FabSwingers.com forum: How many men have said no

By *lassyandadventurous OP Man
over a year ago

England and Wales

Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Yep. I get turned down or my messages deleted un-replied to all the time.

I just move on to the next victim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen? "

Yes I have had messages from women much older and fatter than me who I have turned down

The women usually always message guys way out there league so must happen a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea i have blocked some couples no single women ... Yet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea i have blocked some couples no single women ... Yet lol

Quite a lol of the time I look at single women And think how sexy they are and how come they are single

I think they may just like casual sex and then I realise they are psychotic and then they get blocked

lol

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Yea i have blocked some couples no single women ... Yet lol

Quite a lol of the time I look at single women And think how sexy they are and how come they are single

I think they may just like casual sex and then I realise they are psychotic and then they get blocked

lol "

You have an odd view of women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have said no a few time, turned out they want bare back fun and I only play safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes have said No a few times and stated happy to chat and banter...silence thereafter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep. I get turned down or my messages deleted un-replied to all the time.

I just move on to the next victim. "

Brilliant x

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

"Yea i have blocked some couples no single women ... Yet lol

Quite a lol of the time I look at single women And think how sexy they are and how come they are single

I think they may just like casual sex and then I realise they are psychotic and then they get blocked

lol

You have an odd view of women

Why is he even on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey fabs a frustrating place for men and women for opposing reasons men message a lot and women receive a lot of messages ,so for me its about when you befriend someone they appear to like you are chatting for ages then messages start not getting read and replied to or very short replies ,for me its all about meeting so if its not important at their end to meet then you are not their priority ,so not in a bad way you move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea i have blocked some couples no single women ... Yet lol

Quite a lol of the time I look at single women And think how sexy they are and how come they are single

I think they may just like casual sex and then I realise they are psychotic and then they get blocked

lol

You have an odd view of women

I just noticed you seem to comment On my posts

But weird ?

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"Yea i have blocked some couples no single women ... Yet lol

Quite a lol of the time I look at single women And think how sexy they are and how come they are single

I think they may just like casual sex and then I realise they are psychotic and then they get blocked

lol "
At least I now know why you contacted me then op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, someone made a topic about this yesterday. She wasn't complaining or anything just wanted to talk about her face pic.

I like being single, wtf, not all of us are psychos. I seen that comment

*stabby music*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, someone made a topic about this yesterday. She wasn't complaining or anything just wanted to talk about her face pic.

I like being single, wtf, not all of us are psychos. I seen that comment

*stabby music*"

*funeral march* playing in background

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea i have blocked some couples no single women ... Yet lol

Quite a lol of the time I look at single women And think how sexy they are and how come they are single

I think they may just like casual sex and then I realise they are psychotic and then they get blocked

lol At least I now know why you contacted me then op

Thats a bit weird ?

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Yea i have blocked some couples no single women ... Yet lol

Quite a lol of the time I look at single women And think how sexy they are and how come they are single

I think they may just like casual sex and then I realise they are psychotic and then they get blocked

lol "

Wow!

That'll go down well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, sometime directly and sometimes indirectly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen? "

Yes, frequently. I just don't whine about it on the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes of course. Not because I aim "out of my league" through some misplaced sense of superiority

but because people are attracted to different things and types and no one is to everyone's taste. Have never felt the need to whinge about it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the odd occasion I did message someone I wasn't refused but it turned out they weren't being totally truthful on their profiles about being able to accommodate or being single. I let them message me now.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen?

Yes I have had messages from women much older and fatter than me who I have turned down

The women usually always message guys way out there league so must happen a lot "

There are women older and fatter?

Okey Dokey, whatever

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen? "

I had to do this yesterday and I was gutted as she's really sexy but I just can't meet when she was going to be in Brighton so rather than lead her on o said no. Politely, I hope.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Respect towards others is always important but more so when in this situation.

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

If I am honest, I have not said no to a lot of women.

You see, sometimes meets do not happen but it is not because any party said no. Life just gets in the way.

Anyway, back to the topic. I have said no to A LOT of couples purely based on the outrageous conditions outlined in the profiles. When I read a couple,s profile and I can smell too much of the fella, it's a massive NO from me.

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By *layfull pairingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Yep i turned a girl down once....in 1982 as i recall...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea i have blocked some couples no single women ... Yet lol

Quite a lol of the time I look at single women And think how sexy they are and how come they are single

I think they may just like casual sex and then I realise they are psychotic and then they get blocked

lol

You have an odd view of women

Admittedly, he has before said he's a misogynist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reject guys constantly if that helps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea i have blocked some couples no single women ... Yet lol

Quite a lol of the time I look at single women And think how sexy they are and how come they are single

I think they may just like casual sex and then I realise they are psychotic and then they get blocked

lol At least I now know why you contacted me then op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes of course. Not because I aim "out of my league" through some misplaced sense of superiority

but because people are attracted to different things and types and no one is to everyone's taste. Have never felt the need to whinge about it though."

This. I've been deleted, I'm sure we all have. Attraction has to be both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen? "

Of course it does, I've turned down a few I suppose mainly couples though

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Yes of course. Not because I aim "out of my league" through some misplaced sense of superiority

but because people are attracted to different things and types and no one is to everyone's taste. Have never felt the need to whinge about it though.

This. I've been deleted, I'm sure we all have. Attraction has to be both ways. "

You got undeleted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said no to a few mostly because of time, some of us men have jobs! And some wanting BB, only do that with a very select few people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 men have said no to me over 2 and a half years, and a few have preblocked me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been pre-blocked by some who have then unblocked me later on.

I rarely message men first, if I do, it's usually men from the forums so beware

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen? "

twice.

one said I wasn't his type but later kept messaging for a meet as he was too nervous when we met the first time.

second time the guy said I wasn't his type but when we finished our drink and went to say goodbye he jumped me for a snog etc very strange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been in a position to reject anyone as, like most lone males on here, my inbox is hardly awash with offers but distance can be a barrier to meeting.

I'm absolutely rubbish at saying no anyway so probably just as well. Although I do tend to have a natural 'cock womble' ability to say the wrong thing unintentionally at times which might sound like a rejection when it isn't .. I think there's a few people on here that's happened to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen?

Yes I have had messages from women much older and fatter than me who I have turned down

The women usually always message guys way out there league so must happen a lot "

You have irrefutable evidence of this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I turn down married women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've been turned down both on fab and In clubs. Wouldn't say I ever aim out of my league either but we aren't for everyone.

Best reasons was because I reminded someone of his sister... Worst was actually not a direct refusal but that he would meet me but only if I made sure no one found out.

I only got a bit put out once... And a guy said no sorry would rather wank... And I found that a bit unnecessary x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, "I won't roll my bones for every little girl who gets on down"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had a guy turn me down in a way of saying no thanks but I've had a few guys not reply to my mail which amounts to the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I've been turned down both on fab and In clubs. Wouldn't say I ever aim out of my league either but we aren't for everyone.

Best reasons was because I reminded someone of his sister... Worst was actually not a direct refusal but that he would meet me but only if I made sure no one found out.

I only got a bit put out once... And a guy said no sorry would rather wank... And I found that a bit unnecessary x "

I've had guys want to meet me because i remind them of their sister. Yes guys, as in more than one person has said this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen?

Yes I have had messages from women much older and fatter than me who I have turned down

The women usually always message guys way out there league so must happen a lot "

That must be why guys are always getting turned down

take note guys don't mail women out of your league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes of course. Not because I aim "out of my league" through some misplaced sense of superiority

but because people are attracted to different things and types and no one is to everyone's taste. Have never felt the need to whinge about it though.

This. I've been deleted, I'm sure we all have. Attraction has to be both ways.

You got undeleted!

I wasn't talking about being blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I turn down married women."

What about married men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes - we all might chat and flirt with people on here, but does not always mean you want to bed them. Two examples for you ;

1. A lovely sweet female chat buddy I known for years here, lives about 160 miles away - so we might flirt, get horny on occasions, but neither of us will travel that far

2. There is a guy been chasing me for long time (i'm bisexual), but he is grossly over weight, so not meeting him until he lost at least 4 stone - don't want to get smothered lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I turn down married women.

What about married men?

I currently turn down all men :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I turn down married women.

What about married men?

I currently turn down all men :p"

Mmmmmm only "currently" I see lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I very rarely initiate a 'let's have sex' message so don't often get turned down. It's usually me that gets messaged. Men get turned down quite often. Ladies who meet my requirements not very often although real life gets in the way so it's more s care of having to turn down due to lack of time, not lack of wanting to. If that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Using my brain though I wouldn't message anyone saying no old women or fatties on their profile. Even if I was way out of their league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep this happens to me a lot I've decided to stick to the men that message me rather than going and messaging men myself coz it never works that way

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Yep this happens to me a lot I've decided to stick to the men that message me rather than going and messaging men myself coz it never works that way

Oh crikey - if ladies don't message and men don't message.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep this happens to me a lot I've decided to stick to the men that message me rather than going and messaging men myself coz it never works that way

Oh crikey - if ladies don't message and men don't message.....

It's the apocalypse

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over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Anyway??

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Anyway??"
I meant to say, anyway, no one likes being turned down but it's the way of things and not something to worry too much about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen?

Yes I have had messages from women much older and fatter than me who I have turned down

The women usually always message guys way out there league so must happen a lot "

Ouch!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To date I've turned down one couple purely because it reeked of a single guy on a fake profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've never been rejected by a guy outright, but we had one guy cancel on the day of the meet because he found a single woman to meet. So that is rejection in a different way.

It bugs me a little too. I understand lots of guys would much rather meet a single woman than a couple, but I want to meet guys actually looking for a threesome, not guys who are accepting the couple as a poor substitute for a single woman.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what you mean by rejection. There are a lot a reasons why a meet does not go ahead or why the conversation dies after first contact. Anyone male or female that claims to say yes to every contact or proposed meet is telling a shitload of lies. Sometimes it is chemistry, distance, size, colour, availability, sexual orientation and many more that stop a meet from happening. The trick is, be decent about it. Everyone brings something to the table

Hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In around 20 months I've been declined about 3 times and been welcomed with open arms many, many times!

I have no problem messaging a guy I find attractive if I meet his age range, body requirements etc!

The worst he can do is ignore the message or say no - and my self esteem is fine so I can handle rejection!

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"I've never had a guy turn me down in a way of saying no thanks but I've had a few guys not reply to my mail which amounts to the same thing"

Had this as well, I wasn't even asking if they fancied a fuck just commenting on on their funny status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. A chap contacted me, I was happy to meet but because I wouldn't swap dirty talk/naughty pics I was dismissed as boorriinngg. Not my loss.

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I've rejected single women,single men and couples.What the fuck was I thinking about ?!

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

As poorly as the OP presented the question, it is justifiable to ask how best to let a lady down.

I usually chat nicely but don't follow it up.

That could be for a number of reasons...not just physical. But the not replying to messages means they soon curtail.

It's nice to be wanted, but I still want to be nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened a couple times. Nobody has ever outright said 'you're not my type', the messages just tail off and they have stopped replying.

I'd rather they said 'thanks but no thanks' to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have said no when there doesn't seem to be any attraction..... Appreciate sex is sex to some put keen for there to be some attraction both ways

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say no?

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"It's happened a couple times. Nobody has ever outright said 'you're not my type', the messages just tail off and they have stopped replying.

I'd rather they said 'thanks but no thanks' to be honest."

Sometimes it comes up in messaging after an initial attraction.

Sometimes, after meeting a few times, things change in the dynamic. Here I say no thanks.

But if initially I get a message or a wink and I am not attracted I just ignore it and delete.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen? "

I frequently reject both women and couples....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every one has their own idea of what is attractive so yes we get turned down and totally expect not to be every ones cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never been turned down directly, but had a couple of 'no shows' and guys stop chatting so I guess that's the same thing. I never message others first though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't remember messeging someone first asking for a meet on this site.

I did many years ago on another site but no one said no initially although i had a guy messege me first and although my profile clearly says my size, after a few messeges he said he didn't want to meet me cus i was to fat for his liking, seemed odd cus he must have known my size at the beginging but maybe it was an excuse

It didn't bother me though

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Yea i have blocked some couples no single women ... Yet lol

Quite a lol of the time I look at single women And think how sexy they are and how come they are single

I think they may just like casual sex and then I realise they are psychotic and then they get blocked

lol

You have an odd view of women

Why is he even on this site "

Wake up you two!! It looks like a tongue in cheek comment! Some people are always looking to be victims!!!

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

can't say I have said no before to a woman.....

I usually get messages off men most of the time or sometimes t-girls who I reject both groups politely, I tend to get more messages when I upload a new picture or go on cam..

as far as women go hmmmm well they usually approach me first in the chat rooms we speak have a good time and stay in touch but then some just lose touch al together especially the ones who tell me I'm handsome some of the time.....

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By *carlet_heavenWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks

"Yea i have blocked some couples no single women ... Yet lol

Quite a lol of the time I look at single women And think how sexy they are and how come they are single

I think they may just like casual sex and then I realise they are psychotic and then they get blocked

lol

You have an odd view of women

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"can't say I have said no before to a woman.....

Bloody hell - that really does smack of 'any hole is a goal'...a bit sad I reckon...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea i have blocked some couples no single women ... Yet lol

Quite a lol of the time I look at single women And think how sexy they are and how come they are single

I think they may just like casual sex and then I realise they are psychotic and then they get blocked

lol

You have an odd view of women

Why is he even on this site

Wake up you two!! It looks like a tongue in cheek comment! Some people are always looking to be victims!!!

No it wasn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"can't say I have said no before to a woman.....

Bloody hell - that really does smack of 'any hole is a goal'...a bit sad I reckon...

No it doesn't

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Bloody hell - that really does smack of 'any hole is a goal'...a bit sad I reckon...

before you get all "any hole is a goal" on me I've never had a meet with anyone off here okay? does not mean I will literally sleep with anything that moves It just means I have not really had the opportunity to say No just yet.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"can't say I have said no before to a woman.....

Bloody hell - that really does smack of 'any hole is a goal'...a bit sad I reckon...

No it doesn't "

Sorry, but if a guy on here is not going to turn down any woman on the whole site (and there are plenty he will not be remotely attracted to) then it does indeed smack of desperation...which is a bit sad but true...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't remember messeging someone first asking for a meet on this site.

It didn't bother me though

That happened to me with a couple on here. When I said I'm a size 20 I was told I'm too big. Not long after though I put up a full length pic in a lace dress and I was suddenly not too fat for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been rejected.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

Bloody hell - that really does smack of 'any hole is a goal'...a bit sad I reckon...

Ok mate - sorry - wrong interpretation on my part - sorry no hard feelings I hope...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"can't say I have said no before to a woman.....

Bloody hell - that really does smack of 'any hole is a goal'...a bit sad I reckon...

No it doesn't

He didn't say he wouldn't turn anyone down. He may not have had many women message him and he may not be as judgemental towards women as you are.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

It happens. Just because I may find someone attractive doesn't mean it's reciprocated. It's par for the course on here, I don't tend to wonder about why or why not. Wondering about the reasons why wouldn't achieve anything since I don't want to act or look less like me in order to get a meet.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"can't say I have said no before to a woman.....

Bloody hell - that really does smack of 'any hole is a goal'...a bit sad I reckon...

No it doesn't

He didn't say he wouldn't turn anyone down. He may not have had many women message him and he may not be as judgemental towards women as you are. "

Shame you don't read all posts before posting again yourself - see my post above your last one...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never try to put myself in that position where I get rejected. I've messaged a few recently though and sadly I don't think a few of them are interested x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"can't say I have said no before to a woman.....

Bloody hell - that really does smack of 'any hole is a goal'...a bit sad I reckon...

No it doesn't

He didn't say he wouldn't turn anyone down. He may not have had many women message him and he may not be as judgemental towards women as you are.

Shame you don't read all posts before posting again yourself - see my post above your last one..."

Shame you jumped to conclusions and said what you did. I was writing as you wrote your apology

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

I'm actually just surprised my comment got such a reaction in the first place? maybe it just came across as a bit controversial?

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"I'm actually just surprised my comment got such a reaction in the first place? maybe it just came across as a bit controversial?

No, but because I connect with lots of women and couples on here, I wrongly assumed that you do two and therefore found it strange that you have never turned any down. Stupidly it did not cross my mind that you have never rejected a woman on here simply because you have not had very many messages and obviously no proposed meets from women you are not attracted to - my mistake..

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By *carlet_heavenWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks

I almost ALWAYS get rejected when I won't meet a guy on his terms; i.e:

that minute!

on a particular evening

if I won't do during the day

if I won't do bareback

if I dare to ask for a pic (of him)

if I won't drive to his hotel 40 miles away

….But then...if you ask him…I rejected him

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

it's al right it's not like its a big secret hell if anything I've only ever been with one person in my life and that was a few years ago..

on here I nearly had my first social meet with some one but it fell apart, no matter I hope something works out some day and if not say 2 years from now then well guess it's sticking to the forums and chatrooms and leaving the profile on hidden then..

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By *carlet_heavenWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks

"It happens. Just because I may find someone attractive doesn't mean it's reciprocated. It's par for the course on here, I don't tend to wonder about why or why not. Wondering about the reasons why wouldn't achieve anything since I don't want to act or look less like me in order to get a meet."

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"I almost ALWAYS get rejected when I won't meet a guy on his terms; i.e:

that minute!

on a particular evening

if I won't do during the day

if I won't do bareback

if I dare to ask for a pic (of him)

if I won't drive to his hotel 40 miles away

….But then...if you ask him…I rejected him

Really - that beggars belief - maybe you should choose which kind of men you connect with on here a bit more wisely....

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By *pringbokMan
over a year ago

tuxford

you mean we should get messages hahaha

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By *aisyDoandDaisyDontWoman
over a year ago

little old town of Reading!

I've had an actual "not thanks" twice on here, and interestingly both of them said it was because I wouldn't meet them in my home. One said hotels were "seedy" and the other said I should trust him, and if I didn't trust him, he didn't want to meet me. A stranger. From the Internet. In my home. Nope! Maybe they were just looking for polite ways to let me down gently... I don't know!!

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By *omPeepingMan
over a year ago

ossett

Doesn't matter, your colour, age, size. If Ur nice to me, I'll give u the time of day. I would never want to make anybody question there looks. Their is no such thing as out of Ur league, there always someone better and someone worse. We all have the ideal fuck buddy. Beyonce Rihanna or someone. If anyone thinks, I won't message him he's out of my league, why not. It's nice to be nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I have few times turned down couples the odd female different reasons they want to play bareback or after reading profile something put me off or think they're not compatible

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Turned down two offers to meet last Saturday.

One wasn't we were looking for on the joint profile, the other was last minute "u free?" which unfortunately I wasn't

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By *carlet_heavenWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks

"I've had an actual "not thanks" twice on here, and interestingly both of them said it was because I wouldn't meet them in my home. One said hotels were "seedy" and the other said I should trust him, and if I didn't trust him, he didn't want to meet me. A stranger. From the Internet. In my home. Nope! Maybe they were just looking for polite ways to let me down gently... I don't know!! "

IME men don't think about letting you down nicely on here…obviously I might be wrong…but my experience isn't that. A 'no thanks' & an actual explanation seems very nice to me (apart from the one who expected you to trust him!), so, I'm guessing they were being honest & up front

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

so one off them had a good opportunity to meet you in a hotel room or arrange a hotel room himself to meet you in and turned it down?

blimey....each their own I suppose?

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By *aisyDoandDaisyDontWoman
over a year ago

little old town of Reading!

Aww thank you you two

lovely replies xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't remember messeging someone first asking for a meet on this site.

It didn't bother me though

That happened to me with a couple on here. When I said I'm a size 20 I was told I'm too big. Not long after though I put up a full length pic in a lace dress and I was suddenly not too fat for them. "

Did you meet them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea i have blocked some couples no single women ... Yet lol

Quite a lol of the time I look at single women And think how sexy they are and how come they are single

I think they may just like casual sex and then I realise they are psychotic and then they get blocked

lol

You have an odd view of women

Why is he even on this site "

Oh dear someone has an issue with woman

It must be a child hood trauma he may of had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so one off them had a good opportunity to meet you in a hotel room or arrange a hotel room himself to meet you in and turned it down?

blimey....each their own I suppose?"

Shock as not everyone comprises their principals for the chance of a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are really funny about hotels! I don't get it. But then I've seen a post this morning from a woman who deletes any message from a man unless he accommodates.

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By *aisyDoandDaisyDontWoman
over a year ago

little old town of Reading!

so one off them had a good opportunity to meet you in a hotel room or arrange a hotel room himself to meet you in and turned it down?

blimey....each their own I suppose?

Shock as not everyone comprises their principals for the chance of a shag"

I think he was trying to pay me a compliment there, knowing him as I do from our private messages. Chill your britches!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so one off them had a good opportunity to meet you in a hotel room or arrange a hotel room himself to meet you in and turned it down?

blimey....each their own I suppose?

Shock as not everyone comprises their principals for the chance of a shag

I think he was trying to pay me a compliment there, knowing him as I do from our private messages. Chill your britches! "

Yes I gathered, the crawling was quite clear.

I'll try to scale up the sarcasm in future so it's more obvious to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't remember messeging someone first asking for a meet on this site.

It didn't bother me though

That happened to me with a couple on here. When I said I'm a size 20 I was told I'm too big. Not long after though I put up a full length pic in a lace dress and I was suddenly not too fat for them.

Did you meet them ?

No.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Shock as not everyone comprises their principals for the chance of a shag"

hence why I said blimey each their own I suppose? wasn't like I was shaming the guy or saying he should have known better etc...

was just saying he missed an opportunity but in the end it was his choice for which ever reasons?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are really funny about hotels! I don't get it. But then I've seen a post this morning from a woman who deletes any message from a man unless he accommodates. "

I don't delete those messages but I do tell them it's clear on my profile they have to accommodate as is can't.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

why would someone not have enough self respect to say no thank you to a person they just dont fancy for any reason!

geez.....really!!!

if someone can't take a no thanks... be that a man, a couple or even a woman... they are in the wrong place

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

It is pretty much an automatic reject from me now if there are accommodation or distance issues. I used to have no problem with either, just now I find the length of time in setting up meeting a bore and I find I lose interest. If I am not attracted to the person or how they come across, again, even if boxes are ticked I will probably say 'not for me' as I know we'll be after different things.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Yes I gathered, the crawling was quite clear.

I'll try to scale up the sarcasm in future so it's more obvious to you.

also no need to say I was crawling which basically means trying to gain favour or just blatantly agree with everything she says you know..

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By *aisyDoandDaisyDontWoman
over a year ago

little old town of Reading!

so one off them had a good opportunity to meet you in a hotel room or arrange a hotel room himself to meet you in and turned it down?

blimey....each their own I suppose?

Shock as not everyone comprises their principals for the chance of a shag

I think he was trying to pay me a compliment there, knowing him as I do from our private messages. Chill your britches!

Yes I gathered, the crawling was quite clear.

I'll try to scale up the sarcasm in future so it's more obvious to you.

Thank you, that would be much appreciated!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"can't say I have said no before to a woman.....

Bloody hell - that really does smack of 'any hole is a goal'...a bit sad I reckon...

No it doesn't

Not all men are the same as you.

It's obvious what he meant. And it's not what you are inferring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone blows me out... Bar one! Not great odds... (Violins....)

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Everyone blows me out... Bar one! Not great odds... (Violins....)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone blows me out... Bar one! Not great odds... (Violins....)

I like it! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone blows me out... Bar one! Not great odds... (Violins....)

not enough violins for my liking...

ah that's better.

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By *r jblMan
over a year ago

from parts unknown

"Yep. I get turned down or my messages deleted un-replied to all the time.

I just move on to the next victim. "

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that I've noticed... though I usually pounce on men from the forums, so by the time I contact them we've usually sussed each other out quite well in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course we get rejected! I had a social meet with the most amazing guy the other day. Thought he was lovely and he didnt even kiss me, turns out he'd rather have me as a friend... (read that as... noooo youre a minger!) Oh well, I'd have done shocking things to that man! onwards and upwards!

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Not all men are the same as you.

It's obvious what he meant. And it's not what you are inferring. "

it was a simple misunderstanding and me and polar fox have patched things up he just thought at first for a brief few seconds that I would say yes to anyone off and thought it was desperate at the time.

my fault was I should have worded it better, for e.g. I can't say I have ever said no to a woman off here because the opportunity has not really presented itself yet as I don't really receive messages off them for meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone blows me out... Bar one! Not great odds... (Violins....)

not enough violins for my liking...

Too kind... An orchestra x

ah that's better."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection.. Yes but then we are not all suited to each other. Fear of.. No. Their loss someone elses gain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone blows me out... Bar one! Not great odds... (Violins....)

not enough violins for my liking...

Too kind... An orchestra x

ah that's better."

i wanna be remembered on fab as the crazy woman who posted loads of violins at every opportunity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to chat for a bit even if I didn't fancy someone out of politeness but then I was accused of leading someone on, so I just come out with a no thanks right off the bat these days. It's happened plenty of times and I'm sure it'll happen again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen?

Yes I have had messages from women much older and fatter than me who I have turned down

The women usually always message guys way out there league so must happen a lot "

Wow! Blunt!

Wish i could get just 1 message.... (not asking by the way)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone blows me out... Bar one! Not great odds... (Violins....)

not enough violins for my liking...

Too kind... An orchestra x

ah that's better.

i wanna be remembered on fab as the crazy woman who posted loads of violins at every opportunity.

At least half way there X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone blows me out... Bar one! Not great odds... (Violins....)

not enough violins for my liking...

Too kind... An orchestra x

ah that's better.

i wanna be remembered on fab as the crazy woman who posted loads of violins at every opportunity.

At least half way there X "

I agree, not enough violins.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I quite often get turned down, for a variety of reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen? "

Yes I say no all the time it's usually no, no, no, no please don't go yet you have just got here and you didn't even take off your coat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get quite a few messages off women and couples who I reject nicely by replying. If i don't find them sexually attractive in their pictures there's no point meeting for the sake of having sex with them. If i like the look of them I'll meet them whether it be a social or play meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen?

Yes I say no all the time it's usually no, no, no, no please don't go yet you have just got here and you didn't even take off your coat."

That made me

out loud.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never had a guy turn me down in a way of saying no thanks but I've had a few guys not reply to my mail which amounts to the same thing"

Same here, never got the 'thanks, but no thanks' message that many demand themselves, but have had a few messages go unanswered. Can't say it's ever bothered me though...saves wasted time on someone where the attraction isn't mutual.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Absolutely... I've had "no thanks" ...Unreplied to messages and deleted messages..

Just never consider starting a forum thread about it... I just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of us men get rejected on fab.

It must work the other way around too with men rejecting women

Does this happen? "

In the 3 years I've been on here I've only had 1 guy say no thanks. - it didn't bother me. I Just moved on to my next victim..

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

A get quite a few 'rejections' from some guys. Funny thing is that I have neither written to them ever nor replied when they write to me. I guess they 'reject' me in advance, just in case I do ever contact them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I get that I wouldn't reject a woman not that I'm desperate or anything Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said no to couples I've never met who wanted to come to my place.

Some lassie from dundee went dark after I arranged a nice meet amd them messaged me two weeks later with something like "you went all quiet" Told her she was making all arrangements as I wasn't wasting any more of my time...

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

I actively message men. Had a few that haven't replied and a couple no thank you's.

Don't let it bother me, as I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A get quite a few 'rejections' from some guys. Funny thing is that I have neither written to them ever nor replied when they write to me. I guess they 'reject' me in advance, just in case I do ever contact them"

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