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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

People always say if you see somebody you know on here block and ignore. We would be quite happy for a friend to pop up and say hi. They would be here for the same reason we are. Either we could add some spice to an existing friendship or just add a bit more to the chats over morning coffee. Ok if its somebody you recognise but dont know that could cause bad feeling but if its a friend?

I know, not everyone sees it that way some dont want others to know but can anyone explain why they wouldnt want a friend doing the same thing to know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex just joined today so I panicked hid all my photos and then messaged her,

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It would depend on the type of friendship.

My best friends know but I wouldn't want my clients to know and some of them are friends now.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

What makes people assume that others are on here for the same reason they are?

Somedays it seems that half the threads on here are people moaning about the timewasters, fantasists, pic collectors etc etc, so I have no idea why anyone is here.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"What makes people assume that others are on here for the same reason they are?

Somedays it seems that half the threads on here are people moaning about the timewasters, fantasists, pic collectors etc etc, so I have no idea why anyone is here.

"

I'm a figment of the poster after next's imagination.

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By *inecrestMan
over a year ago

West Yorks

It is fairly easy for anyone who wishes to cause distress or hurt to someone to spill the beans about them while remaining anonymous themselves. And it has happened to people on swinging sites.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is fairly easy for anyone who wishes to cause distress or hurt to someone to spill the beans about them while remaining anonymous themselves. And it has happened to people on swinging sites. "

Thats why I said friends not just somebody you know. Apart from which anybody exposing you for being on here would be exposing themselves otherwise how would they know you were so seems safe to me I guess we are lucky in that we dont really mind if people find out we're not doing anything illegal and it wouldnt effect our jobs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally speaking I just wouldnt want to mix the two

I like my privacy and not everybody is discreet

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By *etro_FemmeWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

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By *etro_FemmeWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Personally speaking I just wouldnt want to mix the two

I like my privacy and not everybody is discreet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I saw a friend on here I would message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know of someone. Chatted with a woman on fab. Said can you meet and attached a face pic

She replied make a cuppa I be over now.....

It was his next door neighbour lmao

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

I saw a good friend on here not long after I joined. She removed her profile not cause she knew it was me. She rejoined recently and spotted me. She posted something one night and I messaged her. Best thing I ever did. We were already open sex wise with one another. Now I have someone to really talk over meets with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like it if people we know outside of fab join , or see us on here .

Whether they are here to chat / perve / meet , they are still here - and we presume will exercise discretion outside fab .

So far we have met and played with at least 10 people we know in our everyday life through them finding us on here . All have been great , and all work locally . No problem at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We like it if people we know outside of fab join , or see us on here .

Whether they are here to chat / perve / meet , they are still here - and we presume will exercise discretion outside fab .

So far we have met and played with at least 10 people we know in our everyday life through them finding us on here . All have been great , and all work locally . No problem at all "

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Half my friends are on here or are kinky. I don't add all of them.

I know some people that over time have given up all nilla friends.

Work colleagues are a different matter though

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By *indmill and weetabixCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

You just block strangers who want to become friends then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You just block strangers who want to become friends then "

??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a friend on here who I used to work with her mum she worked with my mum and we all worked together!

We often chat

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By *indmill and weetabixCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

We'd like to make contact with you but we are on your blocked list

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We'd like to make contact with you but we are on your blocked list "

We messaged you a while back, you read our message and deleted it so we thought you were saying no thanks and blocked to avoid harassing you.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"People always say if you see somebody you know on here block and ignore. We would be quite happy for a friend to pop up and say hi. They would be here for the same reason we are. Either we could add some spice to an existing friendship or just add a bit more to the chats over morning coffee. Ok if its somebody you recognise but dont know that could cause bad feeling but if its a friend?

I know, not everyone sees it that way some dont want others to know but can anyone explain why they wouldnt want a friend doing the same thing to know? "

Depends on who it is, a family member then adding them to spice up the friendship would be wrong. Someone in work could be touchy, as they might turn funny due to a work based tiff. You children's mate, again not a good move maybe.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

The problem with connecting with people who you know on here is that different folk have different privacy requirements. Some people are happy to tell everyone about their "Fab life" where others would rather keep control of who knows and who doesn't.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People always say if you see somebody you know on here block and ignore. We would be quite happy for a friend to pop up and say hi. They would be here for the same reason we are. Either we could add some spice to an existing friendship or just add a bit more to the chats over morning coffee. Ok if its somebody you recognise but dont know that could cause bad feeling but if its a friend?

I know, not everyone sees it that way some dont want others to know but can anyone explain why they wouldnt want a friend doing the same thing to know?

Depends on who it is, a family member then adding them to spice up the friendship would be wrong. Someone in work could be touchy, as they might turn funny due to a work based tiff. You children's mate, again not a good move maybe. "

I guess we have different definitions of friends. To me family members are exactly that. Childrens mates are exactly that. Friends are YOUR unrelated to you friends just to clarify my question your only valid point is the work mate but as I said by exposing you they would be exposing themselves so still dont see it as a major risk. Most people I work with, including my manager, know and think its funny so really doesnt matter to me anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The problem with connecting with people who you know on here is that different folk have different privacy requirements. Some people are happy to tell everyone about their "Fab life" where others would rather keep control of who knows and who doesn't.

Cal"

Fair point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The problem with connecting with people who you know on here is that different folk have different privacy requirements. Some people are happy to tell everyone about their "Fab life" where others would rather keep control of who knows and who doesn't.

Cal"

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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Afraid if I came across somebody I recognised or even thought I had recognised they would be blocked straight away

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Good job no one knows us on here x

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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"Good job no one knows us on here x "

That's what you think ......

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

It would depend on the friend. We have a few vanilla friends who we would love to see on here. Other ... Not so much. There is definitely potential for comeback if friendships turn sour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a weird week this week. Three people that I know in real life have contacted me on here.

A lady who I used to work with spotted that I was going to the same club she frequents and gave me a heads up to avoid that awkward moment, no problem, we've had a good chat on this site and I'm looking forward to seeing her in the club even just to say hi.

A long lost cousin who I haven't seen for nearly 30 years contacted me as I was looking at their couple profile and his pics weren't on it so I wouldn't have known it was him - thats good (could be slightly awkward meeting his wife at a familly get together after perusing her pics though).

Someone tried to get me to attend 2 threesomes with them and a friend. It turned out that they were a good friend of my ex step daughter (hopefully she wasn't the friend or that could have been REALLY awkward lol) once they realised who I was, they sent me a face pic so I could see who they were and then blocked me.

As I said a bit of a weird week.

Think I really need to change my profile pic from a face pic but I'm lousy at taking selfies, anyone got any ideas?

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