkie' spring to mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I couldnt care less about how many verifications a woman has - in fact a few really good ones tends to raise my interest level.

So perhaps that explains the OP's problem - there are quite possibly a lot of men on here who arent really here to swing

I suspect a lot of guys eyes glaze over when they look in the shop window. They think 'I want one of those'.

Absolutely hence i get messages like "hello gorgeous"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not under my collar at all, really not sure why you would think that. I post on here for the same reason anyone does, because I have something to say in response to whats been posted. If you're on here to wind us all up then perhaps you need to find another pass time. The words 'attention junkie' spring to mind! "

Or how immature and not someone to meet really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

attention junkie to the lady showing a nipple on her profile now that's attention seeking

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I love winding you lot up "

good man .... phew I am so relieved. There was me actually believing you are actually overwhelmed with mail from guys,get mail from married females, get mails from couples all over the country asking you to travel and for phonesex.. actually was in a uniform, did have a tinternet picture of someone elses cock .... did speak to the headmistress about virgins...and you are shagging married ladies and guys.

I am so relieved that it was all a wind up and a load of pish.....

good man..I was doubting myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or how immature and not someone to meet really

no not at all but maybe a tad bored

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

I would like to add..

I'm a bit sensitive about mentioning other partners, when meeting someone. Even if asked. It just seems.. disloyal.

Strange that, given how we have met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope just expressing an opinion to posts have nothing under my collar.

Attention seekers deserve no attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No _iew I'm not a fake and I've not ripped anyones profile apart I think most things said on here are Tongue in cheek at not meant and that's what I was getting at.

But carry on ripping my profile apart as for my cock you don't know what it's like so you can't comment my good man

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"No _iew I'm not a fake and I've not ripped anyones profile apart I think most things said on here are Tongue in cheek at not meant and that's what I was getting at.

But carry on ripping my profile apart as for my cock you don't know what it's like so you can't comment my good man"

m8 I am just posting to wind you up... am bored

dont take it seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope just expressing an opinion to posts have nothing under my collar.

Attention seekers deserve no attention

so will you still going on about it then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women and men who sleep with fast amounts of people are not slags mingers or whores my point was I just don't want to sleep with them my preferance is someone with fewer numbers it but that's me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

attention junkie to the lady showing a nipple on her profile now that's attention seeking"

Yeah but if you & I were alone in a hotel room I'm guessing you'd be desperate to take that nipple in your mouth & wouldn't give me verifications a second thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes your right but your pics and profile are classy and not the norm on here, your a classy lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women and men who sleep with fast amounts of people are not slags mingers or whores my point was I just don't want to sleep with them my preferance is someone with fewer numbers it but that's me"

Then why didn't you just say that?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes your right but your pics and profile are classy and not the norm on here, your a classy lady"

But yet I have a fair few verifications. So would you meet me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I had looked at your profile but have now and it's pure class sorry to say it but alot could learn from your profile it's the best I've seen on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would yes if I'm honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes your right but your pics and profile are classy and not the norm on here, your a classy lady

But yet I have a fair few verifications. So would you meet me? "

yes I would and you don't have tons what I meant was people that have pages of them that's what's off putting for me but that's just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've told you though that the ones I have on there are maybe 2/3rds of them. So I think what you're trying to say is that a massive list of verifications added to a lady that isn't perhaps 'classy' as you put it plus a couple of pics that make her look less than desirable means you wouldn't meet her. This I understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes your right but your pics and profile are classy and not the norm on here, your a classy lady

But yet I have a fair few verifications. So would you meet me?

yes I would and you don't have tons what I meant was people that have pages of them that's what's off putting for me but that's just me"

But then how do you decided how many is too many if people hide some of their verifications and what would you do about those that hide all of them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

attention junkie to the lady showing a nipple on her profile now that's attention seeking"

Changed your tune.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's so good when people have the courage of their convictions and then backtrack lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Changed my tune how?

I say hand on heart greykitten is pure class and i'd meet her in a shot she doesn't have loads of verifications and her profile speaks for itself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

41nightonly you mean? Looked like you were responding to her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so good when people have the courage of their convictions and then backtrack lol

why cause I'd meet someone with a classy profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"41nightonly you mean? Looked like you were responding to her."

I was and about grey kittens profile too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so good when people have the courage of their convictions and then backtrack lol

LOVE

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i just love the "only joking/winding you lot up" defence.....

usually used when someone doesn't like the way a thread is going... but i was just kidding.. don't mind me..... ignore what I was saying I was just trying to slather my way into peoples charm....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just like classy women no harm in that and if I see a great profile I will comment on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i just love the "only joking/winding you lot up" defence.....

usually used when someone doesn't like the way a thread is going... but i was just kidding.. don't mind me..... ignore what I was saying I was just trying to slather my way into peoples charm....

well you'll never know unless your a mind reader

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Have even stopped watched Criminal Minds to keep up with this beauty.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

This one is keeping me amused tonight too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the excuse my ex used to use when he could no longer hold up his end of a discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This one is keeping me amused tonight too!

see I have my uses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must be amusing you as we know how much Mr Reed means to you lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Its the excuse my ex used to use when he could no longer hold up his end of a discussion. "

that's cause it was easier to let you win

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"This one is keeping me amused tonight too!

see I have my uses"

As does Toilet Paper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope its cos he didn't have the guts to admit he'd made a tit of himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please could someone explain what is meant by classy?

And does a classy profile attract classier sort of peeps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope its cos he didn't have the guts to admit he'd made a tit of himself.

nope didn't make a tit of myself those profiles are class but there are alot on here that are not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please could someone explain what is meant by classy?

And does a classy profile attract classier sort of peeps?

someone that potrays themselves in a classy manner, nice underwear nice profile not a diff verification for everyday of the week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How does one know if a person has a meet every week if he/she does not show his/her verifications?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"How does one know if a person has a meet every week if he/she does not show his/her verifications?

will you just sush and stop being sensible... he is going to run out of excuses at this rate!!!

I am reminded of the saying:

"tis better to be quiet and leave em guessing, than to talk and remove all doubt!"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabio I just love your sayings.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

There is nothing wrong with having an opinion, be that different to others or not, but it is how you express that opinion that matters.

To be on a swinging site and see women being described as slags and mingers in a derogatry way is worrying as to how some men see women here.

On another note, lets have a bit more respect for other users and not post provocative posts just to inflame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How does one know if a person has a meet every week if he/she does not show his/her verifications?

Ive said that already

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