FabSwingers.com forum: Using fab as a sexual hook up site

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As a happily married couple , we have always used fab as a great place to meet like minded people who wish to engage in the same fun as ourselves . That being NSA sexual meets where fantasies become realities .

To this end , we have no problem finding willing participants two or three times a week . Single guys , couples , single women and TVs .

Clearly the site has plenty of people who use the site as we do . Yet on the forums one finds a high consensus of those decrying this attitude to swinging as being wrong . Quality over quantity , no standards , not looking for notches etc.... All come out from various posters of all genders .

Now don't get us wrong here. We've been here long enough to know that it's each to their own and all that . Use the site as you want to , nothing wrong with how you or anyone uses the site , and so on .

But the question here is this . Does the forum reflect the true perspective of the site ?

How many forum users have a similar way to ourselves ?

And how many of you think we are the antipathy of how you see swinging ?

Over to you .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You guys are sluts! I love you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honesty, why does it matter?

You seem to be having a lot of fun, are forthright in your opinions, independent and kinky!

Yet still I detect a need for some sort of acceptance? If you're getting what you want and need from fab - that's all that matters

Correct me if I'm wrong X

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

honestly OP I'm more of a wannabe swinger if i'm being completely honest...

I might like a meet here and there once in a while but like you said not really looking to meet as many people as I can not that I could as the opportunity has never really arised but you know what I mean..

if anything fab's probably taught me a few things that I didn't know about before joining..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP is right, some folk on here use it as a dating site with a twist and others for sex hook ups no more or less.

I often get judged by those looking for a more dating partner that I shouldn't be looking for sex and sex alone...I always thought fab is a cesspit of all desires, tastes, fetishes, views and opinions and long may this debauched site exist.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Just jealous.

It's a swinging site. It should be about NSA fun. If you find someone who you click with, that's good.

Other people enjoy variety.

As long as you have fun, ignore them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums much as the chats rooms represent such a small minority of this site. Lots are just quietly getting on with it & choose not use these platform as a soapbox

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"In all honesty, why does it matter?

You seem to be having a lot of fun, are forthright in your opinions, independent and kinky!

Yet still I detect a need for some sort of acceptance? If you're getting what you want and need from fab - that's all that matters

Correct me if I'm wrong X "

I get that impression too and agree with the statement that the op is having fun etc.

It doesn't matter what the forum thinks, according to most on here I'm not acceptable as a woman who swings since I don't kiss other men, am straight and don't enjoy receiving oral. This isn't about acceptance for me but about doing what I want in the way I want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm about quality and quantity.

Dunno why having loads of sex makes you look like you have no standards, to other people.

I'm not a true swinger though coz i have no interest in wife swapping, although i'd love a cuckold relationship.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I think the forums are used by a small percentage of the members of the site. Forums aren't for everyone, just as chatrooms aren't for everyone. In fact, there are lots of things that aren't for everyone and lots of things that appeal to all sorts of people. We're all different.

I'm not sure why it matters who does what but it seems to matter to lots of people. It seems to me that the lifestyle has become much more mainstream and in my view brought with it a whole lot more people who are very quick to judge and we don't appear to be as open minded as before.

There are no rules as to the right way to do things in my view, except perhaps that manners should always be apparent. Do what suits you and stop worrying about what other people think.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I think people are opting for NSA, as there are so many issues with fb's. FB's are great if you understand that as fb's you are strictly fb's. You can fuck whoever else you want when you want without consequence - that you are not in a relationship.

FB's however, often get confused with b/f and g/f relationships by one party as usually of them starts putting demands that - come over now, you shouldn't be fucking anyone, what are you up to, have dinner with me or whatever and the relationship fails.

NSA means - fuck and go. With a swinging couple, the couple still swings as they see other people within the relationship. just not the same people on a regular basis.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Anyone who wants sex from me must have some qualities. What they are, would take time to find out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In all honesty, why does it matter?

You seem to be having a lot of fun, are forthright in your opinions, independent and kinky!

Yet still I detect a need for some sort of acceptance? If you're getting what you want and need from fab - that's all that matters

Correct me if I'm wrong X

I get that impression too and agree with the statement that the op is having fun etc.

Very true , and whilst we may not be overtly aware in our own mind , perhaps we are looking for acceptance . Or perhaps we just don't get why some feel the need to judge us . Which hasn't happened on this thread so far I hasten to add .

Anyway , thanks for the comments so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let them judge. I do what I do,how I want to do it. They can do the same. We're all getting what we want from here. I'm not a swinger,I have different men for different purposes,some I didn't even meet on here. I don't want a boyfriend or exclusive sex,and this is the ideal place to find like minded people. If someone has a problem with me being a single person on a swinger site not being a swinger,tough. The site makes the rules; don't like it,leave. And for the people calling singles sex as just shagging around,look deep inside yourselves

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"In all honesty, why does it matter?

You seem to be having a lot of fun, are forthright in your opinions, independent and kinky!

Yet still I detect a need for some sort of acceptance? If you're getting what you want and need from fab - that's all that matters

Correct me if I'm wrong X

I get that impression too and agree with the statement that the op is having fun etc.

Anyway , thanks for the comments so far

People will always feel the need to judge it makes us feel better about ourselves. I've seen shocking judgements made based on perceived social status, education, looks etc but I'm sure I'm guilty of making unfair judgements too

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

There is no right or wrong answer.

The site will develop, change and morph in all kinds of ways.

'The Only Thing That Is Constant Is Change ~ Heraclitus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a happily married couple , we have always used fab as a great place to meet like minded people who wish to engage in the same fun as ourselves . That being NSA sexual meets where fantasies become realities .

To this end , we have no problem finding willing participants two or three times a week . Single guys , couples , single women and TVs .

But the question here is this . Does the forum reflect the true perspective of the site ?

How many forum users have a similar way to ourselves ?

And how many of you think we are the antipathy of how you see swinging ?

Over to you .......

You are a pair of dirty whorebags and should feel thoroughly ashamed of yourselves. People like you give the site a bad name. Fucking all the time and shit like that. You make it so much harder for the rest of us. We used to be able to leave our backdoors open till people like you showed up on the scene. Now our backdoors are clenched firmly together. We cant go out at night for fear of being fucked. Its a disgrace. Its a fucking liberty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think sometimes as a single woman I feel the need to justify why I'm here.

For me it's not instashag and I have no intention of just accepting anything (I'm not suggesting you guys do either or even that it's wrong)

Just because I have certain criteria doesn't mean I would want more than an NSA arrangement.

My free time is so limited that if I chose to meet someone new I'd want to be sure it was the best it could be for me and of course them.

I think there are a number of people on the site, not just singles who feel the same.

Maybe if we had the ability or the desire to meet 2 or 3 times a week we would be 'less selective' again that's not meant as a judgement. Everyone should feel able to seek whatever they wish on here and I wish them well and respect them for it. As long as people are honest then I see no issue xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To this end , we have no problem finding willing participants two or three times a week . Single guys , couples , single women and TVs .

But the question here is this . Does the forum reflect the true perspective of the site ?

How many forum users have a similar way to ourselves ?

And how many of you think we are the antipathy of how you see swinging ?

Over to you .......

We get judged all the time, but as Bob Marley said " while you point your finger, someone else is judging you"

We are having too much fun to give two hoots about what anyone thinks, and I must add, I've always admired your pic's from afar

Peace, love and happiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me...peesonaly, use the site for many different reasons, I've found friends here, organised socials, use it for the chat on the forums, use it to see what club nights I might like to go to, and yup, I occasionally use it for finding me some good old kinky fuckery, as you know

The site is here for whatever I want it to be for

Beautiful thing about fab...it's many things to many people

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

In my opinion as soon as we start justifying our actions and reasons for being here we give others the opportunity to tell us we're wrong.

We never justify ourselves to anyone and don't expect anyone to explain themselves to us we either have similar interests or we don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately there seem to be too many who judge! Well to hell with them and just do what you want to do!

Do you have to conform to what others do? No you get out what you want and looks and sounds like you are enjoying it!

Some seek a long term playmate which others don't agree with

If you don't agree..... Move along don't get all judgemental!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck 'em!

Literally and metaphorically (if they are up for it)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was getting worried as I have lots of notches, (see my very's) and loads of pics, but hay I'm a swinger and an adult and thats what I do. Woman get judged on here just as in vanilla life for sleeping with so many. But I have a user name and have to live upto it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't use it as a sex site. I just use the forum lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OPs I think you are great!! You use the site the way you want to and it suits you.

I've only hooked up (sexually) with the same guy twice, all the others have been one offs and I have no intentions of meeting with them again, the same in reverse, it's a one off meet, I did add up the other day how many I've had this year since June and I was very shocked!

playing is what I'm all about, I love sex with different people, it spices things up for me, I think sex now with one person alone for the rest of my life wouldn't fulfill me, that be said I don't hide my desire for a partner in crime, finding someone who loves sex as much as me and understands 'my world' is one of the most important things to me and if I find someone to play with as a couple, bonus! Or better still if we were in an open relationship that would be the ultimate thing for me but finding someone like that is a tough one

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

"Beautiful thing about fab...it's many things to many people"

its just finding the right people to have fun with..connie x

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

OP, you guys always seem like you are having fun and enjoying yourselves, so in my mind you are doing something right.

It appears as though you are more willing to play with a wider variety of people than most on here. The broader the variety, the more possible playmates and so the more likely you are to find a meet. Obviously not everyone is the same, just look at how hard it is for unicorn hunters for example.

So as long as you guys are happy, keep on doing what you're doing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Feeling a whole lot better now , some interesting observations , and no judgement

Whatever you do , however you do it , and whoever and how often , it's about the fun for all involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people use the site for a myriad of different reasons. I spent a lot of time in the forums because I like the people, but our main reason for being on fab is to find people to have sex with.

However, we are not fucking people 3 times a week. Why? Because I don't want to. Its that simple. I'm happy having sex with Marc everyday and then having a bit of extra fun every other weekend or so. So are we like you? No. But are we using it as a dating site? Hell no.

There are so many ways and reasons to use the site. And I don't really care how anyone else uses it. If it became a dating site tomorrow I wouldn't care. I'd just chat in the forums and go to clubs more often

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet people infrequently. I get to know people and stay in touch via fab when not meeting.

I don't pretend that is swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As usual the OP hits nail ion the head with this thread

I have been swinging for over 10 years some with my first wife, lots with a fem FB and some as a single - and I use this site purely and simply to find likeminded people who enjoy/like/want or need sex as part of their lives

Having been here previously (see profile why I left), can back as in my opinion Fabswingers and its sister site Fabguys (I'm bisexual male slut lol heheh) offer the most all round window of sexual opportunity

Lets not kid ourselves, we are all here for e the sex, not to make new friends - admittingly you can/will make friends of those you meet, but you met them in first place for sex - simples

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